More kids after twins

sterling1987 · February 2014

Hi everyone!

Just curious to how long other MoMs waiting to have another baby after their twins? My twins are my first and I definitely want more just not sure if I am crazy to have them too close in age?

TheDairyQueenx3 · February 2014

We want to go for a fourth and final. Our oldest son and our twins are 3 years and 9 months apart. It's a perfect gap for us. He's able to help and isn't so dependent on me at this point. However, with my boys being di/di I'm ssssuuupppeeerrr nervous about ending up with another set since we don't know if they are ID or not and according to another thread, it's a 1-11 chance (ladies correct me if I'm wrong). Their pregnancy started as trips lost one and almost lost baby B due to many issues in the first 15 weeks. With that being said it took us a year and 2 months to get our first and 3 years and 4 losses to get the twins. Plus I'm EBF the boys so I know that will factor in to when we could get a BFP or not.

We will start actively trying when the boys are 6 months just like we did with our first. Right now we are NTNP since the boys were 8 weeks and so far neg tests. But personally I liked getting our son past the stage where he needed me for more than 60% of his needs like getting dressed, diapers, getting a snack or drink, entertaining him, etc.

xoexpat · February 2014

I started getting baby fever when my twins were about 6 months. Although, I knew/know that I would want to wait until they are more independent and possibly in pre-school before having another one. It's hard though, because I have a real strong urge, like nothing I've ever felt (I don't even think I felt this strongly when we TTC the twins!)

My DH is another story, however. We're usually on the same page about things, but this is just one area where we aren't. He says he "doesn't see the point" of having more, although officially not talking about it until they are older so there's still a chance. It kind of crushes me, the thought of not having anymore. I think if I'd had two singletons, that might be enough, but w/ two at once I kind of feel like I should give it another go strange as that might sound.

As much as I want another one, there's no way I'd be able to handle another baby ATM. But that's just me.

daisy19782011 · February 2014

We want a 3rd, but I need a little time. I got a 6 month prescription for BCP and then off we go

I am not sure if we will do IF treatments again or just try naturally and see what happens. We will just have to see. We did an IUI to get the girls and the baby we lost.

megs2011 · February 2014

@xoexpat This was my story exactly. DH was done with 2 and I thought I was too. I know if I had 2 singletons, I would have been done too but I wanted another one because I had 2 at once. We were planning on waiting a couple more months (start TTC around May of this year) but we got a surprise BFP in January so I'm due with my 3rd in September. I will have 3u2 for probably at least 1 week. I would have liked the twins to be closer to 2.5/3 before #3 came but #3 had other plans LOL

Wishing35 · February 2014

We are working on number 3 right now and my girls are 6 months. I'm going to be 37 so I feel like I need to finish all my baby making soon.

Missa_g · February 2014

Due to my IF and the premature birth of my twins we weren't sure if we were going to be able to have more children. We started NTNP when they were 8 months old. I got pregnant in November of 2013 but unfortunately our baby boy had triploidy and we lost him. I had to have a D&C so we're waiting three months to try again. I have 38 days left of BCPs (not that I'm counting) and then we'll be NTNP again until August when we will full force TTC. I loved the idea of 3u3 with my last pregnancy but we're not aiming for it with a future one.

hayleydeee · February 2014

I'm on the fence about another. But if we decide to go for it I'd like the next one to be about 3.5 years younger than my twins. They are 3 years younger than DD, and it's a nice gap. But I'm not ready to TTC just yet, and to have that same 3 year gap would mean trying now.

My sister and I are almost 5 years apart. Growing up it felt like we lived in different worlds.

hayleydeee · February 2014

xoexpat said:

I started getting baby fever when my twins were about 6 months. Although, I knew/know that I would want to wait until they are more independent and possibly in pre-school before having another one. It's hard though, because I have a real strong urge, like nothing I've ever felt (I don't even think I felt this strongly when we TTC the twins!)

My DH is another story, however. We're usually on the same page about things, but this is just one area where we aren't. He says he "doesn't see the point" of having more, although officially not talking about it until they are older so there's still a chance. It kind of crushes me, the thought of not having anymore. I think if I'd had two singletons, that might be enough, but w/ two at once I kind of feel like I should give it another go strange as that might sound.

As much as I want another one, there's no way I'd be able to handle another baby ATM. But that's just me.

That doesn't sound strange at all. I have that same feeling (even though I have a singleton too). There is something very surreal and odd feeling about having one pregnancy and two babies. I would never go as far as to say that it doesn't feel like I actually had two kids. But, still... it's weird and it leaves me wanting more. I think if I'd had 3 separate singletons I'd be more likely to feel done.

lilbit326 · February 2014

I have a 2.5 yr old boy and 4 week old mono/di girls. It's a challenge! He is very sweet to them but he still needs my attention all the time. It's hard to be up all night with the girls and then all day with him. Walking zombie lol. I however had a tubal because 3 is enough for me, no way I was willing to chance it being 5 since your odds of conceiving multiples grows so much.

raraavis28 · February 2014

megs2011 said:

@xoexpat This was my story exactly. DH was done with 2 and I thought I was too. I know if I had 2 singletons, I would have been done too but I wanted another one because I had 2 at once. We were planning on waiting a couple more months (start TTC around May of this year) but we got a surprise BFP in January so I'm due with my 3rd in September. I will have 3u2 for probably at least 1 week. I would have liked the twins to be closer to 2.5/3 before #3 came but #3 had other plans LOL

Congratulations, @megs2011!!

I know I want one or two more, but DH has a different story every time the subject comes up. :-P After the babies were born we agreed to not even talk about it until they turned 1, and when they started approaching their first bday, we pushed the "not talk about it" date until after they turn 2. I'm thinking a 3ish year age gap wouldn't be bad, just to survive baby and some of toddlerhood first. I feel the same way as some PPs....even though I have two children, it doesn't feel the same having only given birth once. And the pregnancy and first few months of the boys' lives feel like such a blur now....I wonder if having just one baby later I'd be able to treasure those newborn moments a bit more? Again, though, there are never any guarantees in life.....so I guess we'll just see what happens.

xoexpat · February 2014

Wow @megs2011! Congrats and good luck to you

@marchesa28 It's good to hear that other MoMs feel the same way. I totally agree about treasuring those newborn moments more. I think I treasured them about as much as I could, but the blur of it all just makes it hard to remember! I want to remember holding them when they are so tiny! I see pictures of them at that stage and it's so surreal. I tear up just thinking about it actually.

DH had a rough year, I think. But hell, so did I!? They don't even STTN and I still want another!

But yeah, I'll give it another year.

I just wonder, if we can't agree...what will happen?

AmyJoy728 · February 2014

I agree with the feeling of missing out with twin pregnancy. I was thinking abt trying after my eh completed law school at night and we went on a trip to celebrate, but he just told me he wants to go back to Mexico for our anniv in jan/February again. They would be almost 3 at that point. My sister and I are 4.5yrs apart and it was a big difference so I would rather it be less than 4yrs, though it took us a year plus 4cycles of clomid with one dose of 100mg to get the twins...

megs2011 · February 2014

@marchesa28 @xoexpat Thanks Ladies

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