Where my team greeners at?

NYGirl02 · April 2014

Sorry if this has been posted already. I'm not on here super duper often. But, who else is team green? Are you having to combat any negative Nancy's? How will you ever plan?!?!?! =P

BethanyAnn27 · April 2014

Team green here! We haven't told many people yet that we are expecting, so I am prepping for the comments. The few people we have told know that we want to have more children (FTM here btw), and have all said it is smart to purchase gender neutral for things we will use in the future. I am guessing my in-laws and that extended family may have a few negative comments, but you know what? My child, my choice. And in September they will get their answer!

MrsKasel10 · April 2014

Team green 4eva. There will always be people that think we are crazy for not finding out. Luckily this time around I already have 1 boy and 1 girl so I don't need to plan for much. My husband really loves the excitement of finding out in the delivery room when we first meet baby. And to be honest the wait doesn't bother me.

teenybean · April 2014

Team green. My mom is sad as usual but she's eeyore anyway.

GabbyCat13 · April 2014

Team green here too. It's mostly been my friends that hate the wait but they'll get over it!

We're having one more after this so everything we buy or get will be GN.

GabbyCat13 · April 2014

riveradove said:

that's a big reason we are team green, @GabbyCat13. I have one friend who keeps asking what we prefer to have and I honestly, in all seriousness, have no greater preference for either or. I daydream about a girl just as much as I daydream about a boy and both make me smile (sometimes cry, don't laugh!) she just says, "aw, you're no fun!"

Honestly, as silly as it may sound, I would like to have another girl then a boy (we have two girls already!!) BUT I'm excited about this baby being either. I can not wait to find out.

My MIL and SIL are coming to the A/S appt. Apr. 18th so they can find out but the rest of us have to wait! It was originally DHs decision. I always thought it would be a fun idea but didn't know if I could go through with it, but here I am My friends just hate it because they want to buy blue or pink (mostly pink because they ALL have boys)

NYGirl02 · April 2014

@riveradove, my parent never did either so I kind of like following them in that regards also. Also, my IL side of the family is over the top hyper masculine. When my SIL and BIL had their gender reveal party and the inside of the cake was blue, it was like a chest bumping man Fest. It was so obnoxious and I have no patience for it. Ifit had been a girl it would have been "oh nooooo, you're in so much trouble" yahta yahta. If we wait till the birth, everyone's just happy there's a healthy baby, or if there is any obnoxiousness, Im not around for it. I liked being team green last time!

babyd143 · April 2014

Team green for the second time. We thought we would only be suprised for our first, but it was so much fun that we decided to go green again!

whataboutscience · April 2014

We're team green. My in laws don't understand at all, but my family and friends have been supportive. We definitely want a few more kids so we want GN items. My MIL was telling me how when you know before then you can really focus on the birth and it's not all about if it's a boy or a girl. Whatever. We are happy with either and are excited to be having a child. I see no reason you need to know ahead of time and women have had no choice but to be surprised for generations.

Gizmo1231 · April 2014

We are team green!! I think it's hard not finding out when it comes to clothes more than anything else!

whataboutscience · April 2014

Yeah, she has an opinion on everything and likes to explain why it's best. It sounded like she was trying to change my mind, thinking I had made the wrong choice. I told her that it bothered me that she wasn't just supportive and it turned into drama. Back to smiling and ignoring what she has to say.

I agree with the clothes being hard to wait. I'm not a fan of neutral clothing at all. The other stuff can be neutral, no problem. When people see my baby though, I want them to know right away if it's a boy or a girl. I figure some family will buy stuff after the baby is born and I will probably have a few boy and girl outfits ready.

Irisheyes1247 · April 2014

We were team green for DD1 and DD2, and I totally loved it. Our a/s is on Friday and we are compromising (Idea stolen from mermz) - I will make two envelopes up, one will say "surprise" and one we will have the tech write down the sex. DH can choose an envelope and whatever info is in the envelope is the info he has. He did not want to be team green ever, but I don't want to know (I mean, I do, and I think each pregnancy I've gotten more impatient just wondering how baby will fit into our family, but I prefer the moment of "its a ____" at the end). So he might know, and he might not know, and he is not supposed to tell anyone. We'll see how it goes.

We are just telling people we did not find out, because my family/friends will go crazy if they think we know.

Bella2425 · April 2014

Team green here. We tried last time but I caved at the AS because I knew my DH wanted to know so bad. This time, tough luck! So far no terrible reactions but there's still plenty of time for that... Now people just want to know the name since they feel like they are entitled to know "something". Too bad!

drae86 · April 2014

Team Green kind of against DH wishes. But were almost halfway there so at this point can definitely hold out! Will be hearder when this board is overwhelmed with gender reveals...might feel a little jealous but I am super excited for the delivery moment! My parents didn't find out either. Everyone asks when will you know if it's a boy or girl and when I say September i get the 'you're crazy' look. GF of mine is a couple weeks behind and thought it was unheard of people not finding out these days lol.

I should already be prepared for the 'you're crazy' look though, if they think that about not finding out gender they'll be in a real shock to find out i'm using a midwife and have a home water birth!

froglegs04 · April 2014

Team green! I wanted to know at first, but found myself liking the surprise aspect. Most people we tell are very supportive and actually really admire our "strength" in not finding out. It makes us feel like such special snowflakes

MeNV · April 2014

Team green! I don't mind that my family is bummed I'm going green again, but random people I barely know complaining to me is so weird. Some chick I've talked to maybe four times in seven years asked me what I was having and I told her we were waiting. She threw a weird little hissy fit and then found my husband and did the same to him. I swear on all that is holy I don't even know this woman's name. Humans are so freaking weird.

Djcieply · April 2014

We are team green, we were also team green with our first. I felt like I got more negativity the first time than I have this time, Im getting more "good for you" comments this time. I kind of wanted to find out this time just to know what that experience was like, but now I'm glad my DH talked me out of it.

Any FTM's struggling with not wanting ALL gender neutral items, maybe consider having a baby shower after baby is born. My family has the baby shower after baby is born whether we know the gender or not, but it made it nice not get gifted all gender neutral clothing. The necessities I bought on my own before hand, and the bigger items on my registry were all gender neutral just because I knew I was going to have more kids, but it was nice to get some items specifically for my DS.

Djcieply · April 2014

23Melissa28 said:

Not team green, but, FTR, most of our parents were team green because the option to find out wasn't there. Not because they chose to be.

Yes to a certain extent. My husband will be 32 this year and my MIL said she was able to find out what he was, but with his 34 year old sister she was not. My mom was also able to find out with me but Im under 30. So any of us under the age of 30 our parents should have had the option to find out.

BethanyAnn27 · April 2014

Djcieply said:

23Melissa28 said:

Not team green, but, FTR, most of our parents were team green because the option to find out wasn't there. Not because they chose to be.

Yes to a certain extent. My husband will be 32 this year and my MIL said she was able to find out what he was, but with his 34 year old sister she was not. My mom was also able to find out with me but Im under 30. So any of us under the age of 30 our parents should have had the option to find out.

That is really interesting...I literally just turned 25 and my Mom was telling me that she was never offered an ultrasound because she was having a "normal pregnancy". So she only had doppler checks for fetal heart beat during the pregnancy. I know she did have ultrasounds with my two younger brothers (they were both considered high risk) but they stayed team green--not sure if that was by choice or not--and the youngest brother is 21.

NYGirl02 · April 2014

I think it took some time for ultrasounds to take place regularly. But it was up to the dr I think. My mom didnt have the option offered, but didnt want it either. My MIL had normal pregnancies with kids born practically the same years as my parents and did have the option with their last, who is just 6 months younger than me. She just turned 30. So, just like today, different doctors do different things.

mrsH1112 · April 2014

Im team green and honestly for us, most people in our family like that we are team green. It would have been more people debbie downer-ing us if we were finding out as weird as that sounds.

Morocco · April 2014

Team green.. Second time!! Love the surprise!!

mrsdanielleM2010 · April 2014

We found out and actually my DH's overjoyed reaction to finding out its a boy pissed me off a little. His reasoning for finding out was to connect to the baby more, but I feel like next time I'll stick to my team green guns more.

drae86 · April 2014

@mamakate12345, do they try and find out the anatomy regardless of you being team green or not for their knowledge? the way you phrased your comment it seemed kind of like that.

That is one of my fears too though!! I mean, how can you not at least sneak a glance in the direction?1?

Djcieply · April 2014

BethanyAnn27 said:

Djcieply said:

23Melissa28 said:

Not team green, but, FTR, most of our parents were team green because the option to find out wasn't there. Not because they chose to be.

Yes to a certain extent. My husband will be 32 this year and my MIL said she was able to find out what he was, but with his 34 year old sister she was not. My mom was also able to find out with me but Im under 30. So any of us under the age of 30 our parents should have had the option to find out.

That is really interesting...I literally just turned 25 and my Mom was telling me that she was never offered an ultrasound because she was having a "normal pregnancy". So she only had doppler checks for fetal heart beat during the pregnancy. I know she did have ultrasounds with my two younger brothers (they were both considered high risk) but they stayed team green--not sure if that was by choice or not--and the youngest brother is 21.

My MIL said that she was the first patient that her Dr. had done an ultrasound on. I guess the Dr was more curious if determining gender on the ultrasound was accurate or not even though she didnt want to know. So he wrote down on her file BOY! and it was right, but while that was right they were not able to tell that she had placenta previa. My mom was 39 when she was pregnant with me and 41 when she was pregnant with my sister so maybe thats why she had ultrasounds with us, but she still didnt want to know.

Im sure it was different with different Drs then, if they had the technology in their office Im sure they utilized it. Even now my friend gets an ultrasound every time she sees the Dr, just because her Dr likes doing them not because shes high risk or anything.

mrsdanielleM2010 · April 2014

23Melissa28 said:

We found out and actually my DH's overjoyed reaction to finding out its a boy pissed me off a little. His reasoning for finding out was to connect to the baby more, but I feel like next time I'll stick to my team green guns more.
I'd cut him a little slack in this area, only because I know it was the same way got my BF with Jr. He hadn't touched my stomach once, until the day we found out what we were having. Then, he never stopped touching my belly. And he never stopped shopping for baby clothes either lol He loved it. After going through a loss, he was terrified something would happen again, so initially stayed disconnected from the baby. I think we forget how losses affect our SO's sometimes. And usually because they tried to keep a brave face for us. I know that's what my BF did.

Good point Melissa. DH is still treating me as if I were made of fragile glass.

whataboutscience · April 2014

Our parents had a choice to find out. My mom chose to be team green. My in-laws found out. They are the ones that seem to think it is open for debate rather than our decision. It is more my decision than DH, but he is okay with it and is waiting because he knows I really want to.

NYGirl02 · April 2014

DH says there was a record of the sex in my chart even though we were team green. H said one of the nurses slipped up in the delivery room referred to the baby as she. I don't remember that at all. So, I do think they look and maybe make note of it. That being said, I'm horrible at telling. It can be relatively obvious and unless someone specifically points it out, I won't be able to tell.

[Deleted User] · April 2014

Team green here too! We haven't received any negative feedback, I think our family and friends are mostly surprised by our decision. I hope neither of us is tempted to find out at our A/S in a few weeks.

Irisheyes1247 · April 2014

@nygirl02, I wonder if that is by practice/dr? My midwife specifically said at my last appt that we need to decide if we want to know prior to our a/s because they do not note it in my chart, so I can't just call up at a later date and ask. I thought it was interesting, because I just assumed they had it in the chart.

MommaM2 · April 2014

babyd143 said:
Team green for the second time. We thought we would only be suprised for our first, but it was so much fun that we decided to go green again!

This exactly!!

halle83 · April 2014

We're Team Green!! We don't get a lot of negative reactions, more so, "I don't know how you do it" sort of thing. A lot of my doctors and techs are always really excited when I say we're waiting bc I don't think they see much of that anymore.

crystangel · April 2014

Team green here. People just think we are crazy, "how can you plan", but it is still a baby, I don't think planning is an issue. I do feel like the entire baby market is so typically blue and pink though, there needs to be more products for the team green people!

whataboutscience · April 2014

Agreed. I couldn't find a decent pack of bibs that were neutral. I finally registered for a multicolor pack that didn't have any pink. When I scanned it, it said they were boy bibs (maybe two out of 8 or 10 were blue). I think their fine to use even if it's a girl, but I hope people don't notice that and think we found out.

nickielachickie · April 2014

crystangel said:

Team green here. People just think we are crazy, "how can you plan", but it is still a baby, I don't think planning is an issue. I do feel like the entire baby market is so typically blue and pink though, there needs to be more products for the team green people!

Haha it's SO ridiculous the "how can you plan" - I figured parents since the beginning of time were able to manage so I think we can too!

clkriley89 · April 2014

FTM here and I'm team green. DH is not thrilled about it though. We have our first u/s at 20 weeks in a couple weeks, so we have some time to decide. I have painted the nursery already, grey walls with a turquoise ceiling and we're going to accent with oranges (neither of us are pink fans anyway). The only thing that's making me think we should find out is so that we know for the baby shower. I don't want to end up with a bunch of yellow and green stuff!! Not many people know we're pregnant, so not many negative Nancy's yet!

nmmeyer11 · April 2014

We're team green and couldn't be more excited about it. Initially my husband was the one who talked me into it since I'm a planner and thought there was no way I could plan for a baby without knowing but now I'm so excited to be surprised in the delivery room and have no desire to find out until then.

A couple of my friends tried to talk me into having a reveal party, but they got over it. Now the fun has started with office pools and bets running through both sides of our families as to what we are having. It's making this process even more exciting for us.

BethanyAnn27 · April 2014

So since I last posted on this thread we have told my brothers, brother #1's girlfriend, and 2 close friends who hang out with us all the time. They are the only people aside from my parents who know (telling DH's parent's & brother on Saturday when we make the 3.5 hour trip to see them, then calling Grandparents after). So far, everyone we have told has asked "do you know the sex yet", and when we tell them we are team green, all the responses have been "oh that's really smart, good for you!". Nice surprise, hopefully it will go over as well with DH's family!

megs2011 · April 2014

I'm not team green, we are definitely finding out. I just want to say that I give you ladies a lot of kudos for not finding out. DH didn't want to find out with our first, till we found out it was twins, I wanted to find out from the beginning. This time, I said we can go team green if he wants, but he wants to find out this time. Go figure lol.

chusum · April 2014

Team green! I've had some friends push to have me find out, but I really wouldn't mind a boy or a girl! So I really don't have a push to find out any sooner than when I deliver.

natalie559 · April 2014

Green here!! Excited to wait until the end! I have always wanted to and am happy my husband agrees. The hardest part for me is coming up with 2 names- I mean 1 is hard enough! Gender neutral colors agree with my taste best anyways so planning is not too difficult, clothing can be bought later!

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