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  • MBanoMBano member
    SO's older kid, Donald is failing many, if not all subjects in school. So, his mother screams at him and tells him to get his act together, the kid comes home in a bitchy ass mood (while I'm watching my neighbor's 2 year old who was sleeping at the time) and decides to start with his brother. I get involved and tell him to cut it out and get a response of "you can't tell me what to do" - the hell I can't, when your fathers not home, I'm in charge. So he's currently being yelled at by don. I'll probably get yelled at too, but minimally, because I lost it for a second or 2 and said fuck... 3 times. Drama over now.
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  • peanutbuttervibespeanutbuttervibes member
    @MBano‌ you said fuck to a child???
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  • MBanoMBano member
    edited April 2014
    He's 15 and in that teenager fuck you leave me alone stance now a days. He threatened his little brother and Tyler ran behind me bc he was scared. Donald said I can't wait to whip the crap out of both of u, I said I dare u Donald go ahead. He got in my face and I said enough of this get in your fucking room now. And leave your fucking brother alone. SO isn't gna like the fact that I said fucking. I don't like it either. I deserve whatever is coming my way. Edit: he's not gna yell at me, more like have a talk w me.
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  • MeNVMeNV member
    Both my kids are super sick and I can’t take any time off this week because of a stupid festival we’re putting on Friday and Saturday. I saw them at lunch and my one year old just wanted to lay in my lap and stroke my cheek. It killed me coming back to work. :(
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  • MBanoMBano member
    Haha. Hence the "fuck" from me. His father is still on the phone with him. I'm sure he's gna get another earful when don gets home from work. Both his parents have had enough of his crap. He is doing worse than poor in school and overall has a sucky attitude. We're all trying to do anything and everything under the sun to get him motivated with school. He just doesn't care.
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  • peanutbuttervibespeanutbuttervibes member
    @MBano‌ that's a tough stage but I would definitely seek help so that when situations like that occur, you don't loose your cool. Also, sounds like he has a lot of rage and I would be worried about him being around a newborn... I would get him some counseling ASAP.
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  • jortiz780jortiz780 member
    MrsLaLaBug said:
    @jortiz780 I know just what you mean.  If I hear "hello hormones" or "that's just your hormones talking" or the like one more time.....
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  • MBanoMBano member
    zoeygirl1105 said:
    MBano said:
    He's 15 and in that teenager fuck you leave me alone stance now a days. He threatened his little brother and Tyler ran behind me bc he was scared. Donald said I can't wait to whip the crap out of both of u, I said I dare u Donald go ahead. He got in my face and I said enough of this get in your fucking room now. And leave your fucking brother alone. SO isn't gna like the fact that I said fucking. I don't like it either. I deserve whatever is coming my way. Edit: he's not gna yell at me, more like have a talk w me.
    Please please please get some help or leave.

    Oh no, he's not gna go crazy on me. He's just gna talk it over with me. I'm talking to him as we speak, he's not pissed at me. More like Donald. He's fuming over what he did.
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  • MBanoMBano member
    @Ziongirl77‌ - thank you for caring. But, I worded it wrongly, he's not going to harm me, he's just going to talk it over with me. But don's talks can last a looooong time. Haha
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  • Mrs.Leah.MariaMrs.Leah.Maria member
    edited April 2014
    yurizaba said:
    MBano said:
    He's 15 and in that teenager fuck you leave me alone stance now a days. He threatened his little brother and Tyler ran behind me bc he was scared. Donald said I can't wait to whip the crap out of both of u, I said I dare u Donald go ahead. He got in my face and I said enough of this get in your fucking room now. And leave your fucking brother alone. SO isn't gna like the fact that I said fucking. I don't like it either. I deserve whatever is coming my way. Edit: he's not gna yell at me, more like have a talk w me.
    Cursing won't get you anywhere, you can stand your ground without cursing, that only makes it (in his mind) more acceptable to curse at you. 

    Rage is usually frustration and fear. Talking to him, (giving him space to calm down first) may work better
    Agreed and I'm sure it's stemming from a sense of powerlessness too.

    Letting himself explore his anger and getting a response from either you, or his brother, probably gives him a taste of control.
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  • MBanoMBano member
    Ziongirl77 said:
    MBano said:
    He's 15 and in that teenager fuck you leave me alone stance now a days. He threatened his little brother and Tyler ran behind me bc he was scared. Donald said I can't wait to whip the crap out of both of u, I said I dare u Donald go ahead. He got in my face and I said enough of this get in your fucking room now. And leave your fucking brother alone. SO isn't gna like the fact that I said fucking. I don't like it either. I deserve whatever is coming my way. Edit: he's not gna yell at me, more like have a talk w me.
    Wow...I wish I would have said "I can't wait to whip the crap out of both of you." to my mom.  Or any adult in my family for that matter.  It would have been "I can't wait..." and then a whole bunch of furniture moving around.  No room for that kind of disrespect.

    But my momma didn't play around.  She was crazy.  Or at least I thought she was anyway.  Better to keep us all in line I guess.

    That situation would have to be addressed immediately.  And I don't mean my SO addressing me.  Don't address me.  Handle that.

    SN: When you say "I deserve whatever is coming my way", it makes me worry for you that he is going to harm you.  And I sincerely hope that is not the case. 

    Same here. If I said "no" to my mom I'd get a slap on the face! My mom tolerated nooooo rudeness. These kids get away with murder.
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  • MBanoMBano member
    MermaidsMagic said:
    Mbano, I've left you and your relationship alone but you do not deserve anything over telling a smart assed like fucker to go to his room. Your BF's son needs to learn some respect and not to threaten a pregnant woman. 

    Thank you and you're totally right. Dons pissed at Donald. Beyond belief.
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    I miss all if the fun since I went back to work full time! I miss bumping!!!!! Wahhh
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  • peanutbuttervibespeanutbuttervibes member
    @MBano‌ I hope your family gets help. Not too long ago I met a man whose 16 year old stepson tried killing him after he already succeeded in killing his own mother. It was all because they had taken his cell phone away...The man had raised the boy for his entire life and said that there were no warning signs that anything like this would ever happen. You could see the sadness in his eyes as he told me his story. Not saying that anything like this will ever happen to you, it jut reminded me of this man's story.... just want people to be aware that rage in a teenager is a dangerous thing.

    https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2478019/Boy-16-killed-mother-friends-help-confiscated-cell-phone.html
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  • JustCricketJustCricket member
    yurizaba said:
    In my house nobody cursed. But my mum did spanked us every time it was needed (not many, as it would take pretty much a look of my mom to silence us and make us stop everything we were doing) and when that didn't worked she always had "la chancla"

    I'm laughing my ass off at this... very similar to my Mom's style. lol


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  • MBanoMBano member
    alexisann4250 said:
    @MBano‌ I hope your family gets help. Not too long ago I met a man whose 16 year old stepson tried killing him after he already succeeded in killing his own mother. It was all because they had taken his cell phone away...The man had raised the boy for his entire life and said that there were no warning signs that anything like this would ever happen. You could see the sadness in his eyes as he told me his story. Not saying that anything like this will ever happen to you, it jut reminded me of this man's story.... just want people to be aware that rage in a teenager is a dangerous thing. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2478019/Boy-16-killed-mother-friends-help-confiscated-cell-phone.html

    This scares the shit out of me. I hear stories like this, but never think it can happen in my own home. Omg!
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  • peanutbuttervibespeanutbuttervibes member
    @MBano‌ right? Definitely not common but so crazy...
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  • MBanoMBano member
    alexisann4250 said:
    @MBano‌ right? Definitely not common but so crazy...

    Without a doubt!
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  • softsopranosoftsoprano member
    How old is the younger brother?  I'm inclined to think "oh siblings fight, it's not the worst thing in the world"  But if there's a large age difference and he's threatening  to beat him up that's a problem.  And OBVIOUSLY you should be super concerned that he threatened you too.  If you and his parents aren't getting through to him it's time to get him some real help, 'cause you never can know for sure what a person is capable of or what extremes they'll go to.

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  • MBanoMBano member
    softsoprano said:
    How old is the younger brother?  I'm inclined to think "oh siblings fight, it's not the worst thing in the world"  But if there's a large age difference and he's threatening  to beat him up that's a problem.  And OBVIOUSLY you should be super concerned that he threatened you too.  If you and his parents aren't getting through to him it's time to get him some real help, 'cause you never can know for sure what a person is capable of or what extremes they'll go to.

    Tyler is 11 and is alwaaaays instigating Donald. But in this situation, Tyler didn't do anything. Donald was in a bad mood from the start bc he got found out and yelled at by his mother. They do fight, like normal brothers. This particular one just scared me and Tyler is hot headed and takes shit from no one, especially Donald so the fact that he ran behind me meant that he really got scared.
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  • wrightpalomowrightpalomo member
    This was originally going to be a response to @dezbear 's post about constant/annoying baby name suggestions but then it got really long and kind of off topic so here it is as a BitchFest.

    My MIL was suggesting names A LOT when we first announced...like a text message every 3 minutes for over an hour. I started having a panic attack because she can be a bit overbearing and I had some bad experiences with her during wedding planning. I told Hubbs he had to make this stop so he text her and politely told her that we were not thinking of names yet and that I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. She slowed down for a while.

    Last week she had a dream that the baby was a blond boy named Jon David. Fine whatever, but she keeps saying now that this was a "premonition" and the baby will be blond, male, and named Jon David. Um, no. First off, I'm white and Hubbs is Mexican... every child in his whole gigantic family has brown hair- even those who are 1/4 Mexican and 3/4 white still have brown hair. Also, we're not using that name... please stop with the names, lady! 

    My sister (a tall blonde) has children with a very tall, very blond man and her children are blond and red-headed. MIL keeps saying "Oh, if you have a girl she'll look exactly like Niece'sName." No, she won't-- my niece is in the 98th percentile for height and has red hair and practically clear skin. Not gonna happen, Crazyface. 

    I think this whole nonsense gets under my skin because it's like she's saying she wants my children to look different from their father (her son). There is no way my children will look like she wants them to because I don't even look like she wants. It makes me sick to think that she is dreaming of having these white, blonde babies fly out of me and I don't want to ever think that she is disappointed by their appearance. I mean, honestly, it probably isn't that deep for her but it just cuts me every time she says it. And she won't stop no matter how I try to tell her that it makes me uncomfortable. 

    I really expect that my children will be beautiful (I know everyone thinks their baby is beautiful but I love Hubbs' looks and I have to say that I'm pretty into my own appearance -- probably even vain) so I'm excited to see what OUR baby will look like! This woman is going to push me over the edge with this and it won't be pretty when I have a little Come to Jesus Talk with her about this blonde bullshit. 


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  • wrightpalomowrightpalomo member
    @reverey This sounds so tough! I'm sorry you're going through this. Sorry I don't have any advice for you but I agree with others that getting a social worker and medical professionals involved will help you know your options and get the best care available for your grandmother. ((((hugs))))


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  • melrob613melrob613 member
    One of the parents at preschool today decided to let my 2yo son walk out the door, and as I was trying to get out to him, he walked into the street. Fortunately another mom was there and scooped him up but regardless. She was too busy telling DD that I was leaving without her, and to top it all off, she laughed it off and told me about how her son always does that to her. 

    Bitch, if my darling man got hit by a car because you are a complete dumbass...well I don't know how to finish this statement, but I was SOOOOOO pissed. And I cried driving home, because I wasn't sure who to be mad at, DS or DumbAss. 
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    melrob613 said:
    One of the parents at preschool today decided to let my 2yo son walk out the door, and as I was trying to get out to him, he walked into the street. Fortunately another mom was there and scooped him up but regardless. She was too busy telling DD that I was leaving without her, and to top it all off, she laughed it off and told me about how her son always does that to her. 

    Bitch, if my darling man got hit by a car because you are a complete dumbass...well I don't know how to finish this statement, but I was SOOOOOO pissed. And I cried driving home, because I wasn't sure who to be mad at, DS or DumbAss. 
    UGH DS did this to me the other day. We have a playground across the street from my house. Luckily its a quiet street most of the day. We were walking over from the backyard and he booked! Ahh. SO scary.  I would've been super angry at the lady who let him out - not sure what I would've said but it wouldn't have been nice!

    MY BF is simply that I'm super friggin tired today and I just got a luke warm shower b/c I was last to get one and my shoulder is killing me and I really could've used a nice hot shower ... boring stuff but thats my waaaah for today.

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    I painted my nursery this weekend based on colors in a fabric from
    Joann's. Now we just went there and they have less than a yard left. I can get 1/2 from a store not to far away (dh can pick it up after work I hope) and the other half is being shipped from another store an hour away. I hate paying shipping. But at least I was able to find enough I guess.
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