@pitchslap been there! DH somehow found time to nap twice and play his guitar for over 4 hours this weekend, yet I get the side eye if my run lasts longer than half an hour. I'm used to it by now though so I'm not even going to bitch about it. My bitch: my sciatica is back and really bad. It has been mostly gone for 3 years but I've been having a lot of trouble the last 3 days. Also money is stressful. I feel like I will never get ahead and start saving again
@Bleachy14 You have an insulation problem. That's what's causing ice damming. That and you should make sure your gutters are cleared out before winter starts to prevent any clogs that lead to buildup.
~your friendly bump architect
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
For some strange reason I'd hoped to get some help cleaning the house this weekend...instead it looks worse than before and I now have to clean it alone. Boo!
Also, I have to pick a new cell phone which is fun, but I have no idea what to pick. Extra stress.
1) I told my mom I'm knocked up again. She was both happy and upset. Now though, she has started freaking out! I know this is high risk but I don't need that added stress. We will take everything as it comes. All I can do is try to heal my liver before the third trimester.
2) Our house only has 2 bedrooms on the first floor (the basement is being rented out) and the rooms are too small to have the babies share. My DH won't listen to me for ideas to make another room. He just wants to rent out the house (no point in selling here, the market sucks) and buy a new one. I either want to renovate or sell. I guess we will just have to wait until after the first trimester to make that decision.
I typed out an insanely long bitch and then realized how it was a lot of little petty complaints that boil down to one major problem:
DH does nothing childcare related unless asked and has zero idea what I do and has no respect for her schedule. And also he won't have sex with me. You'd think that on the weekends he would take the opportunity to spend more time with her or at least put her schedule at the top of the priority list before he makes plans and invites a ton of his friends over without discussing it with me and then calls me "uptight" when I protest that there will be 8 people at our house while E is trying to take her afternoon nap.
If he thinks we're going to pop out baby #2 without him stepping it up, he is seriously delusional. He couldn't even hold her for five minutes while I attempted to socialize with all the guests. I wonder why she cries when you hold her, DH, when you spend a maximum of half an hour with her on any given day? Figure it out.
DH told me yesterday that it feels like I don't care about him, and I always put myself before him. It was inconsiderate of me to not empty the dishwasher while cooking dinner and feeding the baby. If I couldn't do it then, then I should have done it after fighting with her for three hours to get her to sleep. It would have taken no time at all for me to straighten up the kitchen before going to bed knowing that he would come home and HAVE to do it. (Really, DH? Really?)
I'm so sorry that my eating and sleeping is making him feel unloved. Guess I need to cut back on that selfish behavior.
DH told me yesterday that it feels like I don't care about him, and I always put myself before him. It was inconsiderate of me to not empty the dishwasher while cooking dinner and feeding the baby. If I couldn't do it then, then I should have done it after fighting with her for three hours to get her to sleep. It would have taken no time at all for me to straighten up the kitchen before going to bed knowing that he would come home and HAVE to do it. (Really, DH? Really?)
I'm so sorry that my eating and sleeping is making him feel unloved. Guess I need to cut back on that selfish behavior.
Are we married to the same man? I'm sooooo selfish, and was informed last night that "this isn't going to work anymore". Super.
This is kind of a bitchfest, but more like a annoyed/discouraged post
So, we're in the process of trying to figure out where were going to live within the next few months. We either stay here, find a house, or DH finds a job an hour away, and we buy a house there (we'll be a lot closer to family). So, all of this stuff is going on. And to add more stress, DH needs surgery on his nose soon, and he needs serious dental work (braces & invisalign). We've been trying to buy a house since last year. We held off for almost a year to recoup some money we lost with the condo we sold...so basically this last year has been pretty stress-free (besides having DD, which wasn't as stressful as we thought).
Anyway, I guess my bitch is:
1. WTF is up with this housing market...it really sucks, and I'm not certain if we'll ever find our forever home.
2. WTF is up with all this stressful stuff going on at the same time. Why couldn't my husbands physical issues be put off until the summer??
DH told me yesterday that it feels like I don't care about him, and I always put myself before him. It was inconsiderate of me to not empty the dishwasher while cooking dinner and feeding the baby. If I couldn't do it then, then I should have done it after fighting with her for three hours to get her to sleep. It would have taken no time at all for me to straighten up the kitchen before going to bed knowing that he would come home and HAVE to do it. (Really, DH? Really?)
I'm so sorry that my eating and sleeping is making him feel unloved. Guess I need to cut back on that selfish behavior.
Are we married to the same man? I'm sooooo selfish, and was informed last night that "this isn't going to work anymore". Super.
That's awful. I'm sorry. We may be headed down that road if something doesn't give soon. I love him and want to work on things, but he is showing zero interest in making any changes together.
He told me I don't do enough little things to show I care. I do little things, but not the right ones. Thing is, these things change from week to week, and I'm supposed to magically know what they are. Yesterday, I told him that I can't read his mind. He responded with, "I can't read your mind either, but at least I try." Because that's somehow better than just talking to me.
I suggested we make time for counseling, and he said, "Not WE make time. I would have to make the time." He works 3-11pm and morning counseling would cut into his sleep. I told him if he finds a counselor who sees people at midnight, I'll gladly go.
I took DD to the library today. She loved it. Unfortunately there was a preschooler and another baby there. Well the baby had no interest in playing so Freyja went to the activity table where the preschooler was. And this kid really says to me, "she should go home and not come back for a while because she's bothering me." Really?! I didn't been side eye, I straight glared at the mom. I never let Freyja touch what he was doing. I should have asked her if she realized her kids were socially stunted. I know in blowing this up but it's my first mean kid experience
I took DD to the library today. She loved it. Unfortunately there was a preschooler and another baby there. Well the baby had no interest in playing so Freyja went to the activity table where the preschooler was. And this kid really says to me, "she should go home and not come back for a while because she's bothering me." Really?! I didn't been side eye, I straight glared at the mom. I never let Freyja touch what he was doing. I should have asked her if she realized her kids were socially stunted. I know in blowing this up but it's my first mean kid experience
Ha! Sorry, but that is funny. Only because I have a preschooler and I know I cannot control his mouth at all. He's that mean to me sometimes, "mommy I don't want your snuggles, Daddy snuggles better." or "leave me alone, I don't want to see your face." Last night over the monitor he kept saying, "daddy, I'm hungry! I'm hungry and you're just ignoring me!!!" (DH talked to him over the monitor and said he wasn't ignoring him and it was bedtime and he had a huge dinner to which he replied, "then say you're sorry daddy for ignoring me when I'm hungry!")
Don't read to much into mean preschoolers! They kinda suck sometimes, I know I live with one!
During the whole "where's everyone sleeping for grandma's funeral" situation, DH mentioned our Sesame trip to his brother SIL and asked if they might be interested in coming(with my half hearted blessing). We were always planning on inviting the ILs to come. In the moment they said "Yeah, um sure, maybe!" I texted my SIL and emailed her with our tentative plans - never heard back. I texted her again last week when we decided to change the date. Nothing. I told DH I'm done. They are officially not included.
Re: Bitchfest?
My bitch: my sciatica is back and really bad. It has been mostly gone for 3 years but I've been having a lot of trouble the last 3 days.
Also money is stressful. I feel like I will never get ahead and start saving again
~your friendly bump architect
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
Also, I have to pick a new cell phone which is fun, but I have no idea what to pick. Extra stress.
2) Our house only has 2 bedrooms on the first floor (the basement is being rented out) and the rooms are too small to have the babies share. My DH won't listen to me for ideas to make another room. He just wants to rent out the house (no point in selling here, the market sucks) and buy a new one. I either want to renovate or sell. I guess we will just have to wait until after the first trimester to make that decision.
I'm so sorry that my eating and sleeping is making him feel unloved. Guess I need to cut back on that selfish behavior.
He told me I don't do enough little things to show I care. I do little things, but not the right ones. Thing is, these things change from week to week, and I'm supposed to magically know what they are. Yesterday, I told him that I can't read his mind. He responded with, "I can't read your mind either, but at least I try." Because that's somehow better than just talking to me.
I suggested we make time for counseling, and he said, "Not WE make time. I would have to make the time." He works 3-11pm and morning counseling would cut into his sleep. I told him if he finds a counselor who sees people at midnight, I'll gladly go.