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  • delatldelatl member
    Mine is that I decided to work from home today because of the snow and ice. Even though I totally could have made it in. I will work, I swear, but how could I pass up a day in my PJs listening to music while I do my work? Commuting has become such a hassle.
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    RachelCA29 said:
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    I'm totally judging a friend who chose to deliver at a teaching hospital in the city, and now is throwing a fit insisting no residents assist in her care, or be present at any point during delivery/postpartum.  I feel like if you choose a teaching hospital, you are instantly choosing to allow them to be present in your care.  If you don't want a teaching hospital don't deliver at one.  
    Maybe it's a bit different here, but in my city there are no hospitals that DON'T have residents. And the best place to deliver here is the Children's Hospital, which is on the university campus. That's where we are delivering, but I'm pretty okay with residents being involved with my delivery (they've been involved at most of my OB appointments). 

    My only request is that if I have tearing to repair that an OB and not a resident do that repair (I've heard horror stories of residents taking way too long to finish the repair so the local anesthesia wear offs, and also, that's my vag, I want to repaired as close to perfectly as possible).
    I feel like having one off requests is very different than saying "no resident shall step foot in my room at any time".  Most of our big city hospitals are teaching hospitals as well.  I think that is part of what makes them great hospitals though.  I think just like residents learn from MDs, MDs can learn/be challenged by residents as well which is part of what keeps the hospital continually learning/growing.

    I deliver at a hospital that does not have a residency program (30 minutes north of the city), but my PCP does, and I'm more than happy to be seen by residents there.  I mean everyone has to start somewhere, and it isn't like the resident is going into it blind, they are fully supervised by an MD.  
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  • Ladiebug30Ladiebug30 member
    My ILs went on a cruise last week. They got back Sunday. We've had stomach bug in our house since the previous Friday night. We've all been okay since probably Wednesday. My confession is that I've been telling MIL we're still sick because we (dh included) don't want to see her. Also, she called a while ago and I let my phone ring. 20 some minutes later I got a text asking if I was home. My plan is to text her back in an hour or so and say I was putting my son down for his nap. (That part is actually true, but I technically could have answered the phone.)
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  • spacepotatoesspacepotatoes member
    I have no issue with teaching hospitals in general but I have been thinking about it a lot too. I've heard that in some teaching hospitals, after a cervical check is performed by the doctor, it will be repeated by the student. That is not cool with me. I don't know yet how my hospital handles this but that is one thing I'd be requesting to avoid.
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  • RachelCA29RachelCA29 member
    kb2bkk said:
    RachelCA29 said:
    kb2bkk said:
    I'm totally judging a friend who chose to deliver at a teaching hospital in the city, and now is throwing a fit insisting no residents assist in her care, or be present at any point during delivery/postpartum.  I feel like if you choose a teaching hospital, you are instantly choosing to allow them to be present in your care.  If you don't want a teaching hospital don't deliver at one.  
    Maybe it's a bit different here, but in my city there are no hospitals that DON'T have residents. And the best place to deliver here is the Children's Hospital, which is on the university campus. That's where we are delivering, but I'm pretty okay with residents being involved with my delivery (they've been involved at most of my OB appointments). 

    My only request is that if I have tearing to repair that an OB and not a resident do that repair (I've heard horror stories of residents taking way too long to finish the repair so the local anesthesia wear offs, and also, that's my vag, I want to repaired as close to perfectly as possible).
    I feel like having one off requests is very different than saying "no resident shall step foot in my room at any time".  Most of our big city hospitals are teaching hospitals as well.  I think that is part of what makes them great hospitals though.  I think just like residents learn from MDs, MDs can learn/be challenged by residents as well which is part of what keeps the hospital continually learning/growing.

    I deliver at a hospital that does not have a residency program (30 minutes north of the city), but my PCP does, and I'm more than happy to be seen by residents there.  I mean everyone has to start somewhere, and it isn't like the resident is going into it blind, they are fully supervised by an MD.  
    Exactly! My experience with residents has been great (in not hilarious) so far. They are always these late-twenties really shy men, doing an Obstetrics residency ... I find it amusing that they are so bashful about having to reach down to my public bone to measure my fundal height or something. I just think, you know in a couple months your going to be seeing a lot more of me than the top of my pubic bone ...

    But yes, I think it would be awkward and kind of overly demanding to ban residents from attending a birth at a teaching hospital. I feel like none of the staff would appreciate that, and therefore not ever try to "go the extra mile" to make sure you had a great experience.
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  • FlemDanceFlemDance member
    My FFFC: I'm getting my lesson plans in order for the rest of the year just in case things happen early. I usually try to have fun, hands-on activities in my room (I teach sp. ed. Earth Science), but it's just so much work to try to get all that set up in advance so a sub knows what to do. Instead, I'm just going with PowerPoints and guided notes, a Bill Nye video here and there, and book work. Part of me feels bad because I know the kids like to have fun, but I just don't have the energy to do that.
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  • raebee18raebee18 member
    ALE515 said:
    At first, I didn't care if women planned their own baby shower. But now it's really annoying me. I have a few pregnant friends all due a few weeks after me. My Mom is planning my shower and she's keeping everything a secret. Every day, these girls are posting pics of their diaper cakes, favors, decor, you name it on facebook. I get bothered, cause I like surprises. I mean what's the fun of it, if you know every little detail?

    Now that our showers are coming up (mine is tomorrow, yay!) they are constantly asking me about the details of everything as if to compare. I keep telling them that I'm not planning it, so I have no clue, yet they still ask on a damn daily basis! Maybe I'm the only one that likes to be surprised...
    I totally want to be surprised. I was a little sad today cause my mom asked me for some info for one of the games so that surprise is out of the bag. I think she was panicking cause my shower is tomorrow (she's helping host it with my friend) and just got into town yesterday. I also hate that people try to compare like my shower has to be better or equivilant to yours. I'm just happy I'm getting one and get to see all my friends since I've been a bloated hermit this entire pregnancy!
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  • oscarwaooscarwao member
    FlemDance said:
    My FFFC: I'm getting my lesson plans in order for the rest of the year just in case things happen early. I usually try to have fun, hands-on activities in my room (I teach sp. ed. Earth Science), but it's just so much work to try to get all that set up in advance so a sub knows what to do. Instead, I'm just going with PowerPoints and guided notes, a Bill Nye video here and there, and book work. Part of me feels bad because I know the kids like to have fun, but I just don't have the energy to do that.
    Yup.  This is me to a T. My students will having boring, paper-based work and review packets while I am gone. I've been cramming in lessons and lectures, so I feel no guilt. 
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  • lrmrtnlrmrtn member
    kramja01 said:

    I am (irrationally) upset with my friends/relatives for not purchasing off my registry. I know I sound like a giant bitch and would never say anything about it, but it annoys me. My shower is tomorrow and the only items gone from my registry are things my mom, my MIL, one friend, and I purchased (I jumped on that BRU 20% off deal and got something I didn't think anyone else would pick out).

    I appreciate thoughtful and/or handmade gifts, but it appears my family does not understand baby showers. At my first shower, my great aunt (who is incredibly wealthy, not that it matters) gave me a giant photo collage frame with unflattering pictures of me and my brother when we were tweens. (They were clearly pics my mom had sent her over the years) She wrapped in in Christmas paper. What do you say to that? I know I am not entitled to gifts of any kind, but thinking about this is making me grumpy and sad. :(

    I kinda felt this way at my shower. No, I'm not entitled to any gifts and yes, I appreciate everything I got but there were some things I really need on day 1, like bottles, not cutesy 9 mos outfits. And I didn't get gift receipts and don't know where they're from so I can't exchange them. And now I just sound ungrateful, which I'm really not...

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  • jenb_99jenb_99 member
    RE: residents and teaching hospitals

    I don't have much of an opinion on this, but it did remind me of my experience when I had DS. We had some kind of trainee [resident? student? IDK] in our room all day. As I recall, she never touched me, but she did tail the nurses at every visit, and they had to narrate EVERY STEP to her. Every step took longer, and I heard way more about what was going on than I wanted to. Epidural placement was especially nerve-racking, since the anesthesiologist went extra slow and described everything he was doing in detail.

    *shudder*

    I was really hoping to forget that.


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  • whimsy515whimsy515 member
    lrmrtn said:
    I am (irrationally) upset with my friends/relatives for not purchasing off my registry. I know I sound like a giant bitch and would never say anything about it, but it annoys me. My shower is tomorrow and the only items gone from my registry are things my mom, my MIL, one friend, and I purchased (I jumped on that BRU 20% off deal and got something I didn't think anyone else would pick out).

    I appreciate thoughtful and/or handmade gifts, but it appears my family does not understand baby showers. At my first shower, my great aunt (who is incredibly wealthy, not that it matters) gave me a giant photo collage frame with unflattering pictures of me and my brother when we were tweens. (They were clearly pics my mom had sent her over the years) She wrapped in in Christmas paper. What do you say to that? I know I am not entitled to gifts of any kind, but thinking about this is making me grumpy and sad. :(
    I kinda felt this way at my shower. No, I'm not entitled to any gifts and yes, I appreciate everything I got but there were some things I really need on day 1, like bottles, not cutesy 9 mos outfits. And I didn't get gift receipts and don't know where they're from so I can't exchange them. And now I just sound ungrateful, which I'm really not...
    I get this totally! My Mom's friend is a crocheting master. She insists on making booties that are apparently too large or too small (I can't tell, but other Moms have told me). My Mom keeps reminding her that we all live in FL, and that this baby will be born in May, so these heavy wool socks may never be worn. She doesn't listen and just keeps making booties. On top of that, she's made lavender and pink cardigans for my son. She knows he's a boy..... It's irritating but I still show my appreciation, but still.
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  • RachelCA29RachelCA29 member
    edited April 2014
    FFFC: I convinced my husband that we should just stay home for Easter weekend because I'll be full term by then (just at 37 weeks) so I really should be close to the hospital. He totally agreed.

    But a lot of why I don't want to go it is that his Aunt is hosting Easter and I really don't like her. She's kind of tiring to deal with, and her place is over 1.5 hours away, so it's not worth the discomfort of sitting in the car for that long.

    Also, we've both been REALLY busy every weekend since mid-February. With the bathroom reno, prenatal classes and prepping for the baby, we haven't really had any weekends "off" for the last little while. I figure April will be a good time to save our weekends for ourselves and relax before we get crazy busy with the baby.
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  • whimsy515whimsy515 member
    RachelCA29 said:
    ALE515 said:
    At first, I didn't care if women planned their own baby shower. But now it's really annoying me. I have a few pregnant friends all due a few weeks after me. My Mom is planning my shower and she's keeping everything a secret. Every day, these girls are posting pics of their diaper cakes, favors, decor, you name it on facebook. I get bothered, cause I like surprises. I mean what's the fun of it, if you know every little detail?

    Now that our showers are coming up (mine is tomorrow, yay!) they are constantly asking me about the details of everything as if to compare. I keep telling them that I'm not planning it, so I have no clue, yet they still ask on a damn daily basis! Maybe I'm the only one that likes to be surprised...
    I don`t get it, why would they make themselves diaper cakes for their own showers? That seems like a huge waste of time, since taking a diaper cake apart, to get the diapers, is hella annoying. The time they would spend making it, and then taking it apart seems like an excessive amount of time for a table decoration at a baby shower.

    Or did someone give them the diaper cake for the shower early? Still, it's kind of silly to not only know a gift you are getting in advanced, let alone post a picture of it on facebook before you've technically received it, since the shower hasn't happened yet.
    They are the ones making them. She mentioned how much time it took. One of them also made chocolate teddy bear candies as favors. When I mentioned that I wasn't planning my party (the first time they asked) they acted as if I was in the wrong. I don't know, I certainly know my Mom knows me and knows what I would want, so I trust her. Less stress for me!
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  • Miles2GoMiles2Go member
    kat8805 said:
    Oh right, my FFFC: I can't tell if I want to stab the horse shoppers I've been dealing with regarding the sale of my horse, or my DH more because his car was supposed to be sold FIVE months ago and he's still holding out for this douche to come up with the money. I'm this | | close to getting a window marker out, slapping a price on that damn thing, and taking the first cash-in-hand offer.

    Also, we employ the "if it's yellow, let it mellow. If it's brown, flush it down" toilet policy in our house.
    Too bad Princess Pony isn't 13.2. You could just send her to me. 

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    The sort of movement that is happening now really grosses me out. I'm glad that he's moving because I know that he's okay, but the pushing and the stretching... Sorry, but ew.
    I had an anterior placenta with Benjamin and a posterior one this time.  If I ever have another kid, I'm hoping for an anterior one again.  It feels weird and I've got more than a month for the baby to get bigger and pushier.
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  • oscarwaooscarwao member
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    My FFFC: I am a judgey Mcjudgerson about how someone I know feeds their kids. I know I shouldn't judge because I don't know what it is like to deal with picky eaters, but I seriously just cringe every time. Their diet consists mainly of juice, corn dogs, and chicken nuggets. The kids are also fed only when they want to eat, there is no sense of breakfast or dinner routine, which makes for chaos with four kids (feeding at all different times of day). I know I shouldn't care how someone else feeds their kids, but two of the four already take stool softeners daily, and I hate watching them cry when they have a painful BM. 


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    Miles2Go said:
    kat8805 said:
    Oh right, my FFFC: I can't tell if I want to stab the horse shoppers I've been dealing with regarding the sale of my horse, or my DH more because his car was supposed to be sold FIVE months ago and he's still holding out for this douche to come up with the money. I'm this | | close to getting a window marker out, slapping a price on that damn thing, and taking the first cash-in-hand offer.

    Also, we employ the "if it's yellow, let it mellow. If it's brown, flush it down" toilet policy in our house.
    Too bad Princess Pony isn't 13.2. You could just send her to me. 
    I'd so send her to you. She eats Camryn right up. Could care less about me most days, but she is putty in that little girl's hands.
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  • danabsddanabsd member
    RachelCA29 said:
    I guess based on my comment above my FFFC is I really hope no one gets me a diaper cake for my shower this weekend. 

    For the following reasons:
    A) we're planning to cloth diaper 
    B) we received a couple of packs of newborn and size one diapers at my first shower (one for my side, one for my husband's side .. *sigh*) so we have some disposables on hand if needed
    C) I don't want to have to take it apart to be able to use the diapers
    D) I cant' return the diapers someone puts in a diaper cake for store credit or donate them, so I'll just have a lot of un-packaged disposable diapers.
    E) I think diaper cakes look ridiculous. Cake should be edible, dammit.
    What if it's a cloth diaper cake? 

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    hfooter said:

    TB is the third thing I check in the morning in bed as soon as I wake up.

    Me too! That after Facebook and email. Same order even at 3 am.
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  • jenb_99jenb_99 member
    I've always kind of just laughed SpinningBabies off as weird hippie magic, but I may or may not have just spent 30 minutes reading the inversion page. And for a ridiculous reason too. I'm having a RCS, so I really couldn't care less what position she's in for birth. It doesn't matter a bit. But I paid a stupid amount of money for a 3D sonogram and am using my only free redo tomorrow (her particular breech position made getting decent images impossible two weeks ago), and I don't want to waste it.


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  • mrtmrt member
    I lied to my OB's office about my LMP (by three days) at the beginning of this pregnancy because I didn't want my first appointment to be pushed into the next week. I figured that they would do an early ultrasound and change the EDD accordingly, like they did with my son. They did an ultrasound, but since the measurements were only 3 days off, the stuck with the LMP date (EDD May 4). I will likely be induced at some point before my due date because the doctors and I don't feel like I need to grow the baby any bigger by going past due, he was already measuring at 40 weeks at my 34 week scan, and my son was large, too. (I know a lot of you don't agree with that but my doctors do).

    I was planning on not going for the induction until 5/1 or 5/2 because of the dates, but just found out that my mom is having brain surgery on 5/1... so I am going to ask to be induced on 4/28... according to the doctors it will still be after 39 weeks, so I don't think they will have a problem with it. 
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  • RachelCA29RachelCA29 member
    danabsd said:
    RachelCA29 said:
    I guess based on my comment above my FFFC is I really hope no one gets me a diaper cake for my shower this weekend. 

    For the following reasons:
    A) we're planning to cloth diaper 
    B) we received a couple of packs of newborn and size one diapers at my first shower (one for my side, one for my husband's side .. *sigh*) so we have some disposables on hand if needed
    C) I don't want to have to take it apart to be able to use the diapers
    D) I cant' return the diapers someone puts in a diaper cake for store credit or donate them, so I'll just have a lot of un-packaged disposable diapers.
    E) I think diaper cakes look ridiculous. Cake should be edible, dammit.
    What if it's a cloth diaper cake? 
    They have those? I would love to get that many cloth diapers!! But I'm still firm on my opinion that things that look like cakes should be edible, delicious cake.
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    mrt said:

    I lied to my OB's office about my LMP (by three days) at the beginning of this pregnancy because I didn't want my first appointment to be pushed into the next week. I figured that they would do an early ultrasound and change the EDD accordingly, like they did with my son. They did an ultrasound, but since the measurements were only 3 days off, the stuck with the LMP date (EDD May 4). I will likely be induced at some point before my due date because the doctors and I don't feel like I need to grow the baby any bigger by going past due, he was already measuring at 40 weeks at my 34 week scan, and my son was large, too. (I know a lot of you don't agree with that but my doctors do).


    I was planning on not going for the induction until 5/1 or 5/2 because of the dates, but just found out that my mom is having brain surgery on 5/1... so I am going to ask to be induced on 4/28... according to the doctors it will still be after 39 weeks, so I don't think they will have a problem with it. 
    If your doctors think it's fine go for it, and good luck, prayer s and thoughts for your mother and her surgery.
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  • ajsweetonajsweeton member
    I'm having my babies at a teaching hospital. I could care less if residents are involved in my care, but I am ridiculously disappointed that the post partum rooms have the potential to be shared and that the ones that are singles are so small I'll be lucky to fit 2 bassinets in there. I'm delivering there because they have the best NICU and the mfms I've been seeing are part of the university. I think I've had the greatest care from these drs and I wouldn't change that, but I've been tempted to just stop in if I'm in labor at the other hospitals that have newly remodeled and beautiful post partum rooms. I won't, but I want to.
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    The Honey Maid "Wholesome" commercial makes me want to punch someone.  That commercial seems like taking the Cheerios commercial and turning it up to 11.  It seems smug.  I hate it with the hatred I usually reserve for the blatant emotional manipulation of most country music.  Be a gay family or a not-everybody-looks-the-same family or a fricking Martian family, I don't care.  I wish you well.  I even like graham crackers.  I just can't stand that commercial. 
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    spacepotatoes said:

    I have no issue with teaching hospitals in general but I have been thinking about it a lot too. I've heard that in some teaching hospitals, after a cervical check is performed by the doctor, it will be repeated by the student. That is not cool with me. I don't know yet how my hospital handles this but that is one thing I'd be requesting to avoid.

    I had a cervical check with an OB at a consult appt and she had a resident with her. I agreed to allow the student to repeat it. It was the most painful check ever. I don't know what the hell she did, I think she had her finger in a hook shape and then twisted her finger 180 degrees. I thought she was cutting me open from the inside. So I will NOT be getting any checks ever again from any other students. I know they need to learn, but they can learn from somebody else's vag and leave mine alone (and in tact).


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  • JessElamJessElam member
    The first quarter was such hell that I have had a total case of the F'its this whole week. I have spent 90% of my week on FB, TB, or finding other ways to obsess about the baby and nothing at all to do with work. Ugh...just want to start my maternity leave so I can get a break already.
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  • lrmrtnlrmrtn member
    I've had mixed experiences with residents. When DH had his appendix out, they almost messed up his diet which would've made him sicker. Luckily the nurses caught it and the doctor reprimanded the residents (which still makes me chuckle). When I was in l&d I saw the resident and she was fine. What I will object to is having tests done twice for teaching purposes. There will be enough poking and prodding when I'm in labor. Re nurses in training, the ones DH had when he was there were phenomenal.
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  • laurblumlaurblum member
    Even after my "why did I do this to myself" post, I am still addicted to soda. Soda, why you taste so good!?!!?! This can't be good for the baby. I keep trying to stop myself. One good thing is I try to balance it out with water. 
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    Shell+Bell said:
    I have no issue with teaching hospitals in general but I have been thinking about it a lot too. I've heard that in some teaching hospitals, after a cervical check is performed by the doctor, it will be repeated by the student. That is not cool with me. I don't know yet how my hospital handles this but that is one thing I'd be requesting to avoid.
    I had a cervical check with an OB at a consult appt and she had a resident with her. I agreed to allow the student to repeat it. It was the most painful check ever. I don't know what the hell she did, I think she had her finger in a hook shape and then twisted her finger 180 degrees. I thought she was cutting me open from the inside. So I will NOT be getting any checks ever again from any other students. I know they need to learn, but they can learn from somebody else's vag and leave mine alone (and in tact).
    It seemed like just about everybody who was in and out of the room for Benjamin's birth had a student tagging along.  Mostly I didn't care except that they kept wanting to introduce me to all these random people, while I had my glasses off and would've preferred to not even attempt to pay attention to them.  (I can't see with my glasses off.) 

    The midwife's student broke my water and it was about how you described @Shell+Bell.  It felt almost like she was wearing at least one Superbowl ring, and she had the pointiest fingers, and she had to try three times.  Yeesh.  I almost asked for her not to try again after the second try failed but I thought the midwife was going to step in. 
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