Are you going to share the baby name with friends/family before the arrival?

MollyC20 · March 2014

MrsRoy07 · March 2014

I'm a blabber mouth, so yea.

Plus, I don't really care what other ppl think, I'm pretty comfortable with our name choices.

MrsMac613 · March 2014

I don't really mind sharing ahead of time but then again I don't want to hear any negative comments from anyone either. So I'm still undecided.

MollyC20 · March 2014

I can't decide either. The comments don't bother me either. I think it would be fun to announce it when he/she gets here, but I also can't keep a secret!

femail · March 2014

Considering my husband already told our friends when they went to the bar, and I was home sleeping, yes. What a blabber mouth!! He had been telling me that he didn't like the girl name I was in love with. The night he told our friends, he also told them he actually loves the name, and just wanted to bicker with me about it. WTF.

4legsRbest · March 2014

We won't share the names until they are born.

ADH0906 · March 2014

I'm undecided. DH thinks it's weird to announce the sex and then not tell the name, but I think it's fun. Plus, my mother can be very cutting and I know she's going to critique our choices. I need to decide how strong my spine is first.

Runner313 · March 2014

No way! I don't want to hear their opinions.

JJsMum · March 2014

Yep! We already have names picked out. We always try to have the name picked so that once we know, we can refer to baby by their name. DH says that it helps him feel more connected to the pregnancy and babe. We've never had any bad reactions to our names, so that probably helps us be more confident about sharing.

irisheyes317 · March 2014

Definitely not! I don't want to hear negative opinions or "but maybe you should think about this instead." My mom is notorious for having negative opinions about things the first time she hears them, and then completely changing her mind later. I'd rather wait until after the ink on the birth certificate is dry and there's no changing it.

Now, we actually have to decide on some names for this question to even matter! We both feel so overwhelmed every time we think about it that we just keep putting it off. Maybe we'll be the types to decide on the way to the hospital

dana2die4 · March 2014

Yes, we plan on it.

SusieBW · March 2014

I voted no, but I'm kind of a special snowflake because we won't decide on a name until after the baby is born. We'll narrow it down to somewhere less than 10, and then wait until we meet him. I have no problem with telling people whats on the list, though. I sort of like to hear other people's opinions because maybe they think of an awful association that hasn't occurred to me and will change my opinion of the name forever. In that case, I'd rather hear it before I sign the birth certificate, kwim?

lrobi13 · March 2014

I'm totally a blabber mouth so they is no way once we pick a name that I will be able to keep it a secret. But who knows. We have only had the name discussion once so far. We know part of the name if it is a boy.

Raesofsunshine1 · March 2014

Yes but only when we are confident of the choices. Last time we told tge same time we told what we were having.

pushgal84 · March 2014

Yes, and we're 100% decided on names at this point, whether boy or girl. MIL doesn't approve of the boy name. She makes up a ridiculous number of nicknames for everything and everyone, so I flat out asked her, "It's not like you're ever going to call the baby by it's name, so why does it matter?"

noellemari · March 2014

Neither of my kids had names til after they were born. Not because we were waiting to meet them or anything. We just couldn't agree/decide. So sharing the name wasn't an issue. I'm sure the same thing will happen this time!

ss265 · March 2014

With DS we kept his name a secret until he was born. Turns out that his name is unisex and more commonly used for girls. We knew this but figured that with the masculine spelling of his name, it wouldn't be an issue. Well, we are constantly correcting people who refer to him as a girl. We still love the name and wouldn't change it but we might have had second thoughts if we had disclosed it before birth and people brought it up.

And with this LO, we will probably keep the name a secret as well. I like having something to announce when the baby is born.

sjb2419 · March 2014

@irisheyes317‌ my mom is the same way. That's why I'm trying to convince dh to keep the name on the dl this time around. I've already shared a couple ideas with her and she throws out stuff like "well that's your cousins new fiancés name so that's all I will think about when I hear that name," and other bs logic like that. I would rather wait until the baby is here so everyone will (hopefully) keep their negative opinions to themselves. It's less of a matter of caring what people think about our choices, than avoiding annoying comments when outsiders opinions shouldn't matter anyway.

MollyC20 · March 2014

ss265 said:

With DS we kept his name a secret until he was born. Turns out that his name is unisex and more commonly used for girls. We knew this but figured that with the masculine spelling of his name, it wouldn't be an issue. Well, we are constantly correcting people who refer to him as a girl. We still love the name and wouldn't change it but we might have had second thoughts if we had disclosed it before birth and people brought it up.
And with this LO, we will probably keep the name a secret as well. I like having something to announce when the baby is born.

I like having something to announce too! That would be a big reason we'd keep it a secret until the birth

karenmichelle27 · March 2014

We will tell immdiate family/ best friend, but other than that no. I voted yes, but it will be limited.

ADH0906 · March 2014

C_mo said:
Maybe. If its a boy, I'm not too attached to the name, so I wouldn't mind sharing. If its a grl, however, I'm paranoid someone I know might nab it, so I'm keeping it to myself.

I'm considering telling for the opposite reason! When we told my BIL and his wife, one of the first things out of their mouths was "Well of course the big question is, what names are on your list?" as if they had names picked out. It made me really paranoid that if we waited too long, they'd take the name if they got pregnant soon. I don't even know if they're trying. I'm just a delusional paranoid.

Harveys11 · March 2014

We did the first two times. Honestly, I didn't like everyone already using the names - personalized clothes and updating grandma necklaces before they were even here. We won't share THE name this time. We may share the top 5 though.

AppleGrapeMSTK · March 2014

DS is Edwin Theodore. After we decided to share, I received a half dozen comments on calling him Ed Ted or Eddy Teddy in a single day. And it wasn't a , "Oh, here's a cute nickname!" It was, "Omg, haha, he's going to be Ed Ted!" They were making fun of his name. It hurt me so much, I kept trying to convince DH that DS needed a new name. DH was upset because Edwin is a family name and he was head over heels for Theodore. DS goes by Theo now to avoid the Eddy Teddy thing.

This time, to curb the drama and the unwanted comments, we are going to keep mum on the baby names until the baby is here.

jesslinnn · March 2014

We'll share. We shared with our other two and got some negative feedback (mostly on our girl choice, which was Amelia btw) but nothing that made us want to change their names.

mandapear · March 2014

We don't share the name (or even call baby by the name in the privacy of our own home) until the religious naming ceremony, at 8 days for a boy; for a girl, the next Torah reading day (Monday, Thursday or Saturday) after birth. There are a LOT of traditional Jewish superstitions regarding birth, and while I am not a particularly superstitious person, I like that our child receives the gift of a name/identity among all of our friends and family, with a speech indicating the reason it was chosen and our dreams for our child's future.

MrsL2B · March 2014

Oh, I have no idea about this either! I guess we'll have to pick a name first, and I'm hesitant to even start thinking about that until after we get the Panorama results. I do kind of like the idea of waiting until after the birth to announce the name, though.

DiannaVB · March 2014

We didn't share the first name last time and won't this time either. The reasons vary from we might change our mind to we want it to just be between us. My in-laws also act tortured that we won't share the name which I enjoy.

The middle name is set in stone so we share that.

AmandaJean12 · March 2014

I thought it was strange when friends of ours recently wouldn't discuss baby names when they were expecting. She told is her parents hated the first name they mentioned and they decided to not say anything else, because once the name is set people generally just have to keep it to themselves.

Now I think they were on to something.
I know my mom hates our top names and I really don't want to hear it. Once she has a grandbaby in her arms, she'll just take it for what it is.

mmorga15 · March 2014

I already shared with my family that if I have a little boy I want him to be names Oliver, after my grandfather. Huge mistake! Now I have many cousins who have told me they want to use the name Oliver as well as my very best friend. From now on I am keeping my names secret.

ADH0906 · March 2014

mandapear said:
We don't share the name (or even call baby by the name in the privacy of our own home) until the religious naming ceremony, at 8 days for a boy; for a girl, the next Torah reading day (Monday, Thursday or Saturday) after birth. There are a LOT of traditional Jewish superstitions regarding birth, and while I am not a particularly superstitious person, I like that our child receives the gift of a name/identity among all of our friends and family, with a speech indicating the reason it was chosen and our dreams for our child's future.

@mandapear‌ I've never heard of this, but that sounds really meaningful and beautiful.

manateeliz · March 2014

Yes, as soon as we found out my son was a boy, he was Nick to us and that is how we referred to him with everyone around us. The twins will be the same.

knicoletti · March 2014

I am not sure. With my first pregnancy, we shared the name and kept the gender a secret. We knew we wanted Hudson either way. It drove people nuts. My hubs ended up spilling the beans at a family function. Oh well!

Not sure about this pregnancy. We had names in mind for the last pregnancy (ended in m/c) and then my hubs tried to perk me up by talking about names with my last IVF (chemical) so I feel like we can't use those names even though I loved them. Weird. Sorry, I blabber. Anyways, we shared those names with our parents two 2 IVFs ago so I guess they are already out there if we still with any of those.

Greenmood · March 2014

Nope. Family is too opinionated and H is too resentful. We won't be able to forget it if someone makes a face or comment, so we're just going to avoid the drama.

bayhunter6 · March 2014

We told everyone once we chose a name last time. My MIL was totally offended because she had a "psychic dream" that our daughter would be named Leah and that's not the name we chose. We'll probably still tell people next time because my husband has a big mouth and won't be able to keep it a secret.

Sofia2529 · March 2014

No. I don't want any unsolicited opinions. That said, I've never had the name picked out prior to delivery so, if that happens again, it'll be a moot point.

Dani0329 · March 2014

I don't want other people's opinions to influence ours, and even though they shouldn't our families opinions would effect me... No one would be rude enough (I hope) to have something negative to say about a name if they are holding that adorable baby.

Emerald27 · March 2014

Name's a secret. We'll share the sex, but not the name. We want to be able to change our minds, and don't want any negative feedback (usually people are pretty good about not giving negative feedback once baby is named and born).

TexasMom7137 · March 2014

We don't share names and since we are team green we don't refer to baby by a name even in private. It drives my mom and sister nuts that nothing is known until delivery but they were really negative about name choices with DS1. I really like the surprise element added to the birth.

Wishing35 · March 2014

No, I don't want to hear negative opinions about the name we pick.

fireflyrebirth · March 2014

We'll be deciding on a name after the anatomy scan but we won't be sharing it. The decision is between the two of us and I don't want anyone critiquing our choices. I feel like it will be harder to say anything negative when we hand over the kid and say, "Here is your grandchild/niece/nephew, X."

Eastie156 · March 2014

If we can decide on a girl and boy name, then we"ll probably share. Last time it took us a long time to decide on a name, like close to 40 weeks, so we didn't end up sharing.