Supportive / Adult birth club forum?

Kpbm11 · April 2014

Hi everyone,
I was just reading through a lot of these discussions and was actually surprised at the amount of bitchy trolling and bs.
I am looking for a forum where women tend to support each other, and are adults.
Does anyone have any experience with a forum like this?
I expect people to have their opinions, I certainly have mine, but I'm not into the nastiness on here.
To be honest, I was very active on the bump birth club in 2010 and I don't remember it being like this.

Any suggestions?

Ps
Good luck to all the women on here! I wish you happy healthy babies and easy births!

missnacholover · April 2014

Oh FFS.

missnacholover · April 2014

Kpbm11 said:

Hi everyone, I was just reading through a lot of these discussions and was actually surprised at the amount of bitchy trolling and bs. I am looking for a forum where women tend to support each other, and are adults. Does anyone have any experience with a forum like this? I expect people to have their opinions, I certainly have mine, but I'm not into the nastiness on here. To be honest, I was very active on the bump birth club in 2010 and I don't remember it being like this. Any suggestions? Ps Good luck to all the women on here! I wish you happy healthy babies and easy births!

And, QFP.

CTri17 · April 2014

lol , well I think things will settle a bit in a few weeks. I'm sure you just aren't remembering correctly from 2010. There is always some snark.

But this is definitely not the way for there to be less snark

and no, I don't know of any that are "more adult"

lisaren · April 2014

Did you join again with a new username?

Maelara · April 2014

Lol! Babygaga is all rainbows and unicorns. Maybe you'd be happier there.

FTR I haven't seen any nastiness or bitchiness. Snark? Yup! Women speaking their minds? Yup! Most of these women posting questions never come back or if they do it's for their own thread and they don't contribute to the rest of the board. Maybe if they contributed and were a part of the community it wouldn't be AS annoying.

lisaren · April 2014

This board is tame compared to some others on the bump

Kpbm11 · April 2014

I'm not trying to "de-snark" the forum. I'm trying to find one more suitable for me, because clearly I don't fit in here.
There is always some attitude in online forums. So of course there was some in 2010.
That being said, I certainly remember correctly, and it wasn't like this.

Maelara · April 2014

lisaren said:
This board is tame compared to some others on the bump

Ha! Yup! Try the Parenting board

or lurk on TTGP.

lisaren · April 2014

Ok for shits and giggles, what would YOU like to see on this board???

mockingjay1 · April 2014

If by adults you mean people who give you false hope and squee at every little thing you say, then I guess you can try baby gaga? If you mean adults who express their opinions and call people out for acting like 14 year olds or not educating themselves then this is a great place.

ed16564 · April 2014

Are you flipping kidding me? All this because you didn't like that people didn't want to see a million "due date buddy" posts? I'm a sensitive little flower too but seriously get over it and don't take it so seriously. I started that thread calling no one in particular out just expressing frustration over the clutter it was creating so that people would be more aware... Wow, just wow.

missnacholover · April 2014

Kpbm11 said:

I'm not trying to "de-snark" the forum. I'm trying to find one more suitable for me, because clearly I don't fit in here. There is always some attitude in online forums. So of course there was some in 2010. That being said, I certainly remember correctly, and it wasn't like this.

www.lmgtfy.com

Kpbm11 · April 2014

I'm not looking for rainbows and unicorns. This is exactly what I'm talking about.
Look at how bitchy all of your responses are!
Making fun and being condescending.
It's just not what I'm looking for.

Kpbm11 · April 2014

And yes. I re joined with a new name.

missnacholover · April 2014

Kpbm11 said:

I'm not looking for rainbows and unicorns. This is exactly what I'm talking about. Look at how bitchy all of your responses are! Making fun and being condescending. It's just not what I'm looking for.

Ummmm, no one is making fun or being condescending.

If it's not what you're looking for, why do you continue to post? Go to this grand thing call the internet and find other boards that are more suited for your personality. It's not that hard.

Kpbm11 · April 2014

ed16564 said:
Are you flipping kidding me? All this because you didn't like that people didn't want to see a million "due date buddy" posts? I'm a sensitive little flower too but seriously get over it and don't take it so seriously. I started that thread calling no one in particular out just expressing frustration over the clutter it was creating so that people would be more aware... Wow, just wow.

Nope. That's not why. I looked through a bunch of threads.

Maelara · April 2014

Kpbm11 said:
I'm not looking for rainbows and unicorns. This is exactly what I'm talking about.
Look at how bitchy all of your responses are!
Making fun and being condescending.
It's just not what I'm looking for.

Lol! We aren't the ones calling people names. You are. Pot, meet kettle.

Kpbm11 · April 2014

It's funny because to two of you that seem like the biggest trolls are the ones who keep posting with your little troll comments.
Adios!
Good luck!

missnacholover · April 2014

Kpbm11 said:

It's funny because to two of you that seem like the biggest trolls are the ones who keep posting with your little troll comments. Adios! Good luck!

Clearly you don't know what the definition of a troll is.

Maelara · April 2014

missnacholover said:

Kpbm11 said:

It's funny because to two of you that seem like the biggest trolls are the ones who keep posting with your little troll comments.
Adios!
Good luck!

Clearly you don't know what the definition of a troll is.

I was about to say this, lol! The OP is much more of a troll.

And nasty name caller.

mockingjay1 · April 2014

Kpbm11 said:

It's funny because to two of you that seem like the biggest trolls are the ones who keep posting with your little troll comments. Adios! Good luck!

Is this your GBCB? Enjoy baby gaga!

beatrixkiddo19 · April 2014

I'm not sure accusing a board of "bitchy trolling" and then asking for a favor was your best choice here. "You guys are rude. Help me?"

ed16564 · April 2014

I just don't get it. Are you missing the posts where a single mom is being encouraged? Or maybe the ones where we keep people measuring behind in T&P? Is it perhaps all the people who've found TWO heart beats where the whole board congratulated them? Just color me confused.

Lauralie0230 · April 2014

I agree with you Kpbm11. Expressing opinions is one thing... but attacking people is another. I don't think there was anything wrong with the post about the due date buddies... I agree it was getting annoying... we can point that out, not a problem. and like many people did... suggest checking the spreadsheet. That makes it much easier and problem is solved. I am not sure if Kpbm11 was referring to that post or if she was referring to the many other posts that are just plain mean. maybe it's the hormones.... or that we all feel horrible all the time, that the bitchiness is coming out. But... I have debated waiting until everyone is out of their first trimester... maybe we'll all calm down by then... but I came on here looking for support not to see people bitched at all the time. We're all struggling we're all overly emotional... if someone expresses a differing point of view then instead of everyone saying the same thing over and over and over again... and making that person feel like complete shit... why doesn't someone express their opposing viewpoint and then if you agree like it. No one needs to see 30 posts about how they are wrong in what they believe. We are here to support each other... at least I thought that that was what the bump was about.

missnacholover · April 2014

Lauralie0230 said:

I agree with you Kpbm11. Expressing opinions is one thing... but attacking people is another. I don't think there was anything wrong with the post about the due date buddies... I agree it was getting annoying... we can point that out, not a problem. and like many people did... suggest checking the spreadsheet. That makes it much easier and problem is solved. I am not sure if Kpbm11 was referring to that post or if she was referring to the many other posts that are just plain mean. maybe it's the hormones.... or that we all feel horrible all the time, that the bitchiness is coming out. But... I have debated waiting until everyone is out of their first trimester... maybe we'll all calm down by then... but I came on here looking for support not to see people bitched at all the time. We're all struggling we're all overly emotional... if someone expresses a differing point of view then instead of everyone saying the same thing over and over and over again... and making that person feel like complete shit... why doesn't someone express their opposing viewpoint and then if you agree like it. No one needs to see 30 posts about how they are wrong in what they believe. We are here to support each other... at least I thought that that was what the bump was about.

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ed16564 · April 2014

Maybe it's because I came from TTGP where it's much more snarky but I REALLY don't know what unsupportive bitchiness you guys are talking about. These girls are NICE.

suzyrenee · April 2014

ed16564 said:
I just don't get it. Are you missing the posts where a single mom is being encouraged? Or maybe the ones where we keep people measuring behind in T&P? Is it perhaps all the people who've found TWO heart beats where the whole board congratulated them? Just color me confused.

This. I haven't seen people attacking others. We have to share different opinions, or what's the point?

Maelara · April 2014

Lauralie0230 said:
I agree with you Kpbm11. Expressing opinions is one thing... but attacking people is another. I don't think there was anything wrong with the post about the due date buddies... I agree it was getting annoying... we can point that out, not a problem. and like many people did... suggest checking the spreadsheet. That makes it much easier and problem is solved. I am not sure if Kpbm11 was referring to that post or if she was referring to the many other posts that are just plain mean. maybe it's the hormones.... or that we all feel horrible all the time, that the bitchiness is coming out. But... I have debated waiting until everyone is out of their first trimester... maybe we'll all calm down by then... but I came on here looking for support not to see people bitched at all the time. We're all struggling we're all overly emotional... if someone expresses a differing point of view then instead of everyone saying the same thing over and over and over again... and making that person feel like complete shit... why doesn't someone express their opposing viewpoint and then if you agree like it. No one needs to see 30 posts about how they are wrong in what they believe. We are here to support each other... at least I thought that that was what the bump was about.

It's not. And this is post 100 about 'support' and the Internet.

If you people can't take what your dishing out, which BTW is even ruder and bitchier than anything I've seen, then just GBCB already. Being pregnant has nothing to do with this. We are who we are.

icaughtfire · April 2014

Babygaga ------->

You won't be missed. Bye.

Lauralie0230 · April 2014

I am sorry I don't understand what was rude about my post? All I was saying is we do not need to reiterate something to death, and attack people for having their opinions about something. I am all for sharing opinions, and I agree that for the most part this is a very supportive board. But there have been times where it turns somewhere that is just not kind. case in point... I have no plans on leaving. I did not say that anywhere in my post. I was expressing an opinion. but the comments after mine... telling me to leave, I won't be missed. It's just not kind. another example, bashing a girl over and over again for having to give up her dog... not kind. and many other posts. People make decisions, that I am sure are not easy. sure give opinions but don't attack. There is a difference. all I am asking is that the people on this board are a little more sensitive to the circumstances that others are in.

abbyful · April 2014

@Kpbm11‌ Why the "I'm leaving!" post? If you don't like the forum, just leave. There doesn't need to be drama & fanfare. Your post is exactly what you are complaining about. Pot, meet kettle.

lisaren · April 2014

I'm not sure they were referring to you in the "bye" post. May have been OP @Lauralie0230‌

Maelara · April 2014

@Lauralie0230‌ I was the only one that said anything about GBCB. I think the others where talking to the OP, not you.

Your post is a reiteration and attack. You are attacking people for expressing themselves which I would think is just as bad as you view us to be. You didn't seem to say it in an overly rude way but it was rude.

People are going to express their opinions. And honestly, about that dog - most people expressed their opinion about it but most didn't get nasty. Were there a couple of low blows? Yes. But sometimes things need to be pointed out.

As I mentioned in the Bitchfest, we don't know each other well enough yet to be overly supportive. There is only so much we can do yet. By the time these babies come we will know each other so much better and that's when the support will be there.

KatzKiss · April 2014

Are you @miissperez‌?

Lauralie0230 · April 2014

Not sure if you are talking to me or OP, if you are talking to me, I am not miissperez. @Maelara all I am saying is that there does not need to be 30 posts directed at the same person about how we all disagree with her. I don't think that is too much to ask.

missnacholover · April 2014

Lauralie0230 said:

Not sure if you are talking to me or OP, if you are talking to me, I am not miissperez. @Maelara all I am saying is that there does not need to be 30 posts directed at the same person about how we all disagree with her. I don't think that is too much to ask.

OK. We'll keep it at 29. (a joke.)

I think anything you post on the internet is fair game. There are 400-some users on this BMB and with that comes 400-some different personalities and opinions.

If you make a jerky statement, be a big girl, own it, and move on.

icaughtfire · April 2014

My statement is to pretty much anyone who takes no steps to get involved with the board, other than to complain how mean we are. I've directed you to a site known to be a little more (okay, a lot more) sugar-coated & giddy. As far as not missing you, I can assure you a few minutes/days/weeks from now no one will say "Oh remember XYZ girl, who was just a lurker then jumped in to tell us we suck? Man I miss her!" So..no, you won't be missed.

If the above applies to you, then my previous statement was directed towards you. Take it as you will.

pennyandandy · April 2014

I mean, really. While my last BMB was very accept each other and get along, the feel was very similar to this one. I don't think this board is overly snarky or judgey or mean at all. Quite the contrary, overall the posts have been very nice and supportive.

RedBirdFly · April 2014

Even when people openly didn't agree with me, I never felt attacked. I just felt like maybe I hurt some feelings. These ladies are awesome and I love the snark and differing viewpoints.

carcrashheart · April 2014

Why would you come ask us such a question? That makes no sense. That's just a passive way of being all "you guys are mean I'm going to stomp my feet!!" If you really wanted to go elsewhere you would do your own google search and leave without saying anything to us.

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