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Serenla · March 2014

Rogue237 said:

Serenla said:

eme520 said:

tiffy81 said:

I think donated breast milk is gross. I would never give my babies someone else's milk....yes I drink cows milk and some people think that's gross but I've been drinking cows milk for 30 years and I'm fine. Donated breast milk is just too sketchy for me. I honestly can't even believe it's a thing.

For premies donated breast milk over formula can prevent against very serious, possibly deadly infections. But you're right, it's SO gross. Let me call it off, hold on a second.
I really do not understand, "well I have been drinking cows milk for 30 years so it is not gross but breastmilk is nasty!" I cannot wrapmy head around that one...

This. It's arguably way more unnatural to drink a different mammal's milk thank your own, so I don't get how a baby drinking breast milk from a human can be gross.
Because SCIENCE!

Lacynduck · March 2014

I don't get why people wish their loved ones a "happy birthday" on FB if they're umm dead.

And I wear make up. All the time. Having a baby won't change that. I like to live in color, but I really don't care or won't judge someone that doesn't.

tamaraaaa · March 2014

Whew, we are starting off early and with a bang today ladies...

LittleLady77 · March 2014

dani+california said:

Along the same lines as @ColleenSwerb‌ , I don't know why anyone gives a shit if I wear makeup at the hospital. I wear makeup every day, I do my hair nice every day. It makes me feel good! I like looking nice. I like wearing nice clothes. Having a baby doesn't mean I should stop doing these things, nor will I. Judging people for wanting to look or feel their best (no matter the situation) makes women sound jealous and petty, just as it would be ridiculous for me to say 'women who never wear makeup are gross and lazy.' To each their own, why does it matter?

I don't judge ladies for wearing make up and doing their hair- I do it sometimes. I do however strongly believe that women don't need make up and hair dos to be beautiful. Call me a hippy but I think women who are makeup free and take care of themselves can be just as beautiful, if not more so than a woman who gets done up everyday. Again, I don't care if you wear makeup to birth your child because you want to look nice. I'm not wearing makeup to birth my child for the same reason.

katieharpiceland · March 2014

tiffy81 said:

I think donated breast milk is gross. I would never give my babies someone else's milk....yes I drink cows milk and some people think that's gross but I've been drinking cows milk for 30 years and I'm fine. Donated breast milk is just too sketchy for me. I honestly can't even believe it's a thing.

Also, would you deny a blood transfusion on the same grounds? Because, to me, that's for more creepy than donated breast milk, but, I would do it in a heart beat if it means I live!

sking72 · March 2014

Cortiz253 said:

I don't get why people wish their loved ones a "happy birthday" on FB if they're umm dead.

I know right? I was just going through my facebook friends last night and didn't know what the proper "etiquette" was on deleting a dead friend's facebook...Her parents took the pictures off of it, so it's really just a board for people to write their prayers to her. I find it strange, but I couldn't bring myself to defriend her...such a weird conflict to have!

katieharpiceland · March 2014

AprilMay9 said:

tiffy81 said:

I think donated breast milk is gross. I would never give my babies someone else's milk....yes I drink cows milk and some people think that's gross but I've been drinking cows milk for 30 years and I'm fine. Donated breast milk is just too sketchy for me. I honestly can't even believe it's a thing.

Also, would you deny a blood transfusion on the same grounds? Because, to me, that's for more creepy than donated breast milk, but, I would do it in a heart beat if it means I live!
---- I think there's wayyy more standards in place for blood than milk though. And the only way to get a blood transition is a hospital. People get milk from a variety of different sources - not just a hospital.

Very true. But, if its just creep/gross factor as OP brought up, then I find blood both creepier and more gross.

kseccomb17 · March 2014

Cortiz253 said:
I don't get why people wish their loved ones a "happy birthday" on FB if they're umm dead.

And I wear make up. All the time. Having a baby won't change that. I like to live in color, but I really don't care or won't judge someone that doesn't.

What makes any difference between going to their grave site or fb site then? They can't respond either way..

Seriously though, many people don't quit caring because someone has passed away. I think it's a petty thing to point out and you don't need to understand. That's how some people cope.

snowclouds · March 2014

tiffy81 said:

I think donated breast milk is gross. I would never give my babies someone else's milk....yes I drink cows milk and some people think that's gross but I've been drinking cows milk for 30 years and I'm fine. Donated breast milk is just too sketchy for me. I honestly can't even believe it's a thing.

Maybe because many who use donated breast milk are premies. Studies show that premies do better in the long run on BM rather than formula. Also, the fact that there's an alternative if you can't make enough BM and don't want to go with formula is amazing.

CalinAZ said:

My UO (at least based on my group midwife appt last night)- with so many people installing carseats incorrectly -I've heard 70% - I don't understand not going to the fire dept, or the like, and at least getting checked. I'm fairly mechanically inclined, but I just wouldn't want to take the chance that we did something so important wrong. It's free and worth that extra hassle to be sure everything is correct.

That 70% includes parents who put the child in incorrectly, who don't tighten the straps every single time, and who don't make sure the chest clip is at armpit level. Parents who use car seat attachments that did not come and are not sold by the car seat manufacturer. Also, many of us no longer have fire departments who check this type of thing. There are many videos online on how to install your carseat. I think the most important thing is to read the car seat manual, the car manual, watch a video and inform yourself on how your car seat needs to be installed in your car.

LittleLady77 · March 2014

dani+california said:

dani+california said:

Along the same lines as @ColleenSwerb‌ , I don't know why anyone gives a shit if I wear makeup at the hospital. I wear makeup every day, I do my hair nice every day. It makes me feel good! I like looking nice. I like wearing nice clothes. Having a baby doesn't mean I should stop doing these things, nor will I. Judging people for wanting to look or feel their best (no matter the situation) makes women sound jealous and petty, just as it would be ridiculous for me to say 'women who never wear makeup are gross and lazy.' To each their own, why does it matter?

I don't judge ladies for wearing make up and doing their hair- I do it sometimes. I do however strongly believe that women don't need make up and hair dos to be beautiful. Call me a hippy but I think women who are makeup free and take care of themselves can be just as beautiful, if not more so than a woman who gets done up everyday. Again, I don't care if you wear makeup to birth your child because you want to look nice. I'm not wearing makeup to birth my child for the same reason.
-------------------- ::shrug:: And like I said, that literally has no impact on me and I don't care if women never wear makeup a day in their lives. I don't judge them for it, nor should anyone. Beauty is subjective; some men like women who wear makeup and some don't! People should do whatever makes them feel their best.

Oh, I agree 100%. After I read this part of your quote "Judging people for wanting to look or feel their best (no matter the situation) makes women sound jealous and petty, just as it would be ridiculous for me to say 'women who never wear makeup are gross and lazy.'" I felt obligated to say many don't need make up to feel their best and it doesn't mean people are judging

mamahann · March 2014

Cortiz253 said:
I don't get why people wish their loved ones a "happy birthday" on FB if they're umm dead.

It's how some people cope with the loss. One of my best friends took her own life in November and I sometimes write her emails. I don't actually send them but it helps me deal with the huge void that her passing left in my life.

Serenla · March 2014

I am of the opinion that everyone should be required to clean public toilets for a week and work a customer service job at least once in their life.
I just can't believe how much of a douche canoe people can be to people behind counters.

tiffy81 · March 2014

katieharpiceland said:

tiffy81 said:

I think donated breast milk is gross. I would never give my babies someone else's milk....yes I drink cows milk and some people think that's gross but I've been drinking cows milk for 30 years and I'm fine. Donated breast milk is just too sketchy for me. I honestly can't even believe it's a thing.

Also, would you deny a blood transfusion on the same grounds? Because, to me, that's for more creepy than donated breast milk, but, I would do it in a heart beat if it means I live!

Actually I did refuse a blood transfusion last month when I delivered my twins. It creeps me out. My iron was extremely low and my doctor wanted to give me a transfusion. I told him I'd take my iron supplements and wait it out. I'm anemic and I know my body and I didn't think a transfusion was necessary. Now had I been symptomatic then maybe I would've made a different choice and accepted the blood transfusion. But I'm fine and so are my twins drinking my own breast milk.
I never said I think breast milk is gross, I said giving MY babies another woman's breast milk grosses me out. And I agree breast milk is best and had I not been able to produce my own milk and the doctors said it was a life or death situation for my babies to have hospital screened donated breast milk then obviously they would receive someone else's milk but it would have to be extreme circumstances for me to make that choice as I did with refusing the blood transfusion.

katieharpiceland · March 2014

Serenla said:

I am of the opinion that everyone should be required to clean public toilets for a week and work a customer service job at least once in their life. I just can't believe how much of a douche canoe people can be to people behind counters.

I have the utmost respect. One of my work study jobs in college was calling former graduates asking for money. HORRIBLE! I'm never mean to telemarketers now. Or service people (unless they are ridiculously rude for some reason.)

ASasquatch · March 2014

Well since this is already going strong I'll toss one in there that I generally keep to myself that is completely not pregnancy related.

It ticks me off when certain recovering alcoholics expect everyone to cater to them constantly for the rest of time. I'm not talking about someone who is struggling with recovery and purposefully requests not to be put in certain situations. I completely respect that and understand that huge changes need to be made for them to be successful and I would never try to force someone into a compromising situation. I'm talking about constantly boasting about how you've been sober for 26 years but "I can't go to the wedding unless they have a completely alcohol free table" and even then piss and moan about how they're going to have such a hard night being around people drinking. There reaches a point where either A. you've been lying about being sober and know that the situation will result in you having a drink B. you need some serious therapy to go along with AA because something isn't working or C. You are just attention seeking and need to shut it.
If you can't handle mimosa's at my baby shower then don't come because I don't even like you but you're family so I have to play nice.

Flame away. I am so sick of a certain individual causing drama about this for every event ever.

tamaraaaa · March 2014

Oh god, my first UO.

I don't get cord blood banking, especially just for "in case" purposes. To me, it seems like a money scam unless you already have a child that could need/use it and it could be used for them. Spending thousands to save it when in all liklihood that child cannot even use it to their benefit seems so pointless to me and when I get a bunch of emails every week talking about it, begging me to do it, or telling me I "won" free banking, it seems like a huge publicity stunt more than an actual thing.

There, I said it. If I'm totally uneducated on this I'm willing to listen, but right now that's my UO.

LittleLady77 · March 2014

@asasquatch I kind of agree. I do know a lot of people who struggle with alcohol and I'll do whatever I can to help. I also knew a lady who had been sober for 14 years and would judge and preach at you if you had a beer- it was really annoying.

Lacynduck · March 2014

kseccomb17 said:

Cortiz253 said:
I don't get why people wish their loved ones a "happy birthday" on FB if they're umm dead.

And I wear make up. All the time. Having a baby won't change that. I like to live in color, but I really don't care or won't judge someone that doesn't.
What makes any difference between going to their grave site or fb site then? They can't respond either way..

Seriously though, many people don't quit caring because someone has passed away. I think it's a petty thing to point out and you don't need to understand. That's how some people cope.

Well, 2 things. First off, it's not really a birthday if they've passed away Bc with birthdays you're celebrating a year of life. Secondly, yes, people have different ways of coping it's just weird for me to see birthday posts to someone who doesn't have a FB and isn't alive to see the birthday wishes.

Lacynduck · March 2014

Ashleyahann said:

Cortiz253 said:
I don't get why people wish their loved ones a "happy birthday" on FB if they're umm dead.
It's how some people cope with the loss. One of my best friends took her own life in November and I sometimes write her emails. I don't actually send them but it helps me deal with the huge void that her passing left in my life.

I'm sorry for your loss. My grandma passed away this year too BUT see this is different than posting a "happy birthday" post on FB. It just doesn't make sense to me to wish a dead person a happy birthday.

Lindsay808 · March 2014

kseccomb17 said:

Cortiz253 said:
I don't get why people wish their loved ones a "happy birthday" on FB if they're umm dead.

And I wear make up. All the time. Having a baby won't change that. I like to live in color, but I really don't care or won't judge someone that doesn't.
What makes any difference between going to their grave site or fb site then? They can't respond either way..

Seriously though, many people don't quit caring because someone has passed away. I think it's a petty thing to point out and you don't need to understand. That's how some people cope.

This. I have a very good friend who took his own life a year ago. People (including myself) stop by his page and comment often, even on his birthday. Yeah, no shit he won't read them but it's more for the friends and family who are grieving. I think it depends on how close you were to the person that passed because I do find it a way to cope.

I hate when people complain about others use of Facebook. If it bugs you so much that Bob posts certain things then just delete his ass or figure out the hiding features. Isn't technology great?

And also with the make up and hair - I can't leave the house without doing mine. But I just don't see it being a priority in the hospital for me so it's not a priority to pack. Who knows though, I've never had a baby before. Maybe I'll feel differently next time.

sking72 · March 2014

Serenla said:

I am of the opinion that everyone should be required to clean public toilets for a week and work a customer service job at least once in their life. I just can't believe how much of a douche canoe people can be to people behind counters.

I feel like anyone who wants to complain about the way some jobs work or whatever needs to spend a month employed there. Customer service: have fun dealing with shitty customers and learn how to be polite! Farms: before you join PETA you should learn how an actual farm works. Not saying all farms are perfect, and there are factory farms, but some people diss all farms assuming they're awful to animals. "Don't bitch about farmers with your mouth full!" Waiter/waitress: sometimes it is hard to remember an order or that you asked for extra sour cream! Be polite when you ask the second time. I can't come up with any more off the top of my head, but anyone feel free to add.

katieharpiceland · March 2014

tiffy81 said:

tiffy81 said:

I think donated breast milk is gross. I would never give my babies someone else's milk....yes I drink cows milk and some people think that's gross but I've been drinking cows milk for 30 years and I'm fine. Donated breast milk is just too sketchy for me. I honestly can't even believe it's a thing.

Also, would you deny a blood transfusion on the same grounds? Because, to me, that's for more creepy than donated breast milk, but, I would do it in a heart beat if it means I live!
Actually I did refuse a blood transfusion last month when I delivered my twins. It creeps me out. My iron was extremely low and my doctor wanted to give me a transfusion. I told him I'd take my iron supplements and wait it out. I'm anemic and I know my body and I didn't think a transfusion was necessary. Now had I been symptomatic then maybe I would've made a different choice and accepted the blood transfusion. But I'm fine and so are my twins drinking my own breast milk. I never said I think breast milk is gross, I said giving MY babies another woman's breast milk grosses me out. And I agree breast milk is best and had I not been able to produce my own milk and the doctors said it was a life or death situation for my babies to have hospital screened donated breast milk then obviously they would receive someone else's milk but it would have to be extreme circumstances for me to make that choice as I did with refusing the blood transfusion.

Maybe you just stated it weird the first time. It really comes across as you don't think people should do this.

tiffy81 · March 2014

katieharpiceland said:

tiffy81 said:

katieharpiceland said:

tiffy81 said:

I think donated breast milk is gross. I would never give my babies someone else's milk....yes I drink cows milk and some people think that's gross but I've been drinking cows milk for 30 years and I'm fine. Donated breast milk is just too sketchy for me. I honestly can't even believe it's a thing.

Also, would you deny a blood transfusion on the same grounds? Because, to me, that's for more creepy than donated breast milk, but, I would do it in a heart beat if it means I live!
Actually I did refuse a blood transfusion last month when I delivered my twins. It creeps me out. My iron was extremely low and my doctor wanted to give me a transfusion. I told him I'd take my iron supplements and wait it out. I'm anemic and I know my body and I didn't think a transfusion was necessary. Now had I been symptomatic then maybe I would've made a different choice and accepted the blood transfusion. But I'm fine and so are my twins drinking my own breast milk.
I never said I think breast milk is gross, I said giving MY babies another woman's breast milk grosses me out. And I agree breast milk is best and had I not been able to produce my own milk and the doctors said it was a life or death situation for my babies to have hospital screened donated breast milk then obviously they would receive someone else's milk but it would have to be extreme circumstances for me to make that choice as I did with refusing the blood transfusion.

Maybe you just stated it weird the first time. It really comes across as you don't think people should do this.

Sorry, thought I was clear. It's not something I would do because of how I feel about it. What other people choose to do is their own business.

sweetpeace13 · March 2014

I don't get the "coming home outfit " thing. Baptism gown that is or will be passed down through a family? Ok...I get. one item of clothing that will be used to transport child and most likely puked or shat on before u get home? Don't get.

sking72 · March 2014

sweetpeace13 said:
I don't get the "coming home outfit " thing. Baptism gown that is or will be passed down through a family? Ok...I get. one item of clothing that will be used to transport child and most likely puked or shat on before u get home? Don't get.

I was really big on "omg I need a cute outfit to bring her home" and then I realized that it didn't make sense... At least to me, because no one but the dogs will be home to greet us and we will probably just lay around once we get home anyway. But to each their own! I just brought my favorite onesies that are super cute.

ksulli · March 2014

I have 'coming home outfits' only because baby comes home with clothes on.

fourthnlast · March 2014

avidkeo said:

Well its almost Thursday everywhere over there....

My UO:

I think women who worry about packing make up and hair product/equipment other than a hairbrush and hair tie in their hospital bag sound vain. And anyone who takes time to do their made up and/or when they go into labor are crazy! I understand the idea of a bit of lippy and mascara to help perk yourself up, but anything beyond that I just don't get. I also think anyone who wont ever leave the house with out makeup on and perfect hair are just ridiculous.

Ok, who's next?

I agree. Even for pictures, I really don't even care how I look, people are there to meet the baby, not see me. I've never been a big make up or hair kind of person, so the thought of doing any of that pre-labor or even while in the hospital completely boggles my mind.

ASasquatch · March 2014

ksulli said:

I have 'coming home outfits' only because baby comes home with clothes on.

That's pretty much my thinking on the matter. I have cute sleepers in 2 sizes that I got for less than $5 each on clearance at target. I'll be lucky if my kid even wears pants on a regular basis after he comes home.

Stace0616 · March 2014

Pinterest is a constant reminder of my failures as a woman. Those DIY wedding flowers that I didn't do, the maternity pics I don't plan to take, etc.

The only useful board I have on there is for recipes. And even on that, I've only made a dozen of them.

fourthnlast · March 2014

LittleLady77 said:

I think the check in feature on Facebook is lame and people who check in everywhere are ridiculous. All it does is tell people you aren't home. I think it's especially weird when people check in with their kids. "Hello creepy world, I'm with my young child at a pool and they are in a swim suite, come stalk us". Yuck. I don't care how private you think your settings are, you are still putting your personal whereabouts on the Internet. Andplusalso no one cares.

Yes!!!! I don't get it either!!

fourthnlast · March 2014

Stace0616 said:

Pinterest is a constant reminder of my failures as a woman. Those DIY wedding flowers that I didn't do, the maternity pics I don't plan to take, etc. The only useful board I have on there is for recipes. And even on that, I've only made a dozen of them.

Yes. Yes and Yes.

AcaAwkward · March 2014

I think people put entirely too much personal stock in Pinterest. It's a tool to use for organization and creativity, not a measure of your individual worth. If you think over-the-top Elf-on-the-Shelf ideas are ridiculous (I do!) or DIY projects make you insecure...don't pin those items???

ETA: I understand the argument is Pinterest has created a culture in which we feel the need to be perfect in every aspect of life. I just feel like it's pretty damn easy to opt out of that mindset.

ashcole28 · March 2014

I've never seen (with or without make up) a model worthy I just had a baby picture. Yes they are all beautiful because it's a beautiful moment but not because you did or didn't do your hair or because you did or didn't put make up on. You look tired and worn out but extremely empowered of what you just accomplished.

AcaAwkward · March 2014

ashcole28 said:
I've never seen (with or without make up) a model worthy I just had a baby picture. Yes they are all beautiful because it's a beautiful moment but not because you did or didn't do your hair or because you did or didn't put make up on. You look tired and worn out but extremely empowered of what you just accomplished.

I don't see anyone saying they are packing makeup so they'll look ZOMG JUST FABULOUS in photos. I also highly doubt any women on Team Makeup would claim their birth experience was diminished if they happened to leave their makeup at home -- I'm sure we can all agree our children's birthdays will be incredibly special (and hopefully empowering) whether we're wearing mascara or bare-faced.

That said, I'm a big believer in women doing whatever makes them feel most beautiful and comfortable in their own skin. If lipgloss makes a day that is otherwise generally uncomfortable (if not downright painful) feel a little more "normal," then rock out with the lipgloss!

knotty-girl · March 2014

AmberLiz99 said:

It really bother me when people say the word "anyways" instead of anyway. When did that become grammatically acceptable? I think it makes the person sound less intelligent (not that they actually are less intelligent, just that they sound that way)

Guilty. $:\$ "> But at least I'm not going around saying irregardless!

sking72 · March 2014

knotty-girl said:

AmberLiz99 said:

It really bother me when people say the word "anyways" instead of anyway. When did that become grammatically acceptable? I think it makes the person sound less intelligent (not that they actually are less intelligent, just that they sound that way)

Guilty. $:\$ "> But at least I'm not going around saying irregardless!

After reading the original post I kept saying "anyway" and "anyways" over and over. I don't know which I do... now it's going to bother me...

fourthnlast · March 2014

AcaAwkward said:

I think people put entirely too much personal stock in Pinterest. It's a tool to use for organization and creativity, not a measure of your individual worth. If you think over-the-top Elf-on-the-Shelf ideas are ridiculous (I do!) or DIY projects make you insecure...don't pin those items??? ETA: I understand the argument is Pinterest has created a culture in which we feel the need to be perfect in every aspect of life. I just feel like it's pretty damn easy to opt out of that mindset.

I don't re-pin them, it's just not me and I've accepted it. My Mom has that crafty gene, it totally skipped me.

hlm184 · March 2014

mamrotu73 said:

This is probably more a strange quirk than UO, but:
I feel bad for the lesser used numbers on the microwave timer (7 and 8 mostly) and purposefully heat things for times using those numbers so they don't feel left out.

ETA: I do understand that the buttons are inanimate objects without feelings. I still want my buttons to wear out at a consistent rate...

Finally, something crazy OCD that I don't do...

BiggerinRealLife · March 2014

I'll weigh in on makeup! I prob won't bother for the birth, because I've barely bothered since I got pregnant. Which I feel bad about, because I have all this awesome makeup wasting away. I love makeup but don't use it daily or even often. It's like dress-up to me. I love it and spend way too much money for products that make me happy and make me feel pretty, but wear it seldom and usually feel pretty anyway. Last year I was all about it, this year can't be bothered. I go in cycles and think it shouldn't be overthought. Makeup is fun! It shouldn't be the hinge on which our self-esteem hangs, (if I ever felt like I couldn't hit the grocery without some on I'd probably start rethinking some things) but it also shouldn't be a decisive issue between women.

Also, I haven't worn any in months, but I do a killer smoky eye. I'll come and do all your makeups for the hospital!

Bluebird2318 · March 2014

ColleenSwerb said:

I still don't understand why anyone gives a shit what I do to my sons penis.

It kind of makes me want to interview random men on the street. "Hello, sir, are you circumcised?" If yes, "Has it resulted in you living a life of anger and despair over your loss? Is there a foreskin sized hole in your heart?" And I say this as someone who leans toward not wanting to circumcise my son.

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