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  • jjtylerjjtyler member
    MamaismyJOB said:
    TigersFan12 said:
    He may have 78 games to choose from, but if you know anything at all about baseball then you know he'd much rather go to a division game or a game where they're playing a good team, as opposed to a Sunday day game against, say, the Astros or the Marlins (no offense to either of those teams). Cut the guy some slack.
    Completely agree with this.  Going to pointless game is just that, pointless. 
    Unless you are a fan. Can't pick and choose when you cheer and support your team. Obviously some games are better than others but as a true fan, you root on and support regardless of opponent. And Sunday afternoon, summer baseball games are phenomenal.
    I see both sides of this argument.  There IS nothing better than a Summer Sunday at the ballpark.  BUT, there is also nothing like the Mets vs Yankees (regardless of how poor they are playing through the year).  Being a Yankees fan,  I personally would have wanted to go to THAT game, ...but, I will be otherwise engaged.

    And yes, division games are definitely better....but the Phillies are in town later over the summer.  That's why I picked the 10 pack with a choice of all home games.

    I am not sure how going to a few baseball games ties into FMLA and time off from work for other posters though?  My husband is only entitled a small amount of time himself.  I am not trying to tie him down and keep him as a shut in with me.  And I don't understand how my asking for him to maybe shift some of the games to later in the summer is restricting the poor, deprived man. 

    I don't think it is unreasonable to have him think clearly that maybe it's not the best time to spend out of the house for 12-14 hours on a weekend just a few weeks post baby.  And I was hormonal, exhausted, and probably just peed myself with a sneeze when we were doing this.  I was CRANKY....not condescending.  He was annoyed.  It happens.

    He actually called and apologized.  I jokingly told him he had a bonehead moment and he agreed.  We are going to pick a couple of games to go to together later in the summer tonight.  And he will pick the rest....rules be damned.    
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  • jjtylerjjtyler member
    NorthernGal248 said:

    However, I don't tell him to f@ck off. If this gift was coming with rules you honestly should have told him about these rules before you let him get carried away with planning.

    Freaking out at other posters when you yourself said that you knew this sort of stuff gets flamed just shows immaturity. If you don't want someone to tell you how it is then don't put it up online.

    Honestly, I feel bad for your husband. It seems like he has to ask you for premission in order to go have a good time, and when he comes back you will use it against him in order to get whatever you want. Personally, this doesn't sound like a happy marriage.

    Um, I never told my husband to f@ck off, that was another posters interpretation of my apparently evil manner.  But you also think I am freaking out, so maybe that's just an overall misunderstanding.  I'm defending why I felt the way I felt.  And reacting to some of the snarky comments...but my BP has remained calm the whole time.

    Bonehead Husband and Wife will survive this, I promise you. 
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  • NorthernGal248NorthernGal248 member

     

    jjtyler said:
    NorthernGal248 said:

    However, I don't tell him to f@ck off. If this gift was coming with rules you honestly should have told him about these rules before you let him get carried away with planning.

    Freaking out at other posters when you yourself said that you knew this sort of stuff gets flamed just shows immaturity. If you don't want someone to tell you how it is then don't put it up online.

    Honestly, I feel bad for your husband. It seems like he has to ask you for premission in order to go have a good time, and when he comes back you will use it against him in order to get whatever you want. Personally, this doesn't sound like a happy marriage.

    Um, I never told my husband to f@ck off, that was another posters interpretation of my apparently evil manner.  But you also think I am freaking out, so maybe that's just an overall misunderstanding.  I'm defending why I felt the way I felt.  And reacting to some of the snarky comments...but my BP has remained calm the whole time.

    Bonehead Husband and Wife will survive this, I promise you. 


    That's my interpetation, too.

    Good luck to your husband.

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  • jjtylerjjtyler member
    I'll pass along your good wishes and concerns.

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  • TigersFan12TigersFan12 member
    MamaismyJOB said:

    LUCKY22 said:


    TigersFan12 said:

    He may have 78 games to choose from, but if you know anything at all about baseball then you know he'd much rather go to a division game or a game where they're playing a good team, as opposed to a Sunday day game against, say, the Astros or the Marlins (no offense to either of those teams). Cut the guy some slack.

    Completely agree with this.  Going to pointless game is just that, pointless. 
    Unless you are a fan. Can't pick and choose when you cheer and support your team. Obviously some games are better than others but as a true fan, you root on and support regardless of opponent.

    And Sunday afternoon, summer baseball games are phenomenal.

    DH and I are Detroit fans that happen to live in Minnesota. We pay to get the MLB package and we watch evey game on tv. My point was, if I'm going to pay to go to a game, it's going to be one that's more entertaining (which I our case is almost always against the division rival Twins). I enjoy Sunday baseball just as much as the next person, but if I'm going to pay for good seats it's probably going to be a night game against better competition. A Sunday day game would be a good one for OP's DH to take their daughter to.
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  • mileswithmylesmileswithmyles member
    TigersFan12 said:

    He may have 78 games to choose from, but if you know anything at all about baseball then you know he'd much rather go to a division game or a game where they're playing a good team, as opposed to a Sunday day game against, say, the Astros or the Marlins (no offense to either of those teams). Cut the guy some slack.

    I would post the preach GIF if I wasn't mobile. I am a huge baseball fan and all games are not created equal!
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  • rainydayluckrainydayluck member
    I would just be worried about the 2 weeks post surgery when you can't drive. As someone who is completely isolated (closest family is 5-6 hours away - no dependable friends), I would want to make sure DH is available (meaning not drunk at a game) in case of emergencies that would require driving. 3 weeks, you should be doing well. I had DD Nov 7th and was hosting Thanksgiving a few weeks later. 

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  • spinsoffresonancespinsoffresonance member
    I'm sorry you're frustrated. But I don't really understand the issue here. Yes he shouldn't go to a game on your csection day or the next week. But I don't see the big deal with him going in June. Isn't he going to be back at work then anyways?

    DD was a scheduled csection, DH was able to take two weeks off then went back to work. I was alone recovering from a csection taking care of a newborn and writing my PhD thesis. I also was getting out, meeting friends for lunch and even went to a few bars, all with DD in tow. This time I'm having a csection with an 18m old toddler to take care of. We already agreed that DH will work most of the week of my csection while I'm in the hospital so he can take a week off when I get home. But week 3, he's back at work and I'm alone with LO2 and DD1.
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  • Kaylee524Kaylee524 member
    I don't blame OP for not wanting her husband to be gone all day right after a c-section, although 3 weeks after seems like it would be long enough. But, whatever, if that's the parameter you guys want to put on it, go for it.

    I guess what stood out to me more was how you were responding to him. Even in your own characterization of the conversation, you went from zero to snarky immediately. If either DH or I talked to each other that way, that would be the end of that conversation, and the other person would be justifiably pissed. It's just not very nice.

    Like PPs have said, if there's a particular date you'd like him to start looking at games after, just tell him. You don't have to get all snarky about it if you haven't already given him any parameters.
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  • spacepotatoesspacepotatoes member
    becole42 said:
    This seems like a lot of responses for what seemed to me to be like a "I'm pregnant and want to bitch about something my husband did" thread. Yeah it might not be the biggest deal in the world, but I feel like OP has the right to bitch. And everyone else has the right to their opinions, but I don't think she was asking if we thought she was justified in her bitchiness. She just wanted to complain. I get you, OP. My hubby drives me crazy sometimes, too.
    I get what you're saying but it's an internet forum. It's kind of how it works. When you post stuff, you're going to get opinions whether you want them or not.

    OP actually did end her post with a question. People answered it.
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  • jenb_99jenb_99 member
    My husband has some major bonehead moments too, but I guess I don't see the big deal here. Maybe because mine travels for work and already has trips scheduled for days after DD arrives. I have friends and relatives close by and available to help, though, so maybe that's the difference?


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  • jjtylerjjtyler member

    This is still going?  yes, I was snarky to my husband and yes, he admitted to being a bonehead.  It was a silly moment for both of us (me being as big a house and struggling to commute every daymay have contributed to the crankiness).

    We resolved it.  I was venting/complaining/chatting about the experience here.  Everyone has a different relationship with different expectations.  I understand 100% and I can handle the snarky comments about it.  But, mine was that a doubleheader 3 weeks post C-section was not something I am comfortable with.

     

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