How often do you fight with DH/SO?

Re: How often do you fight with DH/SO?

• cafecreme member

  April 2014

  I voted occasionally. I mean, we don't really "fight" per say. No yelling or cursing. But recently because of the whole buying a house thing, we've been "fighting" maybe once a week. He pisses me off sometimes, and I piss him off. It's just been really stressful lately. 

  
  

   
  

  
  

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• musicalsilver member

  April 2014

  Beary+Ghastly said:

  I voted occasionally. I mean, we don't really "fight" per say. No yelling or cursing. But recently because of the whole buying a house thing, we've been "fighting" maybe once a week. He pisses me off sometimes, and I piss him off. It's just been really stressful lately. 

  Fighting takes on different forms for different couples.  DH and I have had one yelling kind of fight ever.  That's just not how our fights go - so you all can count whatever feels like "fighting" to you!

  
  

  Buying a house is definitely stressful - I hope things get better soon!

  
  DS born 6/2013
  

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• benny713 member

  April 2014

  We argue occasionally... Usually about MIL or just out of sheer exhaustion. We might have a nice big blow up or one of our 6-7 hour discussions about once a year.

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• ASmallWonder member

  April 2014

  We get pissy with each other at least once a week but a real fight?  A few times a year.

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• AlsGal01 member

  April 2014

  I think it's pretty seldom. We both seem to pick our battles carefully and are really laid back for the most part. There are just a few things that pop up from time to time.
  
  Our current argument is about the division of chores.

  

  

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• WasNotWas member

  April 2014

  Ahhhh I was the only one to vote ALL THE TIME

  We argue every day over one thing or another. It's our way. We fight fair and there is almost always a peaceful resolution. We are both similar and stubborn, so we have our own way of doing things. We call it working out the parenting kinks. By the time the kids are in elementary school we are going to be friggin Fort Knox with our united front on parenting decisions

  

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• kelseypie member

  April 2014

  I voted all the time too. I'm pretty sure MH hates me.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

   

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• peachnectarine member

  April 2014

  We fight a few times a week, but it's usually pretty minor and we get over it quickly.

  
  

  

  
  

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• BC&LM member

  April 2014

  I put seldom, but mostly that's because DH is one of those people who won't fight back.  So if I am being bitchy and say something mean to DH because he forgot to put the butter away for the millionth time (which happens all the time with stuff in the kitchen), instead of calling me out on my bitchiness and telling me to chill because it's not that important, he just pacifies me and says, "I'm sorry; I will try to do better next time."  I told him before that this is slightly infuriating and that sometimes I wish he would just fight back, so on rare occasions he will now.  But mostly we don't fight because he won't.

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• musicalsilver member

  April 2014

  kelseypie said:

  I voted all the time too. I'm pretty sure MH hates me.

  I like to love tit all the posts that people make in my threads, but I just can't love tit this.

  
  

  *hugs* instead.

  
  DS born 6/2013
  

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• kelseypie member

  April 2014 edited April 2014

  musicalsilver said:

  
  

  kelseypie said:

  
  

  I voted all the time too. I'm pretty sure MH hates me.

  
  

  I like to love tit all the posts that people make in my threads, but I just can't love tit this.

  
  

  *hugs* instead.

  
  
  Aww. Thank you.
  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

   

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• HeartLikeMine3 member

  April 2014

  elmoali said:

  We get pissy with each other at least once a week but a real fight?  A few times a year.

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• ColieAnn31 member

  April 2014

  We have little fights about once a week but they are blown over by the next morning.

   

  
  

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• Murphie82 member

  April 2014

  If money didn't exist and if he wasn't in a co-dependent relationship with his passive-aggressive mother, we would never fight.  As it is, we rarely fight because we get along in day to day life perfectly. 
  
  Once he has a job, I'll feel a lot better about our relationship as a whole.  (I didn't walk into the relationship expecting to be the sole breadwinner, and it's really starting to eat at me now that we have a child - What happens if something happens to me?  Who will support our child? etc)  That will just leave his mom who is going to live forever.  She really is.  She took an online test about it and everything, and it said, given her current health and lifestyle, she will live until 94.  I don't believe most online tests, but I believe that one.
  

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• DaisyDuck40 member

  April 2014

  ColieAnn31 said:

  We have little fights about once a week but they are blown over by the next morning.

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• lioness13 member

  April 2014

  This is hard because we all have different definitions of fighting. Even me and my DH do. He would say we have had like 2 fights in the 13 years we've been together. I say we fight a few times a year.

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• whitney2302 member

  April 2014

  We bicker about something every week.  It's usually me making snarky (is this a word?) remarks about him sitting on the couch all the time and not helping out.  But big fights are rare, 2-4 times a year.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• weddinginthecove member

  April 2014

  I count fighting as times that end in yelling, crying or not talking. Those kinds of fights are very rare in our house. Disagreements on the other hand may end up happening a few times a wee. They usually involve me having something on my mind trying to talk about it, him just agreeing with me and then me getting annoyed. My DH is the most agreeable person who doesn't like to debate.... Me on the other hand loves to bring something up just to debate about it. I need to look to my friends for my debating fun in this household.

   

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• cynthia2007 member

  April 2014

  We have a very minor fight every other week usually over me telling him to help out with LO and stuff around the house. He does good for a few days and then back to old ways. We argue about money once a quarter- we'd be broke if we spent money like he wants to do. I'm also the breadwinnerwhich makes it more frustrating sometimes. Major fights maybe twice a year.

  

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• No longer the best member

  April 2014

  Who voted they NEVER fight? I'm more worried for that couple than people who fight ALL THE TIME!? Like seriously that can't be healthy! 

  
  

  We've only had 3 fights in 10 years.  We just repeat them every few weeks or so  

  
  

   

  
  

  
  

  
  

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  April 2014

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• numbersgirl08 member

  April 2014

  Rarely. More in the past year than before. We've both talked about how, at this time in our life, we are trying to give each other grace more. So he says something meanish or does something stupid, it's most like your of tiredness or stress from all that's been changing the past year. I try to give him the benefit of the doubt right now and let it slide. He does so as well.

  
  

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• LaBellaVida member

  April 2014

  Rarely. I mean...we argue about dumb shit.
  We have a few fights ( me crying, yelling, throwing stuff, slamming things) maybe once a year.
  
  We used to fight all the time. We were in a rough spot in our marriage though.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Faith7 member

  April 2014

  My dad told us that his father-in-law gave him one rule when he married my mom: "You can't both be mad at the same time.  If she gets mad first, then you just have to let her be mad.  When she's done being mad, then you can be."

  
  

  It sounds sort of silly, but it actually works really well and we tend to practice it almost without thinking.  For some reason, in our relationship dynamic, knowing that the other is angry has a sort of sobering effect.  So, even though we may get annoyed or even mad, it almost never gets into the back-and-forth of a fight.

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• Maelara member

  April 2014

  My DH and I argue, a lot. Especially lately. I'm a sensitive wuss right now though. With my first pregnany the hormones didnt seem to bother me. This one? I feel like a terrible wife and mom. Im just so inpatient and tired. We don't fight fight a whole lot anymore. The first 4 ish months N was here we fought, with tears and yelling at least once a week. We haven't had a fight that ended in tears in a long time though. So that's nice!

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