So I love my MIL but I am officially taking a break from her. She had been giving me advice nonstop about what I should try to do in order to get back to optimal health. I can't thank her enough for the good advice she has given to me. But the thing is that she keeps comparing me to another woman that she works with. This lady had a molar pregnancy, followed by a very early m/c. I endured both of those situations over the past year. Since then, the same lady had a son and is pregnant again. Of course, I keep asking MIL what she did after the second m/c. That's the whole point of telling me about her right? Anyway, MIL told me that her gyno did a great job and she just got pregnant again when she was ready. Great. Meanwhile MIL keeps mentioning that I should go to a specialist and DH should get his sperm checked. I brought up the fact that the lady she tells me about didn't go to a specialist and I already had some genetic testing. In fact DH had his sperm checked a while ago and I doubt it has changed since then. I don't want to spend money on additional tests not supported by my insurance if its unneeded. She maintains that "if it were me, I would". Here is the kicker... She brings up another woman we know who is having her twins naturally and had been using midwife. I told MIL that I am toying with the idea next time of using a midwife and just a doctor for emergencies. She texts me back, saying she doesnt agree with everything about midwives. Here is her final text to me: "Dont obsess over pregnancy or itll nvr happen. This is a known fact. U CAN GET PREGANT. THAT IS SOOO IMPORTANT AND MOLAR WAS A FLUKE Tell urself u dontcare and watch wht will (5/5) happen." Although I appreciate part of the sentiment, I am a little pissed off that she said I was obsessed like that is a bad thing. What do you think: am I being oversensitive? I feel like all I've been talking to my MIL about was pregnancy, whether it be mine or someone else we know, so I always thought SHE was obsessed, but I guess its easier to label ME as the obsessed one. Oh well.
Married my best friend 7/2/11 - Furbaby born 7/9/11
and brought into our home 9/1/11
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but
around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at
least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due
to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy
(and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!