Need advise on what to do next*******WARNING*****BFP/Loss mention

berries555

Hello all...I have been lurking on this board for about a year now. I am not sure if this is the right place for this question, and I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings at all.  I know IF is so difficult for me, and all of you!!  So if this is the wrong board....please tell me to go elsewhere.

DH and I have been struggling with infertility for a few years now (see siggy).  We were so happy at the end of February to have our very first BFP after IVF #2.  I was very happy, but very careful on who to tell.  I know this sounds crazy, but I just had this feeling something was not right since my very first beta.  The number was low to me, but the RE said it was "good".  

I was very happy when at 6w6d we saw the heartbeat and it was measuring perfect.  However, I was measuring smaller than I should have.  At the time, this bothered me, but the u/s tech and RE both reassured DH and I that everything was just fine.  I still had this odd feeling something was wrong.  

When I went to my first OB appt at 8W6D, I wanted to get another u/s.  The nurse acted as though I was crazy, but she went ahead and scheduled the u/s.  And my suspicions were confirmed.  My LO's heart had stopped and I was only measuring 7w5d.  I wanted to find that nurse who made me feel crazyand SHAKE HER.....HARD!!!!!  

I scheduled a D&C immediately because I just didn't think I could take waiting for things to happen naturally.  DH and I spent the day together talking about where do we go from here.  From IVF #2, we have 2 frosties waiting for us.  We are wanting to make plans for a FET ASAP.  I am wondering how long you all think is best to wait.  Obviously, we will have to wait at least one cycle.  However, should I wait a few more months??  

It's so weird....I am definitely sad, but I feel numb.  Maybe that is because I just had this feeling the entire time that something was not right.  I just want to get started up again with my RE because age is not in my favor.  Am I crazy???

hmz819

I'm sorry for your loss. I went through something similar after ivf #2.

This post would be best on the infertility board. This board is for those of us who have been posting on the infertility board for 6+ months

sorrellam30

I think you should start whenever your ready and RE says your physically ready. I'd ask your REs advice and go from there, GL and sorry for your loss

luvboston

Sorry for your loss waiting at least two months is rec good luck!

Mrs.McIrish

I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't worry about your age for a FET. It will prob take a while for your hcg to get back to zero.

ksgsmu

I am so sorry for your loss.