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  • shelley1002shelley1002 member
    LC122 said:

    Oh, where to start...

    @Sooner1981, I really don't think you understand how a unicycle works. It's completely possible to backpedal in a straight line and not loops and zig zags, but that's beside the point.
    Also, you already quoted me, but I'll do it here as well. "when I hear that someone chose to FF because it was easier, I question their values." I suppose this should have said "*Just* because it's easier and for no other reason, not because they tried BF and it didn't work, not because they researched the options and it was the best choice for them and their family, but *just because* it was the easier option". But that's what clarifications are for.
    I don't know why you INSIST that you KNOW what I meant, even after it was clarified. How would you know? You can call it backpedaling all you want, but I haven't changed what I think about this or what I MEANT, regardless of how it was interpreted. It's bizarre to me that you (and others) INSIST that I was trying to hurt others and they should be offended. There is nothing offensive there.

    @pandaglitter, still missing the point.

    @BrittanyCupcakes, by simultaneously explaining your struggle with BF vs FF and claiming it's nobody's business, you're contradicting yourself.

    @ellaf, many people who live in large metropolitan cities don't own cars and therefore don't own car seats. If they find themselves in a situation in which they need to catch a cab, it is perfectly legal for them to ride in a cab without a car seat. That's likely not who people were talking about. (This whole example/reference originated in another thread.)

    I don't know why this argument stuck around. Plenty of other discussions go more like this:
    A: I side-eye people who X,Y,Z. They are [insert expletive].
    B: Hey, I X, Y, or Z for this or that reason.
    A: huh. Well, I still side-eye you and would never do that.
    B: Well, I do it anyway.
    And we all move on with our lives.

    And I stand by my statement. It's not meant to be offensive. It's simply an opinion. There are plenty of good, legitimate reasons to choose FF over BF. But when someone says "just because", I don't get it. (@shelleysomething I think?) I have no qualms about discussing it. I think there is almost always more to it than that.
    And I really wish so many FFers would give themselves the gift of forgiveness or whatever it is you need to release the guilt. It's like feeling guilty for not running a marathon - not everybody can or should do it.

    You don't have to get why I made my choice. I just did not want to BF. I had no desire. Simple as that. And I do not feel the tiniest bit guilty about FFing. And now I am going back to ignoring you because no matter what we won't be friends because I have no morals, I mean we don't have the same morals. And I don't have the energy (or battery life left on my phone) to continue this.

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  • Gatorsgirl731Gatorsgirl731 member
    @LC122

    So your saying if someone FF *JUST* because it's easier you question their values and feel as though you can't be friends with them. Correct?



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  • LC122LC122 member
    @BrittanyCupcakes,
    Nah, I would just assume you have your reasons. I'd actually be caught off guard if you launched into an explanation - it happened to me once in a restaurant.
    I don't know if I'd want to be your friend or not - it wouldn't be based on one thing.
    And I'm not friends nor would I expect to be friends with every mom I meet at the park. How would I find time for TB?
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  • LC122LC122 member
    @shelley1002, yeah, I don't get it. I can't imagine feeling that way. But good for you for standing by your decision and not saddling yourself with the guilt. It's not worth it.

    @gatorsgirl731, I don't generally base my friendships on single issues, but like I told @shelley, I don't get it.
    I also don't get smoking and struggle to be friends with smokers. (And I know there are smokers and reformed smokers on here, so bring on the flames.)

    #smokersbringingflames
    #getit?
    #tit
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  • Jenball717Jenball717 member
    pmarie33 said:

    Every time I see @LC122 post, I'm scrolling/not reading because it's always tfl:dr. Then I see a cool gif and laugh. Repeat 12,753 x in this ribbon.

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    This is hypnotic
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  • LC122LC122 member
    sooner1981 said:

    Okay, I get it--accordingly to LC, feeding your kid formula is like smoking. Yep.

    Way to keep digging that hole...

    Yeah, 'cause that's what I said.
    #readingfail
    #whydoyoustirthepot?
    #seriously
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    My @quartermisses crush is official.

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