So my hub and I have been talking about wanting kids ever since we got married ha! We got married very young (8 years ago), finished up college and grad/law school together, and now we've both been working for a few years. I'm 28, he's 29.
Once we started working, we had a "5 year plan" but now we're cutting that short by one year and TTC this summer. It was sudden, and I wondered if it was a rushed decision, but it's been a good 3 months, and we strongly believe it's the right time. The thing is, we have like too much fun together, truly he is my best friend. We share similar interests in almost everything. We travel so much all the time.
I'm super excited, but also very terrified of having children. I'll miss our current freedom and fun. But I get so emo when I think of having a child with him, it makes me so happy.
I wanted to ask, what was your relationship like after having a baby? Do you still do things together?
Re: Life after baby with Hubby? Or Wifey?
We do things together... but we do more as a family. Things are not as carefree as they used to be.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
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DD - Stella Gwen (5YO)
It's important to remember that although you will be Mom and Dad, you will also be husband and wife, so you have to make sure you make a conscious effort to address that as well. Having a kid will put a strain on your relationship- don't let anyone tell you otherwise- but it can also end up strengthening it. DH has times when he gets a little jealous because DD gets most of my attention in the evenings...he's had to learn that if he will bring that to my attention, we can remedy that by doing something together after she has gone to bed instead of both of doing our own thing until we go to bed. We are also incredibly lucky to have both sets of grandparents nearby, so we are able to make most Friday nights date night, allowing us to spend some time together just the 2 of us...
So yes, things will change, but change is not always a bad thing...plus, IMHO, there is nothing sexier than seeing DH and DD spending time together when they don't know I'm watching..i love that he's not afraid to get down on her level and be silly if it makes her happy
BFP #1 12/02/11, M/C 12/08/11
BFP #2 04/06/12, DD born 12/20/12
BFP #3 06/09/14, M/C 06/15/14
Our schedules are completely off. I work 9-5, wake up with the baby and go to bed shortly after her. He works 2-10 and sleeps in as long as possible and stays up til 4 in the morning
It's rough, but we're working on it. Time as a couple is so important and we are really struggling to find the time right now as we don't even have the same days off. Works great for watching DD..not so great for our relationship.
We have a blast together still. We have weekly date nights, solo vacations each year and family vacations. We enjoy our time together after DD goes to bed as well, have a drink together and just hang out, sit on the back porch, etc.
You have to make an effort. It's hard with a newborn, but don't become one of those couples who never has alone time away from their kids. Just don't. Your marriage will be better if you continue to make time for each other.
Hi,
The bad news is that you will not have as much freedom and money as you did before.
The good news is that your life will be absolutely filled with so much fun and good times with your child in ways you cannot imagine now. Also, you will find time for just you and your husband...for us we do every night have alone time after we put our LO down.... and we usually get a few hours.
Don't be afraid to start a new chapter in life. Your DH will be there w/ you when your kids are grown and all of that too It's a good thing and you will not regret it
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Funny story. Today my pre-op nurse called H "hubby" and me "wifey." Karma. That's what I get for being bitchy.
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Well, you seem like a well-adjusted adult. You have planned everything along with your soulmate, my opinion is you and your relationship will succed. Your relationship not only will change after the baby is born but during pregnancy. You will suffer numerous changes emotionally and phisically, your hubby needs to give you a lot of support.
Having a kids doesn't mean that your love life is going to stop there, but you'll need to plan ahead to have a couple vacations or weekend getaways once in a while and date nights... date night should happen at leat 1 per week if you have family relatives who can help you, if not, try doing it twice or once per month.
I am new to this website but I'd like to apologize for all the others who were feeling very bitchy around here and left those hostil posts, probably that's the hormones, something you'll have deal with when you decide to become pregnant.
I also wanna say you are young still, get pregnant when you are 100% sure you won't regret it. You have time still, i'd say until you turn 32 you could start having kids. I'm 34 and have a an 8 years old and I'm 8 months pregnant.
Good Luck! I know you'll be fine.
Jessica.
"Don't worry about the haters... They are just angry because the truth you speak contradicts the lie they live."
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Hey Nariadreaming, and you have a lot to learn about life and where bad attitude can take you to. Good luck, darling.
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-Dr. Steve Maraboli
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