I realized yesterday that if all goes the way I hope, I could have a baby in less than ten weeks. That might have sent me into minor panic mode, which is bad with my anxiety making it a million times worse. If things go the same way they did with ds1,I have another 12 weeks that will end up in ac section due to a failed induction because my dhs genetics cause for large, awkward shaped heads that get in the way of a vaginal delivery.
However, my OB doesn't seem to believe me that this is likely the case, and won't even consider inducing me even at my due date because of my hopes for a vbac. Based on my experience, though, I personally feel that I'm going to be better off going in a little early, assuming I'm progressing. If not, rcs will probably be the way to go, but Gah! Freaking listen to me when I tell you that my baby's head will probably give us a headache, don't just blow me off because I've only had one other kid!
The whole thing is giving me anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated and have Yolo much time to think at work today.
Re: Frustrated with ob/hormonal meltdown
Aside from a healthy baby/mommy, what are you wanting for the your birth?
Is VBAC something that is really important to you or is it driven by your provider? I've had many friends that medically have repeat c/s or had VBAC, but their first c/s was such a stressful experience (fear, feelings of guilt/failure, pain, etc.) that it caused them a lot of anxiety.
how are you preparing for our VBAC?
I did not have a c/s, but was induced with DD and she had a huge head and it remains off the charts now :-) This baby is measuring big with another big head. Even though I had a good induction/birth experience, I am finding that my current desire to have a low intervention birth are causing me some worry when I compare to my last labor.
I'm working through Mindful Birthing, which has a lot of good info about how we frame our labor in our minds relating to past experiences and our future desires. It really stresses how to accept things even when our labors don't go as we had hoped.
my non-expert medical thoughts are that even inducing you a little early, wouldn't impact the baby's head size/shape that much. my understanding is that by the last month, most of baby is developed, but systems mature and baby continues to add fat. I wouldn't think that there is not a lot of rapid bone growth during that last month that would impact the head size/shape.
take good care of yourself and talk with your provider at your next appointment about labor promoting things that were suggested above....maybe even sweeping your membranes if that is appropriate.
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2) I really wouldn't base your concerns on what you saw at an anatomy scan. So much can change from 20-40 weeks.
3) if you really think you will end up with another csection, maybe a VBAC just isn't for you.
My first was an emergency csection and I wasn't allowed to go past 40 weeks. I would have loved to VBAC, but that just wasn't the policy. I think you have a really good shot of VBAC with no issues, but if you are concerned, maybe see if you can get a scan done around 36w to see how things are looking?