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Not feeling sexy anymore

kbojo1221kbojo1221 member
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I know this sounds horrible ( and I am waiting for some of the rude comments), but the last month I have been feeling really self conscious about myself. With my first pregnancy, I never felt this way. I can't look at myself in the mirror without getting upset. I have to get undressed in the dark and I hate being naked in front of my husband. Even when we are intimate, I have to have the lights off.Before I was preggo, I worked out a lot and took a lot of pride in my body. I know there are women out there that would do anything to be pregnant and wouldn't care about getting "big". I was just wondering if any of you  have felt like this before. 
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Re: Not feeling sexy anymore

  • greeneyed_bridegreeneyed_bride member
    Pregnancy is a really weird time, because while there's something really great going on inside your body, there are also some... less than great things going on in your body (constipation, nausea, swelling, weight gain in places you weren't expecting... the list goes on.) It all happens in such a short period of time that in can be really difficult to adjust to your rapidly changing body.

    I think it helps to do something for yourself that makes you feel pretty or more ladylike. Buy some new makeup, get a pedicure, try a new hairstyle (just don't do any drastic cuts while you're pregnant - those are often regretted later.) When I was pregnant with DS, getting a massage was a really wonderful chance for me to just enjoy the feel of my body rather than focusing on the changes it was going through.

    Also, keep in mind that when your husband looks at you, he sees you: the woman he loves and married. And men also seem to have a knack for focusing on the "hot" parts instead of the parts we're uncomfortable with. When I was nine months pregnant with a massive belly, DH would look at me when I was changing and say, "look how huge your boobs are!!" He thought they were really sexy, so he noticed them more than my giant stomach. :)
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  • mercedesbenz802mercedesbenz802 member
    I feel the same way now that I am getting bigger. I am a very small person being only 5 feet and I started showing early and look big right now. I agree with the other ladies that you that you should treat yourself once in a while. 


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  • ksukitty1979ksukitty1979 member
    Don't forget that hormones are going to crazy, which can cause normal negative feelings to explode.  For instance...I have freaking out over the flu and germs.  The point is to not let it dominate your thoughts and try to relax.  You will feel sexy again. 
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