Tomboys vs Girly Girls

Re: Tomboys vs Girly Girls

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  March 2014

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• minervacullen member

  March 2014

  When I was a kid I loved to dress up, climb trees in pink clothes, do gymnastics, burp (ok I still do this), play with barbies and gi joes....
  
  Clearly, I'm all sorts of confused.
  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• aintnoyuppiemom member

  March 2014

  skylily said:

  A friend of mine and I found ourselves in a very heated discussion about whether or not I was going to be able to raise a girly girl.
  I am absolutely against girly girls - young women who feel that they are princesses and act like spoiled brats. I have a niece that I kind of despise because her parents treat her like a princess, giving in to her every demand. (IMO) They have said that "she is the way she is because she had strong colic as a baby and they did what they could to soothe her and that has led to... that." My SIL has stated numerous times she fears the teen years (and yet she's doing NOTHING now).   - - I digress.
  
  I am a tomboy. Growing up, I chased my older brother - wanted to play football, basketball, baseball with him and his friends. Whatever B was doing I wanted to do it too. I played in the dirt, climbed trees, and refused to wear dresses because I couldn't play in them. 
  
  I am not against having a little girl (preg. with #2 don't know who it will be). But I am against raising a girly girl who feels she's a princess. This friend of mine was saying that there is no way to stop her from being a girly girl because I can't control what's on TV or who her friends are. (I'll give him the friend thing to a point).
  
  Is it possible to raise a tomboy? A girl who wants to play baseball with the rest of us outside - a girl who wants to go camping with us and has no problem fishing or digging for worms? Can a little girl be born a girly girl and my nurturing not win over nature?
  

  skylily If you immerse her into a world of camping and fishing and basketball more then likely she will enjoy that. That is the sort of up bringing I had I was out four-wheeling, tracking deer and getting my own worms to go fishing with (and baiting my own hook when I got older) I also like to figure skate and wear the sparkly dresses but that was about as girly as I wanted to get. I felt I was given the opportunity to be very well rounded and it sounds like that's all you want for your baby. If you take time to teach those tom boyish things she should enjoy them. Now I cannot guarantee that she will be any good at them, but more then likely you will raise a very well rounded child.  
  

        

   

   

   

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• klondikebar member

  March 2014

  Cate1234 said:

  skylily said:

  Can a little girl be born a girly girl and my nurturing not win over nature?
  

  Are you asking if you can pray away the girly girl?  Umm... no.
  
  I hate baseball, but if my kids want to play I will be at every single game to cheer them on.  Seeing my kids happy > my hate for baseball. 
  
  You can control how you raise your kids, but you can't control their preferences. 
  

  This is me exactly. I'd rather pull off one of my own toe nails with pliers than watch a MLB game. I have 3 kids that play in the summer and I attend as much as I can. I also volunteer to make the hair bows for DD's team every year and help make decorations for the team trucks in the Memorial Day parade. My kids are more important than my dislikes.
  

       
  

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