Let's complain about or MIL's (or moms)

jpoindahouse · March 2014

BlueDot818 said:

I swear once they become the MIL te crazy multiplies by 100x! Ok here's mine... (I have a million but I'll just share this) LO came a bit earlier than expected so DH called MIL after the birth and said "I have an early Vday present for you!" When he told her LO was born her response was, "oh that's early, what's wrong with him?" DH assured her he was perfect and nothing was amiss... And asked her if she would like to know the name we chose... Here's how that went.. MIL: I already know the name. DH: No, you do not. MIL: Lauren told me. DH: nope, I think you're mistaken. But what do you think it is. MIL: I KNOW it's Henry. DH: his name is Theodore. MIL: NO, it's not. You're lying. DH: Um no.. That's his name... MIL: well I don't believe you. put Lauren in the phone now ((side note this is 20 min after the birth and I'm doing skin to skin and getting stitched up)) MIL: Lauren what is the baby's name? Me: Theodore MIL: not Henry? Me: No. MIL: ((begins crying bc her assumption was wrong)) We had liked Henry. So it was a good guess I suppose, but she apparently told the whole family that Henry was the name, so she looked like a dope when it wasn't. She was pissed/upset we didn't use it. Hence the tears. No congrats, how are you feeling... Nothing. Then she shows up at the hospital with no notice at 7:30 that night. Asking why we would pick that name.

I think you may win the award for weirdest MIL. That's just so, so strange

shellbell3845 · March 2014

BlueDot818 said:
Here's one more MIL tid bit for all you team blue mamas like me...

"A daughter is a daughter for life. A son is only your son until he takes a wife."

Told to me when we announced that we were having a boy.

Dear MIL,

I am taking notes on how not to treat my future DIL.

Love,
Mommy to a son

shellbell3845 · March 2014

My mil lives five miles away. She can't be bothered to visit. She's seen LO twice. When she does come, she's so rude to me that I'm about to snap. For example, last time she was here she totally ignored me. When I answered one of her incessant questions, she didn't believe my answer. Then -- while I'm sitting four feet from her, she says "when is her mom coming again?" I'm sitting right here. Ask me yourself!

littlepig2 · March 2014

BlueDot818 said:
Here's one more MIL tid bit for all you team blue mamas like me...

"A daughter is a daughter for life. A son is only your son until he takes a wife."

Told to me when we announced that we were having a boy.

I hate your MIL!! she makes me so angry for you. I think she and my MIL would be best buddies, though.

sandraanddrew · March 2014

golfergirl08 said:

I would really like to TP some of these moms/MsIL for you ladies. @sandraanddrew you don't have to share if you don't want to, but now I am curious what happened with the MIL with your first kid...

@golfergirl08

Most it revolved around his baptism. She wasn't happy with our choice of godparents or officiant. She went as far as calling the priest and attempting to change who the godfather was and tell the priest of our church that someone else would be officiating the service in his church. The priest called me to tell me what had happened. When DH confronted her, she flew off the handle completely and ranted about what a bitch I was and what horrible parents we were. She then emailed her entire family and told them I was taking her son and grandson from her and that they shouldn't go to the baptism. None of them came. It took DH a long time to be comfortable even speaking to her again.

MissDemeanor · March 2014

@sandraandandrew I'm so sorry that you had to go through that! I don't blame you for wanting to keep your distance from her

cksmith29 · March 2014

BlueDot818 said:
Here's one more MIL tid bit for all you team blue mamas like me...

"A daughter is a daughter for life. A son is only your son until he takes a wife."

Told to me when we announced that we were having a boy.

You poor thing. That woman is crazy.

MissDemeanor · March 2014

I send a picture of LO to my boyfriend at work every day, so he sees what's going on. Occasionally I'd be cc'd on a reply, showing he'd forwarded that pic to his mom. NBD. I found out yesterday that he forwards the picture EVERY day. Somehow that annoys me, and makes me want to stop sending them at all. #irrational #pettybitch

jpoindahouse · March 2014

MissDemeanor said:

I send a picture of LO to my boyfriend at work every day, so he sees what's going on. Occasionally I'd be cc'd on a reply, showing he'd forwarded that pic to his mom. NBD. I found out yesterday that he forwards the picture EVERY day. Somehow that annoys me, and makes me want to stop sending them at all. #irrational #pettybitch

This would really get to me as well. I've started posting any pics I want to post on facebook immediately because I know that as soon as I send them to DH he is going to forward them to his mother who will post them on social media before me. Ugh! #i'mapettybitch #Iwannapostfirst

sandraanddrew · March 2014

golfergirl08 said:

sandraanddrew said:

golfergirl08 said:

I would really like to TP some of these moms/MsIL for you ladies.

@sandraanddrew you don't have to share if you don't want to, but now I am curious what happened with the MIL with your first kid...

@golfergirl08
Most it revolved around his baptism. She wasn't happy with our choice of godparents or officiant. She went as far as calling the priest and attempting to change who the godfather was and tell the priest of our church that someone else would be officiating the service in his church. The priest called me to tell me what had happened. When DH confronted her, she flew off the handle completely and ranted about what a bitch I was and what horrible parents we were. She then emailed her entire family and told them I was taking her son and grandson from her and that they shouldn't go to the baptism. None of them came. It took DH a long time to be comfortable even speaking to her again.

wow @sandraanddrew, I am so sorry you had to go through that! My "love it" was because you deserve a hug. She sounds terrible :-(

Thanks. She's a handful for sure. But it sounds like we have a lot of crappy MILs on F14. Lucky us.

MissDemeanor · March 2014

sandraanddrew said:

@golfergirl08
Most it revolved around his baptism. She wasn't happy with our choice of godparents or officiant. She went as far as calling the priest and attempting to change who the godfather was and tell the priest of our church that someone else would be officiating the service in his church. The priest called me to tell me what had happened. When DH confronted her, she flew off the handle completely and ranted about what a bitch I was and what horrible parents we were. She then emailed her entire family and told them I was taking her son and grandson from her and that they shouldn't go to the baptism. None of them came. It took DH a long time to be comfortable even speaking to her again.

wow @sandraanddrew, I am so sorry you had to go through that! My "love it" was because you deserve a hug. She sounds terrible :-(
Thanks. She's a handful for sure. But it sounds like we have a lot of crappy MILs on F14. Lucky us.

Yikes! I just realized one day WE will be the MIL's and people will be saying this shit about us.

I

shellbell3845 · March 2014

MissDemeanor said:

sandraanddrew said:

golfergirl08 said:

@golfergirl08
Most it revolved around his baptism. She wasn't happy with our choice of godparents or officiant. She went as far as calling the priest and attempting to change who the godfather was and tell the priest of our church that someone else would be officiating the service in his church. The priest called me to tell me what had happened. When DH confronted her, she flew off the handle completely and ranted about what a bitch I was and what horrible parents we were. She then emailed her entire family and told them I was taking her son and grandson from her and that they shouldn't go to the baptism. None of them came. It took DH a long time to be comfortable even speaking to her again.

wow @sandraanddrew, I am so sorry you had to go through that! My "love it" was because you deserve a hug. She sounds terrible :-(

Thanks. She's a handful for sure. But it sounds like we have a lot of crappy MILs on F14. Lucky us.

Yikes! I just realized one day WE will be the MIL's and people will be saying this shit about us.

I

No, because we will learn from these BSC women and not let history repeat itself. Right?!?!

dunvilles · March 2014

We met my MIL for dinner last night. It was the first time she has seen DS2. She made snide comments about how her boyfriend and his son haven't spoke for years because the son's wife "made him choose between his dad and her..."

DH has had discussions with MIL about the way she acts, her drug abuse, and alcohol abuse. He has told her that she won't like the outcome if she makes him choose between me or her. So this comment was a dig at me obviously...

Crazy ass woman!

melissaf22 · March 2014

I have nothing to complain about my mom, she lets me vent all of frustrations and never judges just tells me I'm doing a great job! She also comes over and does my laundry and dishes.
My MIL lives in Israel so I don't see her enough to have a lot of complaints but in the 3 weeks that LO has been around she has only been on Skype once and only because MH had to ask her a question. We are going there in less then 2 weeks but I would think she would be on there every weekend to see her only grandchild. My FIL is online multiple times a week and MH only in the last couple of years has had a relationship with him.
The only person that is driving me crazy is my grandma because she questions every single thing I do and tells me I am spoiling my baby by not letting her cry....she is 3 weeks old!! Then she insists I must not be producing enough milk and that's why she is hungry all of the time, which is a struggle I am having but the ped told me that she was doing great and is def eating enough because she's gaining weight! Sometimes I just want to yell at her and tell her things have changed in the last 55 years but I can't!

jpoindahouse · March 2014

melissaf22 said:

I have nothing to complain about my mom, she lets me vent all of frustrations and never judges just tells me I'm doing a great job! She also comes over and does my laundry and dishes. My MIL lives in Israel so I don't see her enough to have a lot of complaints but in the 3 weeks that LO has been around she has only been on Skype once and only because MH had to ask her a question. We are going there in less then 2 weeks but I would think she would be on there every weekend to see her only grandchild. My FIL is online multiple times a week and MH only in the last couple of years has had a relationship with him. The only person that is driving me crazy is my grandma because she questions every single thing I do and tells me I am spoiling my baby by not letting her cry....she is 3 weeks old!! Then she insists I must not be producing enough milk and that's why she is hungry all of the time, which is a struggle I am having but the ped told me that she was doing great and is def eating enough because she's gaining weight! Sometimes I just want to yell at her and tell her things have changed in the last 55 years but I can't!

That sucks! Just a suggestion- have you thought about having grandma accompany you to a pedi appointment so that she can voice these concerns to your doctor. Sometimes having a professional say, "NO babies this young are not supposed to cry it out and your grandbaby's weight gain is fine. He is in X%" is really helpful. It should shut her up....or maybe not depending on how difficult she is

melissaf22 · March 2014

She was supposed to go to the last appointment with me but didn't because of the snow, that would have been nice for a professional to tell her all of those things

dunvilles · March 2014

DreamingBabies said:
Were any of you in your shed today?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2584209/Husband-locked-wife-garden-shed-kept-chanting-ding-dong-witch-dead-mother-died.html

This just made my night..... hahaha

MissDemeanor · March 2014

DreamingBabies said:

Were any of you in your shed today? https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2584209/Husband-locked-wife-garden-shed-kept-chanting-ding-dong-witch-dead-mother-died.html

That is all kinds of crazy!

Jecca07 · March 2014

My MIL just showed up this morning so she could hold the baby while we get stuff done before her religion class started. DH is self-employed works from home, so generally if I need help or something, he's there. Also, while she's here she tends to only pay attention to the baby and DD gets pushed to the side or if she does get any attention from MIL, it's about the baby anyway. Grr!!! Normally she asks first, but I'm pretty sure that she's frustrated that I keep telling her I don't need her, so this morning she just showed up. I was livid (I know a lot of you deal with this, too, and I am truly sorry)!
However, her comment as she was leaving made it all worth it. She's a bit more sheltered than DH and I are. DH told her to just put LO in his bouncer and turn on the vibrator part. He said "He seems to like that." to which she responds "Of course he does! Everyone likes good vibrations! I wish I had a vibrator!" As soon as she was out the door, we burst out laughing!

Flyingtoast · March 2014

Jecca07 said:
Everyone likes good vibrations! I wish I had a vibrator!" As soon as she was out the door, we burst out laughing!

I'm not sure I could have kept a straight face for that.

MissDemeanor · March 2014

I just found out that my MIL told my boyfriend something very hurtful, and he's been avoiding telling me for a month. It's a very long story, and has to do with his stupid family politics, and actually nothing to do with her. But we never needed to know, so it was just mean of her to even tell him. And worse, she did while staying here when the baby was born. So that he got to be hurt badly at what should have just been a happy time.

I can't imagine why she felt the need to give him this hurtful info right then? To take attention away from me and the baby? To hurt him? I just don't get it!!!

ShePersisted · March 2014

Flyingtoast said:

Jecca07 said:
Everyone likes good vibrations! I wish I had a vibrator!" As soon as she was out the door, we burst out laughing!
I'm not sure I could have kept a straight face for that.

Is anyone else thinking about marky mark in white underwear or is it just me?

jpoindahouse · March 2014

OK she just posts this gem on facebook: "If you think I'm mean, it means I am doing my job as your mom. If you think I'm nice, it means that I'm your grandmother." Really....I just don't know

lisalixia727 · March 2014

I've been with MIL alone since November, literally going crazy

MissDemeanor · March 2014

DisneyPeanut said:

Not my MIL or mom, but my aunt. My family is Caucasian and francophone, DH's is Asian and anglophone. When we told our son's name (before he was born), Kai, she said "why couldn't you give him a more francophone name?". Apparently naming DD after both her grandma and mother (my great-grandma and my grandma) wasn't enough, ALL my children need to be named based on our language???

When she visited us at the hospital the day after DS was born, his eyes looked very "almond-shaped" since he barely opened them. She said it was disappointing that none of my kids had eyes like me. Now that he's a month old, his eyes open a lot more and he actually very much looks like my side of the family. Twice now she has commented how "frankly his eyes are not as Asian-looking as I thought, he's so cute!". I guess my kids only look cute if they look Caucasian???

I think that would piss me off!

MissDemeanor · March 2014

DisneyPeanut said:

Very. The only reason I haven't said anything is because she's the only family I have left on my mom's side since my mom passed away, but if she ever makes another comment like that again I will definitely say something. Last thing I want is for her to make such a backward "compliment" when my children are old enough to understand that she is dissing their father's heritage.

People say such stupid shit! When I sent a text to everyone right after I had LO, my aunt csent a message back saying "I'm sorry it was a boy " (and congrats type stuff too)

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