@katekat8721 - I hope I'm not stepping on any toes by posting this!!
My AW is that my parents are coming to visit us this weekend to bring down 9 boxes of clothing from my sister!!! I'm so excited to see them and to go through all of the clothes!!! Also, my dad is helping my husband put in a new kitchen sink. THANK GOD! I've been on his case for months to do this!!!!
I just looked at some posts from Tuesday's thread and realized that I used "then" instead of "than" somewhere and now I'm mortified. I'm not a moron, promise.
DH and I are halfway to NYC right now! Just for the day/night. I'm super excited, I love NYC. My sister and I used to make an annual trip, but I haven't been in 4+ years now. Yay!
@megk82-- me too! Anytime I'm pissed at hubs (and he knows he was wrong) he will start texting me pictures of random animal babies to cheer me up. I love it because it's adorable and hate it because I'm such a sucker. I can't stay mad at that.
June '14 September Siggy challenge- Favorite things about fall
My SS moment - I'm having the BEST day today! I spent too much on a fancy coffee, croissant and fruit bowl this morning - TREAT YO SELF.
It's also great because it looks like my company is going to give me maternity leave and offer me my job back, but let me work from home. We're not FMLA eligible so I wasn't sure if I would get anything at all!
My mom/sis is hosting my shower but wanted help with the invites. Holy first world problem, they've been a huge PITA. I learned kinkos was going to charge us $1.24/each to print them (holy hell) but found out today I can just print them here at work for $0.12/each woot woot! Winning!
lest12 - the earlier you go the better your chance. Most people will be vying for 8:00pm+ tables, so go work up an appetite and have an earlyish dinner!
Edit - you just inspired me to go to local Milk Bar this afternoon and get myself a compost cookie. Yummm....
lyracelesti - thats a tough one. I 100% don't trust my father to take care of the baby by himself (even though he's offered a million times), but at least he lives across the country so it's not something I have to worry about too much. I would be equally tentative were I in your position; it's hard to have a reasonable conversation when someone is in the middle of a manic state.
Rachel5130 - 150%! I yell at him probably a half dozen times a day and am simultaneously desperate for him to hold me, touch me, be near me, tell me he loves me... I have no idea how they put up with us!
I'm annoyed at DH and I'm getting really worked up about it. I scheduled a day care tour at 12 today and kept telling him that I wanted him to come. He seemed totally annoyed and I was getting the vibe that he didn't think he needed to be there. But he said he would come. Then at the last minute he told me he couldn't come because he had a conference call. This is the second day care tour that he hasn't come to.
Sometimes I feel like I'm doing everything, both physically and otherwise, for this baby and he does nothing. We're going to be entrusting our baby to people for 9 hours a day - don't you care about being involved in choosing these people? Sorry, just had to rant.
My AW SS moment is a question.
DH is on my nerves 24/7 hardcore. His breathing even annoys me. But I've never loved him more. Seriously. If I could attach myself to his hip, I would.
What the hell? Anyone else going through this?
@Rachel5130 - I yell at my husband that I want him to get shit done around the house, but when we have a free moment, I make him lay down with me and cuddle. But then I get mad because things aren't done around the house. LOL!!! I don't know how he puts up with me or still loves me. But I totally hear you on never loving them more - like your heart just aches thinking about them! It's so weird!
I am at work. I am trying to poop. Three ladies have come in, one after another, to use the other stalls. I don't like pooping with other people in here. They need to leave!!!
Here's more on the story about my dad and his crazy B wife.
It had been awhile since we'd heard any negative news about them so I'd kinda been lulled into thinking maybe they'd gotten their act together, and apparently they had (sorta). B had been going to AA every now and then and been acting like a responsible adult. My dad gave her access to all his accounts/money (she has her own income so it wasn't that he'd left her out in the cold) and that's when the fun began. B went and 'messed with' a bunch of his financial stuff and cancelled my moms alimony payments. My dad found out and flipped a lid and locked himself in the office to try and fix what all she had messed up. B goes crazy and starts yelling, throwing stuff and pounding on the door. My dad called the cops and they came and along with other stuff told him that the situation was just gonna escalate so he should just leave, so he did and went and stayed at a friends house.
That was the night that B called my mom at 1 am.
Dad hadn't gotten any of his stuff for work the next day and had to go to the house to get his stuff (I dunno if just clothes or what). B grabbed his stuff, locked herself in the office and started claiming that he was gonna hit her and who knows what else. Dad then calls the cops again and I'm not sure what they were supposed to do but that lunch hour dad called me and wanted the note stating what B had left on moms voice mail (mom won't pick up the phone if she sees it's . I'm not really sure I trusted to give him the only copy so I wrote it out and gave him one and he said he was taking that and other documents up to the court house to file a legal complaint against B (mom had erased the voice message almost right away I guess because it was gone before I got to her house that morning, but she had written out what B had said). He also said it was evident he needed to file for divorce and he was going to do that yesterday too.
This isn't the first time he said he was gonna file for divorce let alone annulled their marriage the first go around, so I'm skeptical whether he'll go through with it or not. Although this is the first time he's filed criminal charges against her so we'll see.
I could write pages about all the crap she's pulled and even more on what all my dad has done, so it's kinda hard to know how I feel by now. On one hand I feel sorry that a living person would go through all of that, and on the other hand they've just continually made their situation worse and worse and don't get help or at least just stop making it worse. They both have burned a ton of bridges and B seems to be trying to make my dad isolated by ticking off the whole community.
Anyways, none of this was for sympathy or anything of that nature, but thought I'd share in case anyone was curious or needed some entertainment. I find it kinda entertaining in a train wreck kind of a way, at least when they aren't messing with my mom
@mrsdbc, I don't think it'll look bad at all! My only thing would be to call and make sure you can bring a toddler. Generally they only allow siblings of new babies in the birthing wing, so you might want to check on that first.
Rachel5130- exactly the same with my husband. I'm all "get away from me!" "no, get over here" "stop talking" "please cuddle me" "why are you breathing so loud!?" "want to hold me again?" "you're typing too loud" "please hold my hand". It's super hilarious. Not.
Also- I HATED snuggling pre-pregnancy and he loves it- so I guess there's at least that for him?
@mrsdbc- when we did our hospital tour there were kids in the tour group. Hopefully it works out for you! I don't wear my rings because they itch and while I haven't noticed anyone getting judgy-pants about it I would certainly pop 'em in the kisser if I thought they were.
ETA: My aw/ss is that the morning sickness has gotten me really bad (still!!!@%$) this week and now constant heartburn is settling in and my ribs feel bruised on my left side and OhMyGodIDon'tKnowHowI'mGoingToMakeItToTheEnd.
@ugabamafans I think Annabelle is cute, but I can't picture it on a power suit wearing women. But she could always go by Anna later if she wants.
On the same note. What do you guys think of Cameron? To H it's the baby's name. I really like it and can see myself having a son named Cameron but I have commitment issues.
Also, the flu has been going around the office and I woke up feeling like I'm getting it. I just want to go home but we are so incredibly short staffed I would feel so guilty leaving.
@ugabamafans, I think it's sweet. DH has a friend whose daughter has that name, they're coming over to dinner tomorrow night. If I notice a cute nickname I'll let you know.
@ricecakes1216, I love the name Cameron, so I say go for it!
DH is head over heals in love with it, and I don't hate it. It's weird, but I kinda feel like it is her name. At the same time, I kinda feel like it is too frilly/girly girl and don't want to commit to it. Can you see a successful, powerful woman named Annabelle?
Also, I need suggestions for a MN. Our last name sounds similar to Bowen.
@ugabamafans - this is so weird, but when I read Annabelle I automatically said Patrice as a middle name. No clue why. I think it's cute and she could go by Anna, Ann or Belle if she wanted to at some point. I know what you mean about not wanting to commit though, we're down to 2 names and even though we like one more than the other, I don't want to commit to it for some reason.
@ugabamafans - I love the name Annabelle. It makes me think of that episode of Sex and the City where Samantha pretends to be Annabelle Bronstein so that she can use the rooftop pool
Does anyone have any good dog training websites? My pup is driving me insane.
When guests come over he gets extremely hyper and excited which usually results in him peeing on the floor. He also jumps on them.
He's also shit in the house twice this past month. I usually let him outside every hourish.
He's around 10 months old.
Eta: He is a hound/lab mix.
The peeing thing might be helped if when guests or anyone comes over make sure they ignore him until he calms down, over excitement can cause the peeing so if people are greeting him as soon as they walk in the door he might just be over stimulated and then he can't control his bladder. Also for the jumping how I trained my dogs out of it was I would put my knee up and turn away from them as they tried to jump on me, it throws them off balance, and I also refused to greet them until they sat still.
If he is going outside that often he shouldn't be having accidents in the house unless he is spending more time playing and exploring than going potty outside. When you take him out make sure he goes to the bathroom or at least makes an attempt to before he is allowed back inside. This might involve a lot more waiting on your part at first but it should help him realize he has a purpose when he goes out.
Does anyone have any good dog training websites? My pup is driving me insane.
When guests come over he gets extremely hyper and excited which usually results in him peeing on the floor. He also jumps on them.
He's also shit in the house twice this past month. I usually let him outside every hourish.
He's around 10 months old.
Eta: He is a hound/lab mix.
The peeing thing might be helped if when guests or anyone comes over make sure they ignore him until he calms down, over excitement can cause the peeing so if people are greeting him as soon as they walk in the door he might just be over stimulated and then he can't control his bladder. Also for the jumping how I trained my dogs out of it was I would put my knee up and turn away from them as they tried to jump on me, it throws them off balance, and I also refused to greet them until they sat still.
If he is going outside that often he shouldn't be having accidents in the house unless he is spending more time playing and exploring than going potty outside. When you take him out make sure he goes to the bathroom or at least makes an attempt to before he is allowed back inside. This might involve a lot more waiting on your part at first but it should help him realize he has a purpose when he goes out.
Thanks for the response! Our main entrance is our back door into the kitchen which is gated off. So he doesn't really get any attention right away. We do try to let everyone know that he needs to be ignored, but usually they dont follow through. I'm thinking he might just need to stay leashed.
As for outside time, its still frigid here so he hates being outside right now. I usually just open the door and let him out and let him back in when he comes back. Both times did happen when my brother was over babysitting the LOs while I was at school though. It might just be he wasn't let out soon enough after eating.
If anyone is wondering if I killed my husband after my post about his superb insensitivity yesterday, I did not. I tried to talk to him about why it upset me, and he just doesn't get it. It didn't happen, so why be upset over it? He never said he'd leave me, he just said he'd have thinking to do, blah blah blah. I got to the point where I chose to stop banging my head against a brick wall, because he will never what I actually want, which is "I was stupid, I didn't mean it that way at all, I'm sorry, I'd never have left you and we'd have a family of little Asian babies." Not gonna happen. Finally I just got up to get in the shower and reminded him of how he feels when he worries about losing me (which apparently he does). I told him that what he said made me feel that way, when I've never felt that way before, and how does he think that made me feel? I also told him that we were done with the discussion and after my shower all I wanted was for him to kiss me goodnight and tell me he loves me.
Judging by the amount of hugs and "I love you"s I've received since then, apparently equating it to a way I know he feels did the trick. Assface. But my assface, that I love. Ah well!
My MIL sent out the invites to the baby shower today (yeah!!) and while we were talking she informed me that she and her best friend have taken to calling my LO "Char" while talking. It caught me off guard and I don't know how I feel about it. Her name will be Charlotte but we will be calling her Charlie. I don't know why it bothers me, but I wanted to say "her name is Charlie." Weird much?
June '14 September Siggy challenge- Favorite things about fall
My SS moment of the day is that I ordered 8 dresses from Target online and not one of them looks good. I really just need one dress for maternity pics at the end of the month and then I can wear it to my brother's wedding two weeks later as well. This shouldn't be so hard! I don't know if maybe my gut is just humongous or what but if it fits in the stomach and butt then it's way too big in the boobs. I take it back, one of the dresses looks great now but is verging on tight so there's no way in hell I can cram into it six weeks from now.
My MIL sent out the invites to the baby shower today (yeah!!) and while we were talking she informed me that she and her best friend have taken to calling my LO "Char" while talking. It caught me off guard and I don't know how I feel about it. Her name will be Charlotte but we will be calling her Charlie. I don't know why it bothers me, but I wanted to say "her name is Charlie." Weird much?
Nope. We'd have been going with Charlotte if Charlie had been a girl. An ob heard me calling him that before we knew it was a boy and said "Oh, Charlene, that's cute." I corrected him. If you want your baby girl called a certain name, start correcting now. Catherine has been called Cathy or CC once or twice, and I always correct, because she's Catherine. Nothing wrong with that
My MIL sent out the invites to the baby shower today (yeah!!) and while we were talking she informed me that she and her best friend have taken to calling my LO "Char" while talking. It caught me off guard and I don't know how I feel about it. Her name will be Charlotte but we will be calling her Charlie. I don't know why it bothers me, but I wanted to say "her name is Charlie." Weird much?
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that's your MIL's passive aggressive way of "protesting" the "boy" nickname... Passive aggressiveness from my MIL would bother me, too
Just because I'm curious, would it bother you if she called her Charlotte?
The funny thing is, it's not her being passive aggressive. It's her airhead friend keeps calling her "Char" so she started too. I don't hate Char, I think it's cute, but I guess I keep thinking she already has a nickname lol!!! We really want her to be Charlie, we just named her Charlotte so shed have a grown up female name in case she wants to be a Supreme Court justice one day or something. So for me, her name is Charlie. I dunno, I think I'm the one being weird about it but it just kinda bothers me.
June '14 September Siggy challenge- Favorite things about fall
@mrsdbc, that's about what I get. He refuses to apologize unless he really didn't mean it, because otherwise it's lying or some shit. I was like, no, you could apologize for making me feel like crap. That would be nice, too. Men are stupid.
I just signed up for classes and a tour of the hospital in April and I am so excited for them!
I also signed my DH up for a Daddy's class where other dads come and bring their new babies and teach newbies about how to be a dad. I'm so excited for him to experience it! I wish I could be a fly on the wall for that class
My best friends husband came over tonight to help me build a containment fence for my dogs so they stop running away on me. It's just a bamboo garden fence, but at least he won't be able to run around my house to get away from me now! This has happened like 3 times since we moved. Thankfully my husband was here two of the three times and the last time he stopped to poop in my front yard so I was able to grab him. Anyway, no more worrying about the dogs running off when the baby gets here, yeah!!!!!!!!
June '14 September Siggy challenge- Favorite things about fall
I am at work. I am trying to poop. Three ladies have come in, one after another, to use the other stalls. I don't like pooping with other people in here. They need to leave!!!
Omg this happened to me two days ago. This lady talked to me all the way into the bathroom, through her own pee/hand washing, and then stood outside my stall door STILL TALKING. I almost dropped a deuce in the middle of her sentence so she's get uncomfortable enough to go the hell away.
@narwhalicorns We just had a dog trainer come to our house. We got three private lessons for $225. By following his methods, our dog went from jumping on people and licking their faces to sitting respectfully and waiting to be pet. I totally recommend a private lesson. Learning in our home really helped. The first week, I had to have the dog leashed to me which was a pain, but paid off in the end.
@narwhalicorns We just had a dog trainer come to our house. We got three private lessons for $225. By following his methods, our dog went from jumping on people and licking their faces to sitting respectfully and waiting to be pet. I totally recommend a private lesson. Learning in our home really helped. The first week, I had to have the dog leashed to me which was a pain, but paid off in the end.
Thanks! I've tried googling trainers but have not had much luck. I've only found basic training. Sit, stay, etc. We don't know anyone who has used any outside training for their dogs either. Definitely a pain!
I'm starting to buy more and more baby stuff lately and it's a weird feeling. Like, oh wow so we're actually going to have little babies here soon, they'll probably need clothes... or something.... maybe I should...get them stuff?
Re: **Friday 2/28 AW/SS/Random Thoughts Thread**
DH and I are halfway to NYC right now! Just for the day/night. I'm super excited, I love NYC. My sister and I used to make an annual trip, but I haven't been in 4+ years now. Yay!
We are staying in soho... think there's any chance we'll get in to momofuku for dinner? They don't take reservations! Any other recs are appreciated!
@emilyh107 she's precious!
My mom/sis is hosting my shower but wanted help with the invites. Holy first world problem, they've been a huge PITA. I learned kinkos was going to charge us $1.24/each to print them (holy hell) but found out today I can just print them here at work for $0.12/each woot woot! Winning!
When guests come over he gets extremely hyper and excited which usually results in him peeing on the floor. He also jumps on them.
He's also shit in the house twice this past month. I usually let him outside every hourish.
He's around 10 months old.
Eta: He is a hound/lab mix.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
On the same note. What do you guys think of Cameron? To H it's the baby's name. I really like it and can see myself having a son named Cameron but I have commitment issues.
Also, the flu has been going around the office and I woke up feeling like I'm getting it. I just want to go home but we are so incredibly short staffed I would feel so guilty leaving.
@ugabamafans, I think it's sweet. DH has a friend whose daughter has that name, they're coming over to dinner tomorrow night. If I notice a cute nickname I'll let you know.
@ricecakes1216, I love the name Cameron, so I say go for it!
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Hugs @lyracelesti and @lizardbreath14 !
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
@babybean82
Thanks for the response! Our main entrance is our back door into the kitchen which is gated off. So he doesn't really get any attention right away. We do try to let everyone know that he needs to be ignored, but usually they dont follow through. I'm thinking he might just need to stay leashed.
As for outside time, its still frigid here so he hates being outside right now. I usually just open the door and let him out and let him back in when he comes back. Both times did happen when my brother was over babysitting the LOs while I was at school though. It might just be he wasn't let out soon enough after eating.
If anyone is wondering if I killed my husband after my post about his superb insensitivity yesterday, I did not. I tried to talk to him about why it upset me, and he just doesn't get it. It didn't happen, so why be upset over it? He never said he'd leave me, he just said he'd have thinking to do, blah blah blah. I got to the point where I chose to stop banging my head against a brick wall, because he will never what I actually want, which is "I was stupid, I didn't mean it that way at all, I'm sorry, I'd never have left you and we'd have a family of little Asian babies." Not gonna happen. Finally I just got up to get in the shower and reminded him of how he feels when he worries about losing me (which apparently he does). I told him that what he said made me feel that way, when I've never felt that way before, and how does he think that made me feel? I also told him that we were done with the discussion and after my shower all I wanted was for him to kiss me goodnight and tell me he loves me.
Judging by the amount of hugs and "I love you"s I've received since then, apparently equating it to a way I know he feels did the trick. Assface. But my assface, that I love. Ah well!
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Nope. We'd have been going with Charlotte if Charlie had been a girl. An ob heard me calling him that before we knew it was a boy and said "Oh, Charlene, that's cute." I corrected him. If you want your baby girl called a certain name, start correcting now. Catherine has been called Cathy or CC once or twice, and I always correct, because she's Catherine. Nothing wrong with that
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
I also signed my DH up for a Daddy's class where other dads come and bring their new babies and teach newbies about how to be a dad. I'm so excited for him to experience it! I wish I could be a fly on the wall for that class
@narwhalicorns Our grooming and boarding facility gave us the trainer rec. If you use one or know of one, I bet they can help you!