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Tantrums at Daycare Pickup? help?

For the last month my son has been having tantrums every day when I pick him up. Before when he was younger he would cry a little and now that he is nearing two it is full on tantrums. I have no idea on how to get them to stop. I try toddlerese, ignoring it, etc but he is getting strong and it is sooo embarrassing. Anyone go through this or have any ideas on how to handle it?
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Re: Tantrums at Daycare Pickup? help?

  • How is daycare preparing him for pickup? It helps if the warn him for the transition and get him excited "mommy is coming soon! Let's have your bag ready"
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  • Can you try to get him excited about something or give him a special job? Maybe let him push the unlock button on your car remote as you come out of daycare but that's the only time he can do it. Or buy one special toy that he gets when he gets into the car each day after pickup? Or a sticker or something for walking out to the car nicely.

    My oldest has a hard time with transitions so we've started counting before we do something that makes him cry. So I would give a one minute warning when you arrive and then after a minute say "OK we are going to the car when I count to 10." And count then swoop him out the door right at 10. I was skeptical but this one thing has cut our tantrums in half.
    DS: 2/17/11          DD: 9/4/13
  • Thanks for the tips ladies. I really so appreciate them. I don't think daycare is preparing him at all. Usually I come in the middle of playtime. I will ask them to tell him I will be there soon. I like the pressing the unlock button to the car as he loves to press button. I will also try the toy in the car thing.
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  • My DS cries at drop off every day...i almsot wish he cried at pick up, because then I knew he had a great day instead of feeling terrible everytime i left him there! Sounds like you got some great advice above tho.
  • Does he need a little time to finish what he's doing?  DS is like this.  Even at age 1, he wanted to show me what he was playing with or show me the other cool toys in the room before we left.  It still takes him forever to get his stuff together to go, even though I know he is happy to see me.  DD, on the other hand, drops everything and races to her cubby as soon as she sees me.  Every kid is different.
    DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
  • My son just turned 2 and can be difficult at pickup too. He doesn't throw a tantrum but runs away from me or throws a fit about putting his coat on. I sometimes bribe him with lollipops. I know it's just a phase b/c my 3yr old is fine with pickups. Just remind yourself that this too shall pass. Good luck!
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  • Yes I am super grateful that he enjoys it there so much he doesn't want leave. But the tantrums are super stressful and the only time he throws them. Thanks for the ideas ladies.
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  • Have you ever heard of the book Have a New Kid by Friday? I've heard it's really good, and it might give you some good insights for this and future issues. :)
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