FFFC

JustCricket · March 2014

Groxb said:

carmstr4 said:

kateitho said:

1. I really don't understand the obsession that grown women have with the movie Mean Girls.

If I wasn't at work, I would gif the shit outta this. I just don't understand how you DON'T understand?!

I will say, it may have something to do with the fact that I was 15 years old when it came out. But, I doubt it.

Right?! It's like asking why grown women in 1994 had as obsession with "The Breakfast Club" or "Pretty In Pink"

If you don't like it, that's your prerogative. But grouping all "grown women" and questioning it? It's a cult classic!

why do we hear people reminiscing about the Magic School Bus? becuase it made a bit impact on them when they were growing up. I'm sure you can hear older women rave about certain actors or shows or movies... or the beatles and how hottt they are (not really but w/e some people obsess over it)

Groxb · March 2014

flyawaycricket said:

Groxb said:

carmstr4 said:

kateitho said:

1. I really don't understand the obsession that grown women have with the movie Mean Girls.

If I wasn't at work, I would gif the shit outta this. I just don't understand how you DON'T understand?!

I will say, it may have something to do with the fact that I was 15 years old when it came out. But, I doubt it.

Right?! It's like asking why grown women in 1994 had as obsession with "The Breakfast Club" or "Pretty In Pink"

If you don't like it, that's your prerogative. But grouping all "grown women" and questioning it? It's a cult classic!

why do we hear people reminiscing about the Magic School Bus? becuase it made a bit impact on them when they were growing up. I'm sure you can hear older women rave about certain actors or shows or movies... or the beatles and how hottt they are (not really but w/e some people obsess over it)

I call dibs on being the old woman who still quotes Mean Girls.

I'm sittin' on my front porch, rockin' in the breeze. A little kid flies by on his hoover craft. I shout, "You go, Glenn Coco!"

beckynsean11 · March 2014

Is there some time limit on how long I allowed to like things? Because I'm a "grown woman", I'm not allowed to like things I liked in high school or college anymore? Time to toss a shitload of CDs & movies I guess.

Stasi · March 2014

I can't stand when people use "ZOMG!" to demonstrate how another person is freaking out...it always just comes across as mocking and childish to me. I'm a sensitive flower though.

blue+skies · March 2014

Groxb said:

MrsLaLaBug said:

I strongly dislike it when as soon as someone finds out where I'm from, they immediately think I just jumped off the shrimp boat and want to know if I've ever been to Mardi Gras and if we really have drive-thru daquiris. Although Swamp People is actually a very real culture down here, it is a very SMALL one. And not everyone dresses in camo 24-7 or has a beard like Uncle Si. Stereotypes are dumb.

Wait, but, what gloriousness is "drive-thru daiquiris"??

---insert quote box here---

Wyoming has them too...they are AMAZING! Frozen pain killers and rum runners totally hit the spot on hot summer days. And there was a bar/liquor store in a teeny tiny town on the way to Laramie that we would stop for drive thru bloody mary's on the way to UW football games...and they were only $3! Those were totally illegal, not served in the sealed bag like the frozen drinks. Up until a few years ago, there were no open container laws there, so you could roll up to any bar/liquor store with a drive thru and order any drink to go. I heard they finally made it illegal because of federal funding agreements. Boo on the Feds.

kateitho · March 2014

flyawaycricket said:

kateitho said:

1. I really don't understand the obsession that grown women have with the movie Mean Girls.

2. My 60 year old mother just accepted a three month old foster daughter, and I really feel like it's a personal FU to me after struggling with 4 miscarriages within the past year and a half. I know the child needs a home, but she's too old to have a medically fragile baby, an I feel like she's stealing my baby thunder. I know this is jealous and immature, but FFS! I don't want my mom focusing on someone else's baby right now!

Good for your Mom for fostering a child. I give major props to anyone who is willing to help out a child in need. and last time I checked 60yo aren't 'too old' to care for a child. And yea it is super jealous and immature of you to expect your mom to fully focus on you and your child. I wish there were more people like your mom that were willing to care for children in need.

I want to add that my mother has severe diabetes and has had 3 mini-strokes in the past 2 years, and my dad has had a triple bypass and is on continuous oxygen and 120 Oxycontin a month. It's not so much their actual ages, as their physical health. My mother also has a 5 yr old, a 16 year old, and my little sister who is 17. She's emotionally manipulative and mean to the older girls, asking if they are "trying to kill their dad" all the time, and berating my 17 yo sister for being fat. She wears a size 7... I don't feel like it's healthy for any of them to be adding a child that has had 2 serious surgeries in the first 3 months to the mix.

trebekastan · March 2014

This is not a FFC, but I don't want an AW post about it.

I had the weirdest dream last night...my baby (which was a girl) was born 2 months early, but healthy and fine. However, I didn't have any stuff ready and I never learned how to breast feed. I was so busy running around getting things that I didn't have time to feed the baby for 2 days and every time I tried she wouldn't latch on. Well I was afraid that my milk would dry up so I tried to nurse my cats. I then tried to talk my friend into giving me her breast milk stash she has in her deep freezer. I eventually realized we needed formula and was so upset about it, but we went to the store and 20 minutes later I realized we forgot the baby at home. This whole dream I was hysterically crying and I needed to share.

blue+skies · March 2014

Damn, I had had a confession, but I got so excited thinking about frozen drinks and warm weather, I forgot. Boo.

Groxb · March 2014

Stasi said:

I can't stand when people use "ZOMG!" to demonstrate how another person is freaking out...it always just comes across as mocking and childish to me. I'm a sensitive flower though.

I always read "Zombie Oh My God" when I see it. It makes me feel better :-p

bumpuser10199668 · March 2014

kateitho said:

flyawaycricket said:

kateitho said:

1. I really don't understand the obsession that grown women have with the movie Mean Girls.

2. My 60 year old mother just accepted a three month old foster daughter, and I really feel like it's a personal FU to me after struggling with 4 miscarriages within the past year and a half. I know the child needs a home, but she's too old to have a medically fragile baby, an I feel like she's stealing my baby thunder. I know this is jealous and immature, but FFS! I don't want my mom focusing on someone else's baby right now!

Good for your Mom for fostering a child. I give major props to anyone who is willing to help out a child in need. and last time I checked 60yo aren't 'too old' to care for a child. And yea it is super jealous and immature of you to expect your mom to fully focus on you and your child. I wish there were more people like your mom that were willing to care for children in need.

I want to add that my mother has severe diabetes and has had 3 mini-strokes in the past 2 years, and my dad has had a triple bypass and is on continuous oxygen and 120 Oxycontin a month. It's not so much their actual ages, as their physical health. My mother also has a 5 yr old, a 16 year old, and my little sister who is 17. She's emotionally manipulative and mean to the older girls, asking if they are "trying to kill their dad" all the time, and berating my 17 yo sister for being fat. She wears a size 7... I don't feel like it's healthy for any of them to be adding a child that has had 2 serious surgeries in the first 3 months to the mix.

I'm calling bullshit.

Sure, THOSE are all great reason for you to oppose this foster child. I get it. But your actual post was that it was stealing your thunder. Which sounds like what you're really upset about, not the treatment of her current children.

Stasi · March 2014

kateitho said:

flyawaycricket said:

kateitho said:

1. I really don't understand the obsession that grown women have with the movie Mean Girls.

2. My 60 year old mother just accepted a three month old foster daughter, and I really feel like it's a personal FU to me after struggling with 4 miscarriages within the past year and a half. I know the child needs a home, but she's too old to have a medically fragile baby, an I feel like she's stealing my baby thunder. I know this is jealous and immature, but FFS! I don't want my mom focusing on someone else's baby right now!

Good for your Mom for fostering a child. I give major props to anyone who is willing to help out a child in need. and last time I checked 60yo aren't 'too old' to care for a child. And yea it is super jealous and immature of you to expect your mom to fully focus on you and your child. I wish there were more people like your mom that were willing to care for children in need.

I want to add that my mother has severe diabetes and has had 3 mini-strokes in the past 2 years, and my dad has had a triple bypass and is on continuous oxygen and 120 Oxycontin a month. It's not so much their actual ages, as their physical health. My mother also has a 5 yr old, a 16 year old, and my little sister who is 17. She's emotionally manipulative and mean to the older girls, asking if they are "trying to kill their dad" all the time, and berating my 17 yo sister for being fat. She wears a size 7... I don't feel like it's healthy for any of them to be adding a child that has had 2 serious surgeries in the first 3 months to the mix.

These are valid reasons to have concerns, but it's going to be hard for people to get over the "stealing my thunder" and "pay attention to my baby" parts...

JustCricket · March 2014

I'm just going to slow clap @stasi and @carmstr4 b/c they said what I was thinking. Also saying "Are you trying to kill your father" is hardly emotionally abusive.

edited b/c I forgot to add the gif.

blue+skies · March 2014

Ooh ooh I remember! But it's not really that great...

I got through 20 or so pages on that massive UO/FFC parenting thread, and now I feel like a huge sex rookie. Like I feel like I should go to a sex store a drop a few hundred dollars to catch up with the rest of the world. I like sex, but I also like sleep, and I have a LO. My life isn't conducive for a steamy sex life, with or without DH. But apparently everyone else, even with kids, has an amazing sex life and it's just me. Pornos, vibrators, walking in on masturbating...yeah that was all in the very very distant past for me.

Stasi · March 2014

I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

portentosa · March 2014

Stasi said:
I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

Yes!!!

And Princess Bride, The Last Unicorn, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer!!!!

What? I said I'm a dork.

portentosa · March 2014

SpoofLeJones said:

Stasi said:
I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

I can't focus on anything else with that large gift in my face, er, gif. I mean gif.

You said what you meant the first time.

kateitho · March 2014

I also said that I know some of my feelings are immature and selfish. That's why I haven't made a big deal about it IRL. I have a hard time knowing my mom won't be able to come our for my baby shower or possibly our birth. It is hard having grown up in a foster home as a biological child. I know my life was easier than the childrens' lives whom my parents fostered, but I would like to see my mom focus on being parents and grandparents to their biological children and grandchildren. They do miss a lot of what happens within our biological family because it is inconvenient or impossible with children who are wards of the state. They are going to miss my nephew's HS graduation this year because they can't get out of state permission to travel for their 5yo foster daughter, and won't come with out her.

Groxb · March 2014

Stasi said:

I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

omg omg ZOMG.

I can quote this entire movie. Legit - beginning to end. My brother and I used to quote it during long car rides to keep ourselves entertained.

I asked DH the other day if we could name our first born "Jareth Thegoblinking" if it was a boy. I would also settle for "Ludo" or "Sarah Friennndd?" if it's a girl.

JustCricket · March 2014

kateitho said:

I also said that I know some of my feelings are immature and selfish. That's why I haven't made a big deal about it IRL. I have a hard time knowing my mom won't be able to come our for my baby shower or possibly our birth. It is hard having grown up in a foster home as a biological child. I know my life was easier than the childrens' lives whom my parents fostered, but I would like to see my mom focus on being parents and grandparents to their biological children and grandchildren. They do miss a lot of what happens within our biological family because it is inconvenient or impossible with children who are wards of the state. They are going to miss my nephew's HS graduation this year because they can't get out of state permission to travel for their 5yo foster daughter, and won't come with out her.

honestly it's a better reason to miss a graduation than I've seen other grandparents have. It kind of comes with the territory of living far away from your parents/grandparents. ffs my grandparents missed a shit ton of stuff because we lived away from them... do I care? no Do I think they love or care for me any less because of it? no. My Mom and Dad just took us and visited my grandparents.. instead of the other way around. Also it's HS graduation... my grandparents didn't come to mine. We didn't make a big hoopla about it.

ETA- My parents are going to miss the birth of their first grandchild... because I live far away.I'm not devastated. It's called life.

portentosa · March 2014

Groxb said:

Stasi said:

I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

omg omg ZOMG.

I can quote this entire movie. Legit - beginning to end. My brother and I used to quote it during long car rides to keep ourselves entertained.

I asked DH the other day if we could name our first born "Jareth Thegoblinking" if it was a boy. I would also settle for "Ludo" or "Sarah Friennndd?" if it's a girl.

---------------quote fails suck--------------

I want to love tit those name choices soooo much.

The best I've got to show my fandom (besides also being able to quote the whole thing) is that I have the music in my phone and I sing Dance Baby Dance to DS.

Stasi · March 2014

trombgirl said:

Stasi said:

I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

omg omg ZOMG.
I can quote this entire movie. Legit - beginning to end. My brother and I used to quote it during long car rides to keep ourselves entertained.
I asked DH the other day if we could name our first born "Jareth Thegoblinking" if it was a boy. I would also settle for "Ludo" or "Sarah Friennndd?" if it's a girl.
I want to love tit those name choices soooo much. The best I've got to show my fandom (besides also being able to quote the whole thing) is that I have the music in my phone and I sing Dance Baby Dance to DS.

What? NO Hoggle? Oh well.

beckynsean11 · March 2014

trombgirl said:

Stasi said:

I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

omg omg ZOMG.
I can quote this entire movie. Legit - beginning to end. My brother and I used to quote it during long car rides to keep ourselves entertained.
I asked DH the other day if we could name our first born "Jareth Thegoblinking" if it was a boy. I would also settle for "Ludo" or "Sarah Friennndd?" if it's a girl.
---------------quote fails suck-------------- I want to love tit those name choices soooo much. The best I've got to show my fandom (besides also being able to quote the whole thing) is that I have the music in my phone and I sing Dance Baby Dance to DS.

I may or may not have already ordered this for my kid:

https://www.thinkgeek.com/product/e846/

Groxb · March 2014

Hogwart....It's HOGGLE!

Stasi · March 2014

kateitho said:

I also said that I know some of my feelings are immature and selfish. That's why I haven't made a big deal about it IRL. I have a hard time knowing my mom won't be able to come our for my baby shower or possibly our birth. It is hard having grown up in a foster home as a biological child. I know my life was easier than the childrens' lives whom my parents fostered, but I would like to see my mom focus on being parents and grandparents to their biological children and grandchildren. They do miss a lot of what happens within our biological family because it is inconvenient or impossible with children who are wards of the state. They are going to miss my nephew's HS graduation this year because they can't get out of state permission to travel for their 5yo foster daughter, and won't come with out her.

All of that being said...your parents are still taking in children who are in dire need of a safe home and someone to take care of them...

Honestly, I feel like there is something between you and your mother that seems unresolved or festering. I can't imagine having this reaction to my parents doing something selfless like fostering children.

Have you ever talked to her about your feelings of disappointment that she will miss your baby shower and the birth of your child? Have you ever considered talking to someone professionally about it?

portentosa · March 2014

@beckynsean11

Oh snap!!!

Groxb · March 2014

trombgirl said:

@beckynsean11 Oh snap!!!

I couldn't love you more if I tired.

Stasi · March 2014

Groxb said:

trombgirl said:

@beckynsean11 Oh snap!!!

I couldn't love you more if I tired.

AMAZING!

beckynsean11 · March 2014

trombgirl said:

@beckynsean11 Oh snap!!!

@trombgirl Holy crap! I need your shirt! I'm off to search the interwebs!

MrsLaLaBug · March 2014

kateitho said:

1. I really don't understand the obsession that grown women have with the movie Mean Girls.

2. My 60 year old mother just accepted a three month old foster daughter, and I really feel like it's a personal FU to me after struggling with 4 miscarriages within the past year and a half. I know the child needs a home, but she's too old to have a medically fragile baby, an I feel like she's stealing my baby thunder. I know this is jealous and immature, but FFS! I don't want my mom focusing on someone else's baby right now!

trombgirl said:

I'll always remember this little gem from my youth

Ah Labyrinth. It's how I learned "mommies" were different from "daddies"

Yes!!! And Princess Bride, The Last Unicorn, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer!!!! What? I said I'm a dork.

why are y'all leaving this gem out???

Stasi · March 2014

Confession: I get upset when people DON'T participate in their ticker change day. With my last BMB I got to know who people were based on those damn things. I even lurk the days that weren't mine to read the GTKY. It was a lot easier taking people in smaller "chunks" over 7 days than trying to remember people from long, gigantic threads like this one....so PARTICIPATE for cripes sake!

(brought to you by a girl who started today's ticker change)

Stasi · March 2014

Oh, I LOVE love Clueless. We watched it all the time

Beedeck · March 2014

lstrejcek said:

This is not a FFC, but I don't want an AW post about it.

I had the weirdest dream last night...my baby (which was a girl) was born 2 months early, but healthy and fine. However, I didn't have any stuff ready and I never learned how to breast feed. I was so busy running around getting things that I didn't have time to feed the baby for 2 days and every time I tried she wouldn't latch on. Well I was afraid that my milk would dry up so I tried to nurse my cats. I then tried to talk my friend into giving me her breast milk stash she has in her deep freezer. I eventually realized we needed formula and was so upset about it, but we went to the store and 20 minutes later I realized we forgot the baby at home. This whole dream I was hysterically crying and I needed to share.

Somehow I managed to read this and omitted the word "dream" BOTH times, I could not understand how no one was flaming you yet and just carrying on like this was no big deal. I'm so thankful I re-read it and that it was only a dream! ETA Words

ChesTal · March 2014

@ flyawaycricket "wooo hooo panhandle!!!! where it's FL.. but not really! I just moved out of the panhandle sadly.. into the middle of nowhere GA. Have you ever been to Florabama? I went there quite a few times b/c it was so close to where I was living. It's an interesting crowd"
-----------------------
Most accurate description of LA (lower Alabama) ever. I have been there... interesting is right! I went to a friend's LOs birthday party last weekend in Milligan, just a hop-skip-and jump away

Edit: complete quote fail!

bumpuser10199668 · March 2014

JeremiahsBabe said:

Stasi said:

Confession: I get upset when people DON'T participate in their ticker change day. With my last BMB I got to know who people were based on those damn things. I even lurk the days that weren't mine to read the GTKY. It was a lot easier taking people in smaller "chunks" over 7 days than trying to remember people from long, gigantic threads like this one....so PARTICIPATE for cripes sake!

(brought to you by a girl who started today's ticker change)

I'm kinda bummed that the Tuesday ticker change dropped of the face of the bump but not enough to start one myself. Maybe I'll start it up again next week....

Me too. I started one once, but thought i may be stepping on toes. But we haven't had once in weeks

blue+skies · March 2014

SpoofLeJones said:
I don't think that @Katesomething's feelings are all that fair or rational, but I can understand feeling that way considering her history. I think what is important is what she does with those emotions and how they impact her attitude and behavior toward her mother and the new foster child.

The backpedaling is her only offense here, IMO.

I was also going to say something to this effect. I dated a guy whose parents took in a lot of foster children, and he had a many insecurities due to always feeling second fiddle. Him and his sister had both seen counselors because if it. He loved his family dearly, and was so proud of everything they had done, but still had a lot of "unfair" feelings about it as well. So as crazy as her feelings sounds, I kind of get it.

Tattoo white knight on my ass if you all must...

ChesTal · March 2014

Stasi said:
Confession: I get upset when people DON'T participate in their ticker change day. With my last BMB I got to know who people were based on those damn things. I even lurk the days that weren't mine to read the GTKY. It was a lot easier taking people in smaller "chunks" over 7 days than trying to remember people from long, gigantic threads like this one....so PARTICIPATE for cripes sake!

(brought to you by a girl who started today's ticker change)

I agree! I think there are only 3 of us on Fridays (...and now I want a Jack Daniels burger)
I see some other BMB that allow the free for all "today I'm a...." threads and they make me stabby, none of that S14.

bumpuser10199668 · March 2014

blue+skies said:

I don't think that @Katesomething's feelings are all that fair or rational, but I can understand feeling that way considering her history. I think what is important is what she does with those emotions and how they impact her attitude and behavior toward her mother and the new foster child. The backpedaling is her only offense here, IMO.
I was also going to say something to this effect. I dated a guy whose parents took in a lot of foster children, and he had a many insecurities due to always feeling second fiddle. Him and his sister had both seen counselors because if it. He loved his family dearly, and was so proud of everything they had done, but still had a lot of "unfair" feelings about it as well. So as crazy as her feelings sounds, I kind of get it. Tattoo white knight on my ass if you all must...

That'd be all fine and good if she had once said "I love them, and I'm proud of them...BUT" But she didn't. It was more 'me me me'

kmbk27 · March 2014

I've never seen an episode of The Walking Dead.

Also, I drank a 32oz Mountain Dew this morning because nothing else would stay down.

kateitho · March 2014

Clarification: I do care about my parent's foster children. I visit as often as possible, and try to make them feel included in our family with phone calls, birthday cards, Christmas presents, and Skype. I understand how important stable homes are for these children, and before we started TTC, DH and I had talked about the possibility of fostering ourselves. That being said, even biological children of foster parents grow up in foster homes. It is not something I would consider with a biological child in the house. It was hard growing up in a home with a revolving door of siblings, because you love each of them and bond and attach with them, then they're just gone. I do have a special place in my heart for parents that can handle this type of environment. I will honestly say that my mother and I also have some serious relationship issues, that we've only recently been working on. (I had a brother kill himself when he was 16 and I was 13, and my mother never actually blamed me outright, but I have been questioned several times about why I was keeping some of his secrets from her before he died.) I do worry about the health of my parents, their relationships with my other adult siblings and myself, and I worry about the emotional toll on my younger sister who is still in high school as well. I also know that I am being immature for being jealous of a 3 month old. I own that. These children have had horrible things happen in their lives, it's very sad, and it's not their fault. I also think everyone involved would benefit if the foster system offered education/training and support to the biological children living in the home before, during, and after the placement of foster children in a home.

blue+skies · March 2014

I've never seen Labyrinth nor Princess Bride.

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