Need not terrible (read: not gender-biased) ideas for sex reveal party

CharlieKay10 · March 2014

Hi, ladies and gents of the bump. I am a long-time lurker of the bump so I know how many "gender reveal" party posts there are on here and I apologize for adding to that number. Eek!

My husband and I have our anatomy scan coming up early next month. It is the first grandchild for both of our extremely large families who love to party so it's kind of been insisted by our families that we have a party to reveal the sex of the baby. I'm happy to oblige because, well... I love parties. It will be our family and a few very close friends - no gifts or anything like that. Just lots of food and booze.

Here's the thing -- my husband and I are really not interested in the "guns or glitter," "quarterback or cheerleader" kinds of things because of the blatant sexism and gendered social constructs. We're fine with pink and blue for simplicity's sake but would like to steer clear of dousing everything in pink and blue. I'm kind of lost for what to do. I also like the idea of bringing baked goods into the mix as I can never seem to have enough cake in my life. But what else have you ladies and gents done in the past for simple 'not crazy gendered stereotyping' sex reveal parties.

I'm a teacher and will be on spring break the week leading up to the party so I'm going to have nothing but time to plan and execute an epic party. Got any creative ideas? I'm trying to think of different badass cocktail names for boy vs. girl? Also, are my husband and I assholes that we want to find out the sex at the anatomy scan instead of at the party?

Helenahhandbasket · March 2014

If you find out the sex at the scan, I think the party is pointless. Sorry.

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WashingtonQueen · March 2014

Yes, you are assholes if you throw a party when you already know the sex.

My cousin did a party not long ago with a "tutu or tie" theme in yellow and grey.

Crazypregoseverywhere · March 2014

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.

I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.

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LucilleAustero · March 2014

I don't really get people throwing a party to find out how their kid is going to pee, but this idea seems to be gaining popularity.

A reveal party is supposed to be a reveal party. You are not supposed to find out until then. That is the whole point. If you want to throw a party, have the doc put the sex in an envelope, give it to a baker and wait to see if the filling is blue or pink.

WashingtonQueen · March 2014

Crazypregoseverywhere said:
Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.

Funny how she asked and people answered. Amazing concept right? Piss off.

momthatlifts · March 2014

Can't help you. I wouldn't do one. Sounds like a lot of work to put in for people who really could careless

boymomstrong · March 2014

Whats wrong with a family BBQ and just open the envelope with everyone? Why does it need a theme or cake for any other purpose than to enjoy cake?
And if you already know then yes its pointless, no one will care as much as you do, and the party is really for you two...

I hate these kinds of parties, i have been to a few for friends who are cery close to me but i still thinks its crazy!
But i do love cake!

ADC1979 · March 2014

I'm not into parties personally, but wanted to do something special to let my family know the baby's sex. (Hubby's family all lives too far away, or we'd have included them, too.) I put blue frosting as filling in cupcakes, then on top of the cupcakes (12 total) were either pink or blue question marks. Family had to bite into their cupcake to see what color the frosting really was. It was a fun and yummy way to do it.

We just did the reveal at a family gathering that had already been planned regardless, so it wasn't anything done just for the reveal. My family didn't even know we were going to tell them anything special that day, which to me made it more fun when they eyed the cupcakes and realized what I was up to.

2goingon3 · March 2014

I've seen a couple open a large box filled with helium balloons of either pink or blue that flew out. I think some people will be excited to find out along with you, probably grandparents the most, but everyone likes a party! Maybe offer pink martinis if it's a girl and some kind of masculine martini if it's a boy.

It's hard to come up with an original sex reveal that is not gender biased.

jnnfrrose6 · March 2014

She-Ra and He-Man theme? Wonder Woman and superman?

Cat&S · March 2014

We did dinner, and then cupcakes with pink inside. Unoriginal, but everyone liked it. My family is very excited as well.

I've also seen the balloons in a box.

I really don't see how having close family and friends over for dinner and dessert is automatically AWish or asshole-ish. Everyone finds out somehow. Just to keep this straight, it's AWish to make dinner and have everyone to your house and tell them all together, but it's not AWish to call them individually on the phone, go to their house, or put it on fb? Okay then.

PrimRoseMama · March 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

Crazypregoseverywhere said:
Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho.The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

@Bliss+Berry‌ : this made me laugh so hard.

I like the idea of doing cascarones (confetti filled eggs). A friend of mine did this. You have your friends make them or buy them. Then after your meal you take turns cracking them over each other's head to reveal pink/blue confetti & glitter.

meggyski · March 2014

I do not think you're assholes if you find out before the party. It sounds like your family really wants to have a party specifically for this occasion, and it seems like a fun way to share the news with a group of people who are particularly interested in this news. Also, if you know the sex ahead of time, it will make party planning easier (and if you're baking a cake, obviously you'll need to know).

I like the He-Man / She-ra or Wonder Woman/ Super Man ideas (or some other gendered cartoon characters/ brother-sister duos/ couples you like).

Some other ideas:

- blue/ pink glitter or confetti favors

- a pinata with colored candy inside (or something colored

- colored fireworks or sparklers (if they are legal)

atmaloney · March 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

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Us&theBunnies · March 2014

A couple more themes - though a gender neutral exterior pinata could be fun - you could fill it with figurines/stickers/etc. not just candy:

Planetary - Venus and Mars
Critters - Butterflies and Snails
Aquatic - Dolphins and Sharks, Dory and Nemo (regal blue tang & clownfish), etc.
Accessories - Bracelets and Cufflinks

You could also have the cake or one/all cupcakes be like a kings cake with a (gender revealed) figurine inside

Or you could have a balloon, or a pinata filled with potential baby names of the gender, that would be popped or busted to do the reveal.

ready-or-not · March 2014

"Cat&S":

Just to keep this straight, it's AWish to make dinner and have everyone to your house and tell them all together, but it's not AWish to call them individually on the phone, go to their house, or put it on fb? Okay then.

^THIS! Exactly.

Meery82 · March 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

LOL! This! @crazypregoseverywhere, when are you going to fuck off for good?? And take that asswipe monotone with you!

mrsweeber · March 2014

Ignore having a theme and just have supper with dessert. (cake with a colored filling or my sister in law got a cookie cake that the decorators wrote "It's a boy!" on). Personally, I love family get togethers and in some family dynamics, it is easier to announce to a group at once rather than play the "why did you call your mom before my mom?" game. Just be prepared that it could just be a dinner party in the event that baby doesn't cooperate with showing off!

blushingbride_08 · March 2014

I suggest keeping it simple. A cake with blue/pink filling and food. If you have a theme you will fall into the "gender bias" trap that you are saying you want to avoid.

dlems11 · March 2014

Maybe I'm an asshole too but I absolutely don't think you are for finding out first, its such a special moment that you and your DH can share together! That being said, my DH and I found out via our Panorama Test and revealed the sex to our immediate family that weekend. It was also both parents first grandchild, so they were super excited to find out. Our theme was "What's it going to bee?" So we had lots of bumble bee decorations, and used pink and blue ribbons to stick on the party hats for everyone to guess before the big reveal. We initially planned for the cake to reveal the sex (Duncan Hines Strawberry Cake Mix) but didn't think our family would be able to make it through dinner without knowing so we also released pink balloons from a box after all the guesses were in. All in all it was a blast and our families loved being able to get together and celebrate. Take lots of pictures, it will be so much fun!

Edit to add: I wish this posting came before ours, **penis and vagina** confetti would've been awesome. Those pictures would've been priceless

CharlieKay10 · March 2014

OP here! Wow! I think I got a lot of constructive feedback. I really appreciate everyone's input.

I guess I should have made it more clear what the plan was. This whole party is basically going to be a big family BBQ-type party. We have them quite frequently in my large family (at least once every two months when everyone in the family gets together). So I thought I would turn one of these events into a sex reveal party. I wanted to make it fun in a kitschy way -- but I really did not want to send the message that our baby couldn't be a quarterback if she was a girl, or that our baby couldn't be a cheerleader if he was a boy. I don't know maybe I'm reading too far into it. However, I really like the superman/wonder woman idea.

Like I said in my original post, this is the first baby for our generation in both of our families (even for our extended families) so it's been kind of a big deal to everyone. The party is going to be just like our regular family get-togethers with a side of "sex reveal." We weren't planning a "theme" per say but more-so fun little things like cocktails and desserts that are baby-centric rather than the standard cocktails and desserts that we usually have.

Also, in regards to finding out the sex beforehand - my husband and I talked last night and we decided that we did not want to find out before the party. (So thank you for all of your input on that. While I, personally, don't think it's super asshole-ish to find out beforehand, we think it would be more special to have our whole family find out with us).

Thank you for all of your feedback! I appreciate your input.

Cat&S · March 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Cat&S said:

We did dinner, and then cupcakes with pink inside. Unoriginal, but everyone liked it. My family is very excited as well.

I've also seen the balloons in a box.

I really don't see how having close family and friends over for dinner and dessert is automatically AWish or asshole-ish. Everyone finds out somehow. Just to keep this straight, it's AWish to make dinner and have everyone to your house and tell them all together, but it's not AWish to call them individually on the phone, go to their house, or put it on fb? Okay then.

Yes. Just text me. I'll say, "Oh that's great, congratulations!" I do not need to set aside an evening/afternoon to come to a themed party with everyone you know to find out how your kid will pee. There is a pretty huge difference between the two options and yes, the one that makes finding out an "event" is pretty damn AWish.

So when your kids grow up, get pregnant, and they find out what they're having, you just want them to text you that as well?

I think there's a big difference between having a party for friends/acquaintances and one for very close family members. I texted my friends and other family members as well, or they found out on fb. But I wasn't going to just text my parents or grandparents (not that my 80 and 90 year old grandparents can even get texts...).

mikrinikki · March 2014

mrsweeber said:
Ignore having a theme and just have supper with dessert. (cake with a colored filling or my sister in law got a cookie cake that the decorators wrote "It's a boy!" on). Personally, I love family get togethers and in some family dynamics, it is easier to announce to a group at once rather than play the "why did you call your mom before my mom?" game. Just be prepared that it could just be a dinner party in the event that baby doesn't cooperate with showing off!

We originally were going to just do a dinner and have everyone come over...then the guest list of who is close to us got big so we are having a mini party and we'll bbq. People asked what they could bring, I said if you think girl, bring app...boy bring desert.

I am sorry your innocent question is met with such hostility. You obviously know your family best and it is a lot easier to tell everyone at once. My discussion post on baby showers was the one that ended not helping anyone but others who needed somewhere to put misplaced sexual aggression.

So to actually try to help you:
- have family pop balloons filled with confetti or a note that says it is a boy or girl
- dress dogs or cats to reveal
- you each wear pink or blue scarf/shirt and to reveal...take off what it isnt
- wear a tshirt underneath hoodie or cardigan hat states its a ...
- cake idea

Those are all I have found...good luck!

wrightpalomo · March 2014

For a non-gender specific sex reveal party you could do "What will baby bee?" with a bumble bee theme. I think it could be cute without being overly gendered.

Personally, I don't see what the hoopla is about this. Especially because you said you're feeding everyone and giving them booze. I don't know why people get so bent out of shape over being invited to a party. You don't have to bring a gift and you're gonna get booze. If you hate social gatherings that much just don't go.

amy006 · March 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Cat&S said:

Kimbus22 said:

Cat&S said:

We did dinner, and then cupcakes with pink inside. Unoriginal, but everyone liked it. My family is very excited as well.

I've also seen the balloons in a box.

I really don't see how having close family and friends over for dinner and dessert is automatically AWish or asshole-ish. Everyone finds out somehow. Just to keep this straight, it's AWish to make dinner and have everyone to your house and tell them all together, but it's not AWish to call them individually on the phone, go to their house, or put it on fb? Okay then.

Yes. Just text me. I'll say, "Oh that's great, congratulations!" I do not need to set aside an evening/afternoon to come to a themed party with everyone you know to find out how your kid will pee. There is a pretty huge difference between the two options and yes, the one that makes finding out an "event" is pretty damn AWish.

So when your kids grow up, get pregnant, and they find out what they're having, you just want them to text you that as well?

I think there's a big difference between having a party for friends/acquaintances and one for very close family members. I texted my friends and other family members as well, or they found out on fb. But I wasn't going to just text my parents or grandparents (not that my 80 and 90 year old grandparents can even get texts...).

Yes. A text or a phone call would be fine. If my kid felt the need to throw a party about this, I'd be embarrassed. In my world love/excitement surrounding a baby is not proportionate to the amount and scale of parties thrown about it. I've actually never even heard of this crap before The Bump.

Pregnancy and babies are a big deal. To the people experiencing them and yes, to some of their friends/family. But none of us are the first people to do this. Somehow generations of children have been born without any fanfare and are still loved and celebrated. I'm seriously getting afraid that sex revel bill boards or POAS parties are next.

Some people actually enjoy the company of their families...Is it really that much of a chore to get together to share some news? It doesn't need to be made into a huge ordeal or anything and I don't think the purpose is to show off how much you adore your future child. To me, it's just a fun excuse to spend time with loved ones.

Jeserz22 · March 2014

I was going to read through all of these because I am having my party tomorrow and I was excited for some last minute ideas, but like many threads, there are posts I could do without. Sorry you have to deal with those. I'm happy-go-lucky right now and some people just bring the mood down.

However, I think a get together to tell your super excited family will be fun, whether you and your husband know or not. Just like many other factors of your pregnancy and future child raising, it's YOUR child (meaning you and your husband's) - do what YOU want! My first idea was to find out with my husband and family all at once at the party, then my husband and I thought maybe we should find out together to make it more private and intimate, and now we are back to finding out with our family by popping a big balloon filled with confetti by a friend of ours (from the results in an envelope). If you already know the sex, you are not "assholes." You are simply throwing a party that will be special for you, your husband, and your family. Even though you will know, your family still does not, and all of them finding out at once makes them feel important in your life and your child's. I thought the cupcake idea was neat if you guys will already know. You can fill them with the appropriate icing, and they can all take a bite to find out. Pinterest has sooo many neat ways to reveal the gender: whether you already know or want to wait until the party, super pink and blue or just neutral with a splash of color thrown in. As far as invites, I used Pinterest and Etsy to find the invite I liked, but then I used www.fotor.com to create my own and printed them at Walmart for about $3! Here are some other ideas I'm doing at the party... I'm doing a board of wives tales so everyone can see what each "tale" says I should be having. I'm doing a board of name suggestions so each family member can give us a suggestion for a boy's name and a girl's name (you know they're going to anyway!) And I'm doing a board for each person to write his or her guess of the gender. (Of course, all of this will happen before we do the reveal!) Good luck & congratulations!

aliemac22 · March 2014

We didn't find out the sex of our first baby, but did for this one. We wanted to share the sex in a fun way (and our parents kept begging us to tell them), so we had my parents and my husband's mom over for brunch. We filled a black balloon with blue confetti and had my son pop it to reveal he is going to have a baby brother (the blue confetti flew everywhere). The grandparents all loved finding out in a creative way. We had them write down their guesses first. I sent my siblings and brother in law a card for them to open that day that said "We wanted you to to be the first to know...we are having a little (and then a tab to pull that said boy)."

Other ideas I have seen is having the mom (and dad if he can help) fill out a questionnaire based on old wives tales (i.e. have you had a lot of morning sickness? have you been craving sweet or salty? are you carrying low or high, etc.)

Have everyone come wearing the colour that represents the sex of the baby (blue vs pink).

Good luck, have fun, and ignore the negativity.

Crazypregoseverywhere · March 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

You're calling me psycho? I think you need to take your tampon out of your ass unless you like it stuck up there.

Crazypregoseverywhere · March 2014

Meery82 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

LOL! This! @crazypregoseverywhere, when are you going to fuck off for good?? And take that asswipe monotone with you!

I enjoy watching you and your bump gang friends get all worked up. Oh and I will do whatever I want. This is a public forum and I'll post where ever, what ever, when ever I want

Have fun getting all worked up and pissed off hahahahahahahahahaha relax, or better yet get a hobby. A life maybe... ?

Crazypregoseverywhere · March 2014

PrimRoseMama said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho.The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"
@Bliss+Berry‌ : this made me laugh so hard. I like the idea of doing cascarones (confetti filled eggs). A friend of mine did this. You have your friends make them or buy them. Then after your meal you take turns cracking them over each other's head to reveal pink/blue confetti & glitter.

You got a tampon up your butt too? It sounds like it. Wrong hole dumb ass ha!

WashingtonQueen · March 2014

@Crazypregoseverywhere‌ has an anal fetish I did not want to know about.

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Meery82 · April 2014

Crazypregoseverywhere said:

Meery82 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

LOL! This! @crazypregoseverywhere, when are you going to fuck off for good?? And take that asswipe monotone with you!

I enjoy watching you and your bump gang friends get all worked up. Oh and I will do whatever I want. This is a public forum and I'll post where ever, what ever, when ever I want Have fun getting all worked up and pissed off hahahahahahahahahaha relax, or better yet get a hobby. A life maybe... ?

LOL. Gang. Whatever dude. You go ahead and keep it up. And I'm the one who needs a life and a hobby.

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Crazypregoseverywhere · April 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

Crazypregoseverywhere said:

Meery82 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

LOL! This! @crazypregoseverywhere, when are you going to fuck off for good?? And take that asswipe monotone with you!

I enjoy watching you and your bump gang friends get all worked up. Oh and I will do whatever I want. This is a public forum and I'll post where ever, what ever, when ever I want Have fun getting all worked up and pissed off hahahahahahahahahaha relax, or better yet get a hobby. A life maybe... ?

Fuckwit, rest assured nobody is getting worked up here but you.

Also, you just said you enjoy getting everyone here worked up, yet we need hobbies?

Do you go on here everyday or something? You're not even prego!!! What the hell are you doing on a pregnancy website? And not only are you on the second tri... you're everywhere! Some life you have. Oh and yea actually I do enjoy watching you and your bump friends get worked up. It's pretty funny to me. But seriously, you need a life. Go to FB or something. Get a job. Get a hobby!

Crazypregoseverywhere · April 2014

Meery82 said:

Crazypregoseverywhere said:

Meery82 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

LOL! This! @crazypregoseverywhere, when are you going to fuck off for good?? And take that asswipe monotone with you!

I enjoy watching you and your bump gang friends get all worked up. Oh and I will do whatever I want. This is a public forum and I'll post where ever, what ever, when ever I want Have fun getting all worked up and pissed off hahahahahahahahahaha relax, or better yet get a hobby. A life maybe... ?

LOL. Gang. Whatever dude. You go ahead and keep it up. And I'm the one who needs a life and a hobby. )

Yes, you read that correct. You need a life and hobby. Do you some good.

WashingtonQueen · April 2014

Crazypregoseverywhere said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Crazypregoseverywhere said:

Meery82 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Crazypregoseverywhere said:
Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

LOL! This! @crazypregoseverywhere, when are you going to fuck off for good?? And take that asswipe monotone with you!

I enjoy watching you and your bump gang friends get all worked up. Oh and I will do whatever I want. This is a public forum and I'll post where ever, what ever, when ever I want Have fun getting all worked up and pissed off hahahahahahahahahaha relax, or better yet get a hobby. A life maybe... ?

Fuckwit, rest assured nobody is getting worked up here but you.

Also, you just said you enjoy getting everyone here worked up, yet we need hobbies?

Do you go on here everyday or something? You're not even prego!!! What the hell are you doing on a pregnancy website? And not only are you on the second tri... you're everywhere! Some life you have. Oh and yea actually I do enjoy watching you and your bump friends get worked up. It's pretty funny to me. But seriously, you need a life. Go to FB or something. Get a job. Get a hobby!
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Holy shit! You just keep getting dumber and dumber. Bliss IS pregnant and she IS in the second tri. I swear it has been a long time since I have come across such and incompetent excuse for an adult.

Meery82 · April 2014

Crazypregoseverywhere said:

Meery82 said:

Crazypregoseverywhere said:

Meery82 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Wow, unfortunately it looks like you will get some immature comments here. Sorry about that.
I like Bliss' idea of the cake filling. That would be cool.
Blow it out your ass, psycho. The OP asked if it would make them assholes. She very well knew the possibility of someone responding "yes"

LOL! This! @crazypregoseverywhere, when are you going to fuck off for good?? And take that asswipe monotone with you!

I enjoy watching you and your bump gang friends get all worked up. Oh and I will do whatever I want. This is a public forum and I'll post where ever, what ever, when ever I want Have fun getting all worked up and pissed off hahahahahahahahahaha relax, or better yet get a hobby. A life maybe... ?

LOL. Gang. Whatever dude. You go ahead and keep it up. And I'm the one who needs a life and a hobby. )

Yes, you read that correct. You need a life and hobby. Do you some good.

Says the loser who's sole purpose is to annoy our "gang".

I've got both, but thanks for your concern.

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