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July 2013 Moms
"It's fortunate that she is pretty!"
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Your daughter is perfect! My MIL always tells me about how DH didn't talk at all until he was nearly 3, and now he is a super smart computer programmer. Words do not equate intelligence!
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Abby is 2.5 & really has a joyful, sprite-like little personality. I know she is smart & cheeky. She knows her colors by sight & some basic numbers. However, she can't recite the alphabet or anything. No counting in sequence etc. she's lights up my life but add MIL's bullshit & I just don't want to fail her. We work on all of this through play (not drill master style like MIL insists that I should do) daily.
We read books & all that jazz. I know, logically, that every baby goes at their own pace. That I shouldn't worry & just go with it. However, that little nagging mommy-guilt/insecurity makes me feel so sad/uncomfortable for Abby when it comes to learning etc.
She will get there & I'm totally in her corner cheering her on with my nerdy dances, but Jesus sometimes I feel so crazy about it.
I'm very confident for myself. I want to make sure Abby knows I believe in her.
That glass of wine is digging up the feels you guys. Thank you for all your support. I love July 13'.
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Kids these days
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@Primrosemama - Marnie is older than Abby and can't recite the alphabet yet, either. She can recognize limited letters - mostly M for Marnie and A for Amanda.
It seems like Abby and Marnie are actually really similar as far as hitting milestones.
Marnie went through a phase where she could count to five, then for about a month, number four disappeared. Then four came back and three disappeared. Now she can pretty consistently count to ten, although the concept of actually 'counting' objects goes over her head after about three items. (i.e. she can say 'there are three birdies' but if there are eight stacking cups, she just says five or ten because those are 'big numbers')
My best friend's mom was a kindergarten teacher, and she said the most important thing to do is read to children. They actually learn to read backwards - first they recognize that you're reading words, then they recognize that words are different looking and how to distinguish them, and then they learn the alphabet. So knowing ABCs right now really isn't important, except to understand the concept that the alphabet exists.
I know that we will always worry about our kids - and it's our jobs as mothers to do it - but I think you're letting your MIL rub off on you a little. Abby seems perfectly normal and intelligent.
Actually, come to think of it, my friend's mom said that it's normal for kids to not even make all the sounds of speech until they're in Grade 1 or so. She said she had numerous kids in her kindergarten class that had trouble pronouncing the hard letters (R, L, TH, D) and that it's nothing at all to worry about (I was worried about my constant need to translate Marnie's speech because she's hard to understand unless you're around her a lot).
All joking aside, have some big hugs. I have had a lot of the same anxiety you have, especially about the speech delay, so I know where you're coming from.
Monster Truck (It's a GIRL!) is due 19/02/2015!
BFP: 12/01/2012 EDD: 07/26/2013 Birthday: 07/25/2013 ♥
Abby knows how much you love her and believe in her. You supporting her will help her get much further in life than any sight words or alphabet ever could. I'm sorry you had to deal with such stupidity today.
Prim, FWIW, I was an early talker, and sometimes I'm a big 'ol idiot, so clearly there's no correlation. ;-)
My family has a legend about a kid who grew up down the street from my dad, and didn't talk AT ALL until he was about 2. Not a word. He was the youngest of a bunch of kids, and just never needed to use words, I guess. One day, his mom was changing his diaper, and accidentally poked him. His first words? "Ow, lady, you stuck me with a pin!"
Abby will talk when she's ready - what's showing up on the outside has no relation to what's happening on the inside!
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