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Any widows?

Sparla1027Sparla1027 member
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I just lost my H to an accident 2 months ago. I haven't been active on TB much since DD1s BMB, but thought maybe I might be able to find some ladies here in a similar circumstance.
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Re: Any widows?

  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Im so sorry for your loss, i remember about a year ago a woman posted about being a widow but for the life of me can not remember who it was.

    Either way, you will find a group of wonderful supportive women here who will always be happy to listen and give support.

    Welcome to the board
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  • Sparla1027Sparla1027 member
    Thank you. I'm sure you ladies can relate in some ways. Especially those with BDs that aren't local.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    We all have our crosses to bear and we are all here for you.

    Tell us about youself how old are you, how many little ones? How old? How old are you? What do you do for a living? Anything that floats your boat
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  • tig594tig594 member
    edited February 2014
    She really wants to know how old you are.   :P

    Welcome back.  I'n not a widow but I'm still glad you're here.  
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Sorry to hear about your loss :( welcome to the board though. I hope we're a pretty good support group regardless.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    tig594 said:

    She really wants to know how old you are.  

    You caught me tig im the worlds biggest creeper
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  • tig594tig594 member
    I knew there was something about you I just couldn't put my finger on!  
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Im secretley a dirty old man who lives in his moms basement named phil
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Nasty.
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    My name is Phil, too!!
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Omg! Are we secretley the same old guy @roxalot?

    This is me
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    This is me
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  • Sparla1027Sparla1027 member
    edited February 2014
    Haha. Sorry I tried to update my siggy 18 times and in standard TB fashion my old from from when I tried to get in to DD2s BMB is stay hanging out... I'm 33, I lost my H on Christmas Eve to an accident. My girls are 2.5 and 4 months, and I am currently a SAHM. Life is every much up in the air for me still. I'm going to try and stay home for a least a while and live off my social security. Two kids in daycare is so expensive it freaks me out.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Im so sorry, i cant even imagine how you must br feeling! Im mobile and cant see siggies, but. Just know it gets better. Can you apply for day care assistance for when you are ready to go back to work
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Absolutely.  And WiC.  I think WiC really saved me since I couldn't breast feed.  

    I feel so bad for you.  I just can't imagine going through that.  Especially with a new baby.  I'd be in pieces.
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Also, I get insurance through all kids for my DD. allkidscovered.com is the website for info/application.
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Regarding child care---it is redonkulous!  I could board a horse cheaper than it costs to board my kid for the day.  And I'm in a really low cost of living area.
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    It looks like it would cost me about 2K to put them in full time daycare. The thing is if I start working I get less social security. So then basically the girls social security would all go to daycare. It seems pretty stupid to me. I'm really not sure I can make it make sense financially to go back until dd1 is in kindergarten. For sanity though I'm afraid to stay home. Emotionally I'm not as bad as you make think. Having to take care of the girls means I have to get up, I have to make meals, I have to function. I have sad moments, but as I've told people many times, that crawl in a hole sleep all day and sob sort of grieving would be a luxury. The girls are a on state insurance and I am on obamacare. I should look in to WIC. DD1 goes to 2 y/o preschool twice a week and I'm looking in to grants for next year.
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Oh yeah.  This might be a good time to start looking at additional schooling?  I wish I had the energy and time to start taking classes again. 
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  • Sparla1027Sparla1027 member
    School is a consideration. Just a lot up in the air right now. :/
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    I totallyunderstand. Hugs for you it does get better. Im glad your able to stay busy. Im sure there are times all you want to do is lay in bed and cry, but i give you props for plugging along and not.

    I still recomend talking to someone, a counselor, a religious affiliant in your life, a good friend, a family member, hell even talk to us.

    I find talking about things can be extremley theraputic.
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