Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
DTNZ4Ever
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2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? 2 DSs one is 5yo and my youngest will be 3 weeks on Saturday.
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living?
I'm a WM. I'm a mental health therapist.
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? I love to have DS help in the kitchen. DS1 loves to cook and bake.
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? I take a yoga class that is just my time for myself which is so nice.
1. How old are you? 39
2. How many kids/ages do you have? I have a one year old and I am 7 weeks preggers!
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living? Working mom - Executive Assistant to 3 CFOs
(But I Wish to God I could be a SAHM)
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? I LOVE reading and playing with my daughter
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? I like to go out dancing and nice dinners with the hub
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? 2 boys, 2.5 years and 5 months. No furbabies
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living? WM. I am a manufacturing/cost accountant
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? play games
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? massages, pedicures
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? 2 kids/ a 2 year old daughter and a 4 month old son. We have my husbands 2 cats and this summer we are looking to get a dog. I can't wait. I miss having a dog around the house.
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living? WM who wishes she was a SAHM. I am a LDTC (Learning Disability Teacher consultant) basically I am a member of the child study team and I test children for learning disabilities. Before that I was a teacher.
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? playing, reading stories and snuggling
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? go out to dinner with the hubs.
I have one girl, 4 months old. It took a long time and several losses to get her. This will probably be it for us.
We have one dog, a vizsla who thinks she's a human. She's been great with the baby but she doesn't like being left alone and she will purposely destroy things if she's displeased.
I was a nanny for over 20 years but now I am a SAHM and could not be more grateful.
We love music in this house. I love putting on music and dancing with her. Feeling her little arms hold onto me and seeing the way she looks at me is the best feeling in the world.
I used to enjoy getting together with girlfriends for coffee or wine and appetizers but it's been so long since I was able to do that since I moved to FL when DH and I got married almost 3 yrs ago and I didn't know anyone there. We suffered our first loss right from the get go and I was thrown into the hell of TTC so I never did establish a support system there. Hopefully that will change now, I'm already forming a friendship with a new neighbor who is about the same age with a 1 yr old girl. She's also suffered losses so we have a lot in common. I'm looking forward to some girl time. Yay.
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? One DD, 4 1/2 months old. Two furbabies, both mutts adopted from a local humane society that are having a hard time coping with not being the center of attention anymore
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living? WM, purchasing manager, I love my job.
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? DD is so little, but I love anything that makes her giggle, it's the cutest sound in the world. That and her bath time, she loves splashing in the tub.
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? I don't really do much without her at this point, but probably anything to pamper myself. Getting my hair cut/colored, a pedicure will be in the near future!
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? One daughter who's almost 3 weeks old.
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living? Technically WM, but I'm on maternity leave, so I've only known being home.
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? She's awfully little, so nursing is about all we do together!
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? Get a nap in, LOL!
AMA & SAIF. TTC #1 since Oct. 2010. DX: Unexplained. BFP on break after 32 months trying and 2 med cycles. Baby girl born at 40w0d!
jbelle
2. Kids? A 20 month old and one expected in about 6 weeks. No pets.
3. SAHM or WM? WM. I'm an attorney for a large corporation. Most days I love it. Some days I want to pull my hair out!
4. What do you like to do w your kids? We dance a lot. Also, it's fun to take her to the park. I love seeing that she's starting to play with other kids, instead of just parallel play.
5. What do you like to do without your kids? Honestly, I don't remember. If I'm not at work, I'm hanging with my hubs and daughter.
OP, thanks for starting this!!
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? Jack is 2.5y/o, Joey is 16mo and Martin the dog just turned 11
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living?
4. What is something you love to do with your kids?
I'm trying to get back to my outdoorsy ways so I love taking the boys out to play, in the jog stroller (MUST get back in some kind of shape!) and just to run in the back yard.
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? Go to concerts, dates or go shopping.
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? 16yo DS (17 in 12 days, so no one believes I'm 32), 9yo DD (10 next month), and 2w3d DD. My older kids each have toy fox terriers.
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living? WM, director of accounting for a local non profit.
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? We're super focused on LO right now so we mostly just look at and take care of her, but DS is a big fan of movies and nice dinners, & DD and I like to shop and get our nails done.
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? I like to go out with my girl friends and have date nights with the hubs. And drinks...
**40.98 (41 next week...lol)
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies?
**12 yo DD, 17 mo DS, 6 wo DS, 9 mo cat
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living?
**I have 1 year may leave, so SAHM for the next 10 months, then return to work as a project manager
4. What is something you love to do with your kids?
**I'm supposed to doooooooo stuff with them?!?!
Okay, I like to go to parks, pools, snuggle
5.What is something you love to do without your kids?
**without them? Sleep. -_-
Okay, and sometimes just go out with DH or my sister.
*hi new to this board*
:-h
1. How old are you? 36
2. How many kids/ages do you have? Fur babies? 1 baby 15 months/3 fur babies border collies
3. Are you at SAHM or a WM? If you are a WM what do you do for a living? WM I am an marketing coordinator
4. What is something you love to do with your kids? Since I am working mom I just love doing anything with him, but spending time outside is a favorite and he likes to help me cook
5.What is something you love to do without your kids? Drink wine and eat at nice restaurants lol
1. 39
2. 1 DD who is 3 weeks and 2 days old. 2 cats - one is at least 13; the other is 5. And MIL (from India) is staying with us until Sept. and while she is super nice and not MILish and helps with some things she also needs help with a lot of things. ...a lot. And can't drive and we live in a rural area. So ... yeah. Goes in the kids & pets category. DH sometimes should too of course!
3. WM though not really until August. Except for some BS for our busy-work-intensive new teacher evaluation system that I need to finish by ... um. ..yesterday. and some other annoying paperwork stuff. I teach 1st grade and love the teaching but am not at all sure how I'll balance it with being a mom . It's a way more than 40 hours a week job for me. We'll see how it goes this year.
4. She's so new that doing everything with her is pretty cool still. Except diaper changes since she screams bloody murder every time and has since day 1 in the hospital. Why?? And she does not seem to mind dirty diapers at all.
5. Someone else already said this but - Getting to take a shower is pretty exciting. For now that's enough without DD since naps can be with her. Soon I'm sure I'll be looking forward to more.