So I tried it tonight.. I'm 8 weeks post partum. Lasted about 30 seconds. The scarring is really uncomfortable. We used a lot of lube but it still didn't feel very nice. (They did tell me my tear was quite high up inside but at my post partum appt she said I had healed nicely). So then I asked him to just use his hands. Maybe that would be better.. Nope. That was worse. He hit the scar and that was brutal. So my question is.. For those of you who have done it successfully how long post partum are you? And when did it start to feel ok? Is it just something that will get better with time? Or is it something that we need to keep slowly trying for it to start feeling better? I was so disappointed. Sorry for the long message.. It just sucked.. Here's a pic of my LO if you're still reading this lol
Re: Girls with 3rd degree tears who have had sex.. Come on in..
We attempted this past weekend (also 8wks PP). My scar actually didn't hurt that much, it was the sandpaper feeling on the walls of my vag that got uncomfortable and stopped us. Poor DH, he has been so desperate. Anyway, I would suggest some sort of lotion and massage....not sure what OTC stuff is safe for that area though (lubriderm??).
FYI try olive oil for lube, it's really healing and feels better than regular lube.
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We all need some magic fun good pain free sex fairy dust! That's a thing right? Lol
@shelbygirrrrl ya I think trying some other positions will help. I just instantly broke down. I was so disappointed that we ended up stopping. Here's to trying again! And maybe trying a glass of wine before to relax a bit more..
Edited because at 3am I can't spell or think right..
Google "husband stitch" and read about the problems it can cause. I can't believe your husband is thankful...mine would be as disgusted as I am.
OP, I thought maybe you were joking. If not it's is absolutely horrible your MW would do that -- seems so out of character with what a MW stands for too. I'd be absolutely livid if that were me!
I had a 3rd degree tear and tore up both sides of my vageen. I wasn't released until 8 and 1/2 weeks. I agree with PPs, it's just going to take time. It hurt at first, but once you get going it will get better. Lots of lube and keep trying! Good Luck!
Me: 31 | DH: 33
DS1: 12.23.13 | DS2: 05.06.16
BFP: 06.30.19 | EDD: 3.9.20
TTC3: 11.18
BFP: 02.05.19
CP: 03.07.19
*really traumatic recovery*