Really? You dont look pregnant at all....

kingabarta · February 2014

So one of the newest thing that kind of bugs me when people ask me how far along I am and when I tell them they tell me " well you don't show at all,... you are so little..." It makes me wounder how big is everybody else at this time... makes me worry when people tell me that and makes me think maybe I should be biger... "Oh i was huge by this time...." well I'm happy for those who show more... but I'm worried! is this something I should be conserd about it?

Wil08 · February 2014

No. Everdy body is different. I think looking at the HBDB thread is a great example of how big and small we all are.

kshare18 · February 2014

I get the same exact thing...Every day by my predominately male co workers, "where's that bump already, I don't see anything?" I take offense because there is a clear gut growing and I didn't have that before. I am 6ft so I was already warned that my bump would take some time to "pop."I am not too worried. Every body is different, my friend is 8 months pregnant and looks like she is still just bloated, so it could be worse.

sarahg8r · February 2014

I've noticed a big difference in the last week, so I took my first offical chalkboard bump photo this weekend. I didn't want to share it with the world (well, other than you guys!), so I just texted it to my mom. She then turned around and posted it on Facebook without my permission! Anyhow, I guess she's also been sharing it with friends and coworkers because she said that several people have commented that they're surprised how much I'm showing so far.

So I guess my point is...it seems like you're either too big or too small!

kingabarta · February 2014

kshare18 said:

I get the same exact thing...Every day by my predominately male co workers, "where's that bump already, I don't see anything?" I take offense because there is a clear gut growing and I didn't have that before. I am 6ft so I was already warned that my bump would take some time to "pop."I am not too worried. Every body is different, my friend is 8 months pregnant and looks like she is still just bloated, so it could be worse.

Thanks...I am 5ft tall so not tall at all...and I know I show some becasue I can tell... probably thats why it bugs me so much... I just started to tell people with coments like that that the baby is only 5.6inches and 6.7oz... how big I should be? that seams to make them think... this baby is my first one probably thats why i'm so worried about guffy things...

GreenMonkey1 · February 2014

I had a c-section with my first because he was expected to be 10-12 pounds, I was already 1-week late, and there were no signs of labor coming anytime soon. DS was running out of room and he did not score well on the biophysical profile. At the hospital the hospitalist OB kept saying, "that baby isn't going to be big, you are not big enough". Like I did not need a c-section and was just having one for convenience. I did not want a c-section, but was going off the advice of my OB and a specialist OB. Well, DS was about 10-pounds at birth and very long, as expected.

I am taller so apparently my torso can hide a lot of baby. People will always comment on the size of your bump. As long as your OB says growth looks good of the baby, I wouldn't worry. Pregnant bodies all look different.

bernoulli20 · February 2014

Today, a lot of people are going on a ski trip from work, and EVERYONE was surprised when I didn't go, so i used it as a good excuse to spread the news to the general population that I'm pregnant. One guy I told asked me how far along I was (18 weeks, I said almost 5 months) he flat out did not believe me...then when on to saying I must be having a girl because you can't tell from the back. I said that's really nice of you

you just gotta take things in stride.

Men are men, especially if they haven't ever had pregnant wives, we really can't expect them to know whats going on. And when women say they were much bigger at that time, well I just say, that must have sucked! I feel lucky. I already have to deal with morning sickness like crazy. I won't let not being obviously pregnant yet bother me, I think its a blessing.

BlytheMac · February 2014

Someone said to me just yesterday, "I thought you were pregnant!" I said "I am, but how insensitive...what if I had lost the baby..." Some people. I like my wee little bump. I'm convinced that it's partly because I do Pilates twice a week and my abs are still strong.

But who really knows...

Valancyy · February 2014

People said this to me all the time with my 1st. At my work baby shower, I was about 35 weeks. My old boss who had retired was there. She said, "you're so small!" I took it as a compliment. My belly was measuring fine, my baby was 7 lbs, no issues. Must just be the way I carry.

However, I would now never say this to a pregnant woman, as it can make you worry after awhile!

rockyrollgirl · February 2014

I was like that with my first pregnancy, until I got close to third tri and I blew up. It went from, "You are so tiny!" to "Oh my lord!"

This time I am showing a lot earlier.

herecomesthesun · February 2014

To most people, I'm not showing. To those that know me and see me regularly. They knew I had a mostly flat stomach prior and can see the teensy change. I'm only 14.5 weeks and with my first.

I do see people eyeballing my waist line though- trying to see if I have a bump. Everyone is different.

BlytheMac · February 2014

laurelcharles said:

BlytheMac said:

Someone said to me just yesterday, "I thought you were pregnant!" I said "I am, but how insensitive...what if I had lost the baby..." Some people. I like my wee little bump. I'm convinced that it's partly because I do Pilates twice a week and my abs are still strong. But who really knows...

What was their response to that??

She was very brash... "Oh, well I didn't think about that... I'm glad you didn't." It was the receptionist at the salon where I get my hair done.

enigmasara · February 2014

I'm a FTM, will be 15 weeks tomorrow. I'm 5'9" and started with a little extra weight. I had lost 6 pounds, now down to only 2, since my BFP due to morning sickness/food aversions. I can definitely tell that I'm thicker from front to back and my jeans feel tight, but I definitely don't have a bump. I haven't told many random people yet so I thankfully haven't had any strange/rude comments about not showing.

loulou182 · February 2014

I'm 17 weeks, and you would never know I'm pregnant to look at me. I wonder if I'll ever show.

Daisylola11 · February 2014

I think people sometimes don't realize just how long it takes for a bump to show up and how big baby and ute's are at each week, they hear your pregnant and expect to see evidence...

Everyone is different anyways and I've learned to take each comment as a good thing, if I look small great I know I'll get bigger. If I look big then great I'm learning to embrace the bump and know some people will mistake my extra insulation for baby whatev's haha

HeatherHam10 · February 2014

I hate when people say things like that! Everyone is diff!!

BlckRoses · February 2014

herecomesthesun said:

To most people, I'm not showing. To those that know me and see me regularly. They knew I had a mostly flat stomach prior and can see the teensy change. I'm only 14.5 weeks and with my first.

I do see people eyeballing my waist line though- trying to see if I have a bump. Everyone is different.

This totally creeps me out. I have people at work, when they find out, staring at my stomach to see if I have a bump and it makes me uncomfortable. Stop looking at my body!

caybeh · February 2014

Eh, people will comment that all through your pregnancy. I'm pregnant with my second and I get mixed reactions. I had one friend tell me that I don't really look pregnant yet. Then I had another lady react with, "Oh my" when I took my coat off. That gal said I wasn't big, but had a bump.

With my first, I didn't get very big at all. I'm small and he was a small baby. I got told all the time how tiny I was.

FrodaBaggins · February 2014

I'm not getting this at all but I am not particularly short or slender. I'm just average in height and weight. I started showing to other people this week at 16 weeks (it's my first.) I spent a long time worrying and wondering if I should or shouldn't be showing yet and finally this week decided to officially not give a shit anymore.

sarahg8r · February 2014

@FrodaBaggins - We're due date buddies! And I feel exactly the same. I go between feeling like I shouldn't be showing and not caring!

FrodaBaggins · February 2014

sarahg8r said:

@FrodaBaggins - We're due date buddies! And I feel exactly the same. I go between feeling like I shouldn't be showing and not caring!

@sarahg8r, yay! Due date buddies! your dogs are adorable and your wedding looked gorgeous, especially your dress!

sarahg8r · February 2014

Thanks @FrodaBaggins

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kiley820 · February 2014

Same here. This is my first also and I wasn't exactly sure when I would start to show. I'm 15 weeks and I have noticed a difference myself but it's not yet noticeable to others. I have a friend who is 2 weeks behind me and has been in maternity clothes since 10 weeks. Everyone is just different! As long as the baby is healthy that's all that matters

kingabarta · February 2014

Well I am 18weeks and 1day today but when I took this picture I was 17weeks... how people don't see my bump... But i learned one thing from this... I was one of those people who always said something about other peoples bump... Now I know how rud that was and I will think twice before I say something now...

sandrarodz · February 2014

Some people not only don't know how to think before they speak, they don't know how to think.., I went to a vitamin store the other day to look for some prenatal vitamins and the worker asked if I needed help so I told her what I was looking for. She says, "What do you need them for?" and I said, "Because I'm pregnant." and she looks at my stomach and says, "You don't look pregnant" it was weird and all I could say was.. "Yea well I have extra cushion so you cant tell yet"

BabyG814 · February 2014

I am 5'11" with a long torso and was 118lbs before pregnant. I've gained 30lbs already at almost 15 weeks...yikes! But my OB said I was underweight before and my body is playing catch up. I have a tiny bump starting to show, but the weight is mostly distributed evenly throughout my body. I've gone from an A cup to a (very) full C cup which the men at work have certainly noticed, and I actually had 2 girls at work discussing my body right in front of me like I wasnt there...saying "no, she's not really showing in the belly..." with the other replying "yeah but she's totally gained weight in her thighs.." Geez ladies. I'm pregnant, not deaf.

kingabarta · March 2014

I am a server at small restaurant and we carry those big mettal trais with the plates on it... I was carring 7 plates out which remind you its getting harder and it is quit havy.... an other table saw me carry it (3ladies) and they were discussing that I look like I can't even handel it, and I will drop it, and all kind of nesty stuff... I just wanted to go there and tell them you know what I am 5 months pregnant and yes it is getting harder to carry out big tables food but how about your try it and than we can talk.. oh and guess what I been doing it for 3 years .... people can be so mean... that coment made my whole night bad

Laura5533 · March 2014

I'll be 20 weeks tomorrow (first pregnancy), 5'11" and I just look like I have a beer belly. It looks awful. And I got the "you don't look pregnant at all" last week, so I guess that's preferable to just looking fat. I really think the people who have said it to me meant it as a compliment, so I just pretend it is one.

HeatherHam10 · March 2014

Everyone is diff and I hate that stupid comment. I think some people think its a compliment and its just annoying.

Gapin1aj · March 2014

I started having a bump at 12 weeks... I really haven't gained all that much, but 17+3 weeks and I feel like I"m HUGE!! And the worst part is that I really don't like most of my maternity clothes... I try on a daily basis not to slap the office co-worker girls who tell me that I'm going to grow out of of the maternity clothes that I do have... but I am only 5 foot nothing so pretty short torso...

jcgalvan · March 2014

Same with me but I am a little overweight so really don't show at all. It bothers me a little but I know the baby's fine so I'm not worried and you shouldn't be either. We all have different bodies.

URNVS82 · March 2014

I am a little over 5 ft tall. I have long legs for my height, short torso and big boobs. So in addition to men that can't control themselves from peeking at my boobs, I also have women that can't help themselves from checking out my tummy. I almost want to get those little stickers for my tummy that tells everyone how far along I am. Just like the pics on Facebook of the babies from month to month.

I think as I am in second trimester I will be alright. However, after I have the baby and come back to work... I am not going to appreciate ANYONE checking my body out.

gingamom · March 2014

It seems like everyone on here is on the slender and/or short side. I'm having the same problem but I think for an opposite reason. I was a little larger pre-pregnancy (about a size 14). Plus I had a m/s in Oct at 8w, I had gained like 7-8 lbs in my boobs and tummy region with that pregnancy that I didn't lose before getting pregnant again in Dec. I am almost 18w now and for the most part I just look like I have an unfortunate gut. I think its because I'm not particularly slim elsewhere, it just makes sense that I would have a gut. If my "belly" was on someone slimmer, they would look pregnant. If that makes sense. Right now I feel so terrible about myself. To the point where I'm almost concerned that the baby will feel all this negativity. If I wear a sort of flowy shirt with a belt or tie around my rib cage, then I think I look a little pregnant. But any other kind of shirt, and I just look lumpy and bumpy. I have a bit of a "B Belly". I'm so anxious for this bump to pop so that I can feel better and look pregnant and not just extra fat

Anyone else in this situation??

MagicInTheMidnightSun · March 2014

@brittlynn44 We are the SAME. I swear it's our torsos

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