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dseres87
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I suppose I've been lurking here long enough and am ready to introduce myself to you ladies. My son was born on February 14th at 9:17pm at 23 weeks and 2 days. He lived for 10 hours, and passed away the next morning at 7:20 am. He was just simply too tiny to live here on Earth, and died of prematurity. His birth, and subsequent death, was a huge surprise to me. I had a totally normal pregnancy, and was happy and healthy the whole time. On the evening he was born, I started having some pain, which I ultimately figured out were contractions. The labor was so fast and intense I ended up going to the hospital by ambulance. I was not bleeding at the time. When I got to the hospital, I was already 10cm dilated and fully effaced. I was rushed to the delivery room, and started pushing. They had no idea why I was in labor at this point, but just that the baby was coming. My water broke while pushing, which then revealed a huge amount of blood. At that time, they figured out I had placental abruption, despite having no risk factors for this at all. My cervix then went back to 4cm, and the baby's heart rate became inconsistent. We opted for an emergency C-section. Because of this, my sweet Brayden got to spend 10 hours here on Earth. I held him in my arms as he took his last breath. There was nothing at all wrong with Brayden, he was just too little to live outside the womb. I have since had some labs and testing done, none of which have revealed why I experienced placental abruption- it was truly a random thing.
Along with grieving the loss of my sweet baby, I am still just in absolute shock over the whole situation. It just doesn't seem real that I worked all day that day, even went to dinner with my husband, and then, in a matter of 10 hours, had my son and also lost my son. How does this happen in a normal pregnancy?! (I know the answer, but it's still difficult to process). Have any other mommas lost their babies due to placental abruption? What was your experience on any subsequent pregnancies? I see MFM in a couple weeks, but have generally been told I will be considered high risk next time and will have more ultrasounds. I am so sad to have to join this group, but hope I can both find comfort and comfort others here.
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I never thought, even with the issues I was having, that it would result in my baby being born asleep. I know that we may never have all the answers, no matter how hard we search for them.
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I too had a placental abruption - this is our story: Our son Colton was born till at 32 weeks back in August. I noticed I wasn't feeling him move and by the time I got to the doctor, they could not find his heartbeat. By that point, I had started having contractions, and once I got to the hospital, and they popped my bag of waters, realized I was bleeding pretty heavily. I had to have an emergency c-section because I was losing so much blood, and they determined I had a complete placental abruption. I never felt pain or noticed any bleeding from it before getting to the hospital and they were not able to determine what caused the abruption. My pregnancy up until that day was completely normal, healthy, no issues at all, as you said. It is completely shocking.
We have had testing done, including genetic testing, and the cause is still unknown, which is really hard. My doctor has assured us that since no cause was found, and I have none of the other risk factors for an abruption, my chance of having another is only slightly elevated, (1.5% versus 1% initially according to her). I would be considered high risk with a future pregnancy and would have ultrasounds every 4 to 6 weeks, and bi-weekly non-stress tests and weekly ultrasounds from 30 weeks on (or sooner if so needed). The idea of trying for another baby was very scary at first, but we have decided we want to try for another child. Due to my c-section we were told we had to wait at least 6 months before trying, and were encouraged to wait a whole year. This is also giving us time to really be ready and want another baby, as well as time to really mourn the loss of our little boy. That wait period Is different for everyone, and a good question to ask your doctor, as you may not need to wait as long.
Again, I am so sorry to welcome you to the board. These ladies are strong, supportive, and so encouraging and while our situations are all different, we can relate to what you are going through. Please know we are here whenever you need us, and if you would like to PM me, feel free.
It is something no one should experience so early. I will keep you in my thoughts
Thank you for all the support and kind words. It's promising to hear of subsequent healthy pregnancies. I always knew I wanted to have children, but never realized just how much I would love them until I had Brayden. It makes me so anxious to be pregnant again, but I know I will have to wait due to the C-section.
I had never even heard of placental abruption until I experienced it myself. I can't believe how common it really is. I'm sorry to hear of so many other ladies having gone through the same thing. That's the hardest part- having such a healthy pregnancy end so quickly, just to lose my baby.
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First, I wanted to tell you that I love your picture of your little boy. My situation was different than yours but I can relate to everything happening so suddenly. I was 38 weeks and had been feeling "off" for a couple weeks. I went to my normal 38 week appointment and they discovered protein in my urine for the first time and requested I come back the next day to recheck. By the time I saw them the next day, our son was gone. I was suddenly induced and I was dealing with an unexpected pregnancy disease for 2 weeks after birth. It was like one day I was watching for signs of labor beginning, and the next he was gone and I was in ICU. I was happy and healthy the whole time, just as you described. I know the feeling of "How could this happen?"
You might not have answers, but I hope you will at least experience the peace of knowing it was nothing you did and it was out of your control. We're here for you.
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Many hugs to you and your family. Hate to welcome anyone new to this board
My pregnancy with Adeline was relatively normal as well. Her death wasn't caused by placental abruption, but by a cord accident sometime dying my 39th week. At least that's all we can surmise. She was perfect and I delivered her one day before her due date.
I know it's so hard to face this new reality. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. (Hugs)
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