annoying nanny!

peanutmuse · April 2014

Also.

Legal =/= ethical or right.

I hope she discovers your true colors and subsequently quits -- and blackballs you to all nannies in your area.

peanutmuse · April 2014

Just to be absolutely clear. The problem is not having cameras in your house. The problem is that you are recording her without her knowledge. So messed up. I don't think you can convince anyone here that doing that is anything but bat shit crazy.

thegosiers · April 2014

kellydew09 said:
Maybe OP is punking us...

The board was getting a little stale... Maybe so?

jldubb0626 · April 2014

You're flucking ridiculous. Seriously, I can't even form the words to express my thoughts about you. Just know, that even if she does get lotion in your kids eye - it's baby lotion, it won't hurt. And if she uses the wrong lotion, it's on YOU for having 4 dang types of lotion at his change table. Ugh.

bethughknee · April 2014

@MarBee1214

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So NOT from NZ. Those flucking kiwis.

Morenajuliet · April 2014

I stopped at 'Firstly'

Nviener28 · April 2014

Wow you women are MEEEAN!!... I feel like peanut girl is the one to start and everybody follows like a mean girls club or something. I have many friends that have cameras in the house and don't tell their nannies. Everybody does things different, this is something you should understand and respect. I don't sit here reading all your posts and judging the way you do things. If someone asks for a suggestion I give it in a very nice way. Nowhere on this board was I ever mean and accusing and judging of people. I understand every mom has their own technique. To all those who said some nasty comments on my post- go get yourself some class!!

mkat10414 · April 2014

You asked for people's suggestions, did you not? People suggested that you were over reacting. One thing I've learned from the board, don't write posts asking for opinions and/or suggestions and expect people to bite their tongue when you are obviously being completely ridiculous.
It's an Internet forum, don't like the responses or the way people are "treating" you, don't associate with the board. Problem solved.
These ladies on here are nothing but supportive...except when ridiculous posts surface.

Just my thoughts on it!

RedSaffron · April 2014

No, we are not mean, we are straight up. @peanutmuse‌'s response is straight to the point and honestly you needed to hear it that way. Having your friends record a nanny without their knowledge does not make it any more right for you to do it. FFS the grocery store has a sign saying "You are being recorded by surveillance cameras"
And no where on this board did I see you give support..

Nviener28 · April 2014

There are nicer ways to "suggest" things... Saying I probably force my husband to pee is definitely not a "suggestion" it's just plain mean. Try reading some of the lovely "suggestions" I got after... This is not the first time i posted something and got pooped on lol. I'm a very nice girl in person... And have many different friends. I tell them about my stories and joke with them about some of the stuff I posted it's really amusing to them actually to hear about your reactions to stuff. I actually read it to my DH he thinks it's hilarious that you all boo me like I'm the bad girl in town lol I just wish I could get a normal response on here without the pooping.

ashleywiz · April 2014

Without the pooping, eh? Interesting choice of words. The reason you're getting the reaction you are is based on the words you write. If you mean to have a different tone or angle on what you're saying--those things do not work when you're typing words on a page. We give real suggestions, and real feedback. Sure- with some snark a lot of time, but don't you also get that from friends?

Point being- if you want honest answers, this is place to do it. This isn't the place that you can post something completely bsc and think that we'll all be saying, "OMG I can't believe she put lotion on his face and misjudged when she put him down for a nap. What a monster!"

RedSaffron · April 2014

I re-read the first page responses and no where did we tease you. Everyone gave their honest straight up responses and after you added more unreasonable info like how your nanny shouldn't have brushed his hair, then someone posted about if you control your husband pissing. We are not here to pick on you, but to tell you our opinions. Take 'em or just leave it.

ashleywiz · April 2014

Also, FWIW -- many of your other posts are irritating in nature. For instance, sarcastic or not, posting about why on earth anyone would want a med-free birth based on your outrageous youtube findings... I had a med free birth, and was not screaming my head off, swearing, or making wild animal noises. So... I would absolutely do it again that way, and never once questioned why on earth I would ever consider such a thing.

Nviener28 · April 2014

@thelittlepear- thank you! But my non animation LO is actually much cuter! O:-)

angiek1 · April 2014

Nviener28 I provided feedback that I don't feel is mean. Do other people get sarcastic? Yes, but good lord you need to roll with things. I mean they were saying things out of jest, don't take it so hard.

I have to ask, if all your friends jumped off a bridge would you do that too? Just b/c they record people w/o their knowledge doesn't mean you should.

Back to the lotion thing, why do you have FOUR lotions out if you don't want them used? Had you left me with your child I would have taken the same action as your nanny without hesitation. I just can't wrap my head around losing your shit about lotion. SERIOUSLY?

As for saying @peanutmuse is harsh or whatever, she has never been one to mince words. If you look at the majority of active posters on this board they are all mostly straight forward and throw in some sarcastic comments with their responses. This board has never really done the sugar coating thing. If you've been a participant on this board I don't know how you are surprised by the responses you got...

RedSaffron · April 2014

@Nviener28‌ oh hell no, you can check my post and reply and know I'm not one with drama, but you just disrespected my LO's best friend. All our LOs are cute, but what do you get off saying yours is cuter to a poster who made a compliment to another mom.

Winnieella · April 2014

OP- you have 4 bottles of lotion out. 4, and your nanny can't use them on your LO when they are by the changing pad? That makes no sense. It would be like me telling a baby sitter, "Yes,I diapers and all, but don't use them. I don't want you over stepping."

Nviener28 · April 2014

Did you read what I wrote? There was a rash all over his face and she lied that she dabbed alittle on his nose... He had no dryness on his cute little nose only a BIG RED RASH Everybody here you want to tell me would be fine with that?? How would you react if you saw your LO's sweet perfect face with little pimples all over it and a red eye?!? Was I supposed to just give her all the lotions and say wow! Thank you!!!

BrittNR · April 2014

I'm amazed people still play the "you girls are so mean" card around here. Haven't we gone over that for the past year??

cnctf · April 2014

Nviener28 said:

@thelittlepear- thank you! But my non animation LO is actually much cuter! O:-)

Excuse me!? If the above is directed towards my DD, BITCH you better check yourself and get off the high horse you think you're riding on cause i'll gladly put your ass in place. If you got a problem with something I said, come and direct your shit towards me. #crazybitch

ashleywiz · April 2014

That would be why you don't leave 4 lotions out if you only use one of them that you know he doesn't react to. Again- still on you, not her. She would have NO way of knowing that he would react to the lotion if it is left out right by/on his changing table.

cpm1223 · April 2014

Nviener28 said:

@thelittlepear- thank you! But my non animation LO is actually much cuter! O:-)

Ehhhh not so much...

sugarland726 · April 2014

Nviener28 said:

Wow you women are MEEEAN!!... I feel like peanut girl is the one to start and everybody follows like a mean girls club or something. I have many friends that have cameras in the house and don't tell their nannies. Everybody does things different, this is something you should understand and respect. I don't sit here reading all your posts and judging the way you do things. If someone asks for a suggestion I give it in a very nice way. Nowhere on this board was I ever mean and accusing and judging of people. I understand every mom has their own technique. To all those who said some nasty comments on my post- go get yourself some class!!

You have some shitty and unethical friends. This isn't doing something different, like Dr. Brown's bottles vs. Born Free bottles. This is violating someone's personal rights. What don't you get about that?

peanutmuse · April 2014

Nviener28 said:

@thelittlepear- thank you! But my non animation LO is actually much cuter! O:-)

Wait, weren't you just telling us how nice you are? Well, I am totally convinced now. Thank you for showing us how NICE you are!

Roses87 · April 2014

So I have just been lurking this post and have gotten some amusement out of it, but now feel like I have to say something. How stupid are you @nviener28? Most babies get baby acne from time to time, its normal. The rash probably was not from the lotion. My ped told me to put lotion on it when my lo gets it. So your nanny did the right thing. As for the eye being pink. How the hell do you know she got lotion in it, are you psychic? Maybe your lo just poked his eye or something. There could be so many explanations.

I feel like I have lost IQ points by reading your posts on this. No reason for you to make something like that into a big deal. Ppl gave you valid suggestions. How about u stfu now and take them.

peanutmuse · April 2014

Nviener28 said:

Wow you women are MEEEAN!!... I feel like peanut girl is the one to start and everybody follows like a mean girls club or something.

peanut girl just doesn't like BSC chicks. But the BSC ones rarely know how crazy they are. It's an interesting phenomenon.

cnctf · April 2014

peanutmuse said:

Nviener28 said:

@thelittlepear- thank you! But my non animation LO is actually much cuter! O:-)

Wait, weren't you just telling us how nice you are? Well, I am totally convinced now. Thank you for showing us how NICE you are!

@peanutmuse Right!? She told us to get some class. Look whos talking. Classic case of the pot calling the kettle black.

And FWIW @nviener28, you're not only lacking class, but saying your LO is cuter than someone elses really shows how immature and catty you are..You sound like a meangirl so please GTFOH

Nviener28 · April 2014

Sorry @cnctf! I didn't read her post right! I thought she was talking about the Hercules baby cartoon I have on my post. I just reread it and saw your SN there and didn't realize. I would never say my baby is cuter than yours... And sorry @peanutmuse I don't know what BCS means... Lol I don't have my peanut girl dictionary handy...

Winnieella · April 2014

Again 4 bottles. How would she know one could give your LO a reaction.

peanutmuse · April 2014

Nviener28 said:

I don't know what BCS means... Lol I don't have my peanut girl dictionary handy...

Urban dictionary is your friend.

I hardly came up with the term, though.

sehudson821 · April 2014

You need a hefty dose of reality. Nobody is going to care for your baby EXACTLY the way that you do. If you can't trust this nanny (who sounds awesome) look into other child care options, though I doubt you will be pleased with anything. Sheesh - lotion?! Don't leave 4 freaking bottles of it out if you don't want her to use it. You're going to have to learn to let the insignificant stuff go. It obviously won't be the only thing she does that you dislike so just loosen the reins a little.

Also, if you are so obsessed with the nap schedule just check the videos that you are making without her knowing. I think that's wrong on so many levels.

bethughknee · April 2014

Sarcastic? Yes. Mean? Not really. This board will let you know when you're being an asshole and IMHO that's far more productive than a friend who blindly offers unwavering support even when what you're doing is ethically wrong. Recording your nanny WITHOUT HER KNOWLEDGE is wrong. If your friend disagree then they are wrong too. But you clearly only accept the opinions of people who agree with you and I would assume so from your post history.

Arrgcr · April 2014

OP: just go away.

I'm mobile and can't gif. I need that beating a dead horse gif because ol' girl just isn't getting it. I so want to call troll on this one.

sugarland726 · April 2014

Post this question on the Working Moms board. I dare you.

vterp · April 2014

Nviener28 said:

Did you read what I wrote? There was a rash all over his face and she lied that she dabbed alittle on his nose... He had no dryness on his cute little nose only a BIG RED RASH Everybody here you want to tell me would be fine with that?? How would you react if you saw your LO's sweet perfect face with little pimples all over it and a red eye?!? Was I supposed to just give her all the lotions and say wow! Thank you!!!

For starters, I would look at my recording of the nanny to figure out which lotion she used and toss it...or just ask her.

bethughknee · April 2014

AMK1981 said:

Putting all the drama aside, the bottom line is that you ARE over reacting whether it's what you want to hear not not. Your nanny sounds like she has good intentions and you need to relax. What rubs me the wrong way is that there are mothers on this board with hospitalized children and you are freaking out about pimples!?!? Really!?!? I think you just need a little perspective. So to answer your question, how would I feel if I came home to pimples and a red eye on my baby? - Quite frankly I would be happy he is healthy and happy. Perspective.

And FWIW my perfect little baby DID have pimples for over a week when she was 3 weeks old. Babies are not as supple as they look in Anne Geddes photos. THIS IS REAL LIFE.

peanutmuse · April 2014

sugarland726 said:

Post this question on the Working Moms board. I dare you.

@Nviener28 -- please, please, please.

vincoand · April 2014

This may have been said already, but it is also illegal in some states to video monitor staff in your home without telling them. I know it is in Michigan.
And as everyone else said, you are way overreacting!

lolinshag · April 2014

KaitiMac said:

jessicabcairns said:

peanutmuse said:

sugarland726 said:

Post this question on the Working Moms board. I dare you.

@Nviener28 -- please, please, please.
Or Parentng. They could use a laugh.

Ha! Parenting would DESTROY her.

I couldn't help it. I love the Parenting Peeps and had to Bat Signal them.
#Sorrynotsorry

Firefly9 · April 2014

You get normal responses when you are normal, not BSC. Have you looked that one up yet?

You record her, yet you still have no clue. Naps, for example. Maybe she tries putting him down at the exact second you want her to, but did you ever think that maybe it's your child who doesn't want to nap or be put on a regular schedule? January babies are still awfully young to be expected to do anything on a consistent basis.

Your poor nanny. Try talking to her about these things--AND TELLING HER YOU ARE RECORDING HER--and if she wont' fix them, just fire her and get it over with. Maybe your next nanny won't put lotion on him or do anything you don't want her to, even if it might be necessary. "Hm, baby is cold. Well, mom didn't say I could put socks on her or put a blanket on her, so I won't." I'm pretty sure your nanny wasn't being malicious by putting lotion on your kid. The lotion was OUT by the changing table, for the love of god. How should she assume it wasn't okay to use it? I'm sure she's not used to being micromanaged and having to ask about every little thing she does. Do you also make her write down when she put the baby down so she could go pee?

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