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Having another baby?? Already??

MargotshaMargotsha member
in February 2014 Moms

As I've learned to say since moving to the South, "Oh bless his heart", but is DH for real? He wants to try for another one starting in May. His brother, sister and himself are Irish twins, (wait, would that make them triplets?).  They all loved that they were so close in age while growing up. I understand the pluses of knocking children out together but ugh... sounds like a lot of work. Plus really? Labor is still haunting me and I would love 3 hours of solid sleep in row.

Anyone decide to have children close together?

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  • keags5496keags5496 member
    Kids close together was not for me. We spaced them 3 years apart because I wanted my first to be a little independent when we had a newborn. That said, I know several people who have Irish twins and love it. Super personal decision that both you and hubby have to agree on. If you're not ready yet then I hope he backs off.
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  • littlepig2littlepig2 member
    I feel like this is on the same level as when people are getting ready to go out and when they see each other. one says "you're not wearing THAT, are you?" ...nope, not anymore.

    to each their own. my brother and I are Irish twins and we were best friends growing up. if someone is healthy enough to get pregnant again soon after their first baby and they want to, I say go for it.
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  • JordyInIndyJordyInIndy member
    DreamingBabies said:

    How would we know if your husband is "for real"?

    She wasn't actually asking us if we thought her husband was for real. More like a, "are you serious?", I assume.

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  • NoelMarieFreyNoelMarieFrey member
    What's even crazier, my SO wants to try for another one right after my six week appointment this week!

    I told him he isn't even to touch me until I have my IUD placed.

    I want more kids (maybe) but truthfully I don't want them too close together. I feel like I want DD to be more independent. The decision is ultimately yours, if you aren't comfortable with it, don't do it.
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  • Soap1Soap1 member
    My first two are 15 months apart and I would not do that again.  Yes, they're very close and good friends now, and I know they will be, but even 6 more months would have been helpful.  It was really hard!
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  • slwprincessslwprincess member
    I know some people say close together is easier but I never wanted more than one in diapers. Ours are all 3 yrs apart and I'm pretty happy with that. Particularly this time.. The bigs are very independent.

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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    Remember that being close in age=/= being close emotionally.

    I am closest to my sister who is five years younger than my sister 18 months older or my brother 2 years younger.

    Try for the next one when you're emotionally, physically, and financially ready... And when YOU want to. Don't do it because your partner wants to and don't push your partner if he doesn't want to.


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  • kathegreatkathegreat member
    RondackHiker said:

    Remember that being close in age=/= being close emotionally.

    I am closest to my sister who is five years younger than my sister 18 months older or my brother 2 years younger.

    Try for the next one when you're emotionally, physically, and financially ready... And when YOU want to. Don't do it because your partner wants to and don't push your partner if he doesn't want to.

    This. My sister and I are 3 years apart and we are best friends, my mom encouraged that friendship to grow and fostered the mindset of being more than just siblings.
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  • MargotshaMargotsha member
    DreamingBabies said:
    How would we know if your husband is "for real"?
    She wasn't actually asking us if we thought her husband was for real. More like a, "are you serious?", I assume.
    Yeah, I clearly take things too literally in the middle of the night. My bad.

    ;) I have a sarcastic, middle-of-the-night way of saying things.

     

    Yes, he is for real, and no we won't try until we are both ready. As I am exhausted, it is just not something that is my 1st priority at the moment. I was curious to see who had children close together and their thoughts on it. Thanks for everyone's input.

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  • RedSoxGirl10RedSoxGirl10 member
    My sister and I are 5 years apart and very close :) I personally can't handle (or don't want to handle) close together kids but for people who do, more power to them :)

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  • yhaeneryhaener member
     This LO and DS are 22 months apart and I would do it again this way or with a smaller age gap. I said to my husband last night "If we got pregnant this cycle we would have another 2014 baby" (DD was born three weeks early in January and I've already had one period). He responded "I don't know what's scarier the thought of having another baby this year or that you don't seem scared by the though!"  I don't think we are going to start actively trying until DD is one years old, but I would be excited if we were surprised earlier:)



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  • MargotshaMargotsha member
    TyrannosaurusLex said:
    DreamingBabies said:
    How would we know if your husband is "for real"?
    She wasn't actually asking us if we thought her husband was for real. More like a, "are you serious?", I assume.
    Yeah, I clearly take things too literally in the middle of the night. My bad.

    ;) I have a sarcastic, middle-of-the-night way of saying things.

     

    Yes, he is for real, and no we won't try until we are both ready. As I am exhausted, it is just not something that is my 1st priority at the moment. I was curious to see who had children close together and their thoughts on it. Thanks for everyone's input.

    Well then you might want to be a little less negative and rude about the way you ask that (it didn't really seem like that's what you were asking). It seemed more like you were putting that choice down in the "crazy nut job" category.

    rainbows, butterflies and roses. Wasn't trying to be negative or rude, and will try to be more aware of how I word things at 3am. I have much appreciation and respect for all mums, no matter if you have 1 or 10 kids, 5 minutes, 9 months or 20 years apart.

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  • Rosie137Rosie137 member
    My first two are 16 months apart, the first weeks were rough, but once I got them on the same sleeping schedule it was a lot easier for me. They're best friends and have kept each other entertained while I'm dealing with the baby. Its not always sunshine and rainbows they fight a lot too and push my buttons together, but I still love their age gap.
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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    TyrannosaurusLex said:

    SgrRay929 said:

    Obviously. Otherwise I wouldn't be planning to try to knock one out so soon. Can you believe I would do such a thing?? UGH.

    FTFY
    I love you both.


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