March 2014 Moms

My sanity

I am just so overwhelmed. I am pumping every 2hrs to increase my supply and supplementing with formula.

Eli lost over a pound from his birth weight (he was 9lb 1oz) and has only gained 2oz back in a week. I met with the LC and just cried because he nursed constantly and wasn't gaining. Turns out he is tongue tied. At Friday's pedi appt we decided to have his tongue clipped to improve his latch and overall feeding. I just cried while they did it. His feeding has improved but my supply is taking it's sweet time catching up to demand.

DS(5) is acting out in school, tried to stab a kid with a pencil, threw a large magnet while having a tantrum and cracked the window. We got a call yesterday that physical restraint had to be used because he attempted to run into the street (they grabbed his hand and walked him firmly and quickly back inside). DH currently is sitting on the floor with him in a basket hold (and DS is screaming) so he won't hurt himself or anyone else because he was just throwing a chair and attempting to push over the RnP with the baby in it. I realize this is a HUGE adjustment for him as well and he doesn't know how to handle these emotions. I am just at the end of my rope.

*DS has behavioral issues from drug exposure and severe neglect from bio mom until the age of 2.5.

I am also recovering from a c-section and can only do so much. I feel helpless and as though I am not doing what needs to be done for either of my boys. PP hormones and sleep deprivation do not help at all. To add insult I also have baby vomit, both formula and breast milk variety, baby pee, and dried sweat from my night sweats going on.

No real point to this, just wanting to get it out.
Married 11/23/11, TTC starting 10/12, BFP#1 11/30/12, Adoption of stepson finalized 03/19/13,Loss of our daughter at 20w4d due to incompetent cervix 03/27/13, BFP#2 06/28/13, DS2 born 3/1/14.

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  • I'm sorry you're dealing with this :( I can't say I'd be holding it together any more than you are.

       
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  • I'm so sorry you are going through so much. I don't have much to offer but hugs and wishes that things get better soon. Hang in there. You sound like an amazing mom and like you are doing the best you can.
  • Hang in there. We are here if you need to vent.
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  • Oh momma I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this right now. Sending all the positive vibes your way and hoping things get easier.. Hugs!!!
  • I'm so sorry you're going thru this right now. You sound like you're a great mom (don't doubt that) and I'm sending you lots of thoughts and prayers that it gets easier soon. Hang in there.
  • So sorry you are going through this. Hope things settle down for you soon.
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  • *hugs, hugs, hugs* I am so so sorry all of this is happening for you right now. Just the fact that you can even articulate it all amazes me - it'd be understandable if you were catatonic at this point. Lots and lots of good thoughts your way, I hope things get easier very soon.
  • Hugs!! I'm so sorry that you have to deal with all of this :( Thinking of you!

                          

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  • It's a big adjustment for everyone involved.  Hopefully things settle down soon!
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  • Huge hugs!! I am so sorry you're having to deal with all of this :-( Children with histories/behavioral struggles similar to your 5yo are exactly who I specialize in and work with at my hospital every single day (3-18yr olds) so while I want to refrain from giving professional advice I just want to say - you are doing everything you can, you are a great mom and, in time, he will adjust and things will get better! Hang in there and please come here for support anytime you need to - you need to take care of yourself in order to take care of your boys. More hugs!!!

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  • That is so much to deal with and I'm so sorry you have to go through it. I hope DS1 begins to adjust well soon. I also hope feeding DS2 goes smoothly. Do you have a friend you could call just to grab a cup of coffee with for a bit to give yourself a mini-break? Or even head out by yourself? I wasn't dealing with anything close to what you are with my first, but I found just getting out, even for 30 minutes helped recharge me.
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  • I'm so sorry :( I hope you feel better soon!
  • Creepy internet hugs to you. Sorry it is so rough right now. I hope it gets easier very soon.
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  • So sorry you're going through this!
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  • So many hugs to you! I hope everything starts to get a little bit easier. I have no words of advice (FTM) and wish I could offer something. 



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  • Hugs and an ear for you to let it all out.
  • No words advice just major hugs coming your way.
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  • So sorry to hear how rough it is right now.  Hang in there and reach out for help whenever possible.  Is your son in any type of therapy?  None of my business really just a thought I had.  Good luck and you can vent to us anytime!

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  • Big hugs to you. You can always vent here, lots of love and support. Try and take some time for yourself, maybe a short walk to just rejuvenate and get some fresh air. Things will turn around real soon!
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  • Lots of big hugs, Ts&Ps. That would be rough even without the new baby, sleep deprivation and post partum hormones!
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  • No advice but want to give ((hugs)) hang In there! You are an amazing person and mother
  • Hang in there Perky and as others have said, we are hear to listen and attempt to give support.


  • Hang in there! The adjustment is hard for everyone. Sending hugs.
  • I am so sorry that ur dealing with all of this. I understand how overwhelming this all is. I don't have good advice but I wish u well and hope all of this works itself out so u can be happy mommy! As a fellow csectioner I cNt imagine dealing with the emotional pain plus the awful physical pain thAts ur experiencing. You'll get thru it!
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    *hugs* and hope that you get a chance to catch your breath soon! You are tough!
  • I'm so sorry!! Keep reminding yourself that things will only improve and you are an awesome mommy! You are doing everything you can!
  • I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. *hugs*
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  • I have no real advice, just wanted to send support! I hope that things start to smooth over as DS1 adjusts. Stay strong, mama! Those boys are lucky to have a mom like you! Sending internet hugs your way!


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  • I'm so, so sorry you're dealing with this, I can't imagine how stressful this must be.  I don't have any advice, I'm sure you're doing a great job.  Don't be hard on yourself.  Sending you many, many positive vibes that DS is able to accept Eli soon & that Eli starts putting on more weight.
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  • I'm so sorry. That's a lot for anyone to handle. Sending lots of hugs !

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  • So sorry you're going through all this. Hope the venting helps, I just wish I had some words of wisdom for you (my son stabbed a kid with a pencil once), but I have no brilliant or helpful ideas. I'm so glad you reached out for help though and you're willing to let it out, that is such a strong thing to do and such a great step.
  • Thanks for the support. I managed to get in a nap and DS1 has calmed down. Things don't feel so out of control at the moment.

    DS1 does have a behavioral therapist and we have been working with her closely to try and prepare him for the new baby and have contacted her to work on issues now that baby is here. He also has a very thorough IEP with school that also addresses behavioral issues.

    These last few days have just been rough, but eventually we'll survive it.
    Married 11/23/11, TTC starting 10/12, BFP#1 11/30/12, Adoption of stepson finalized 03/19/13,Loss of our daughter at 20w4d due to incompetent cervix 03/27/13, BFP#2 06/28/13, DS2 born 3/1/14.

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  • You are holding it together a lot better than most of us could.  You're doing a good job, and what is best for both of your kids.  Hang in there, I know it's hard.  My thoughts are with you.
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  • I'm so sorry you've got all this going on, lady. PP is just a very overwhelming time so please don't be hard on yourself!!
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  • Hugs!
    DS1 had a tongue tie that we had clipped when he was 9 days old. That helped a lot but it took awhile to get my supply up after that. Don't be too hard on yourself over supply as that will only make it worse. Give yourself time.
    I'm sorry to hear that the transition is so tough for DS1. T&P's that things get easier soon.
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  • Just hugs. Lots of them. So sorry!
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