I thought I was done at 2

DTNZ4Ever · March 2014

So I've been thinking since DS2 was born two weeks ago that I would like to try for number 3. I've always thought 2 would be enough. But now I want a 3rd maybe it's the hormones or that I still want a girl or the thought that DS2 is our last has me rethinking our number. Anyone else rethinking their number of kids now that their LO is here.

amandapthompson · March 2014

Definitely not. Lol. 2 boys and I'm done.

legallyginger · March 2014

I'm pretty sure we still want three, but my labor and recovery has me terrified to go through this again.

LaurenAsh23 · March 2014

I'm not ready to think about trying again, but I have thought how I would be happy with 1 and am scared to try again. We started trying in January 2012 and after one miscarriage we got Arabella. I'm now thinking, what if she is our only one? I know we want more, but also know we are blessed to have her and if that is all for us, I am happy, just want to cherish it all now

klp830 · March 2014

Monster1984 said:
My LO is 3 weeks old and I always thought I would want 2, now I am thinking that 1 might be enough. I love him like crazy but holy crap it's a lot of work!

This exactly! Carter has worn me out in his first three weeks! I'm thinking one might be enough to love and raise!

bingbongsmama · March 2014

I know 100% I will want another baby at some point. But going through pregnancy, delivery, newborn stage, takes such a toll on me physically, mentally, emotionally that it's at the point where it wouldn't only affect me, but also my marriage, and the kids that I already have and that wouldn't be fair. Also there's the size of our house, our finances, out time, our attention etc. lots to factor in and stopping at 2 makes sense...for us. Doesn't mean I won't get the urge for another though.

Everyone can handle a different load. You and DH need to figure our what's best for your family.

nlane0723 · March 2014

We've always wanted three, but I can't just not use our frozen embies. If they all survived the thaw, we'd have 5 kids at minimum.

On second thought, maybe I should donate them. Lol.

nblondheim · March 2014

After a high risk pregnancy and weekly doctors appointments an hour one way, 5 weeks of hospital bed rest, 5 weeks in a NICU, etc. I told DH I wasn't sure about anymore. But I love the twins soooo much and I don't think we are done! With that being said, it won't be until the twins are like 2 or 3 years old!!! We can try to have kids all we want but we never will be able to biologically. We used donor sperm and already bought 5 vials as we were told it would take 2-5 tries to get pregnant... but we defied the odds and got twins on the first try. Like @nlane0723 I would hate to not use the 4 vials we have left and let them go to waste. You can't really return or sell donor sperm. But now that we know exactly what everything in our infertility process and speaking to my OB, we have a different plan for next time that will hopefully lessen our chances of multiples (not that I don't love my twins because I do!!!!).

PerkyErky · March 2014

Eli makes two living children for us. I have always thought I wanted 3. I know DH would be fine stopping, but I told him the other day that I am not ready to give up on the idea of having a living daughter.

I suspect we will have one more, but it won't be for several years and will depend on several things, especially finances. Since I would be high risk and have a cerclage for sure, we would need to make sure we could handle all the potential financial and emotional impact of that.

Khedges07 · March 2014

Wowzers!!! Nah ah, I'm done!!!! A boy & a girl now so it's perfect! Plus I remember thinking this time in labour...." Holy shit I forgot how much this hurt!!!! " never again will I want to go through that again lol!!!!

PerkyErky · March 2014

Laura8388 said:
I too always thought we would have more. But likely id be on strict bed rest again next time, (impossible with dh working overseas and a toddler!?) plus be stressed the entire time about my water breaking early again...

Id have to forget how much labour hurt before I could do it again.

I wonder if it would be different if you had a preventative cerclage placed early?

For me it's not so much forgetting the pain of labor, it's forgetting the first 3+ weeks of shear exhaustion and being utterly overwhelmed after the birth

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YankeePeach08 · March 2014

I'm not done

but DH definitely is

I would have a fourth even if it was 10000% that it would be a boy, although I would really like a girl.

The twins are tough and I'm tired but I love being pregnant, having a newborn and all that goes with it.

I am a little scared that we would end up with another set if twins though, as rare as that might be.

coreyeliz · March 2014

We thought we wanted two, but I have so many negative feelings about my pregnancy and delivery that I think this LO might be it. I'm just too afraid of a repeat. We'll see what the future brings, I guess.

TX08Aggie · March 2014

I always thought we'd have a bunch - but the journey to get here has been so emotional... You just can't plan for that. After a few angel babies, being terrified my entire pregnancy with DD1 that we were going to lose her too, a more relaxed pregnancy with DD2 just to freak out when I started bleeding heavily around 10 weeks (thought we'd lost her too - but she's a perfectly healthy 1 month old baby as of yesterday!) I just don't think I could emotionally handle another pregnancy. Not to mention, I get so sick it was hard/impossible to take care of DD1 by myself... Can't imagine being pregnant again with 2 of them running around!

That being said, we still haven't decided on a number. We are perfectly happy with our 2 beautiful girls we have here with us. If we decide we want another, we have decided that adoption would be a beautiful way to add to our family. We considered this independently and it made me so happy when DH mentioned it to me. I feel so blessed that he's open to it, and excited about it. So, who knows?

ChristineRich06 · March 2014

It took a long time to get pg with #1 and I said I wouldn't do all the fertility stuff again. I got pg with #2 right away but as soon as she was born I wanted another. Dh has 3 from his previous marriage but they are all over 18. He had convinced me we were done. Well #3 will be here any time so I totally know the feeling. With #2 I was sad when my pregnancy was over and every milestone she hit because I didn't want her to be my last. Now I feel complete.

ring_pop · March 2014

Before LO was born, I was 90% sure that we'd be done. I found it tough being pregnant with a toddler.

But wow, I'm already thinking of the next!! The experience of having 2 has been amazing and I'm enjoying the newborn stage so much more than the first time. Even DH, who was very certain we were done at 2, is starting to have moments of weakness. I'm just sooo not ready to say this is it.

lnvane00 · March 2014

Helll no!!! Not after the experience I had. I keep asking my husband to get a V..
and I have never wanted more than one kid. I am so completely happy and fine with this perfect boy I worked so hard for

You mommas that get pregnant and have other little ones are so brave!!

StephBrim24 · March 2014

We had always discussed having 3 or 4. However, while I'm in the throws of the exhausting newborn stage and having a 2 year old, more kids do not sound enjoyable. I think we'll have more but I'm taking more than a 2 year break I think.

VanessaBee · March 2014

One and done! Between all the losses and the trouble getting pregnant in the first (second, third, fourth....) place, I'm super thankful for my one sweet boy and I don't have the desire to go through that all again. And, selfishly, I know one is what I can handle in a way that let's me be a good momma while still taking care of and having time for myself. One is my perfect balance.

novelblessings · March 2014

We aren't sure. We have always said we would be ok with just one and for now we are ok with just DD. We both agree that if we do ever want another it's going to be a good 3 or 4 years. Our parents think we are crazy but it's not up to them. I'm sure it's because they feel they may not get grandchildren from our siblings, but oh well.

amdecker1016 · March 2014

Right now i am one and done.
After my history of losses and the pregnancy i had i really am not sure i want to go through this again.

Maybe i'll readdress it in 3 years.

aLsMay24 · March 2014

We are still set to go for 3. I'm still not ruling out a 4th.

jrw526 · March 2014

I always said I'd like 3. DH said he would be done at 2. Well now that we have 2, DH told me he wants 3. We'll discuss expanding our family when this lo is a year old. I'm thrilled with the 2 we have and if we couldn't have more, I would be at peace with that, but I am excited that DH has changed his mind

lazyreader · March 2014

Our plan has always been 4. We were prepared for 4 (financially over time, as well as space and all that jazz).

We're planners. Shit we even planned for march (more like not winter).

All known roadblocks have been considered. We will stop at 4 unless something major happens. We would even adopt to get there

BabiesFTW · March 2014

I also thought I was done at 2 but I had such an easy L&D this time and have been loving my sweet little baby snuggles that I'm so tempted to have a third.
But! I won't. Every time i can't get her to sleep or I'm struggling to keep up with her and DD's needs I think, "Whew, I'm glad this is my last one."

Just like with DD I'm wishing I could slow down time. I have this feeling that these are the best days of my life. But since I can't I'm going to stop at 2 and leave DH and I some time, energy, and hopefully money left over for when our kids are grown.

jennybean80 · March 2014

We have 4 embryos left frozen, and after all the shit I went through to get them I don't feel like I could just let them be discarded. Plus I've always said I wanted 4 kids. Even with how busy the twins and DS1 are, I could see us having one more! Don't tell DH!! (Or my mom - she's already told me I'm 'not allowed' to have more because my pregnancies/preemies stress her out too much!!)

ETA it would only happen because I could probably convince one of the OBs I work with to do a cerclage. And we'd only transfer 1 embryo at a time.

KariB509 · March 2014

Fuck no. Fuck. No.

tsmith312 · March 2014

I've already been thinking about the next one ! This was our first but I had an awesome pregnancy ! Hopefully I won't jinx the next one if I'm blessed enough to have that opportunity ! I would like at least 2 maybe 3 .

sebullows · March 2014

As soon as we brought Levi home we both said one is enough... But then we thought about how much we want him to have siblings. We will have one, maybe 2 more.

PerkyErky · March 2014

Laura8388 said:

I asked my doc and he said they don't like to do preventative cerclages until you have had "unsuccessful" pregnancies!!!!!! Unreal huh. If we did think about it, I would go to another doc and insist.

What the hell?! That makes NO sense! They know you have cervical shortening issues, but would make you actually lose a child...pssh no! If you do decide to add to your family definitely find a dr who will sew that baby in good

ProudMommy030614 · March 2014

I am a labor unicorn and each time it got quicker and easier I would go for a 4th! Ds1 was a 3 day 32week induction, ds2 was 8 hours of not so bad labor and 5 min of pushing, ds3 was 4 hours of labor with 2 pushes and he was here! Hell a 4th I bet I could get in under 3 hours! All of my deliveries were Pain med free and the recovery has been getting easier too.

CactusGirl · March 2014

I go back and forth on wanting a 3rd kid.

Moedowell · March 2014

This is my 3rd, my husband wanted to be done before I got pregnant this time, during the pregnancy especially at the end I said no way for more, but man I had the best delivery ever,and so far recovery has been a breeze and life with 3 is manageable....
But I know the reality of getting older and having more, the cost, the fact that we miscarried twice before she came, it's just too many variables and not worth trying again... So we're done at three... But man I do think if he were willing I'd go for one more...it makes me super sad to not get to be pg again.. I miss the kicks already!!!

southerncharm24 · March 2014

We are going to visit the topic in January. We'll go for 3 or 4...

dancer7889 · March 2014

I've always wanted 3-4, but DH is set on only having two. So we'll see. My body took pregnancy and labor well so that doesn't worry me.

What I want is to have another close in age to Kinley, wait 4-5 years, and have 1-2 later. I'd love one of those to be adopted- my mom was and I'd love for us to do it too.

After having Kinley, I can still see this. Now DH will take a little convincing.

jwls84 · March 2014

I really want to have a third but not until B is in school, so for sure 3 yrs from now. My recovery this time was amazing so I have felt 100 times better (besides not sleeping).
DH isn't really sold on a third yet, but knows how I feel. So we will see.

karacakes98 · March 2014

I want more! I always thought three was my magic number, but now I'm not so sure. We can't consider another any time in the near future, though. My H needs to find steady employment and we'd need a bigger house if we had a third girl.

memo9 · March 2014

I'm already thinking about #3. We like our 2-2.5 year spacing though so it will be a little longer. After having such an amazing recovery after a med free birth I'm much more ready than I was the first time!

fish8412 · March 2014

This is our first and it reinforces my wanting of 3 kids!

Yenemous · March 2014

MH and I have been discussing this the past couple of weeks. This is our first and we thought we wanted 2 but now we're both kind of on the fence. I have a huge family (and I absolutely love that I come from a big family) plus I'd really like for DS to have a sibling but pregnancy really sucked, I had a rough labor and caring for a newborn is hard work! Where we stand now is lets wait a year or two and see how we feel then revisit the subject. Right now with a five week old, the thought of having another sounds like the worst idea in the world. I think it's going to take time for me to warm back up to the idea of doing this all again.

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