FFFC

RondackHiker · March 2014

When people post pictures of their babies and car seats I try not to look closely. Most aren't in them correctly and then I feel twitchy. I don't want to be a busybody mom and say something, but it really bugs me.

cattuccino · March 2014

anji1820 said:
I went shopping for LO at Petco. The puppy potty training pads are just like the chux they have at the dr and we use them on the changing pad. I may or may not have stopped to look at the dog clothes until remembering they were for dogs, not babies.

That's quite genius! My list of places I need to go shopping is growing!!!

djtippietoes · March 2014

RondackHiker said:

When people post pictures of their babies and car seats I try not to look closely. Most aren't in them correctly and then I feel twitchy. I don't want to be a busybody mom and say something, but it really bugs me.

What do you see that's commonly incorrect? (Cause I'm wondering if I'm doing it!)

RondackHiker · March 2014

djtippietoes said:

RondackHiker said:

When people post pictures of their babies and car seats I try not to look closely. Most aren't in them correctly and then I feel twitchy. I don't want to be a busybody mom and say something, but it really bugs me.

What do you see that's commonly incorrect? (Cause I'm wondering if I'm doing it!)

The big one is the chest clip not at arm pit level.

Another is using a puffy coat or bundle me.

Also having the straps enter the seat above the shoulders while rear facing.

Visibly loose straps aren't as common, but I still see them too often.

Sometimes I tell myself that the parent fixed it before driving so I don't worry.

MamaHollywood27 · March 2014

RondackHiker said:

djtippietoes said:

RondackHiker said:

When people post pictures of their babies and car seats I try not to look closely. Most aren't in them correctly and then I feel twitchy. I don't want to be a busybody mom and say something, but it really bugs me.

What do you see that's commonly incorrect? (Cause I'm wondering if I'm doing it!)

The big one is the chest clip not at arm pit level.

Another is using a puffy coat or bundle me.

Also having the straps enter the seat above the shoulders while rear facing.

Visibly loose straps aren't as common, but I still see them too often.

Sometimes I tell myself that the parent fixed it before driving so I don't worry.

It gives me goosebumps to! I took LO for a walk so had a thicker jacket on him but made sure to put that disclaimer lol. I'm always hoping they just had to catch the photo op, cute smile/face and then they fix it.

ramfan05 · March 2014

golfergirl08 said:

Now that I have a battery pack for my pump, I could be doing various other productive things such as dishes, or making myself lunch for work today.

Instead I am choosing to drink my coffee and bump, and buy lunch at work.

Non-FFFC related: I don't want to start a whole debate here, and this is more of a FTM question, but are schools leaning toward not allowing kids to take in any food? I had read that a lot were requiring kids to buy school lunches (this was possibly from a mommy blog). I understand that lots of kids have allergies, but on the other hand, I would like to be able to pack my kids' lunches in the future and not be required to buy whatever they are serving at the school. Unless maybe it's free, lol.

@golfergirl08, I'm an elementary teacher and I have never heard of this. However, I have seen the school lunches and I can tell you that DS will definitely be bringing lunch from home!

cattuccino · March 2014

@golfergirl08‌ I have a battery operated pump..,,when I've tried to be productive while pumping the bottles fall/get knocked off, or I forget and bend over....
All these things means spilled milk.
And a lot of ugly crying.

Enjoy your bumping and coffee.

Productivity isn't worth it

ramfan05 · March 2014

bribbon said:

On the topic of "segregating" kids with severe food allergies, DD1's school (public elementary) has 3-4 classrooms per grade level, and all the kids with severe food allergies are always in one class. That's because there is always a teacher and an aide in that class who have special training in anaphylaxis and who have epi pens at the ready. I always thought that was a good idea. The classes always have non-allergic kids as well (DD1 was one of them when she was in first grade). All classes had the same restrictions on bringing in certain foods because common areas. So it is done, but not for the convenience of the other kids. Hope that makes sense.

@bribbon, this I would be fine with as a parent of a child with food allergies. I would probably actually feel more comfortable knowing that DS's teacher and aide were trained and more aware of his (and others) allergies while still allowing him to go to his neighborhood school with neighborhood friends.

shellbell3845 · March 2014

FFFC: LO failed his state mandated hearing test on one side when we were still in the hospital. I'm told it happens all the time due to movement, cheap equipment, or moisture in the ears. I rescheduled his test and learned it's a two hour ordeal, and they'd like him to be sleeping. I considered canceling the appointment because I think a two hour test where they expect my 2 month old to be completely still is excessive.

I won't cancel, but I just gave it some serious thought.

Flyingtoast · March 2014

MamaHollywood27 said:

RondackHiker said:

djtippietoes said:

RondackHiker said:

When people post pictures of their babies and car seats I try not to look closely. Most aren't in them correctly and then I feel twitchy. I don't want to be a busybody mom and say something, but it really bugs me.

What do you see that's commonly incorrect? (Cause I'm wondering if I'm doing it!)
The big one is the chest clip not at arm pit level.

Another is using a puffy coat or bundle me.

Also having the straps enter the seat above the shoulders while rear facing.

Visibly loose straps aren't as common, but I still see them too often.

Sometimes I tell myself that the parent fixed it before driving so I don't worry.

It gives me goosebumps to! I took LO for a walk so had a thicker jacket on him but made sure to put that disclaimer lol. I'm always hoping they just had to catch the photo op, cute smile/face and then they fix it.

There is an easy modification to the bundle me to make it safe. Take out the portion that sits behind the baby, and make the 'sides' hug the sides of the car seat. This way there is still the easy unzip, seat belt up baby, zip up and away you go.

I did this with the one that was gifted to us. I had the local FD check it out, and he was very happy with how it met all the safety rules, but still very easy for loading and unloading.

shellbell3845 · March 2014

bribbon said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

bribbon said:
On the topic of "segregating" kids with severe food allergies, DD1's school (public elementary) has 3-4 classrooms per grade level, and all the kids with severe food allergies are always in one class. That's because there is always a teacher and an aide in that class who have special training in anaphylaxis and who have epi pens at the ready. I always thought that was a good idea.

The classes always have non-allergic kids as well (DD1 was one of them when she was in first grade). All classes had the same restrictions on bringing in certain foods because common areas.

So it is done, but not for the convenience of the other kids. Hope that makes sense.
That makes sense though I do hope every teacher/staff has epi pen training because safe.

This I do not know, not having any experience with allergies in my kids. I do remember that when DD1 was in the allergy class, her teacher had undergone special training to spot and handle medical situations related to anaphylaxis, because she made a point of explaining the system at open house (presumably in case some douchewad parent tried to say no one told them so come November).

But yeah, you'd think all licensed teachers would at least have epi pens and know how and when to use them, right?

No. Not the case, at least in the states I'm certified in or the schools I've taught in. In a couple schools, the nurse sent each teacher a list of students with medical issues or allergies, but never was I given training on an epi pen (which I happen to know how to use because of a summer job I had). I did take 50 teenagers on a five day trip to Chicago and the nurse showed me how to administer meds to a diabetic student in the event of an emergency. I kind of wondered why I was just learning this information 9 months into the school year.

Rosie137 · March 2014

My FFFTargetC:

I bought an outfit for LO to wear for his newborn pictures and kept the tags so I could return it after. He wore it for less than an hour and didn't spit on it or anything. I don't feel bad at all.

ramfan05 · March 2014

bribbon said:

On the topic of "segregating" kids with severe food allergies, DD1's school (public elementary) has 3-4 classrooms per grade level, and all the kids with severe food allergies are always in one class. That's because there is always a teacher and an aide in that class who have special training in anaphylaxis and who have epi pens at the ready. I always thought that was a good idea. The classes always have non-allergic kids as well (DD1 was one of them when she was in first grade). All classes had the same restrictions on bringing in certain foods because common areas. So it is done, but not for the convenience of the other kids. Hope that makes sense.
That makes sense though I do hope every teacher/staff has epi pen training because safe.
This I do not know, not having any experience with allergies in my kids. I do remember that when DD1 was in the allergy class, her teacher had undergone special training to spot and handle medical situations related to anaphylaxis, because she made a point of explaining the system at open house (presumably in case some douchewad parent tried to say no one told them so come November). But yeah, you'd think all licensed teachers would at least have epi pens and know how and when to use them, right?

At least in the schools where I have taught, only teachers with a food allergic student in their class receive epi-pen training from the school nurse. I agree that it should be all teachers, just in case. Epi-pens are kept in the nurse's office though, not in classrooms, but we do have days at school when there is no nurse for whatever reason.

inluv4life2 · March 2014

shellbell3845 said:
FFFC: LO failed his state mandated hearing test on one side when we were still in the hospital. I'm told it happens all the time due to movement, cheap equipment, or moisture in the ears. I rescheduled his test and learned it's a two hour ordeal, and they'd like him to be sleeping. I considered canceling the appointment because I think a two hour test where they expect my 2 month old to be completely still is excessive.

I won't cancel, but I just gave it some serious thought.

This happened to us and they told us the same thing. But LO passed in 10 minutes and then it was over.

Btwilhelm · March 2014

I was stretching (I have myself convinced I'm going to work out) and I found a shit ton of stretch marks by my crotch. I was so mad I yelled "damn it Stella!" really loud, because obviously it's lo's fault. I don't even understand how they got there.

Now I have a real reason not to work out, because LO is crying because I woke her up.

jpoindahouse · March 2014

DreamingBabies said:

I'm really getting sick of all the Breast is Best shit. Thankfully, I haven't heard any of it here on F'14 (you ladies rock), but I get it all of the time. I especially hate when people say (a) that "most women can breastfeed. Those who are using formula are not trying/lazy/don't care" and (b) "LO is so lucky you are pumping. You are giving him liquid gold."
Here's the deal- my nipples are flat and I can try and try until the cows come home and my child is not going to latch. He only latches with a nipple shield and, for me, the nipple shield makes nursing extremely ineffective and he just doesn't really transfer milk. So, the only real way of getting him breast milk is to pump. I am extremely lucky in that I have a good supply and that I can give him expressed milk. But guess what I've learned? I've learned that LOTS of other women both on the bump and in real life have the exact same issue as I do. What's more, most of my flat/ inverted nipped sisters do not respond well to the pump. They pump and pump for a couple of ounces and then they hook themselves up to the pump and do it all again. They are forced to listen to the whole "breast is best" shit and the comments about how "the vast majority of women can breastfeed" and they are made to feel like shit.
Now, I agree we have to raise the breastfeeding rates, but do we really have to have such judgmental and ignorant propaganda. I'm just kind of over it all. End rant
@jpoindahouse why do we need to raise the breastfeeding rates? By saying this you imply that breast is best.

I'm sorry if my post wasn't clearer. I think that many studies suggest that, all other factors being equal, breast milk is better for babies. However. there are many, many women who have a lot of difficulty breastfeeding and simply cannot give their children breast milk. I have been astounded at the amount of pressure I have faced (not on the bump) in the hospital and elsewhere because I don't have a "normal breastfeeding relationship." After speaking with some of my girlfriends, I know that I am not alone in this. So yes, all other things being equal, obviously breast milk is the gold standard. However, there are many, many reasons why a mother cannot successfully breastfeed her child. I just think that some (some, not all) lactation consultants and individuals do not want to believe that it can be such a struggle for some women. The "breast is best" rhetoric often makes these women feel like they are not doing the best for their children. That said, there are many, many women who don't give thought to breastfeeding especially among lower socio-economic classes. I certainly think that breastfeeding should be positively presented and encouraged among these groups in an effort to promote breastfeeding, but I don't think any woman should be quilted into doing something or attempting to do something that is not physically possible or causes her problems psychologically.

I guess my position is this: it would be great if women who could have healthy, fulfilling breastfeeding relationships were positively encouraged to do so in an effort to raise the number of breastfed babies, but I don't think this should be achieved through guilt or pressure. In fact, I think that a mom's wellbeing and sanity should be given priority when it comes to the decision of whether or not to breastfeed. So maybe I don't necessarily want the breastfeeding rate increased....at least not if it is going to cause unnecessary heartache and guilt among women who are trying to do the best for their children.

Dexter&11 · March 2014

jpoindahouse said:
I'm really getting sick of all the Breast is Best shit. Thankfully, I haven't heard any of it here on F'14 (you ladies rock), but I get it all of the time. I especially hate when people say (a) that "most women can breastfeed. Those who are using formula are not trying/lazy/don't care" and (b) "LO is so lucky you are pumping. You are giving him liquid gold."
Here's the deal- my nipples are flat and I can try and try until the cows come home and my child is not going to latch. He only latches with a nipple shield and, for me, the nipple shield makes nursing extremely ineffective and he just doesn't really transfer milk. So, the only real way of getting him breast milk is to pump. I am extremely lucky in that I have a good supply and that I can give him expressed milk. But guess what I've learned? I've learned that LOTS of other women both on the bump and in real life have the exact same issue as I do. What's more, most of my flat/ inverted nipped sisters do not respond well to the pump. They pump and pump for a couple of ounces and then they hook themselves up to the pump and do it all again. They are forced to listen to the whole "breast is best" shit and the comments about how "the vast majority of women can breastfeed" and they are made to feel like shit.
Now, I agree we have to raise the breastfeeding rates, but do we really have to have such judgmental and ignorant propaganda. I'm just kind of over it all. End rant

As a fellow flat nipple sister, and not to sound like I'm trying to force you to BF, but I pump to get my nipple non-flat, then try and get LO to latch - works for us

I just find I get less stressed by LO trying to BF and eventually latching, than fighting the bottle. The bottle fighting is her new thing since she's started successfully BF'ing....little madam used to take the bottle perfectly, no fuss!

Winnieella · March 2014

I just made a cake...and realized I have nothing to make the frosting. It's raining and I don't want to take LO out to the store to get frosting or stuff to make homemade frosting.

Frostingless cake it is.

magentawarped · March 2014

Winnieella said:
I just made a cake...and realized I have nothing to make the frosting. It's raining and I don't want to take LO out to the store to get frosting or stuff to make homemade frosting.

Frostingless cake it is.

Do you have Nutella?

MamaAllison · March 2014

I just totally took advantage of a post-vax car seat nap to run around the house for 45 minutes trying to fake clean it so it doesn't look like I did no housework this week. Feeling satisfied with my efforts so now I'm going to hold LO on the couch and watch HGTV for the rest of the afternoon...

Missy0483 · March 2014

@RondackHiker‌ I agree on the carseat thing. I cringed several times while looking through the Uno thread. Yikes.

RondackHiker · March 2014

@Bookshelves‌

See, some people take it well. Some don't. I got defriended once when I said something like "hey! I see we have the same car seat. I'd been using it a few weeks before I learned that XYZ wasn't safe.. It's supposed to be this other way."

I also got defriended for posting a link about puffy coats and car seats. Apparently I was being judgy.

Some people get really sensitive.

magentawarped · March 2014

Bookshelves said:
Maybe an UO? I prefer if people tell me if they see that I'm doing something unsafe with LO. Not, like, MIL telling me the baby is cold (she's not), but something truly unsafe. I went shopping a few weeks ago with a friend who's a STM. It was our first big outing and I was nervous, and she noticed I forgot to put the carry handle down on the carseat after I put it in the base. I was glad she told me and told her to feel free to continue to correct me, because it's amateur hour here.

Of course, there are good and bad ways to correct someone.

I was unaware that I was supposed to put the handle down. Crap.

ziggy903 · March 2014

@Bookshelves‌ I'm with you. I am so happy when people tell me something because it's making baby safer. Me=newb.

Missy0483 · March 2014

@magentawarped‌ it depends on your carseat. Check your manual! Mine is okay in any position but I always put it down so I can see her in the mirror while driving.

Flyingtoast · March 2014

My car seat has 4 handle positions, 2 are safe when driving. I second checking your manual.

keags5496 · March 2014

I thought of another one. If I prop LO up on my legs I can hold the phone by his head and easy interact with him while bumping.

kathegreat · March 2014

My FFFC: I'm still mad at my OB for all of the unnecessary stress she put me through during my pregnancy and about the unnecessary procedure I had done 4 days PP (I have second opinions that back me up) but I don't want to deal with the political nightmare filing a formal grievance will be. Being a grown up stinks sometimes.

southerngal07 · March 2014

I also did not know about the car seat handle (runs to check manual).

I want to know if you see something in my pics that is unsafe! FTM and I'd rather someone (nicely) tell me what I'm f'ing up instead of something tragic happening to LO.

FFFC: I lied to MIL and told her we'd be out/busy all day so she couldn't come visit. DH had already told her no once, but she still asked me anyway. I did have a dr appointment this morning, then went to lunch with DH and a friend, but other than that I've been sitting on the couch, bumping, watching GoT, and snuggling with DS. I'm not the least bit sorry I lied to her.

littlepig2 · March 2014

bribbon said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

bribbon said:
On the topic of "segregating" kids with severe food allergies, DD1's school (public elementary) has 3-4 classrooms per grade level, and all the kids with severe food allergies are always in one class. That's because there is always a teacher and an aide in that class who have special training in anaphylaxis and who have epi pens at the ready. I always thought that was a good idea.

The classes always have non-allergic kids as well (DD1 was one of them when she was in first grade). All classes had the same restrictions on bringing in certain foods because common areas.

So it is done, but not for the convenience of the other kids. Hope that makes sense.
That makes sense though I do hope every teacher/staff has epi pen training because safe.

This I do not know, not having any experience with allergies in my kids. I do remember that when DD1 was in the allergy class, her teacher had undergone special training to spot and handle medical situations related to anaphylaxis, because she made a point of explaining the system at open house (presumably in case some douchewad parent tried to say no one told them so come November).

But yeah, you'd think all licensed teachers would at least have epi pens and know how and when to use them, right?

not in our district. we have 7 elementary schools and 2 middle schools (because big town) and each school has their own Crisis Prevention Team. each team is made up of several people from all around that school who have been trained in all types of emergency situations. we have a page that goes off and they know where to report if they are needed. that said, the nurse also gives a list of allergies to all of the teachers that teach the students who have allergies. we as teachers are technically liable if something happens in our room because we're supposed to consult that list and know what is and is not ok.

ETA: all epi pens are kept locked in the nurses office for safety reasons. from what I understand, epi pens and what is in them can vary from person to person so they're not interchangeable. I teach middle school so my kids are old enough to carry them on field trips but at least one chaperone must be trained in administering it and stay with that child's group at all times.

Amyjoy1972 · March 2014

I sit longer in the bathroom just to have five min to myself

annie0714 · March 2014

My FFFC: I get really intimidated to post on this board. I'm generally quiet by nature and don't say things in groups often but listen. While listening, I feel part of the group even though everyone else probably doesn't feel that way. I feel the same way with this board. I learn a lot from here and feel I know you all. However, When I do want post something, I get anxious about how it will be received. Everyone seems harsher on this who are not regular posters. I will often read and re read my post and then ultimately delete before posting. This is especially true of questions, I feel they are harder to ask if you do not post or your name is not immediately recognizable. I worry about this even though I haven't really been flamed much for what I have posted.

Virgo&Aquarius · March 2014

RondackHiker said:
@Bookshelves‌

See, some people take it well. Some don't. I got defriended once when I said something like "hey! I see we have the same car seat. I'd been using it a few weeks before I learned that XYZ wasn't safe.. It's supposed to be this other way."

I also got defriended for posting a link about puffy coats and car seats. Apparently I was being judgy.

Some people get really sensitive.

@RondackHiker‌ I can agree with that! I see so many of my friends post pictures of their kids on FB in unsafe car seat situations it's not even funny. Most of the people I know wouldn't take it well so I try to randomly post car seat safety post every so often hoping that they would get a clue. I posted a few yesterday without calling anyone out but myself! I posted a picture of Baby Girl in with her new Graco belt buckle to start... Reminding people of the recall and that their kids should "ditch the old school snow suit her sister use to have" then went on from there. I really tried to be subtle! I think they were sick of my car seat related post after a while.

MamaHollywood27 · March 2014

Here's another: I love friday night tv. I watch last man standing, and then the neighbors(not because I like but because I'm to lazy to change the channel) then shark tank and 20/20 which I'm super excited to see the breastfeeding story on that was in gma earlier this week!

MissDemeanor · March 2014

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Not so much a FFFC, but just a Target Confession.
When I found out I was pregnant with DS, I took the pregnancy test in a Target bathroom. I was on my lunch break and didn't want to take it at work but also didn't want to wait five hours til I was home, so I bought it and went right into the bathroom.

Yes! I once got a BFP in a CVS bathroom in Las Vegas. *klassy fist bump*
The one right on the strip across from the mcdonalds? I bought a toothbrush there!

I bought a toothbrush there too!

I wonder how many condoms they sell a day?

MissDemeanor · March 2014

Virgo&Aquarius said:

@Bookshelves‌ See, some people take it well. Some don't. I got defriended once when I said something like "hey! I see we have the same car seat. I'd been using it a few weeks before I learned that XYZ wasn't safe.. It's supposed to be this other way." I also got defriended for posting a link about puffy coats and car seats. Apparently I was being judgy. @.@ Some people get really sensitive.
@RondackHiker‌ I can agree with that! I see so many of my friends post pictures of their kids on FB in unsafe car seat situations it's not even funny. Most of the people I know wouldn't take it well so I try to randomly post car seat safety post every so often hoping that they would get a clue. I posted a few yesterday without calling anyone out but myself! I posted a picture of Baby Girl in with her new Graco belt buckle to start... Reminding people of the recall and that their kids should "ditch the old school snow suit her sister use to have" then went on from there. I really tried to be subtle! I think they were sick of my car seat related post after a while.

I'm pretty sensitive to criticism, so I prefer that if someone needs to say something to me, they do it privately. I remember a job I had once in a restaurant with a staff info board on it. We'd tack up notices about holidays, shift changes, nice comment cards, etc. my boss posted a really snarky comment about me on it (which wasn't even accurate) and I felt like shit forever after.

shellbell3845 · March 2014

LO is screaming up a storm in the living room for DH. I'm laying in bed online shopping. I know LO is upset because DH makes him stop eating to burp, so I'm absolutely not getting up to help. Mama needs new shoes (and some alone time).

hopefuldog · March 2014

Bookshelves said:
Maybe an UO? I prefer if people tell me if they see that I'm doing something unsafe with LO. Not, like, MIL telling me the baby is cold (she's not), but something truly unsafe. I went shopping a few weeks ago with a friend who's a STM. It was our first big outing and I was nervous, and she noticed I forgot to put the carry handle down on the carseat after I put it in the base. I was glad she told me and told her to feel free to continue to correct me, because it's amateur hour here.

Of course, there are good and bad ways to correct someone.

The cop who installed and inspected our car seat told us to leave the handle up in the carrying position. He said this as though it was standard (in my opinion) without reading the manual. If I can remember where I put my manual, I'll be checking tomorrow. But that is certainly frustrating if the certified car seat guy is giving out wrong info.

kathegreat · March 2014

I have another: Little man peed out of his diaper and on me while breast feeding last night, I considered not changing because: favorite yoga pants.

littlepig2 · March 2014

we have a Britax and it says the handle can be in any position and still be safe. I always leave it up because OCD.

Want a personalized experience?

FFFC

Re: FFFC

Choose Another Board

Search Boards