"While I love my boss, colleagues, company, and job responsibilities, I overestimated my ability to commute given my present circumstances. Almost a decade ago, I had a position that required a 50-mile commute in heavier traffic and thrived. Remembering that, and excited at the opportunity to work in X industry, I jumped at a job offer in that field. Unfortunately, one year in, I'm finding 3 hours a day in the car, plus the constraint of two toddlers, impedes my ability to be my best self all-around. While I've received progressively heavier responsibilities and strong performance reviews, I'm increasingly frustrated by what I perceive to be wasted time. My current company's culture isn't conducive to telecommuting; in fact I suspect it would damage my relationships with my colleagues if I tried. Should you offer me this position, leaving my current role will be bittersweet, but I want to see what I'm capable of when the time in the car can instead be allocated toward actual productive work."
I don't even have an interview or even a job in mind. But I guess, is this the right way to say "I'm considering leaving because the commute is about to push me over the edge"? It's not my only problem by any means, but an enormous stressor.
Re: WDYT of this as an interview answer?
Ditto. While your answer is well thought out, it is really TMI so I would just keep it short and sweet and drama-free. No one wants to spend 3 hours/day in the car if they have a choice.
You're far from the first person to feel this way!
THIS I interview and hire a ton and if I was interviewing you and this is the answer you gave me I would likely go with another candidate. Just say the commute is to long. End of story.