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sprashley · March 2014

bribbon said:

Oh, and FYI ladies who feel they're in need of an explanation for FFing? You can't win if you BF either. Because eventually you need to NIP and then you can't shake the need for an explanation as to why you aren't under a tent, or worse yet, running off to the ladies' room to feed your child. Because adults eat in the same place we shit all the time. So F U C K E V E R Y B O D Y

Haha yes! I have BFd all my kids, including this LO (#3) and it feels like the opposite problem. Like I have to explain why I am BFing and not FFing and why I don't want to nurse in a bathroom, etc. There is nothing wrong with either choice, but it seems no matter what you chose to do (or have to do) there will always be the feeling of needing to justify your position.

I've actually come under much more fire when we introduced food at six months and did not do baby food/purees. We did baby-led weaning with both older girls and wow that caused a lot of issues with some people, my mom in particular!

dunvilles · March 2014

sprashley said:

bribbon said:

Oh, and FYI ladies who feel they're in need of an explanation for FFing? You can't win if you BF either. Because eventually you need to NIP and then you can't shake the need for an explanation as to why you aren't under a tent, or worse yet, running off to the ladies' room to feed your child. Because adults eat in the same place we shit all the time.

So F U C K E V E R Y B O D Y

Haha yes! I have BFd all my kids, including this LO (#3) and it feels like the opposite problem. Like I have to explain why I am BFing and not FFing and why I don't want to nurse in a bathroom, etc. There is nothing wrong with either choice, but it seems no matter what you chose to do (or have to do) there will always be the feeling of needing to justify your position.

I've actually come under much more fire when we introduced food at six months and did not do baby food/purees. We did baby-led weaning with both older girls and wow that caused a lot of issues with some people, my mom in particular!

We also did baby led weaning and got some very odd/rude reactions.

I also agree that no matter how you feed your baby, people judge...

I bf and if ds is gassy it is immediately bc of what I ate or I am not feeding him enough or some other nonsense.

versed · March 2014

sprashley said:

I've actually come under much more fire when we introduced food at six months and did not do baby food/purees. We did baby-led weaning with both older girls and wow that caused a lot of issues with some people, my mom in particular!

@sprashley - Us too! We got so much crap from family for skipping purees. My mom bought DS1 tons of jar food, even after I told we weren't going to use them ever (I donated them), and MIL was practically jumping over the table anytime he took a bite of food.

BIL gave us tons of crap about how we were doing it wrong, and babies weren't meant to eat that way and we'd kill our son by letting him choke on food. BIL chose purees for his daughter (never gave him crap for that!). Fast forward 15m, and my son eats everything put in front of him and his daughter will only eat mac and cheese. I like to believe our BLW helped with his mature palate. DH and I want to yell "HA!" in BIL's face, but we have refrained.

RondackHiker · March 2014

NextVerseUnknown said:

sprashley said:

I've actually come under much more fire when we introduced food at six months and did not do baby food/purees. We did baby-led weaning with both older girls and wow that caused a lot of issues with some people, my mom in particular!

@sprashley - Us too! We got so much crap from family for skipping purees. My mom bought DS1 tons of jar food, even after I told we weren't going to use them ever (I donated them), and MIL was practically jumping over the table anytime he took a bite of food.

BIL gave us tons of crap about how we were doing it wrong, and babies weren't meant to eat that way and we'd kill our son by letting him choke on food. BIL chose purees for his daughter (never gave him crap for that!). Fast forward 15m, and my son eats everything put in front of him and his daughter will only eat mac and cheese. I like to believe our BLW helped with his mature palate. DH and I want to yell "HA!" in BIL's face, but we have refrained.

Don't get cocky! Some kids are just picky. You can do it all right and still have a toddler who refuses anything but chicken nuggets.

versed · March 2014

RondackHiker said:

sprashley said:

I've actually come under much more fire when we introduced food at six months and did not do baby food/purees. We did baby-led weaning with both older girls and wow that caused a lot of issues with some people, my mom in particular!

@sprashley - Us too! We got so much crap from family for skipping purees. My mom bought DS1 tons of jar food, even after I told we weren't going to use them ever (I donated them), and MIL was practically jumping over the table anytime he took a bite of food.

BIL gave us tons of crap about how we were doing it wrong, and babies weren't meant to eat that way and we'd kill our son by letting him choke on food. BIL chose purees for his daughter (never gave him crap for that!). Fast forward 15m, and my son eats everything put in front of him and his daughter will only eat mac and cheese. I like to believe our BLW helped with his mature palate. DH and I want to yell "HA!" in BIL's face, but we have refrained.
Don't get cocky! Some kids are just picky. You can do it all right and still have a toddler who refuses anything but chicken nuggets.

Okay, okay ... maybe we'll wait until we're 2/2 and they're 0/2 through the toddler years ... then we'll say something

versed · March 2014

@Avswolf - nope, not saying that at all. I'm just saying my BIL is an a-hole for giving us so much crap about our parenting choices, especially our feeding choices, that I feel like karma is biting him in the ass. At least, that's what I hope, since we never said a word about his parenting choices.
But like Rondack said, it could just be luck-of-the-draw and I still have another good-eater to raise before I can get too cocky.

MissDemeanor · March 2014

golfergirl08 said:

I am thinking we need a list of some good comebacks for rude comments regarding BFing or FFing. Anyone have any good ones? I haven't had to NIP yet but I want to make someone feel like a real jackass if someone says something.

I get crap from some people because I'm not yet comfortable BF in public, or, say, uncovered in front of FIL. So frustrating! You really can't please anybody!

sprashley · March 2014

@nextverseunknown FWIW both girls were good eaters and DD2 in particular will eat pretty much anything. However, DD1 is much pickier, is still willing to try new food, but for example when we have hot dogs or hamburgers, she will only eat the buns with ketchup/mustard, no meat. What a weirdo.

So, while I'm all for BLW, I'm not sure that it helps kids be better eaters or not. But I totally get what you are saying about you BIL. Karma!

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