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November 2013 Moms
mmm50
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Am I Crazy? considering TTC soonish- long
mmm50
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DH and I have always wanted to have our kids around 2 years apart. We like that amount of spacing to enjoy each baby, but not be too spread out and to have the 3 or 4 kids we would like before our ages become an obstacle. Since DS was born in November which is the middle of basketball season (DH is a coach in a very good program which means in addition to his 40+ hours at work he has basketball 7 days a week.) I did 99% of the baby stuff, so we have decided no more basketball season babies for us (DH misses some of the new baby fun, I am exhausted, especially with a toddler next time around). My OB gave us the TTC green light after 9 months for a VBAC. Due to the timing we would have a baby when N is 18-22 months old or 28-32 months old.
Up until the last few weeks I just figured we would wait and TTC next summer for a baby born around when N is 2 1/2. The more I have been thinking about it the more I think it might be a better idea to try sooner rather than later-- like late summer this year. I started my own law practice in February, and while business is steady, it hasn't been crazy busy yet. The longer I am in my practice, the busier it will be, so if we wait I will have less time to stay home/work part-time. Now I work about 2 days a week in court and 2 days a week from home writing/researching, etc. on N's schedule. DH has a great job as far as pay and benefits, but is looking for a job he enjoys more- and would leave when he finds the right fit. Financially we are ready whenever. We've had a lot of success using FAM to achieve pregnancy within 1 or 2 months both times I have conceived (one early loss before N).
Am I crazy for considering this? I think it would be more tough to have a baby closer in age to N, but at the same time, I would be able to spend more time home with both of them if we were to have another baby sooner.
WWYD? Anyone considering TTC again soon?
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Re: Am I Crazy? considering TTC soonish- long
I would do 3 years apart, but DH wants them closer like him and his brother (15 mos apart- yikes!). I figure this gives me more time to decide on a 3rd too.
Anyway, that's the plan, but I try not to think about it too much!
If it would be easier for you to have a baby sooner, I say go for it! It will be hard, but do is having one baby, and you've made it this far.
I just haven't figured out a good balance for our two. They are 22 months apart. Other then that I like them close together.
BUT it sounds like you've put good thought into your family plans and that's the most important thing. If it works for your family then GOOD LUCK!
We initially wanted to have 3 or 4, but since it takes us so long to conceive and since my pregnancies are so difficult we decided that we are 2 and done. If we were trying for a third we would have started around now.
We're still not sure whether or not we'll have more. We do know that we will be two and done, should we decide to have another. 2.5 - 3 years seems like the right age gap for us so if we do choose to TTC again it will probably be late 2015/early 2016. DH and I have babysat our friend's 2u2 and they are sweet kids, but that solidified that we really did not like them being 2 years apart or less.
I'll be 33, approaching 34 at that time and DH will be 36 or 37, depending how quickly we conceive.