I would agree that if a doctor is late for every single appointment, by 30+ minutes with no advance phone call, then after 5 or 6 appointments it's probably safe to conclude it's at least partly how they run the office. I would not fault someone being annoyed by that if it is a pattern. Or better said, unless you're in a really small market you can probably find an office you like where a 30 minute wait is not standard and expected.
FWIW my OB is a solo practitioner who delivers at two different hospitals, and in 10 appointments I still don't think I've waited more than 10 minutes. If I'm early the nurses start me early, then move me to the OB exam room when it's free. And he doesn't rush patients ... I know, I've been the one with all the questions more than once. I wouldn't say that's just dumb luck, I'd say that's a well-run office.
@Rocknroll64, but that's precisely my point, doctors aren't going to know that Jill has a million questions or needs something explained, or when they move on to the next room that Janet will have no questions. Why call and say can you come in 20 minutes later if they make up that time by Janet not having any questions.
I get why you'd want a call in any other circumstance or profession, I just don't think this is one where you should expect it.
I just think that if you're running behind every day and making your patients wait for their scheduled appointments by more than 30 minutes everyday something needs to change. I mean it's gotta be frustrating for the doctor too right? Being rushed and late for every appointment? That would suck.
I've been going to the same OB, same office, same staff for the last seven years. There are times (more often than not) I've waited at least 30 minutes beyond my scheduled appt time. I don't think it's an issue of mismanagement of time, I think shit happens.
For the sake of beating this argument to death, I'll just say, I understand your frustration.
UO: I don't get having a name picked out for LO and keeping it a "secret" from everyone until birth. Same goes for finding out the sex and not telling anyone.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
UO: I don't get having a name picked out for LO and keeping it a "secret" from everyone until birth. Same goes for finding out the sex and not telling anyone.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
Gender I don't get but name I do. Cause people have no filter and are assholes. Yes it's our choice but people will still give their opinion and it's annoying. (Just read any post asking opinions for names. And those are people who ask!)
UO: I don't get having a name picked out for LO and keeping it a "secret" from everyone until birth. Same goes for finding out the sex and not telling anyone.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
We kept our baby names secret because once you tell people, people feel the need to offer their opinions and we didn't feel like hearing them.
My UO is completly work related - I hate when customers come in and expect the teller to fill out their withdrawal or deposit slip! There is a station in the middle of the lobby for this, don't waste my time and the time of all the people behind you in line just because you aren't prepared. Also, have your ID out and don't freak out at me when I ask you for it. Just because you come in 'all the time' does not mean I have memorized your first name, last name, and date of birth.
Also, stop baby talking to me. I may be pregnant, but I can still comprehend.
UO: I don't get having a name picked out for LO and keeping it a "secret" from everyone until birth. Same goes for finding out the sex and not telling anyone.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
We kept our baby names secret because once you tell people, people feel the need to offer their opinions and we didn't feel like hearing them.
This. We made the mistake of revealing what our list was with DS. My mom still talks about how she thinks we should have picked our #2 name instead of what we picked. Too bad.
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
My UO is completly work related - I hate when customers come in and expect the teller to fill out their withdrawal or deposit slip! There is a station in the middle of the lobby for this, don't waste my time and the time of all the people behind you in line just because you aren't prepared. Also, have your ID out and don't freak out at me when I ask you for it. Just because you come in 'all the time' does not mean I have memorized your first name, last name, and date of birth.
Also, stop baby talking to me. I may be pregnant, but I can still comprehend.
Oh that irritates me too! I always hate when I get stuck in line behind someone at the grocery store who just stands there while the cashier is ringing up all of their stuff, and then appears to be shocked when it's time to pay for it. Then I have to wait for them to fumble their wallet out, figure out how they're going pay, etc. And then they realize they have to pack it all up. I get to wait even more while my stuff gets backed up because they won't move themselves out of the lane between registers and cashiers hate putting things on the 2nd conveyor belt for some reason.
UO: I don't get having a name picked out for LO and keeping it a "secret" from everyone until birth. Same goes for finding out the sex and not telling anyone.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
We kept our baby names secret because once you tell people, people feel the need to offer their opinions and we didn't feel like hearing them.
This. We made the mistake of revealing what our list was with DS. My mom still talks about how she thinks we should have picked our #2 name instead of what we picked. Too bad.
This time I'm not even telling the names we've definitely decided against. Last time I told my sister I liked the name Phyllis but couldn't use it because I have a plant names Phyllis, and then until we found out it was a boy my sister called the baby Phyllis the Fetus.
I actually enjoyed hearing the suggestions from family last time, but then I'm the sort of person who usually listens politely to advice and then does whatever I was going to do anyway. I know I wouldn't like opinions on names ahead of time, and I know my own tendency to change my mind all the time, so I keep the name to myself. (We actually don't have a name yet though. Not sure if the family believes me or thinks I'm just being coy, but we seriously don't have a name yet.)
Oh that irritates me too! I always hate when I get stuck in line behind someone at the grocery store who just stands there while the cashier is ringing up all of their stuff, and then appears to be shocked when it's time to pay for it. Then I have to wait for them to fumble their wallet out, figure out how they're going pay, etc. And then they realize they have to pack it all up. I get to wait even more while my stuff gets backed up because they won't move themselves out of the lane between registers and cashiers hate putting things on the 2nd conveyor belt for some reason.
Sometimes, I just hate people.
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I've been guilty of this because I have a toddler. When I get everything loaded on the belt, I have to pry the candy out of Shorty's hands, put it back, deal with the following temper tantrum, push the cart forward, tell Shorty to stop pushing all the buttons on the card reader, find my purse, tell Shorty to leave the buckle alone and sit down so she doesn't fall, ask the cashier how much it was again, find the right card, tell Shorty to sit down again... you get the picture. I always feel bad, but sometimes toddlers happen. I'll be a great customer when I have a toddler and a newborn!!
@fatbarbie0226 I'm so glad I'm not alone on this! I had a woman in line behind me get really rude and say don't worry I'll watch your kid as he was trying to climb out of the cart on to the belt. Sorry bitch but he's going to keep doing it. I am watching him and the quicker I get my shit on the belt the quicker I can move him forward and hand him my wallet where he won't be trying to climb anywhere.
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
I agree with both. but biggest issue is that I can't stand when people socialize when clearly DD has had enough of the cart and the shopping experience, and I know its not always there fault but the people who have payment issues that hold up the line......
Also this is more of a vent than a UO but is it that hard for a doctor to be on time? Is it just they think we all have nothing better to do than sit in their stupid waiting room for 30-45mins. I can't imagine scheduling a client meeting and making the client wait there for that long. I find it extremely unprofessional and frankly, annoying as hell. If you're constantly running late then maybe it's time to rethink how much time you've allocated to appointment slots. Punctuality should be taught in medical school. It's just fucking common courtesy!
I agree. I don't have all morning to sit in a doctor's office waiting. I can understand if my appointment is end of day but a 45 minute wait when my appointment was at 9:30 is mismanagement of time or scheduling too many patients. Between OB and MFM appointments, it's alot of time out of the office.
I'd imagine the fact that OBs have these rather impossible-to-schedule aspects of their job called attending to a birth might unexpectedly throw off their schedule for a bit. You want your OB leaving while you're squeezing out a baby b/c they might be 30 mins late for someone's routine checkup?
I haven't been around all day so I am just reading all of this.
The on call OB didn't make it to my son's birth because he was with a patient. His office is beside the hospital. He apologized multiple times to me when he came over to stitch me up afterward. He told me he was very sorry not to have made it because he could not get away from an patient early in her pregnancy who was asking a million questions. I know that I do not know her story, but in my head, I think of a lot of the thoughtless "look of me, I'm special, [foot stomp]" roaring I've seen from time to time on here and wonder if my son's delivery may not have been quite so traumatic had he been able to get away.
After spending I don't even know how long catching up on 6 pages of UO, all I can think of is, I don't care what you do with your pubes, but FFS trim your quote trees!
UO: I don't get having a name picked out for LO and keeping it a "secret" from everyone until birth. Same goes for finding out the sex and not telling anyone.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
We have our name picked and aren't telling anyone (besides you lovely TB ladies) for 2 3 main reasons:
1. Until it's on the birth certificate people feel like it's still open to discussion and I don't want to discuss. The name is the name; we've already decided. And even when people "just want to know" and "don't have an opinion", they do. even if it's positive. We don't need anyone's approval on the name.
2. I like the idea of introducing a baby for the first time as his/her name to people. It's just a nice "cherry on top" of meeting the baby, meeting the baby as his/her name, with no previously formed opinion or anticipation of the name. It's just "this is Colin" and the hearing that is always tied to seeing his face. I just like the idea of that.
bonus reason:
3. It's kind of fun! I especially like keeping the name from my FIL. He has an opinion about everything and it's driving him nuts not to know. So now it's just fun to make him wait, because he's kind of a brat about it sometimes. I love the guy, but I don't want to hear his opinion on the name, if he loves or hates it - I had to deal with 6 months of his opinions on every choice we made while planning our wedding ... so this is payback I guess?
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
I cannot stand the people who take the liberty to "help" me unload my cart so that they can get done faster.
I have a system. I don't like my meat products near my produce and I like all my frozen foods together. I am very quick at unloading my cart. I just like to keep food categories together to make it easier when I have to unload bags in my kitchen.
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
I cannot stand the people who take the liberty to "help" me unload my cart so that they can get done faster.
I have a system. I don't like my meat products near my produce and I like all my frozen foods together. I am very quick at unloading my cart. I just like to keep food categories together to make it easier when I have to unload bags in my kitchen.
This. I always unload my groceries onto the belt in groups, hoping that the check-out person will bag them as such. It really irritates me when the bagging person is this chatty teenager that is talking to the cashier the whole time and just pops everything into any random bag. I've done the sorting for you, just put my little groups in bags.
For those of you who can't wait 30 minutes on your doctor, have you ever thought about looking for a new doctor if it happens every single visit? Seems like a pretty easy solution.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
Spinning off from the John Mayer posts, I don't buy the empowerment shtick Katy Perry is selling. Her song lyrics say one thing but her actions and personality tell another story. I think she'd benefit from truly believing some of those empowering lyrics she was singing. And also, her live singing voice sucks.
THIS. Ugh, the fake feminism coming from this bitch is nauseating.
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
I cannot stand the people who take the liberty to "help" me unload my cart so that they can get done faster.
I have a system. I don't like my meat products near my produce and I like all my frozen foods together. I am very quick at unloading my cart. I just like to keep food categories together to make it easier when I have to unload bags in my kitchen.
I worked for Publix in high school, and they train their cashiers and naggers according to this idea. Dry goods stay together, raw meats are separate from everything, etc. I don't get how grocery baggers still manage to do this. I actually aim for cashier lines where there is no bag boy or girl, because I prefer to bag it myself.
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
I cannot stand the people who take the liberty to "help" me unload my cart so that they can get done faster.
I have a system. I don't like my meat products near my produce and I like all my frozen foods together. I am very quick at unloading my cart. I just like to keep food categories together to make it easier when I have to unload bags in my kitchen.
This. I always unload my groceries onto the belt in groups, hoping that the check-out person will bag them as such. It really irritates me when the bagging person is this chatty teenager that is talking to the cashier the whole time and just pops everything into any random bag. I've done the sorting for you, just put my little groups in bags.
I try to do this too, and it never works out for me. Like I'll buy 5 Yoplait yogurts, and they will end up in 5 different bags. It's annoying when I'm unpacking. My grocery store hires mentally disabled adults to bag groceries, so I really hate to complain about it. But today, the woman who bagged my groceries tied all the bags in a knot at the top. Not only did it take her forever (the cashier stepped in and helped to bag some of it), but then I had to get scissors out to unpack them when I got home. Why hasn't anyone (like her boss) told her that's a bad idea?
One other thing about Dr. appointments is that they are very much at the mercy of the schedulers and the administrators. DH complains all the time of the administrators in his clinic/organization pushing him into shorter and shorter appointment slots. He is told how long he has to see patients, then he is forced to double book appointments. He doesn't have too much choice in the matter. His speed is also very dependent on how fast the MA/LPN can get their check-in of the patient done. In addition, if the Dr. Is running late, it would not be their job to call patients and reschedule, that would be the schedulers. It is a system-wide effort, not just in the hands on the Dr. to keep things running on time.
For those of you who can't wait 30 minutes on your doctor, have you ever thought about looking for a new doctor if it happens every single visit? Seems like a pretty easy solution.
Isn't there some saying about this? Fool me once, fool me twice, fool me three times, fool me four times, fool me five times.... etc? Wait, that's not how it goes. Hmm.
In the words of the best President evah, George W. Bush (insert sarcasm font here), I believe they saying goes "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, can't be fooled again....?"
@rachelca29 LOL I gotta quote Samantha from Sex & The City here in regards to sex without orgasm. "If I RSVP to a party I intend to cum!!!"
For those of you who didn't watch the show, there was an ep where she couldn't reach orgasm and Charlotte had the nerve to tell her sex could still be good without an orgasm. Samantha wasn't having that!!!
My UO is that I don't think a little TV here and there is gonna ruin my child forever. Plus I like Disney movies and snuggles. So, I will selfishly take my new little movie buddy and have movies in bed nights.
My UO is that I don't think a little TV here and there is gonna ruin my child forever. Plus I like Disney movies and snuggles. So, I will selfishly take my new little movie buddy and have movies in bed nights.
DH and I plan on having a weekly movie night. So far i am incredibly excited to eventually introduce my child to Labyrinth and Goonies
Yah, not so easy to get a new doctor in a small town in the interior of BC. I'm pretty much stuck. Not that I don't like her, when she finally gets me in after an hour long wait for a 10 minute appointment.
UO = I'm beginning to draw the conclusion that it's actually not okay for anyone to have a real UO in these discussion threads.
That's not a UO. That's a sad, late realization. You should swing by FFFC sometime too, I'm sure you've got some gems.
My UO - I want to learn how to ignore my kid, just as well as she has perfected the art of ignoring me. I speak for no reason most days. Even after a good smack to the face from the floor after momma has said ten million times "don't run in the house, you'll fall and get hurt" she continues to do it. I give up. I solemnly swear to stop speaking these warnings, and to just laugh and enjoy the irony that is my daily routine with DD1.
Another uo because I can't sleep: I don't like the new Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon. I miss Jay.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
@fatbarbie0226 That doesn't bother me as much when it's obvious the person has other things on their plate, or is legitimately having some kind of difficulty. It's when people just don't bother to pay attention, or behave like they've never been to the store before that bugs me.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
I cannot stand the people who take the liberty to "help" me unload my cart so that they can get done faster.
I have a system. I don't like my meat products near my produce and I like all my frozen foods together. I am very quick at unloading my cart. I just like to keep food categories together to make it easier when I have to unload bags in my kitchen.
This. I always unload my groceries onto the belt in groups, hoping that the check-out person will bag them as such. It really irritates me when the bagging person is this chatty teenager that is talking to the cashier the whole time and just pops everything into any random bag. I've done the sorting for you, just put my little groups in bags.
UO: I don't get having a name picked out for LO and keeping it a "secret" from everyone until birth. Same goes for finding out the sex and not telling anyone.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
We have a name, but when people ask we just say "oh we have a few in mind". We just don't know how we're going to feel about the name when she gets here, so we don't want to have to do a lot of back tracking. We're 90% set on this name, but TBH it's nobody's business what I name my child and what's wrong with the element of surprise? Plus, we've had a few people say "oh, are you sure?" when we've mentioned other names. I think if the baby is here and you've named them, they're less inclined to say stuff like that.
I had the opposite issue with the sex though. We found out and most people wanted to know, so we told them. Then DH's aunt and uncle decided they didn't want to know. Sorry, but that's not your decision. It just made life really awkward for a while because we had to be really careful around them. In the end I accidentally on purpose let it slip. It's not their child, so why should I go out of my way to be secretive? We're excited we're having a girl. Keeping it a secret doesn't change the outcome.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
* OB appts: I agree with all of you about being ok with waiting. But because I'm trying to save as much sick leave for the delivery/pediatrician appointments I always schedule the first appointment of the day. Therefore, I only occasionally have to wait a few minutes in the event the Dr gets stuck in traffic. Over two pregnancies I think there has only been one time when the first appointment wasn't available which leads me to believe that I am the only person at my practice who has figured this out. If people have an issue with waiting, find a way to get there at the crack of dawn and you're golden.
* I agree that John Mayer is a douche. However, I kind of liked him with Katy because I feel like she is pretty douchey herself.
* I sort of hate when celebrities have big "coming out" anouncements. While a part of me understands that when celebrities publicly "come out" it brings more awareness to the fact that there are gay people in this world and that perhaps it helps the younger generation feel more comfortable with who they are. However, I feel like these public announcements make something that, to me, is not a big deal, a big deal. I heard a story about Johnny Galecki (Roseanne / Big Bang Theory) and how there were all these rumors about him being gay and how reporters would always ask him about it and he would never comment. Then at one point people finally realized that he wasn't gay and he was asked why he never commented on it and his response was that he didn't feel like there was a need to defend himself against rumors that weren't offensive. I guess I wish that there wasn't a societal need to bucketize people.
@doctors running late - Bevo outlined this one pretty masterfully, but I'll add that I agree. It doesn't bother me one bit to have to wait. I genuinely appreciate the fact that my doctor will spend as much time as needed with me answering my questions...I'm sure she's doing the same for her other patients. Plus it means everything to me that when I've had my two "emergencies" this pregnancy, they had me come in immediately and meet with my OB and MFM. I'm sure that pushed back the schedule for the woman sitting next to me in the waiting room. Sorry, not sorry. I'd expect they'd do the same for her if she had an emergency and I'd gladly wait. Some things are more important than punctuality.
@Katy Perry & John Mayer - I don't really care too much about celebs private lives and who they are screwing, but I actually have an opinion on these two. They were on Good Morning America not that long ago and he treated her like crap...on national television! I couldn't believe how he was talking to her. I'm glad they broke up. Anyone deserves better.
@nanny care for SAHMs - my "friend" has three kids and is a SAHM. Her oldest is in school all day, and the youngest two are with the nanny M, W, F, and at the neighbors in the mornings on Tues, Thurs. So...essentially she's home alone with the kids 1/2 days twice a week. She pays a cleaning service, and lawn care service. Yes...I judge her, especially when she fake complains about missing her old part time job. I majorly judge her when she walks in with a new Kate Spade every week and brand new Pottery Barn furnishings all over. Judging!!!! Sue me.
Re OB wait times: I don't mind them for the reasons PP have listed above. That said, my OB's office has a crackerjack scheduling team and I almost never have to wait more than 15 minutes. AND I know they have emergency appointments all the time because I've had several myself. I think part of it comes from having a bigger practice; I might not be able to see my primary OB in every situation, but I do see someone, and it's given me an opportunity to get to know all of the OBs at my practice so that I know I'll be comfortable no matter who is on call at the hospital if I deliver at an unscheduled time.
Re judging SAHMs: All I know about SAHMs is that I would make a terrible one. I love my kids, but I would suck at being the sole provider 24/7. So I try not to judge the people who do it, because regardless of how they get it done, they're all doing something that I can't do, and I respect that.
My UO: I understand the need to vent, but I side-eye people who air their marital struggles or spouse vents on the internet. If I have an issue with my spouse that works me up to the point of venting about it, the person I'll be venting to is my spouse, as part of a conversation on how to address the issue. I guess it comes down to the fact that I'd be really hurt if I found a vent my husband posted about me online on what a terrible wife or idiot I was, especially if it was something that we hadn't already tried to work out together. So I wouldn't do that to him.
@kitchencolors - that's still at least 4-5 hours, five days a week that she has completely kid free. I just don't want to hear her whine about not being able to go back to her part time job because she's home with the kids.
Maybe I don't understand how difficult it is yet, but I also don't really understand the need for some sort of childcare 5 days a week. I'm fine with being a judgy bitch then.
@Katy Perry & John Mayer - I don't really care too much about celebs private lives and who they are screwing, but I actually have an opinion on these two. They were on Good Morning America not that long ago and he treated her like crap...on national television! I couldn't believe how he was talking to her. I'm glad they broke up. Anyone deserves better.
Yes! This is a huge part of the reason I can't behind the way she sells herself. The fact that she puts up with it and repeatedly goes back for more suggests that there are some self-esteem/self-worth issues she needs to work out. It wouldn't surprise me if she put up with a lot of crap from Russell Brand too. He doesn't strike me as being the most respectful of women either.
The other part of it is how willing she is to throw people like Miley Cyrus under the bus publicly for using sex and their bodies to sell their music and acts like she's too classy for that. Right, because Katy "I Kissed a Girl and I Liked It" Perry has never, ever done such a thing. Either own it or don't do it anymore if you're uncomfortable with it. Don't shame other women for doing it better than you. So again, I think there are some things she needs to sort out within herself before she tries to sell the whole "Roar" thing to other girls and women.
Re: UO
I've been going to the same OB, same office, same staff for the last seven years. There are times (more often than not) I've waited at least 30 minutes beyond my scheduled appt time. I don't think it's an issue of mismanagement of time, I think shit happens.
For the sake of beating this argument to death, I'll just say, I understand your frustration.
Your child. Your choice. I just don't understand it.
My UO is completly work related - I hate when customers come in and expect the teller to fill out their withdrawal or deposit slip! There is a station in the middle of the lobby for this, don't waste my time and the time of all the people behind you in line just because you aren't prepared. Also, have your ID out and don't freak out at me when I ask you for it. Just because you come in 'all the time' does not mean I have memorized your first name, last name, and date of birth.
Also, stop baby talking to me. I may be pregnant, but I can still comprehend.
That One Gal From Alaska
This. We made the mistake of revealing what our list was with DS. My mom still talks about how she thinks we should have picked our #2 name instead of what we picked. Too bad.
Sometimes, I just hate people.
This time I'm not even telling the names we've definitely decided against. Last time I told my sister I liked the name Phyllis but couldn't use it because I have a plant names Phyllis, and then until we found out it was a boy my sister called the baby Phyllis the Fetus.
I actually enjoyed hearing the suggestions from family last time, but then I'm the sort of person who usually listens politely to advice and then does whatever I was going to do anyway. I know I wouldn't like opinions on names ahead of time, and I know my own tendency to change my mind all the time, so I keep the name to myself. (We actually don't have a name yet though. Not sure if the family believes me or thinks I'm just being coy, but we seriously don't have a name yet.)
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
On the other end of the spectrum, I hate when people rush you through the line when you're already moving quickly. I always have my wallet out and load up my groceries as they're bagged, but inevitably someone tries to run me over with their shopping cart if I take TWO SECONDS to drop my wallet back in my purse once the transaction is complete. Drives me bonkers, as I'm not meandering in the line in any way, yet someone is tailgating me with their shopping cart. I shop at a ridiculously busy grocery store however, so if think tensions are high for a lot of people when they get to checkout.
I cannot stand the people who take the liberty to "help" me unload my cart so that they can get done faster.
I have a system. I don't like my meat products near my produce and I like all my frozen foods together. I am very quick at unloading my cart. I just like to keep food categories together to make it easier when I have to unload bags in my kitchen.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
THIS. Ugh, the fake feminism coming from this bitch is nauseating.
I worked for Publix in high school, and they train their cashiers and naggers according to this idea. Dry goods stay together, raw meats are separate from everything, etc. I don't get how grocery baggers still manage to do this. I actually aim for cashier lines where there is no bag boy or girl, because I prefer to bag it myself.
In the words of the best President evah, George W. Bush (insert sarcasm font here), I believe they saying goes "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, can't be fooled again....?"
My UO - I want to learn how to ignore my kid, just as well as she has perfected the art of ignoring me. I speak for no reason most days. Even after a good smack to the face from the floor after momma has said ten million times "don't run in the house, you'll fall and get hurt" she continues to do it. I give up. I solemnly swear to stop speaking these warnings, and to just laugh and enjoy the irony that is my daily routine with DD1.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I have a system. I don't like my meat products near my produce and I like all my frozen foods together. I am very quick at unloading my cart. I just like to keep food categories together to make it easier when I have to unload bags in my kitchen.
This. I always unload my groceries onto the belt in groups, hoping that the check-out person will bag them as such. It really irritates me when the bagging person is this chatty teenager that is talking to the cashier the whole time and just pops everything into any random bag. I've done the sorting for you, just put my little groups in bags.
I do this too!
We have a name, but when people ask we just say "oh we have a few in mind". We just don't know how we're going to feel about the name when she gets here, so we don't want to have to do a lot of back tracking. We're 90% set on this name, but TBH it's nobody's business what I name my child and what's wrong with the element of surprise? Plus, we've had a few people say "oh, are you sure?" when we've mentioned other names. I think if the baby is here and you've named them, they're less inclined to say stuff like that.
I had the opposite issue with the sex though. We found out and most people wanted to know, so we told them. Then DH's aunt and uncle decided they didn't want to know. Sorry, but that's not your decision. It just made life really awkward for a while because we had to be really careful around them. In the end I accidentally on purpose let it slip. It's not their child, so why should I go out of my way to be secretive? We're excited we're having a girl. Keeping it a secret doesn't change the outcome.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
* OB appts: I agree with all of you about being ok with waiting. But because I'm trying to save as much sick leave for the delivery/pediatrician appointments I always schedule the first appointment of the day. Therefore, I only occasionally have to wait a few minutes in the event the Dr gets stuck in traffic. Over two pregnancies I think there has only been one time when the first appointment wasn't available which leads me to believe that I am the only person at my practice who has figured this out. If people have an issue with waiting, find a way to get there at the crack of dawn and you're golden.
* I agree that John Mayer is a douche. However, I kind of liked him with Katy because I feel like she is pretty douchey herself.
* I sort of hate when celebrities have big "coming out" anouncements. While a part of me understands that when celebrities publicly "come out" it brings more awareness to the fact that there are gay people in this world and that perhaps it helps the younger generation feel more comfortable with who they are. However, I feel like these public announcements make something that, to me, is not a big deal, a big deal. I heard a story about Johnny Galecki (Roseanne / Big Bang Theory) and how there were all these rumors about him being gay and how reporters would always ask him about it and he would never comment. Then at one point people finally realized that he wasn't gay and he was asked why he never commented on it and his response was that he didn't feel like there was a need to defend himself against rumors that weren't offensive. I guess I wish that there wasn't a societal need to bucketize people.
@doctors running late - Bevo outlined this one pretty masterfully, but I'll add that I agree. It doesn't bother me one bit to have to wait. I genuinely appreciate the fact that my doctor will spend as much time as needed with me answering my questions...I'm sure she's doing the same for her other patients. Plus it means everything to me that when I've had my two "emergencies" this pregnancy, they had me come in immediately and meet with my OB and MFM. I'm sure that pushed back the schedule for the woman sitting next to me in the waiting room. Sorry, not sorry. I'd expect they'd do the same for her if she had an emergency and I'd gladly wait. Some things are more important than punctuality.
@Katy Perry & John Mayer - I don't really care too much about celebs private lives and who they are screwing, but I actually have an opinion on these two. They were on Good Morning America not that long ago and he treated her like crap...on national television! I couldn't believe how he was talking to her. I'm glad they broke up. Anyone deserves better.
@nanny care for SAHMs - my "friend" has three kids and is a SAHM. Her oldest is in school all day, and the youngest two are with the nanny M, W, F, and at the neighbors in the mornings on Tues, Thurs. So...essentially she's home alone with the kids 1/2 days twice a week. She pays a cleaning service, and lawn care service. Yes...I judge her, especially when she fake complains about missing her old part time job. I majorly judge her when she walks in with a new Kate Spade every week and brand new Pottery Barn furnishings all over. Judging!!!! Sue me.
Re judging SAHMs: All I know about SAHMs is that I would make a terrible one. I love my kids, but I would suck at being the sole provider 24/7. So I try not to judge the people who do it, because regardless of how they get it done, they're all doing something that I can't do, and I respect that.
My UO: I understand the need to vent, but I side-eye people who air their marital struggles or spouse vents on the internet. If I have an issue with my spouse that works me up to the point of venting about it, the person I'll be venting to is my spouse, as part of a conversation on how to address the issue. I guess it comes down to the fact that I'd be really hurt if I found a vent my husband posted about me online on what a terrible wife or idiot I was, especially if it was something that we hadn't already tried to work out together. So I wouldn't do that to him.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Maybe I don't understand how difficult it is yet, but I also don't really understand the need for some sort of childcare 5 days a week. I'm fine with being a judgy bitch then.
The other part of it is how willing she is to throw people like Miley Cyrus under the bus publicly for using sex and their bodies to sell their music and acts like she's too classy for that. Right, because Katy "I Kissed a Girl and I Liked It" Perry has never, ever done such a thing. Either own it or don't do it anymore if you're uncomfortable with it. Don't shame other women for doing it better than you. So again, I think there are some things she needs to sort out within herself before she tries to sell the whole "Roar" thing to other girls and women.