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May 2014 Moms
Alexinav
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Money and the hubby:/
Alexinav
member
I'm so stressed right now:( my hubby doesn't realize how expensive babies are this is our second but he wasn't financially responsible for our first because we were in hs so my parents took over a lot of it. He makes pretty good money and is the bread winner getting only 24 hrs I bring home 1/3 of what he makes. But his hobby is his car and is constantly spending for it. He has been putting away big amt for when I go on my 6th month leave but to me the 120 that is gng to go to tinting windows and go to our stroller or buy like 4 big boxes of diapers! Are any other ladies having this prob? How are you coping with out fighting?
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Re: Money and the hubby:/
I agree. He needs to still be able to maintain his hobby. As long as it isn't getting a stroller OR getting his windows tinted, for example. If he's spending money on the car and then unable to buy necessities for the baby, then that would be where I would need to put my foot down, but if you're getting a stroller and he's tinting the windows on his car and getting diapers, etc. I don't see it as an issue.
I think you get into dangerous territory with resentment issues when you look at money from a who earns what perspective. Same goes for having one person be in charge of the money and spending.
BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
Now if you are spending copious amounts of money on frivolous purchases (iPADs, TVs, etc) when you really cant afford it, there needs to be a serious discussion. Providing for your child should be the responsibility of the parents and they shouldnt be so selfish as to take from their baby's mouth to feed their impulses.
BFP #1 - 3/23/13 // EDD - 11/27/13 // M/MC - 5/3/13 // D&C - 5/4/13
BFP #2 - 8/26/13 // EDD - 5/10/14 // Born 5/18/14
First, if finances are tight, I can't imagine taking 6 months of unpaid leave. I'm assuming it is either unpaid (or, at least, paid at a lesser wage than your regular rate) because I have never heard of anywhere giving 6 months of paid leave.
Second, I have to admit that I don't altogether sympathize because to me this is something you work out well before you start having children. And I am really not trying to flame. I'm not. Since you have not worked it out, I would recommend setting up a budget and deciding how much each of you are allowed (so to speak) every month for extras/luxuries/hobbies.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
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It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
KEVIN!
The motor boat one is lost on me.
I gotta say though, where we live window tinting is not for vanity. It gets freaking hot out here. I wanted to get the windows in my Prius tinted before the baby came because I don't want the sun mercilessly beating down on his little face all summer. We'll see if we can still swing it.
I gotta say though, where we live window tinting is not for vanity. It gets freaking hot out here. I wanted to get the windows in my Prius tinted before the baby came because I don't want the sun mercilessly beating down on his little face all summer. We'll see if we can still swing it.
Hubby explained to me that this is the reason why he got his windows tinted he said he will stop buying lights and decals but the windows were his contribution to getting ready for our new baby as well as our son. The car is new so it was a preperation he thouht necessary.