Help not gotten a postive yet but having watery cm

Rae5babes · March 2014

Ok I am around 8 dpo maybe 7 not sure got a postive ovulation test last Monday which was the 3rd. Baby danced with hubby on the 2nd. And now I am having a clear watery discarge it's not a lot. Has anyone else had this and gotten a postive pt test later.

dr_pr · March 2014

I've had that as a part of my normal PMS symptoms, and also when I got my BFP. Unfortunately, there's nothing to do but wait and POAS in a few days. Remember that progesterone (the hormone that increases after O) makes your body think it is pregnant, so PMS really does look like early pregnancy. And also just because one of us had something doesn't mean you will too.

musicalmommy3 · March 2014

Unfortunately everyone is different, and unless you have a positive pregnancy test we cannot tell you if you are pregnant. Wishing you the best of luck.

renbee · March 2014

Even if I had gotten these symptoms before my bfp, it means absolutely nothing for you.

Also, baby danced? What is this, 7th grade? It's called sex.

missnacholover · March 2014

You can't say you're pregnant until you've gotten a positive test.

And baby dance? *eyeroll* Are you 12?

too_excited_to_sleep · March 2014

I think some people use "DTD" if they are shy about using the big SEX word.

Edit: no need for an exclamation point...

ebwhit · March 2014

missnacholover Aaren91011 -- actually BD or baby dance is a well ingrained part of the bump vernacular. Everyone uses it. If you were part of the bump community before your BFP you would know that.

missnacholover · March 2014

ebwhit said:

missnacholover Aaren91011 -- actually BD or baby dance is a well ingrained part of the bump vernacular. Everyone uses it. If you were part of the bump community before your BFP you would know that.

Ummm, I've been posting here since September, thanks.

ebwhit · March 2014

missnacholover said:

ebwhit said:

missnacholover Aaren91011 -- actually BD or baby dance is a well ingrained part of the bump vernacular. Everyone uses it. If you were part of the bump community before your BFP you would know that.

Ummm, I've been posting here since September, thanks.

well then maybe you shouldn't be sass women that are just using perfectly acceptable bump terms. If she said prego that would be a different story.

missnacholover · March 2014

ebwhit said:

missnacholover said:

ebwhit said:

missnacholover Aaren91011 -- actually BD or baby dance is a well ingrained part of the bump vernacular. Everyone uses it. If you were part of the bump community before your BFP you would know that.

Ummm, I've been posting here since September, thanks.

well then maybe you shouldn't be sass women that are just using perfectly acceptable bump terms. If she said prego that would be a different story.

Oh, please.

mockingjay1 · March 2014

ebwhit said:

missnacholover Aaren91011 -- actually BD or baby dance is a well ingrained part of the bump vernacular. Everyone uses it. If you were part of the bump community before your BFP you would know that.

Um, what? @missnacholover & @Aaren91011 were frequent posters on TTGP. I was lurking on the board for more than a year (only posting a few months), but I don't remember one single person that said "baby dancing" that didn't get called out for it on that board. To assume people weren't on the bump for not using certain terms is silly. This must vary greatly from board to board. It makes me cringe when people can't simply say what they mean (ie sex). We aren't children.

OP - If you spent 5 minutes on the TTGP board, or trying to learn about your body (fertility friend website, the book Taking Charge of your Fertility) you would learn you can have any kind of cervical mucous at any point in your cycle. Having it after you've ovulated isn't an indicator of anything. I do wish you luck, but you have to help yourself out a little and try to educate yourself.

missnacholover · March 2014

dmo1371 said:

ebwhit said:

missnacholover Aaren91011 -- actually BD or baby dance is a well ingrained part of the bump vernacular. Everyone uses it. If you were part of the bump community before your BFP you would know that.

Um, what? @missnacholover & @Aaren91011 were frequent posters on TTGP. I was lurking on the board for more than a year (only posting a few months), but I don't remember one single person that said "baby dancing" that didn't get called out for it on that board. To assume people weren't on the bump for not using certain terms is silly. This must vary greatly from board to board. It makes me cringe when people can't simply say what they mean (ie sex). We aren't children.

OP - If you spent 5 minutes on the TTGP board, or trying to learn about your body (fertility friend website, the book Taking Charge of your Fertility) you would learn you can have any kind of cervical mucous at any point in your cycle. Having it after you've ovulated isn't an indicator of anything. I do wish you luck, but you have to help yourself out a little and try to educate yourself.

This. Also, *sass warning*, methinks that a BMB isn't quite the place to post your "Am I Pregnant?!" symptoms. There are great daily posts on the Trying To Get Pregnant board called the 2 week wait and Waiting to O. Check them out, OP. Do not, I repeat, do not post an individual "OMG, I have CM, am I preggo? I Baby Danced the shit out of my husband last week!" thread. It will not go over well.

vtulch · March 2014

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

missnacholover · March 2014

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

*snort*. OK. I really don't think anyone was "cruel" in this thread.

TeeJ526 · March 2014

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

No meanies here. We can talk about watery CM, but can't say the word SEX? Mmkay...

vtulch · March 2014

missnacholover said:

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

*snort*. OK. I really don't think anyone was "cruel" in this thread.

You were. This is an open space to share your thoughts and get help and support from others. Who are you to tell someone what they can and cannot post and what words they can and cannot use!?!?

missnacholover · March 2014

vista1505 said:

missnacholover said:

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

*snort*. OK. I really don't think anyone was "cruel" in this thread.

You were. This is an open place to share your thoughts and get help and support from others. who are you to tell someone what they can and cannot post and what words they can and cannot use!?!?

Being snarky does not = cruel.

And I'm MissNachoLover. Pleased to meet you!

vtulch · March 2014

I'm not here to start any arguments but it worries me to see one poor women getting grilled for using her choice of words and what she's comfortable with... again this is not a place to judge.

missnacholover · March 2014

OK. I appreciate the white knighting. Well done.

If you want to get technical about it, OP shouldn't have even posted here in the first place as she hasn't even gotten a positive pregnancy test yet.

Just sayin'.

mockingjay1 · March 2014

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

I don't think anyone here was mean or cruel. I wished the OP good luck and offered her resources to educate herself on her body. I'm not going to give her false hope, that doesn't benefit her.

How on earth did baby dancing get associated with having sex anyway? The way I figure it - if you're mature enough be TTC you should be mature enough to use real words and be somewhat educated on your body.

Since the OP is TTC (and is not pregnant) the TTGP board would have been more appropriate. Had she have looked at the first page of threads (or just read the newbie blog) on that board she probably wouldn't have asked this question. Why am I supposed to give someone support who isn't doing anything to help themselves?

We are all clearly very different, and apparently some of us are more realistic/blunt than others. I consider myself to be a pretty warm fuzzy person, but if you want something bad enough I feel you should educate yourself on it. Maybe I'm a weirdo, but when my husband and I decided we were ready for a baby, I learned everything I could about my body. I started temping, using OPKs, checking CM, etc. Being educated about your body leads to very few (if any) questions like the OPs being asked.

vtulch · March 2014

missnacholover said:
OK. I appreciate the white knighting. Well done.

If you want to get technical about it, OP shouldn't have even posted here in the first place as she hasn't even gotten a positive pregnancy test yet.

Just sayin'.

Yes I understand that.. So she jumped the gun...but so what? Why does it bother you so much? She's excited and hopeful and I'm sure she won't be the last either... I say better get used to it and instead of being "snarky" (your words) ignore it if you can't say something nice.

missnacholover · March 2014

vista1505 said:

OK. I appreciate the white knighting. Well done.

If you want to get technical about it, OP shouldn't have even posted here in the first place as she hasn't even gotten a positive pregnancy test yet.

Just sayin'.

Yes I understand that.. So she jumped the gun...but so what? This isn't the right place to post "OMG am I pregnant because I farted today?" type posts. Why does it bother you so much? It really doesn't, I just think it's silly. She's excited and hopeful and I'm sure she won't be the last either... I say better get used to it and instead of being "snarky" (your words) ignore it if you can't say something nice. Didn't you previously tell me that I can't dictate what people posts and what words they use? Aren't you trying to do the same thing to me? Things that make you go hmmmmm....

ETA: I am not here to hold anyone's hand and I'm not here to get my hand held. I believe the majority of the women here will agree with me.

This is a place to commiserate with women who are in the same place in their lives. Not for blowing sunshine up people's asses.

vtulch · March 2014

dmo1371 said:

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

I don't think anyone here was mean or cruel. I wished the OP good luck and offered her resources to educate herself on her body. I'm not going to give her false hope, that doesn't benefit her.

How on earth did baby dancing get associated with having sex anyway? The way I figure it - if you're mature enough be TTC you should be mature enough to use real words and be somewhat educated on your body.

Since the OP is TTC (and is not pregnant) the TTGP board would have been more appropriate. Had she have looked at the first page of threads (or just read the newbie blog) on that board she probably wouldn't have asked this question. Why am I supposed to give someone support who isn't doing anything to help themselves?

We are all clearly very different, and apparently some of us are more realistic/blunt than others. I consider myself to be a pretty warm fuzzy person, but if you want something bad enough I feel you should educate yourself on it. Maybe I'm a weirdo, but when my husband and I decided we were ready for a baby, I learned everything I could about my body. I started temping, using OPKs, checking CM, etc. Being educated about your body leads to very few (if any) questions like the OPs being asked.

Clearly I wasn't talking about you. Offering help to one another is exactly what we're here for. But others grilled her about her choice of words and in my opinion people shouldn't feel like they're walking on eggshells when choosing their words and they should not worry about possibly "Annoying" other expecting moms because they're not comfortable enough or maybe just didn't feel like using the word SEX.

carcrashheart · March 2014

good grief.

i'm going to jump right on in here. since i've been on these stupid boards since 2008 and can't seem to get away from them.

baby dance is a well known phrase. i hate it, but that isn't the point. it's abbreviated to BD. it doesn't mean big deal. some boards have used other phrases. doing the deed. banging it out. yadda yadda. i think it's all incredibly stupid. we're adults. it's called sex. but hey, whatever. call it what you want.

i think most importantly someone needs to inform the OP that 7/8dpo is too damn early for a +HPT. i mean, seriously. too early. some might get one at 9dpo, but that's not typical. so, OP, wait until 12dpo. if it's still negative, it's negative, no matter how well you did your baby dancing. report back when it's positive. also, you may want to consider visiting the boards that are specific to trying to get pregnant. there is one on TN and one on TB. pick your poison. but lurk before you post.

renbee · March 2014

dmo1371 said:

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

I don't think anyone here was mean or cruel. I wished the OP good luck and offered her resources to educate herself on her body. I'm not going to give her false hope, that doesn't benefit her.

How on earth did baby dancing get associated with having sex anyway? The way I figure it - if you're mature enough be TTC you should be mature enough to use real words and be somewhat educated on your body.

Since the OP is TTC (and is not pregnant) the TTGP board would have been more appropriate. Had she have looked at the first page of threads (or just read the newbie blog) on that board she probably wouldn't have asked this question. Why am I supposed to give someone support who isn't doing anything to help themselves?

We are all clearly very different, and apparently some of us are more realistic/blunt than others. I consider myself to be a pretty warm fuzzy person, but if you want something bad enough I feel you should educate yourself on it. Maybe I'm a weirdo, but when my husband and I decided we were ready for a baby, I learned everything I could about my body. I started temping, using OPKs, checking CM, etc. Being educated about your body leads to very few (if any) questions like the OPs being asked.

This. Well said.

I am happy to give help and support. If you look at my post history (and @missnacholover 's, btw), you'll see I do so often. But you have to give support to get it. OP ran in here to ask a completely uninformed question to a group of strangers.

If someone has a legitimate/intelligent question, I'm happy to answer it, no snark included. But first they really need to make sure the that it can't be solved by A) asking a doctor (if it's really serious),

googling it, or C) searching the forums for similar questions that have already been asked and answered 1,000 times.

Edit: words are hard.

vtulch · March 2014

Aaren91011 said:

dmo1371 said:

vista1505 said:

Why do people have to be so mean... so she used the term "baby dance" BIG DEAL! Some people aren't comfortable saying the word "SEX" to complete strangers, WHO CARES! This is not a place to judge! and if you don't like someone's post wondering if they're pregnant DON'T COMMENT move on to the next there's no need to be cruel.

I don't think anyone here was mean or cruel. I wished the OP good luck and offered her resources to educate herself on her body. I'm not going to give her false hope, that doesn't benefit her.

How on earth did baby dancing get associated with having sex anyway? The way I figure it - if you're mature enough be TTC you should be mature enough to use real words and be somewhat educated on your body.

Since the OP is TTC (and is not pregnant) the TTGP board would have been more appropriate. Had she have looked at the first page of threads (or just read the newbie blog) on that board she probably wouldn't have asked this question. Why am I supposed to give someone support who isn't doing anything to help themselves?

We are all clearly very different, and apparently some of us are more realistic/blunt than others. I consider myself to be a pretty warm fuzzy person, but if you want something bad enough I feel you should educate yourself on it. Maybe I'm a weirdo, but when my husband and I decided we were ready for a baby, I learned everything I could about my body. I started temping, using OPKs, checking CM, etc. Being educated about your body leads to very few (if any) questions like the OPs being asked.

This. Well said.

I am happy to give help and support. If you look at my post history (and @missnacholover 's, btw), you'll see I do so often. But you have to give support to get it. OP ran in here to ask a completely uninformed question to a group of strangers.

If someone has a legitimate/intelligent question, I'm happy to answer it, no snark included. But first they really need to make sure the it that can't be solved by A) asking a doctor (if it's really serious), googling it, or C) searching the forums for similar questions that have already been asked and answered 1,000 times.

I definitely see your point and thank you for your nice response

LadyBird9 · March 2014

The first time I ever posted on the bump was like 6 years ago and was a very similar (stupid) question. I used the wrong acronyms and came across as a total idiot. I even deleted it but it was caught by someone and re posted... I was mortified. Taught me a lesson, I did my research, and came back later understanding the rules.

Personally, I enjoy a little snark every once and a while. If you're going to post on the internet you need some thick skin.