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WWJ13 Do?

amandarinsamandarins member
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Back in Feb, MIL stayed here with A for 1 night while DH and I went to Disneyland. We were talking about his naps the other day and she said "yea he sleeps great in the bed! When he woke up at 3am that night, I just pulled him into bed with me and he slept until 7". He always sleeps until morning after a wake up past 1 am....in his crib! I realize there are safe practices in bed sharing, but this wasn't that at all. The bed is elevated, not touching a wall, no rails, and has pillows, sheets and a comforter. I was shocked and so upset. Would you say something now or when she mentions another sleepover? She is very nice and I luckily don't have the normal MIL issues with her. Idk if I would be able to trust her with another overnight before he's in a toddler bed, I'd be too afraid she'd brush off what I said since I'm kind of an uptight mom as it is. Thanks for listening
 

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  • danigirl7181danigirl7181 member
    I wouldn't mention it now, but if she has him over night again I would use @stina2012 ideas.

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  • Dani428Dani428 member
    Stina2012 said:

    Was he able to roll both ways then? Or crawl?

    Maybe mention "Well since he's started crawling, boy oh boy does he move fast. He's too fast to let sleep in bed with you, he may crawl out of bed in the middle of the night!".

    Obviously you can tell her you don't want him in bed and to please follow your wishes. But a creative way of doing that is telling her a story about him.


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  • KikiCohenKikiCohen member
    Stina2012 said:

    Was he able to roll both ways then? Or crawl?

    Maybe mention "Well since he's started crawling, boy oh boy does he move fast. He's too fast to let sleep in bed with you, he may crawl out of bed in the middle of the night!".

    Obviously you can tell her you don't want him in bed and to please follow your wishes. But a creative way of doing that is telling her a story about him.

    I agree.

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  • danigirl7181danigirl7181 member
    Cfreymc said:

    Well you described my bed exactly and I bed share so I'm no help.

    We're the same

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  • LauraB1016LauraB1016 member
    I agree with PPs it is late to say something now. @Stina2012‌ has a good suggestion for the next sleepover.
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  • JessieH8686JessieH8686 member
    danigirl7181 said:

    Cfreymc said:

    Well you described my bed exactly and I bed share so I'm no help.

    We're the same
    Same with us
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  • amandarinsamandarins member
    Thank you for all the suggestions, I'll wait until next time to say something. I'm not judging bed sharing, but if it happens then it needs to be something DH and I do....not something MIL decides on for herself at this age. I think I'll use the line about his mobility next time she wants to give us a night away.
     

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  • ljs4117ljs4117 member
    Good luck!!  It's so hard to have these conversations with the mom and MIL, even more so when your relationship is good.. at least it is for me!  I always feel strange telling an experienced mother what to do.  We bed share, but I don't love that MIL took her into bed with her on our overnight stay out of town.  I haven't quite figured out how to approach it, especially since LO isn't great about staying in her PnP if she wakes up MOTN.

    Luckily it sounds like your LO is great crib sleeper so hopefully your MIL understands your concerns and respects your wishes.  :)  
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