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Recognizing and thanking your Partner & Person

teenybNDteenybND member
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How have you/are you planning on recognizing your Partner and Person for their support during the pregnancy?

My husband has been incredible during our pregnancy, so I threw him a surprise Dadchelor party a few weeks ago (diapers were the buy in for poker night, big party hosted by his best guy friends).

While I think he has a gift in the works for me, I don't like the term "push present" or how 110% of the attention is on mom during the pregnancy (it's a whole family growing, not just me!).

So I'd love to hear: are you doing anything to thank, recognize or otherwise lift up your partner? I want to do something else but haven't thought of anything that feels just right yet. Plus, I'd just love to hear how you're recognizing your Person! (Capital P for a reason, Grey's Anatomy quote, anyone?!). :)

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  • lindz324lindz324 member
    AprilMay9 said:

    I'm giving him a baby. He's been great. But let's be real here. I'm the hero.



    Hahahhaha well said!
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  • AmberLiz99AmberLiz99 member
    No gifts here, for dh or for mez
    For my dh I know it's just more important to show him my attention, and not always make it about the kids. I have tried to do that by taking time to give him a back rub, make his favorite meal, etc even though I'm crazy busy with working from home and a toddler and being 9 months pregnant. I can tell the difference in his spirits when I make special time for him.
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  • MamaFantasticMamaFantastic member
    maelic said:
    He hasn't done anything different from pre-pregnancy, so no. His present is the baby and getting to change most of its diapers.
    he did fight hard for those diapers, after all ;)
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  • Rfox831Rfox831 member
    After the lack of back rubs, foot rubs, sensitivity I have gotten... He might get an HJ...
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  • maelicmaelic member
    MamaFantastic said:


    maelic said:

    He hasn't done anything different from pre-pregnancy, so no. His present is the baby and getting to change most of its diapers.

    he did fight hard for those diapers, after all ;)

    Yuuuuuuuup. His problem now.
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  • Sarahjess06Sarahjess06 member
    juniper75 said:

    I put out twice yesterday - we're even, actually I think he owes me....

    Dead. =))
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  • Trgree1712Trgree1712 member
    I got the DH a diaper bag he wanted that included a nice bottle of scotch and a few cigars.
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  • railroadRNrailroadRN member
    bought him a fishing boat
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  • CatherineDC2012CatherineDC2012 member
    Umm some of these are so sweet and others completely crack me up! I am a mix between all of the above! Most likely no gift but maybe a letter and a nice picture or something special for his first Father's Day.
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  • Elf2718Elf2718 member
    Hoping to save up and buy my SO a new driver for golfing.
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  • Relish1025Relish1025 member
    Are you kidding me? SO may as well have been the pregnant one for the past 9 months. I love him, but he's getting nothing else from me.
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  • lcoddenslcoddens member
    Relish1025 said:

    Are you kidding me? SO may as well have been the pregnant one for the past 9 months. I love him, but he's getting nothing else from me.

    This. DH complains about being tired and all these other ailments... Then he tops it off with "I'm 9 months pregnant you know" thinking he's hilarious. So jealous off all the back rubs being handed out...

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  • juniper75juniper75 member
    For all those FTM's that are currently thrilled with their hubby's and planning special gifts- I would love to revisit this thread 6 months or a year from now and see who wants their gift back...
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  • Brigie029Brigie029 member
    edited April 2014
    I wrote a letter and put it in a diaper bag I bought him with sweets and items he would need to be comfy at the hospital. He ended up thinking he didn't need or want a bag, but would use his own backpack bag, so he saw everything but hasn't read the letter since I told him to wait. He's a huge Mariners fan so was thinking of a little baby jersey or something functional, being that he's very practical.

    It came up at our OBs office today that he knew what a push present was, but I would be shocked if he got me something due to our finances, not because he doesn't care. I've dropped enough hints about Mother's Day, so hoping he does something or I would really be hurt but I'm sure he will.

    Long story short, he's been great and also been an ass, and hasn't really gone above and beyond for me like I thought he would; one back rub after insisting weekly I rub his head for migraines, and only a small increase in attention but a drastic decrease in sex; not my choice, but now that sounds awful, so too late! He did take both sets of my maternity pics and tells me (lies to me, lol) that I'm beautiful pregnant. Nonetheless, he'll be a great Dad and it's our first and there isn't a handbook so I feel a letter and some small trinkets should suffice. :-)

    Love the comments and the sentiments of you all with your DH or Partner.
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  • ksulliksulli member
    eme520 said:

    A bottle of Lagavulin 16. He deserves it :)

    I think maybe our H's could be friends too.
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  • deidremariadeidremaria member
    MissWhis said:

    I'm not getting him a gift or throwing him a party, but I do try to take time to tell him and show him that it appreciate all that he does for me (and now for our daughter as well).

    Mostly, I really try to make a conscious effort to not take him for granted.

    This exactly
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  • KarenElizaKarenEliza member
    DH has loved the work of this one artist on Martha's Vineyard so I commissioned him to do a painting of a view that dh chooses. I haven't figured out how to present this to dh yet, I don't just want to put the info in a card. I would love any suggestions!
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  • Kayrock18Kayrock18 member
    I've made a conscious effort to send him random thank you's and I love you text to let him know I appreciate him. He has done mainly all the cooking if not he orders dinner. Even though things has been difficult with work for him, he's been really good at taking care of things and the house. Don't get me wrong he's great but there's times he says and does things I could slap him but he has kept me laughing throughout this pregnancy. I have no idea what to do for him because 1. He's not a very sentimental type of guy but I'm going to work on something he deserves it plus also I know he's planning on getting me something.
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  • NatalieBierNatalieBier member
    He is just getting multiple apologies for how grumpy my ass is right now sprinkled in with a few thank yous when he is helpful with the other two. I am too tired to be thoughtful.
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  • hordolhordol member
    Yeah....DH has been great, but I'm also in the "he's my husband and this is his baby--it's his job to be great" camp. I do make an effort to tell him how appreciative I am, but other than that, the fact that he gets to sleep at night while I wake to nurse and doesnt have a vag that gets put through a beating is present enough.
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  • LizChad09LizChad09 member

    So far I helped his buddies plan a Dadchelor Party for him the week after my shower.  I know the guys all had fun.  And I got him I <3 Daddy Pjs for the Hospital, but in really those were his Val-Day Gift.  I want to do something else for him, but I don't know what.  He's been pretty great. 

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  • nsteckleinnstecklein member
    Six weeks after delivery, he I'll get sex again.....and not 'have to sleep with a Christmas tree' as I will be able to shave again :). Overall just try to make sure I actually say thank you for what he does for our family outside of helping me out. He really works hard and does not get recognized for it otherwise because he is self employed
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  • Boston*brideBoston*bride member
    I gifted DH our baby's sports allegiances. He's from Cleveland. I'm from Pittsburgh. It was a pretty significant gift.
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  • britt33britt33 member
    PoppySeedWindsor said:

    I plan on writing a letter to him after delivery to say thanks to him. I thought about writing it beforehand and giving it to him right afterwards but I want myw ords to be post-labor and to be able to express my emotions from our labor experience. I'm fairly certain he'll be passed out asleep at some point when I'm not while in the hospital so I'll be able to write something out to him. Other than that, I'm like @MissWhis where I really try to not take him for granted. He does so much for me but we've been a team throughout this entire pregnancy. 


    Oh I did also get two of his favorite cigars to smoke after LO is born. But I'll admit, it's half selfish...it's my favorite brands of cigars too and I want to smell his beard afterwards. Mmmmm.

    This exactly... Well minus the cigars.
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  • moonsparklesmoonsparkles member
    Sweet thread.  Am now in the process of planning a Dadchelor party.  He has been awesome and the last few months have been so stressful with calving during some insanely cold weather.  So I've invited all his friends over to get him very drunk and help him blow off some steam.  I will vacate the house for the evening.
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