Frustrated with ob/hormonal meltdown

eghulse

I realized yesterday that if all goes the way I hope, I could have a baby in less than ten weeks. That might have sent me into minor panic mode, which is bad with my anxiety making it a million times worse. If things go the same way they did with ds1,I have another 12 weeks that will end up in ac section due to a failed induction because my dhs genetics cause for large, awkward shaped heads that get in the way of a vaginal delivery.

However, my OB doesn't seem to believe me that this is likely the case, and won't even consider inducing me even at my due date because of my hopes for a vbac. Based on my experience, though, I personally feel that I'm going to be better off going in a little early, assuming I'm progressing. If not, rcs will probably be the way to go, but Gah! Freaking listen to me when I tell you that my baby's head will probably give us a headache, don't just blow me off because I've only had one other kid!

The whole thing is giving me anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated and have Yolo much time to think at work today.

dragossoul84

My OB won't induce if you have had previous c-section because of risk or uterine rupture the other 2 OB's in the practice won't either. Inductions don't work if your body isn't ready and 10 weeks would put you 39 weeks so it may fail any way and could put you at risk. It can be very frustrating when you feel that the Dr isn't taking what you say seriously but perhaps this is why he's not agreeing to induce you?

eghulse

You're probably right, but when I mentioned wanting to keep an eye on it she blew me off. That's more what I'm frustrated about. I know my best chances are to go into labor on my own, I'm just freaking out over the "what ifs" based on my last experience.

dragossoul84

I get it I had to do an emergency c after a 3 day failed induction due to health issues last time. Is there anyone else in the practice you can talk to and get a second opinion from. Maybe even reach out to a midwife and see if they have suggestions. Midwives even if you are going the OB route can be a real wealth of information 

softservecity

My doc said no inductions for past c-section patients. Apparently this is part of the new recommendations for VBACs/RCS. Also no pitocin at all to help labor and no going past due date... It's all for the health of you and baby (and probably to help prevent lawsuits if something goes wrong). Sorry it may not go the way you want though :-(

eghulse

Thing is, she'll induce if I get to 41 weeks. I'm gonna talk to her more at my appointment next week and hopefully at least get her to address some stuff. I'm frustrated and worried about worst cases, when I know I just need to chill.

chknma

sorry your appointment was stressful on a day when you were already feeling a little anxious.

Aside from a healthy baby/mommy, what are you wanting for the your birth?

Is VBAC something that is really important to you or is it driven by your provider? I've had many friends that medically have repeat c/s or had VBAC, but their first c/s was such a stressful experience (fear, feelings of guilt/failure, pain, etc.) that it caused them a lot of anxiety.

how are you preparing for our VBAC?

I did not have a c/s, but was induced with DD and she had a huge head and it remains off the charts now :-)  This baby is measuring big with another big head. Even though I had a good induction/birth experience, I am finding that my current desire to have a low intervention birth are causing me some worry when I compare to my last labor.

I'm working through Mindful Birthing, which has a lot of good info about how we frame our labor in our minds relating to past experiences and our future desires. It really stresses how to accept things even when our labors don't go as we had hoped.

my non-expert medical thoughts are that even inducing you a little early, wouldn't impact the baby's head size/shape that much. my understanding is that by the last month, most of baby is developed, but systems mature and baby continues to add fat. I wouldn't think that there is not a lot of rapid bone growth during that last month that would impact the head size/shape.

take good care of yourself and talk with your provider at your next appointment about labor promoting things that were suggested above....maybe even sweeping your membranes if that is appropriate.

((hugs))

lauralou3x3

katsmewsings said:

As a FTM, have nooooooo insight here that I imagine will be helpful. But I just wanted to say, I hear ya on the feeling overwhelmed and frustrated point. I am sorry your OB is an insensitive tool. Hope you get somewhere with her soon!

This is what I was going to say. Hopefully things work out the way you want!

spinsoffresonance

I had a csection at 38w (due to prior myomectomy) and DD's head circumference at birth was in the 98th percentile. So even going early isn't gonna guarantee a smaller head!

theoryofwhat

Sorry, don't mean throw your thread off in a different direction, but @eghulse is your baby's head shaped more round than oval? I was told my kiddos was and was just wondering if that was the case with yours, too.

NorthernGal248

Ditto on natural induction methods. They may or may not work, but it couldn't hurt to try.

eghulse

@yayglitter‌, ds1's head is really oval shaped front to back, and when I tried pushing with him he ended up with a nasty bruise on the top of his head where he was hitting my pelvic bone. From what I saw at my anatomy scan, ds2 is headed the same direction.

theoryofwhat

Ah, thank you for answering! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this!

ShannonSky

1) ditto the others re: inductions after csections being too risky. I personally wouldn't attempt it, even at 41 weeks. Pitocin contractions are stronger that normal ones, and put more stress on the scarring in your uterus from your first csection.
2) I really wouldn't base your concerns on what you saw at an anatomy scan. So much can change from 20-40 weeks.
3) if you really think you will end up with another csection, maybe a VBAC just isn't for you.

My first was an emergency csection and I wasn't allowed to go past 40 weeks. I would have loved to VBAC, but that just wasn't the policy. I think you have a really good shot of VBAC with no issues, but if you are concerned, maybe see if you can get a scan done around 36w to see how things are looking?

eghulse

ShannonSky said:

1) ditto the others re: inductions after csections being too risky. I personally wouldn't attempt it, even at 41 weeks. Pitocin contractions are stronger that normal ones, and put more stress on the scarring in your uterus from your first csection. 2) I really wouldn't base your concerns on what you saw at an anatomy scan. So much can change from 20-40 weeks. 3) if you really think you will end up with another csection, maybe a VBAC just isn't for you. My first was an emergency csection and I wasn't allowed to go past 40 weeks. I would have loved to VBAC, but that just wasn't the policy. I think you have a really good shot of VBAC with no issues, but if you are concerned, maybe see if you can get a scan done around 36w to see how things are looking?

I'm hoping she'll do a scan, but when I told her I wanted to keep an eye on his growth she kinda passed it off because so much can change right up until delivery, and she said a scan wouldn't tell anything.  Which I get, but depending on how things look by 36/38 weeks, I might actually change my mind about the VBAC.  It's just aggravating.