First night.

Junebug060609 · March 2014

Nope. He will be home with our two year old.

alphalyrae · March 2014

DH wants to stay. I told him it wasn't necessary but he was insistent.

katesy21 · March 2014

I can't imagine DH not staying with me. My mom will be keeping our older 2 girls and DH will stay with me the whole time. He helped me so much the first 2 times, I feel like I need him there with me again.

MissLadyTay · March 2014

Yes. My parents or in laws will stay with our toddler. I want my husband with me, getting to know our new child. I know he wants that too.

His(1&only)wife · March 2014

No he will go home to be with DS1. He went home at night the first time as well. He snores and the fold out couch would not have been comfortable. There were so many nurses available that I had help if I needed it. He will come back in the mornings and then spend most of the day. He may leave to go get food for DS1 but I'm not sure. My parents will also be staying at our house to help with DS1.

chillypenguin · March 2014

DH will be staying with me at the hospital. I think the only reason this would change is if DD has an extremely difficult time staying at my parents house (she will be 20 months old), but I don't see that being an issue (hopefully).

spinsoffresonance · March 2014

When DD was born DH stayed with us the first 3 out of 4 nights. There's no way he would have want to be anywhere else. The hospital had a cot for him. I sent him home the fourth night and sent DD to the nursery so we could all try to get some sleep before coming home. This time tough DD will only be 18m old, she has no idea what's going on and she has never gone to bed without either me or DH putting her down so DH will be going home to DD every night.
I think it's insane some hospitals don't allow dads to stay overnight.

Mikki62 · March 2014

DH will probably stay. He did with DD, he will probably stay again and DD will stay with my parents.

Ladiebug30 · March 2014

I chose maybe. Until last week, I would have chosen Yes, Not Optional, but after a discussion I had with DH, maybe. We're very torn on feeling comfortable leaving DS with anyone (or having anyone stay with him here). Inlaws are out because they are incompetent and unreliable, though they disagree and feel they should be allowed to take him on vacations. Bleck, not the point. My mom works full time and I'm not sure she could get the time off, though she would be the ideal choice. If we can't come to some sort of conclusion, I'll be staying alone and DH will bring DS home to sleep.

CVislo · March 2014

My husband will stay home with our son. He didn't even stay with me after our first son was born.

ho11yday · March 2014

Hell no he won't sleep with me at the hospital. We did that the first time. Miserable. Better that he actually get a good night's rest then be pissy for 8 weeks. Besides, I think it will be better for DS1 to have his dad at home and on a normal routine.

Cupcakes89 · March 2014

Well according to DH he isn't letting baby out of his sights so I suppose that means he will be sleeping on the reclining chair next to the bed lol... though I don't mind... I don't like hospitals much and I might freak out and panic if no one I know is near by =o

Besides DH is a hospital veteran.. he has practically lived in them since he was 3years old from all his kidney surgeries and near death experiencs so he might know the best ways to steal goodies for me like extra mesh panties and pads and stuff =D

frugalwife · March 2014

Our hospital has queen sized beds in the postpartum suites so he will definitely be staying with me. I can't believe there are hospitals that still don't allow your SO to stay overnight. Seems so 80's!

Mittens14 · March 2014

CamrynnsMommy said:

This post makes me thankful for private suites (and room service @danabsd) and delivering at a hospital that allows SO's to stay. I can't even imagine my H not being able to stay.

It was actually much better for all of us that DH wasn't able to stay. We all got to sleep each night, he was home to be with our dog for several hours at a time... If he had been there none of us would have gotten any sleep, we would have had to have someone stay with the dog instead of just having our neighbor check in and let her out/feed her during the day. I was in the hospital 5 days and after my c-section really needed any additonal rest I could get before I came home. We came home rested and feeling good. I'm hoping for a repeat performance this time lol! Plus this time we also have DS and don't want to disrupt his schedule too much. He's never once been away from us both overnight in 3.5 years, I don't want to try to deal with that now when I'm going to be worried about so many other things, he's already going to be so upset that I'm not home at night, I wouldn't want him to be without DH too. If it hadn't been a good experience for us we would have chosen to deliver at the other hospital my doctor is affiliated with.

Hallil · March 2014

Ss-if all goes well it will be our second 'home birth' (but at someone else's house) so hopefully we will all be back home. With DD we left our house at 7 am and were back home with baby at 6 pm.

christieep · March 2014

Probably. This depends on what time of day LO is born. If he is born early in the morning, DH will probably just spend the day there and go home to take care of DS. If we didn't have DS (and two dogs) at home he would probably stay.

Mamazon2014 · March 2014

Because of having a big enough support group, DH is going to work until I'm out of the hospital and then je'll take his time off. His work is 2 miles from the hospital so staying on the futon in the birthing suite is definitely an option for him but I would understand it if he would rather sleep at home in our bed.

noice247 · March 2014

I'm hoping he will be able to. When I had our first DS he stayed both nights but now that we have a tot it will depend on if we have someone to watch him

cchild101010 · March 2014

I would assume DH would stay with me but I guess I will leave it up to him. We have 4 dogs and a horse at home so he will probably need to go home and take care of our animals at some point.

Sarac2288 · March 2014

I would love him too but idk who would keep our 3 year old. Might just have him stay night at home then come back in morning

jjones59 · March 2014

It really depends on what time I have the baby, his cousin lives 3 blocks from the hospital, so he may go there and come back in the morning. It also depends on LO as well, if she doesn't handle things well he'll come home and stay with her too.

pearl802 · March 2014

Our house is literally a three minute drive from the hospital, which doesn't provide comfy sleeping arrangements for dads, so we'll just see how everything goes...if things go smoothly and he wants to go home and crash in our bed for a few hours at any point after she's born, I certainly won't hold it against him, especially since he can be back at the hospital in under five minutes should I need him for anything.

kb2bkk · March 2014

I chose yes, but it will all depend on the length of stay. Last time I was in there for 6 days between 2 days of labor, and then a c-section, and he didn't leave the hospital once.

This time we will have to take DD into account, and how she is doing so he may go home to spend a night or two with her depending. DD & the dog will stay with my parents and/or my in-laws, but not for 6 nights.

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