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Need advise on what to do next*******WARNING*****BFP/Loss mention

berries555berries555 member
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Hello all...I have been lurking on this board for about a year now. I am not sure if this is the right place for this question, and I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings at all.  I know IF is so difficult for me, and all of you!!  So if this is the wrong board....please tell me to go elsewhere.

DH and I have been struggling with infertility for a few years now (see siggy).  We were so happy at the end of February to have our very first BFP after IVF #2.  I was very happy, but very careful on who to tell.  I know this sounds crazy, but I just had this feeling something was not right since my very first beta.  The number was low to me, but the RE said it was "good".  

I was very happy when at 6w6d we saw the heartbeat and it was measuring perfect.  However, I was measuring smaller than I should have.  At the time, this bothered me, but the u/s tech and RE both reassured DH and I that everything was just fine.  I still had this odd feeling something was wrong.  

When I went to my first OB appt at 8W6D, I wanted to get another u/s.  The nurse acted as though I was crazy, but she went ahead and scheduled the u/s.  And my suspicions were confirmed.  My LO's heart had stopped and I was only measuring 7w5d.  I wanted to find that nurse who made me feel crazyand SHAKE HER.....HARD!!!!!  

I scheduled a D&C immediately because I just didn't think I could take waiting for things to happen naturally.  DH and I spent the day together talking about where do we go from here.  From IVF #2, we have 2 frosties waiting for us.  We are wanting to make plans for a FET ASAP.  I am wondering how long you all think is best to wait.  Obviously, we will have to wait at least one cycle.  However, should I wait a few more months??  

It's so weird....I am definitely sad, but I feel numb.  Maybe that is because I just had this feeling the entire time that something was not right.  I just want to get started up again with my RE because age is not in my favor.  Am I crazy???
********Warning BFPs and Losses Mentioned*********
ME-38 DH-39  DX: DOR  TTC since Nov 2011.
5/6/13 IUI#1 BFN
6/3/13 IUI#2 BFN
7/3/13 IUI#3 BFN
8/813 IUI#4 cancelled bc no stim
Referred to IVF
IVF #1 9/25 start Stims
10/10 ER 7 Mature Eggs
10/11 Fertilization Report-nothing fertilized so a rescue ICSI performed.  4 eggs were fertilized.  
10/13 3 embryos transferred on 3 days(7 cell, 5 cell and 4 cell)
10/25 Beta BFN
IVF #2 Start Stims Feb 2014
2/7 ER 14 Embies...9 Fertilized
2/12 ET 2 excellent grade.  2 frosties
2/21/2014 First BFP EVER....ELATED
3/28/2014 Miscarried.  DNC performed that day. 8w6d
6/20/2014 FET 2 frosties.  
6/30/2014 SO HAPPY...BFP #2
7/21/2014 First u/s.  Low heart rate. Scheduled 2nd u/s in 1 week. 6weeks
7/28/2014 U/S #2...no heartrate.  Scheduled DNC for 8/1/2014 7weeks
2/15/2015 IVF #3  E2 Protocol ER 12 eggs retrieved.  ICSI'd 9.  
2/20/2015 2 transferred. None to freeze.  
03/2/2015 Beta 4 - CP 
4/2015 IVF #4 E2 Protocal
4/19/2015 ER 13R, 11M, 10F w/ICSI
4/24/2015 ET 2 blasts none to freeze
5/4/2015 Beta 1 108 
5/6/2015 Beta 2 225



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Re: Need advise on what to do next*******WARNING*****BFP/Loss mention

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    hmz819hmz819 member
    I'm sorry for your loss. I went through something similar after ivf #2.

    This post would be best on the infertility board. This board is for those of us who have been posting on the infertility board for 6+ months

    TTC#1 since April 2011
    IVF#1 July 2012 5R, 3 made it to blast, sET c/p
    FET#1 Aug 2012 2 blasts transferred BFN
    IVF#2 Oct 2012
    16R/6M/6F/2-8 cell grade 1 transfer
    Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657
    US 6w3d shows one baby w/ HB 115
    US 7w1d no more heartbeat/ D&C 11/30/12 normal karyotype
    IVF#3 Mar 2013
    6R/4M/4F 1 compacting and 2-8 cell transfer
    ectopic pg MTX given 3 month break from TTC

    IVF#4 Sept 2013--BFN
    IVF#5-7 Apr 2014, Jun 2014 and Aug 2014 banking embryos for CCS testing. Praying for normals! Image and video hosting by TinyPic imageimage

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    sorrellam30sorrellam30 member
    I think you should start whenever your ready and RE says your physically ready. I'd ask your REs advice and go from there, GL and sorry for your loss

     


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    *******siggy/ticker warning***** 

     Me(31). DH (31)

    DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
    Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
    IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN

    IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN

    FET 10/4/13 Chemical

    IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days

    IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15

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    luvbostonluvboston member
    Sorry for your loss waiting at least two months is rec good luck!
    6 m/c
    Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
    Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011
    1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
    Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
    1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
    Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
    DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011
    IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
    IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
    Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
    Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) 
    Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
    Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
    Dec 12 Humira
    Jan 2013 BFP
    Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
    Miracle Born August 2013 Premature

    Yours doesn't have to be a sad story


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    Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't worry about your age for a FET. It will prob take a while for your hcg to get back to zero.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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    ksgsmuksgsmu member
    I am so sorry for your loss. 
    ***siggy/ticker warning***

    Me:36 DH:38 TTC#1 since 4/2012
    Me DX: Hashimotos,Hypothyroid, DOR, MTHFR,  DH: normal

     IUI #1-#4 BFNs and a few cancelled cycles in the mix.
    - poor responder
    ***Suprise BFP on 6/13/13. Natural MC @6wks 3days
    IVF#1 and 2- Cancelled due to no response on max stimms
    FET 5/20- BFP
    1st Beta- 641
    2nd beta- 2166
    Sono- TWINS!!!!
    Two Boys! Born January 2015 @36 weeks.  Healthy and no NICU!  So blessed!



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