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  • MonicalynnsdMonicalynnsd member
    This original post did not offend me at all. This is a place to share ideas and thoughts of all kinds, there should be no judgment. How about we all be nice to each other. I would assume that she is trying to warn people because she really believes this is what caused her miscarriage, I feel like the majority of people's responses were harsh.
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  • TallMomma29TallMomma29 member
    @Monicalynnsd, this is an internet message board largely composed of adult women, not a kindergarten class.  If you can't see what was wrong with the original post, or why people responded the way they did, this is not the place for you.  

        



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  • HoshikitsuneHoshikitsune member

    Please allow me to correct some possible misconceptions about what I wrote:

    1)  I would hope people would call their doctor and get a professionals opinion.  Apparently, this is not the case for every person.  So be it.  If you want to believe everything you read on the internet, more power to you.  If you choose not to believe everything you read on the internet, more power to you.  Do what is right for you.  However, I still don't think one should berate someone for having a different opinion, but whatever, such is life.  Moving on…

    2) The only reason I posted was to give a possible solution to berating the OP.  You can either berate or not, what you choose to do is solely on you.  I was only giving another option, not to “wag my finger” at anyone.

    3) As far as those saying because I didn't have to try to have children and that rubs you the wrong way.  I am sorry you have had to try and have had struggles.  I just consider myself damn lucky.

    4)  As for those that believe I do not understand internet forums, I do but I still kinda believe in the niceness of strangers and believe in you get what you sow.  As such, I would rather be laid back and nice.  But again, to each their own. 

    5) As far as the OP’s original post, she said she thought she found the reason for her miscarriage.  No where does she mention that she did or did not speak a professional…so we don’t have the whole story on exactly where she got her information other than she had seen some other people posting that they believed this was also their reason and decided warn us.  This is the whole reason, why I said it might be better just to say thank you and move on.  But again, do what you will.

    6) Before anyone says that I am going to do a GBCB, nope not going to happen.  I will still largely lurk like I do and post here and there as I do.  I will say that I have seen a level of nastiness here and I am going to chalk it up to raging pregnancy hormones as they certainly do do a wonder on one.

     

    If you don’t like this post or what I say, I apologize that you dislike me so much.  If you do have an issue with me and would like to discuss it, feel free privately
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  • HoshikitsuneHoshikitsune member
    jessa8907 said:
    Hoshikitsune said:

    Please allow me to correct some possible misconceptions about what I wrote:

    1)  I would hope people would call their doctor and get a professionals opinion.  Apparently, this is not the case for every person.  So be it.  If you want to believe everything you read on the internet, more power to you.  If you choose not to believe everything you read on the internet, more power to you.  Do what is right for you.  However, I still don't think one should berate someone for having a different opinion, but whatever, such is life.  Moving on…

    2) The only reason I posted was to give a possible solution to berating the OP.  You can either berate or not, what you choose to do is solely on you.  I was only giving another option, not to “wag my finger” at anyone.

    3) As far as those saying because I didn't have to try to have children and that rubs you the wrong way.  I am sorry you have had to try and have had struggles.  I just consider myself damn lucky.

    4)  As for those that believe I do not understand internet forums, I do but I still kinda believe in the niceness of strangers and believe in you get what you sow.  As such, I would rather be laid back and nice.  But again, to each their own. 

    5) As far as the OP’s original post, she said she thought she found the reason for her miscarriage.  No where does she mention that she did or did not speak a professional…so we don’t have the whole story on exactly where she got her information other than she had seen some other people posting that they believed this was also their reason and decided warn us.  This is the whole reason, why I said it might be better just to say thank you and move on.  But again, do what you will.

    6) Before anyone says that I am going to do a GBCB, nope not going to happen.  I will still largely lurk like I do and post here and there as I do.  I will say that I have seen a level of nastiness here and I am going to chalk it up to raging pregnancy hormones as they certainly do do a wonder on one.

     

    If you don’t like this post or what I say, I apologize that you dislike me so much.  If you do have an issue with me and would like to discuss it, feel free privately
    What if I want to do it publicly? Are you going to stop me?

    You really need to figure out how this community functions. In response to #2, no one berated her until she decided to lash out at us for being "mean," which you would know if you read the whole thread. In response to #3, that was a backhanded apology if I ever saw one. "I'm sorry I'm lucky." For someone who believes in the "niceness of strangers" you sure do seem to lack empathy.

    ETA: And my hormones are just fine thank you very much.
    I will not stop you if you decide to do it publicly.  That is your choice.  However, it is also my choice to either respond or not.  I did read the whole thread and I am still going be my laid back self and say thank you for the information as you see it.

    I will not apologize for how I worded my response. I was damn lucky...I could have not been damn lucky given that most of my life...I have been handed nothing but lemons. I am not going to look a gift horse in the mouth and just be thankful for my little girl that is growing in me and kicking my kidney as I type.

    I am very glad your hormones are fine because some days mine are not and then I go eat chocolate and pickles.

    @tundrabunny I am not here to win bump friends...I really don't care about that stuff.  I am here to waste some time and relax after work and before my husband gets home when I have to cook, clean, so on and so forth.  Common sense, I have come to discover does not seem as common as one would think and neither is courtesy.  Most parents don't even teach either anymore from what I can tell.  I could be wrong and just haven't seen it yet and only time will tell.  If you want to talk to me publicly, please be my guest and do as you see fit and I shall as well.
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  • HoshikitsuneHoshikitsune member
    jessa8907 said:
    Hoshikitsune said:
    I will not stop you if you decide to do it publicly.  That is your choice.  However, it is also my choice to either respond or not.  I did read the whole thread and I am still going be my laid back self and say thank you for the information as you see it.

    I will not apologize for how I worded my response. I was damn lucky...I could have not been damn lucky given that most of my life...I have been handed nothing but lemons. I am not going to look a gift horse in the mouth and just be thankful for my little girl that is growing in me and kicking my kidney as I type.

    I am very glad your hormones are fine because some days mine are not and then I go eat chocolate and pickles.

    @tundrabunny I am not here to win bump friends...I really don't care about that stuff.  I am here to waste some time and relax after work and before my husband gets home when I have to cook, clean, so on and so forth.  Common sense, I have come to discover does not seem as common as one would think and neither is courtesy.  Most parents don't even teach either anymore from what I can tell.  I could be wrong and just haven't seen it yet and only time will tell.  If you want to talk to me publicly, please be my guest and do as you see fit and I shall as well.
    No one is telling you not to be grateful to be pregnant. Having a little empathy for those that struggled to get their babies is nice, however. 

    It's clear that you are convinced that you are right and the rest of us are wrong so I'll just leave it at that. 
    I never said that I didn't feel for those that have issues getting pregnant.  If I did, please quote it and point it out.  If someone came to me and said I am having issues getting pregnant, I would give them hug and moral support.  Past that, there is nothing more I can say or do.  I am sorry that people have issues getting pregnant, there is nothing more I can say or do on a board other than say I am sorry you had issues getting pregnant and I have said that several times.  I was just damn lucky and I am not going to say I am sorry for being damn lucky once in my entire life.  If you don't like that, tough, don't like it that is your choice.

    Do what you will with that response as my husband pulling up to the house and I have other things that need to be done.
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  • shamyfowlershamyfowler member
    Hoshikitsune said:

    Please allow me to correct some possible misconceptions about what I wrote:

    1)  I would hope people would call their doctor and get a professionals opinion.  Apparently, this is not the case for every person.  So be it.  If you want to believe everything you read on the internet, more power to you.  If you choose not to believe everything you read on the internet, more power to you.  Do what is right for you.  However, I still don't think one should berate someone for having a different opinion, but whatever, such is life.  Moving on…

    2) The only reason I posted was to give a possible solution to berating the OP.  You can either berate or not, what you choose to do is solely on you.  I was only giving another option, not to “wag my finger” at anyone.

    3) As far as those saying because I didn't have to try to have children and that rubs you the wrong way.  I am sorry you have had to try and have had struggles.  I just consider myself damn lucky.

    4)  As for those that believe I do not understand internet forums, I do but I still kinda believe in the niceness of strangers and believe in you get what you sow.  As such, I would rather be laid back and nice.  But again, to each their own. 

    5) As far as the OP’s original post, she said she thought she found the reason for her miscarriage.  No where does she mention that she did or did not speak a professional…so we don’t have the whole story on exactly where she got her information other than she had seen some other people posting that they believed this was also their reason and decided warn us.  This is the whole reason, why I said it might be better just to say thank you and move on.  But again, do what you will.

    6) Before anyone says that I am going to do a GBCB, nope not going to happen.  I will still largely lurk like I do and post here and there as I do.  I will say that I have seen a level of nastiness here and I am going to chalk it up to raging pregnancy hormones as they certainly do do a wonder on one.

     

    If you don’t like this post or what I say, I apologize that you dislike me so much.  If you do have an issue with me and would like to discuss it, feel free privately
    So, what's the problem?

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  • TallMomma29TallMomma29 member
    birthjunkie13 said:
    jessa8907 said:
    I love you.

    Also, does anyone else feel like they just banged their head against the wall repeatedly?
    I kept thinking, is she serious?  She's missing the point.  Potentially missing all the points. 
    You can't reason with crazy!

    It really, really stresses me out when people just keep talking past each other.  It's like a Real Housewives reunion episode on here every time drama flares up!  The reasonable people keep trying to explain basic logic and reason, and the crazy people just keep ignoring all logic and reason and posting long rambling paragraphs trying to white knight behavior that is not worthy of white knighting, gradually just sounding more and more crazy.  It hurts my brain!  I need a drink and I can't have one  
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  • BBColt78BBColt78 member

    Hoshikitsune said:
    jessa8907 said:
    Hoshikitsune said:
    I will not stop you if you decide to do it publicly.  That is your choice.  However, it is also my choice to either respond or not.  I did read the whole thread and I am still going be my laid back self and say thank you for the information as you see it.

    I will not apologize for how I worded my response. I was damn lucky...I could have not been damn lucky given that most of my life...I have been handed nothing but lemons. I am not going to look a gift horse in the mouth and just be thankful for my little girl that is growing in me and kicking my kidney as I type.

    I am very glad your hormones are fine because some days mine are not and then I go eat chocolate and pickles.

    @tundrabunny I am not here to win bump friends...I really don't care about that stuff.  I am here to waste some time and relax after work and before my husband gets home when I have to cook, clean, so on and so forth.  Common sense, I have come to discover does not seem as common as one would think and neither is courtesy.  Most parents don't even teach either anymore from what I can tell.  I could be wrong and just haven't seen it yet and only time will tell.  If you want to talk to me publicly, please be my guest and do as you see fit and I shall as well.
    No one is telling you not to be grateful to be pregnant. Having a little empathy for those that struggled to get their babies is nice, however. 

    It's clear that you are convinced that you are right and the rest of us are wrong so I'll just leave it at that. 
    I never said that I didn't feel for those that have issues getting pregnant.  If I did, please quote it and point it out.  If someone came to me and said I am having issues getting pregnant, I would give them hug and moral support.  Past that, there is nothing more I can say or do.  I am sorry that people have issues getting pregnant, there is nothing more I can say or do on a board other than say I am sorry you had issues getting pregnant and I have said that several times.  I was just damn lucky and I am not going to say I am sorry for being damn lucky once in my entire life.  If you don't like that, tough, don't like it that is your choice.

    Do what you will with that response as my husband pulling up to the house and I have other things that need to be done.
    Spoken like a person who made an insensitive comment and is back peddling. Your original comment "I wasn't even tying" blah effing blah is the insensitive comment that you made. Then, saying you won't apologize for being lucky is also insensitive. 
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