Discussion Topic: Babies in Hotel Rooms

Re: Discussion Topic: Babies in Hotel Rooms

• Ylvelill member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  People need in general to be more tolerant of others. I do not understand why people get so upset over hearing/seeing other people doing whatever. If you don't like people go buy a hut in the woods where no one can bother you!
  
  This of course doesn't mean you shouldn't be kind and considered of others, it just means you can't be expected to always be invisible.
  
  Eta: changed should to shouldn't...

  Report13 Reply
• Loading the player...
• JayBzo member

  March 2014

  I think it is a tough call because I would be super annoyed as well as upset if this happened to me on either side - I would be annoyed if I couldn't sleep and upset knowing I was disrupting others. On the other hand - what other option do you have? Go take your baby outside? No. So what do people expect? 

  
  

  In no way should babies be banned - I agree with asking for a room where we would disturb less people and if things got really bad maybe I would try to sneak off somewhere - like the gym in the middle of the night or if it was nice outside maybe a stroll outside to calm baby? But I don't know - people need to understand and as long parents do the best they can then that is all I would ask.

  
  

  It is different in a situation where you can leave - I don't want my child ruining some experience for others, so it is my duty to remove them if I can.

  
  

  

  
  

  Report0 Reply
• tealowl member

  March 2014

  I think parents need to be curteous to others in a shared enviroment. Yes, it's really annoying if I'm out to dinner at a nice place and someones kids is running around or screaming. It would be really difficult to enjoy a hotel stay if I heard a screaming baby at night.

  It just really depends on the place for me. If it's a 'family style' restaurant or hotel, then it's expected to probably happen. If it's an more upscale place, I'd be pissed off.

  I'd say just do your best. I know I'm going to have a hollering baby soon, and I'm the type to take baby out of the situation to calm them down. That means leaving a place or going outside, etc. If possible. Or, I go alone to places, like grocery shopping, or bring someone with. I have that type of help, some people don't.

  But other people need some tolerance. Babies cry for Petes sake!

  "Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."

  TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.

  BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!

  

   

  

  

  Report0 Reply
• honeybee434 member

  March 2014

  I wish hotels had options of kid-free floors or wings that can be requested, and likewise areas where parents with kids would have more understanding room neighbors, but I definitely don't think that babies should be banned. There isn't a lot anyone can do about a baby crying all night, and I guarantee the parents wish the baby didn't cry all night, either. If I were the parents I may have tried a change of scenery to the lobby, etc, just to see if that helped the situation at all. It's a sucky place to be in, regardless I feel for them.
  
  That being said, I wouldn't be happy if I paid to sleep in a room and wasn't able to sleep from a crying baby. I think I would have been more proactive, though, and requested a room change, even if it was 11pm at night to let the hotel deal with it since they are the ones who chose to skimp on how soundproof their walls are. I definitely don't see the need for leaving a nasty note after the fact, though. That doesn't do anyone any good and doesn't solve anything, it's just being sh*tty for the sake of being sh*tty.

  

  Report3 Reply
• abunai523 member

  March 2014

  I think that overall, everyone needs to be courteous of everyone else. So, parents need to stay on top of situations and maybe try walking down to the lobby, or other options for soothing, which I'm sure they were (they don't want to be up with their baby crying either!). BUT I think the people who left the note were completely out of line with that reaction. 

  
  

  Babies cry! It's what they do, and I feel like in our society we do a lot of family shaming. Don't bf in public, don't take your kids to a restaurant/hotel/plane, heaven forbid you lose your job and suddenly need assistance because all of the sudden 'it's your fault for having so many kids you can't afford'. I don't understand that, there's always this blame on parents, and it seems to be everywhere.

  
  

  We've all seen the parents that just let their kids run amok and do nothing, heck I was on a plane once where a little boy kept racing the aisles and hitting the other passengers while his mother was clearly inebriated, and parents need to be courteous, but I think as a society we've lost a lot of compassion for our fellow man, it's not always about you and some more flexibility is needed. It's unreasonable to treat families like they should always be separate and that their main concern should be your needs.

  Report4 Reply
• jnnfrrose6 member

  March 2014

  Another reason I'm glad we travel with a noise machine.  It helps DS sleep and drowns out any noise either he makes or someone else does.

  Report4 Reply
• baby+drumm member

  March 2014

  I always try to be courteous when in public.  With that being said, I would be much more tolerant of hearing a crying baby in the room next door than I would hearing a drunk, loud party going on next door in the middle of the night.

  

  
  

  
  

  

  

  Report11 Reply
• ashcross member

  March 2014

  futuremrsbrian said:

  I think that overall, everyone needs to be courteous of everyone else. So, parents need to stay on top of situations and maybe try walking down to the lobby, or other options for soothing, which I'm sure they were (they don't want to be up with their baby crying either!). BUT I think the people who left the note were completely out of line with that reaction. 

  
  

  Babies cry! It's what they do, and I feel like in our society we do a lot of family shaming. Don't bf in public, don't take your kids to a restaurant/hotel/plane, heaven forbid you lose your job and suddenly need assistance because all of the sudden 'it's your fault for having so many kids you can't afford'. I don't understand that, there's always this blame on parents, and it seems to be everywhere.

  
  

  We've all seen the parents that just let their kids run amok and do nothing, heck I was on a plane once where a little boy kept racing the aisles and hitting the other passengers while his mother was clearly inebriated, and parents need to be courteous, but I think as a society we've lost a lot of compassion for our fellow man, it's not always about you and some more flexibility is needed. It's unreasonable to treat families like they should always be separate and that their main concern should be your needs.

  Everything you said. I'm so sick of people acting like having a baby or having a family is the plague and you can't leave your home if you do have a baby or family..that you must isolate yourself from everyone else. I've seen my fair share of inconsiderate, negligent parents but overall I'm sick of this whole mentality. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

  Report4 Reply
• iris427 member

  March 2014

  Children exist.  They sometimes go out in public and travel with their families. We are not entitled to never be annoyed by other people in life.  Get over it.

  
  

  
  

  Big sister {September 2008} Sweet boy {April 2011} Fuzzy Bundle {ETA July 2014}
  

  
  

  
  

  Report15 Reply
• [Deleted User] member

  March 2014

  I avoid hotels when I have infants that still wake up in the night for this reason, if I can (stay in a cottage/cabin or something instead if possible). I just feel bad even though babies cry and there's not much to do about that. I don't mind other people's crying babies. I don't even mind tantrums as I know kids are probably overtired/overstimulated/out of their comfort zone. But it stresses me out when it's my own so if I have options besides a hotel, I try to do those.

  
  

  That said, DH told me last week when he was traveling he was kept awake every night by couples having sex on both sides of his room so I figure if your coitus is loud enough to be disruptive, you can't complain too much about babies.

  Report2 Reply
• cookieinva member

  March 2014

  Babies are not the only noisy guests in hotels and I am pretty sure none of said noisy guests get banned.
  
  We travel. We take our children on planes, to hotels, and even restaurants...real ones, not just for fast food! We prepare, we control and our children as best we can, we do not expect more from them than they have already proven capable of handling. In general they behave beautifully...really we have had so many compliments so many times for other diners, airplane passengers, etc. and yes we sometimes catch that glare from someone who basically thinks children should not be allowed out of homes or schools or something. And yes, they have a bad day now and then and we handle it appropriately.
  
  Ultimately I am like ten thousand times more sympathetic to parents whose child is acting up than I am to idiot, ignorant adults who ought to know better, have no real excuse, do not try to modify or mitigate their own bad behavior, and are unapologetic. We all know when a kid is acting up most times it is the parents who are bothered and distressed the most (exception for the occasional crappy parents who don't care or do anything of course). The adults on the other hand usually don't care or even think of anyone but themselves.

  

  Report5 Reply
• eortman member

  March 2014

  We always ask for a room away from other guests, if possible. Usually the hotel will oblige. We try to be considerate of other guests and keep the volume of our children down as best as possible, but there is no way that I am going to stop traveling and staying in hotels because I have young children/baby. 

  Babies crying doesn't really bother me and never has. However, screaming kids running up and down the hallway in the middle of the night does, but I still wouldn't write someone a nasty note about it. I think people in general just need to be more tolerant. 

                                          

  

  Report3 Reply
• flmomof4 member

  March 2014

  People need to get over it.  Parents sometimes need or want to go somewhere and might need to use a plane or hotel room.  If the baby cries that's unfortunate, but as long as the parent isn't being a jerk about it, get over it.  I promise it's 100% worse for the poor parent who just wants to control their child and can't than it is for the person who has to sit by and do nothing.
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  BFP#2 7/3/13.  U/S at 6w4d showed 1 heartbeat at 127 bmp and 2 empty sacs.  MMC discovered at 10w4d.  D&C 8/27/13.  Pathology showed normal boy.  Missing our babies every day.
  BFP#3 10/29/13!  Beta#1 at 4w5d - 2141, beta#2 at 5w1d - 7651!  U/S 11/21/13 showed baby measuring 2 days ahead with a heartbeat of 127 bmp!
  

  Report5 Reply
• h2olawrence member

  March 2014

  our oldest daughter was born in another state and we were told it would only be one to two weeks before we were able to take her home. we stayed in the hospital until she was released, rented a condo (VRBO) for a week, and then went to a comfort inn assuming we would be going home in a matter of days.

  due to an idiotic social worker, it ended up being 1 day short of 4 weeks. more than two weeks in a hotel room with a newborn, while constantly being told we should be able to go home 'any day now'. luckily, our daughter is an angel AND dh and i were both there to keep her (mostly) happy. AND the hotel staff was awesome. and we there weren't any problems (that we were told about, anyway).

  but i remember vividly the severe frustration with the situation and whenEVER i'm in a position to help a parent with an unhappy baby/toddler, i take it!!

  Married and TTC: 30AUG2003

  5 IVF cycles with no conception: 2006

  DD born and in my arms through domestic adoption: 06FEB2008

  

  Loved and lost (MMC): AUG2010

  

  Report1 Reply
• AutumnBonfire member

  March 2014

  Hotels need to start doing a better job of soundproofing when they build. People with babies have just as much of a right to stay in hotels as anyone else. There are a lot of annoying sounds in hotels - people having sex, too loud tvs, drunks, music, kids running around on the floor above you, loud talking, etc. Some people are considerate, some are not. Some things are unpredicted, like crying babies.That's the chance you take when you leave the comfort of your own home. The people who were bothered should have gone to the front desk and asked to be moved. Writing a nasty note after the fact didn't do any good.

  
  

                                                           July 14 May Siggy Challenge: Cute Animals

  

  

  
  

  

  

  Report6 Reply
• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  I have become cynical and disbelieving of all these random hate filled notes being left everywhere and garnering media attention

  
  

  
  

  User Banned You have been banned from posting on the forums until 01-11-2165 8:18 AM. The reason for this ban is Inappropriate Links or Signature. Please return to participate in the forums after the ban has elapsed.

  Report6 Reply
• MississippiCatfish member

  March 2014

  I can see where it's annoying, but people seriously need to chill out. Not everyone stays in a hotel because they're on vacation, either. They could be displaced from their home due to flood/fire or in town for a funeral. We had to stay in a hotel for a month when LO was 4-5 months, not because it was super fun - because it was necessary. I was MUCH more frustrated with the couple next door having loud sex at all hours than the few babies I heard crying throughout our stay.

  *E 10/2012, H 7/2014, F 2/2016*
  

  
  

  Report2 Reply