advice!!!! Who will be in delivery room

Re: advice!!!! Who will be in delivery room

• Ylvelill member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  Guess I am the odd man out here.
  
  First off I am sorry he has put you in this shitty situation
  
  I would sit down and have a serious conversation with him about what it is he wants at this point. Does he want to return to taking part in your life and your children's lives? Or is this some fleeting fancy because he feels guilty?
  
  I don't really care what he deserves or don't deserves, his kids deserve that he gets a chance to be a father even if he messed up and ran away.
  
  As for the delivery room, that is totally up to you and how you feel. Set a limit that you are comfortable with before hand and let him know what it is.
  
  I hope the two of you can come to an agreement you can both live with.

  Report0 Reply
• Loading the player...
• blacktie3 member

  March 2014

  He certainly wouldn't be in the room with me and I wouldn't care what anyone thought!  Sorry he's an Ass ;(
  

  <<a href="http://lilypie.com/">>

  Report1 Reply
• Xtremelyeuro member

  March 2014

  Having your baby is supposed to be a time wherein are with loved ones and getting all the comfort and support that u need. It also is such a special time...whoever brings u those good vibes should be there with u. Ya he may be the dad but he won't give I the peace, comfort and support u need. He made his choice when he broke your heart.

  Report0 Reply
• Unknown

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  This content has been removed.
• lamarei member

  March 2014

  We are not telling anyone when I go to the hospital. Our family dysfunction (on both sides) stresses me out on a regular basis, it's not ruining my babies birth. I told everyone DH will text them when I'm ready. If anyone pisses me off, they will have to leave. It's amazing how a baby makes family members rediculous.

  Report1 Reply
• shesamommy member

  March 2014

  Avoid the stress. Cut them all off if it makes you feel better. Your the focus and he shouldnt get to experience a life coming in the world that hes not "ready" to be apart of

   

  Report1 Reply
• shesamommy member

  March 2014

  Bliss+Berry said:

  Ylvelill said:

  Guess I am the odd man out here. First off I am sorry he has put you in this shitty situation I would sit down and have a serious conversation with him about what it is he wants at this point. Does he want to return to taking part in your life and your children's lives? Or is this some fleeting fancy because he feels guilty? I don't really care what he deserves or don't deserves, his kids deserve that he gets a chance to be a father even if he messed up and ran away. As for the delivery room, that is totally up to you and how you feel. Set a limit that you are comfortable with before hand and let him know what it is. I hope the two of you can come to an agreement you can both live with.

  
  

  
  

  Except that he told her he can't handle having a wife and kids, it sounds like he just doesn't want the responsibility and wants to come and go as he pleases, which is not beneficial to children. They need stability, not a father who is present whenever the mood strikes him.

  
  

  OP, tell your H to pound sand.  

  
  

  I don't know much about the military, but I might consider reporting the two of them, if that is an option.  The only thing is that he might get a discharge and have difficulty with child support.  You should definitely talk to a lawyer, pronto.

  
  

  Good luck with everything.  So sorry you are going through this.

  i'm dual Navy and I'd definitely report them to legal. You have rights as a spouse and it pushes him to choose because then his reputation is on the line. The whole depolyment gf and bf crap annoys me.
  

   

  Report2 Reply
• eortman member

  March 2014

  I think you need to do what is best for you. My advice would be to make sure that you don't want him in the room, because it would be upsetting for you, not because you want to use it as revenge. My first instinct in your situation would be to say "Hell no, you won't be in the room," but I would probably be doing it just to hurt him. If he is going to be in your child's life growing up, that is definately something to consider. Whether or not he is a jerk (and it sure sounds like he is) it is his child and your child's father. Good luck in your decision, because it sounds like a hard one and hopefully you'll have the peace of mind to make a decision that you won't regret. I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with such a difficult situation.

                                          

  

  Report1 Reply