JACK AND JILL GENDER TEST?

Meery82 · February 2014

JFC. And I thought the pothead was insane. OP, your level of stupidity is astounding. Way to go offending the majority of people who post here. I'm sure that's going to work out real well for you. Shut your computer down and do not come back. Please go crawl back into whatever fucking rat hole you came from and stay there. And read a fucking book or two while you're there.

veetveet · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:
Also I don't understand worrying about if your child has a skull or if your going to miscarry. As long as you eat healthy and do the right thing your baby should be fine. If he or she isn't then there's nothing you or any doctor can do at that time. Plus the stress isn't good for baby and will probably make things worse. Sometimes you just have to wait it out and see what happens. Of course I'm going to worry but I'm not going to loose sleep over things I can't control. However I can control what my nursery looks like and what furniture I pick out and what I'm going to name my baby ect
I stay up thinking about the positive exciting things. Not the overwhelming negative things. Having a baby is a blessing wether or not they have a mental problem or a physical one.

I ate healthy and did the right thing - was positive and excited and at 25 weeks my baby boy was diagnosed with multiple fatal congenital heart defects. We terminated the pregnancy last week at 27 weeks. My baby was a blessing until I was told how his life would be a nightmare.

All that matters is healthy- gender specific items and paint color are complete bullshit.

I guess when you are sent to a high risk clinic and see many couples with a glazed over look- looking absolutely defeated, or visit the miscarraige and loss boards or even more specifically deliver a dead baby- you see things a little differently.... with greater perspective.

jtmomma13 · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:

I'm sorry I don't wana dress my son in dresses and paint his room pink with a white crib. I also don't want everything on my registry to be girly if I'm In fact not having a girl. I'm having my baby shower relatively early so it would be nice to have sex specific things on my registry for people to start buying.

My boy sleeps in a white crib...

WashingtonQueen · February 2014

@veetveet I am terribly sorry for your loss. I understand how devastating it is. You are in my thoughts and my heart. I wish you all the best. (((HUGS)))

Meery82 · February 2014

veetveet said:

Also I don't understand worrying about if your child has a skull or if your going to miscarry. As long as you eat healthy and do the right thing your baby should be fine. If he or she isn't then there's nothing you or any doctor can do at that time. Plus the stress isn't good for baby and will probably make things worse. Sometimes you just have to wait it out and see what happens. Of course I'm going to worry but I'm not going to loose sleep over things I can't control. However I can control what my nursery looks like and what furniture I pick out and what I'm going to name my baby ect I stay up thinking about the positive exciting things. Not the overwhelming negative things. Having a baby is a blessing wether or not they have a mental problem or a physical one.
I ate healthy and did the right thing - was positive and excited and at 25 weeks my baby boy was diagnosed with multiple fatal congenital heart defects. We terminated the pregnancy last week at 27 weeks. My baby was a blessing until I was told how his life would be a nightmare. All that matters is healthy- gender specific items and paint color are complete bullshit. I guess when you are sent to a high risk clinic and see many couples with a glazed over look- looking absolutely defeated, or visit the miscarraige and loss boards or even more specifically deliver a dead baby- you see things a little differently.... with greater perspective.

I am so sorry for your loss.

veetveet · February 2014

Thanks everyone- I wasn't tying to make this about me. I was just trying to prove how ridiculous and naive her comment was.

GoaliesWife123 · February 2014

gingerkid9989 said:

I don't know anything about the test but you should change gender to sex. That test will determine the sex of the baby. Just a heads up!

THIS.

*Lurking* Crap, I totally didn't read it all before I posted. I will now simply say that the OP is a disgusting person. Shame on you for the things you said.

Hugs to anyone that was in its path.

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

@jvanderhayden : no one cares if you want to know what sex your having. Also, many guests buy items for a baby shower at the last minute. I get this feeling that you are the type to throw your own shower too? It's just a feeling...

You are missing the point that the method you want to use is not made solely for the purpose of sex discovery. It's a very real, very serious blood screen that can have devastating consequences for someone that gets a bad result.

The way you want to use it makes it into a trivial thing. That is wrong. It's made to screen for health purposes & NOT so you can plan your nursery.

ham0216 · February 2014

I've never experienced so many emotions from one post... Absolute anger & disgust to OP, and tears in my eyes to you ladies for sharing your stories.

To those she offended & for what you have went through... my love & respect to you all.

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:
Also I don't understand worrying about if your child has a skull or if your going to miscarry. As long as you eat healthy and do the right thing your baby should be fine...Plus the stress isn't good for baby and will probably make things worse.

This BS is the very height of ignorance. It's disgusting. The quality of a mother's diet cannot change a genetic issue or other medical issues. It's very nasty to try to place blame on any mother that has had a baby with issues by blaming it on diet. Shame on you.

Also, stress cannot change something like trisotomy or a missing skull. It is painfully clear that you are either acting like a willingly stupid person or a obviously hurtful troll. I would suggest shutting your mouth if you cannot contribute knowledgable information. Right now you just sound like an ignorant asshat-princess with entitlement problems.

jvanderheyden said:
I stay up thinking about the positive exciting things. Not the overwhelming negative things. Having a baby is a blessing wether or not they have a mental problem or a physical one.

Again, with this talking out of your ass thing. You are wasting energy, resources & money on a test that is not designed specifically for the purpose you want it for. Having a baby with a life-ending, painful abnormality or a questionable quality of life is not a blessing. The more you talk the more ignorant & out of touch you sound. Just stop.

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:
Your boys love dresses too and tutus? (Not that there's anything wrong w. That) gender neutral clothes are boring and ugly. And yes I've been to stores that sell baby clothes and the gender neutral clothes they have (the few they have) are not cute. P.S I don't want a black or green stroller or car seat. Like I said I want sex specific things. Which is what I personally want. And I don't see anything wrong with that

Also, FYI -- the registry is a suggestion. Your guests may choose sex neutral items anyway...

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:

WashingtonQueen said:

jvanderheyden said:
You people are redic. I'm sorry I'm not some emo depressed worried for no reason pregnant person. Your husbands must be ready to shoot them selfs living with you.
Wow. There you go offending even more people. Suicide is not a joke.
Not joking .... I'm completely serious ... You people must be impossible to live with

As opposed to a person like you who doesn't care who they hurt, offend or whatnot with the ignorant, insensitive filth that is coming out of your mouth?

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

@theresat858 : I would pay $ to see the look on her face when her little precious obliterates her frilly garments with poop & spit up!

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

Also-- I not-so-secretly hope that her insurance charges her a huge bill after the blood draw

Clerical error!

firebelle26 · February 2014

Wow. This has got to be the most disgusting and infuriating thread I have ever read.

CMSullivan326 · February 2014

If I was going to her baby shower, I'd buy neutral shit just to piss her off.

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

ChickenOnSunday said:
@Morganhailey

You sure gave the OP a lot of love in the post.

Why?????????????????

ILY. Please explain to the class, hmm? You too @courtneyysmiles? Why in the world would you love these comments? I don't understand it?

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

yurizaba said:

ChickenOnSunday said:

@Morganhailey

You sure gave the OP a lot of love in the post.

Why?????????????????

Seems like a false account, maybe made by the OP?

Good call. If that is the case it's laughably pathetic.

courtneyysmiles · February 2014

PrimRoseMama said:
ILY. Please explain to the class, hmm? You too @courtneyysmiles? Why in the world would you love these comments? I don't understand it?

I liked her comments up until the point that she said that as long as you eat healthy, etc, you'll have a healthy baby, and if you care that much to look at everything I've liked, you'll notice the only thing I liked after that were replies from other people who have lost babies, calling her out on her false information. I don't know how that makes me an awful person. I've only been active on this site for a week, if that, and I've only looked at the boards today. She sent me a nice message this morning, and when I looked at her profile, I found this board. I don't know her. I've never talked to her. I don't know if she's a bad person or not. All I did was like comments, how is that bad?

WashingtonQueen · February 2014

@Courtneyysmiles It's bad because it looks like you are aligning yourself with a truly disgusting person.

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

courtneyysmiles said:

PrimRoseMama said:

ILY. Please explain to the class, hmm? You too @courtneyysmiles? Why in the world would you love these comments? I don't understand it?

I liked her comments up until the point that she said that as long as you eat healthy, etc, you'll have a healthy baby, and if you care that much to look at everything I've liked, you'll notice the only thing I liked after that were replies from other people who have lost babies, calling her out on her false information. I don't know how that makes me an awful person. I've only been active on this site for a week, if that, and I've only looked at the boards today. She sent me a nice message this morning, and when I looked at her profile, I found this board. I don't know her. I've never talked to her. I don't know if she's a bad person or not. All I did was like comments, how is that bad?

When you like comments from an OP that is spouting ignorant, cruel shit people notice. It reflects badly on you, as you can see.

Pro-Tip from someone who has been flamed to hell & back-- lurk & lurk some more. The "I've only been here a week" lost little lamb thing doesn't really jive when you've come out swinging in your own thread, KWIM?

I'm trying to give you the benefit of the doubt & I've made my share of mistakes on here. I'm doing you a solid when I say try not to love-it & agree with crazy. It makes you look like you want to be associated with the troll that is on a one-way bus to ban-land.

courtneyysmiles · February 2014

I liked her comments before any of the cruel shit started being said. I still don't even know what the cruel stuff was, because I stopped reading it after she said what she said about the fool proof way to have a healthy pregnancy, and I liked the girls comment calling it bullshit. I get bored when there's 6+pages. I only read the first 2, maybe 3 before I stopped. I am seriously so sorry, if people are offended that I like a few of her harmless comments before she started spewing hate, but do ya'll really take the time to read through every page of these boards? I didn't realize I was supposed to do that. I've just been adding my own comments to things, replying to the original posters without reading through all the comments. The only board I've read every comment on is the one I made myself.

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

@courtneyysmiles : yes, read the threads! Lurk/read. Otherwise you'll find yourself in a very bad position like the one you are in now.

MMason12 · February 2014

I only ready through 4 pages of comments... but OP you are truly one of the most horrible and worst people I have ever come across on TB.

Losing sleep every night over the sex of your baby is just insane. Then to top it off by basically laughing at those of who have had miscarriages makes you an asstawat. For the record, I am under 30, perfect healthy, ideal weight, no medical issues, and same with my husband -- we still experienced a missed miscarriage.

You are insanely immature and have zero clue what pregnancy is really about. You have insulted almost everyone here and you really should just go find another forum (like Baby Center) to find people who are willing to entertain your ridiculous ideas.

Edited to add: Oh, FYI... I have a hard time sleeping at night wondering if my LO will make it full term, and once they are here I worry about whether I will be able to be a good parent, teach them morals and values, to be a productive member of society, etc. Not wondering what type of reproductive organs will between their legs.

courtneyysmiles · February 2014

Well considering I've only actively been reading things today, I've only read through everything on mine, because I'm notified that there are comments? I'll work on it, but can everyone seriously stop attacking me for something that I wasn't aware was wrong, or is that too much to ask? I've tried explaining myself, and explaining why I liked the comments, and I've apologized.

PrimRoseMama · February 2014

courtneyysmiles said:
Well considering I've only actively been reading things today, I've only read through everything on mine, because I'm notified that there are comments? I'll work on it, but can everyone seriously stop attacking me for something that I wasn't aware was wrong, or is that too much to ask? I've tried explaining myself, and explaining why I liked the comments, and I've apologized.

I've been trying to keep up, but can you requote your apology? I have yet to find it & I usually don't miss those. Not saying you didn't but mobile quote trees are hard to sort through sometimes.

There is no need to be so melodramatic. Really, it's not the Nuremberg tribunal & the world won't end if a few internet strangers dislike you.

You fucked up. It happens. No need to try for the Oscar on your first day.

kimberlymacrae · February 2014

courtneyysmiles said:

PrimRoseMama said:

ILY. Please explain to the class, hmm? You too @courtneyysmiles? Why in the world would you love these comments? I don't understand it?
I liked her comments up until the point that she said that as long as you eat healthy, etc, you'll have a healthy baby, and if you care that much to look at everything I've liked, you'll notice the only thing I liked after that were replies from other people who have lost babies, calling her out on her false information. I don't know how that makes me an awful person. I've only been active on this site for a week, if that, and I've only looked at the boards today. She sent me a nice message this morning, and when I looked at her profile, I found this board. I don't know her. I've never talked to her. I don't know if she's a bad person or not. All I did was like comments, how is that bad?

@courtneyysmiles... you're not doing too well on these boards.

JustCricket · February 2014

I'd be up at night worry about my husband who's about to deploy, and of course the health of my baby.. not the sex of my unborn baby...

bookqueen · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:

Also I don't understand worrying about if your child has a skull or if your going to miscarry. As long as you eat healthy and do the right thing your baby should be fine. If he or she isn't then there's nothing you or any doctor can do at that time. Plus the stress isn't good for baby and will probably make things worse. Sometimes you just have to wait it out and see what happens. Of course I'm going to worry but I'm not going to loose sleep over things I can't control. However I can control what my nursery looks like and what furniture I pick out and what I'm going to name my baby ect I stay up thinking about the positive exciting things. Not the overwhelming negative things. Having a baby is a blessing wether or not they have a mental problem or a physical one.

You have got to be fucking kidding me!!! I cannot even read the rest of this thread.. What complete fucking ignorance. Try having a miscarriage and thinking that again..

mileswithmyles · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:
Also I don't understand worrying about if your child has a skull or if your going to miscarry. As long as you eat healthy and do the right thing your baby should be fine.

Screw you OP. I are fine and did "the right thing" and still had a miscarriage. Stop talking out of your ass.

barely · February 2014

jvanderheyden said:

Also I don't understand worrying about if your child has a skull or if your going to miscarry. As long as you eat healthy and do the right thing your baby should be fine. If he or she isn't then there's nothing you or any doctor can do at that time. Plus the stress isn't good for baby and will probably make things worse. Sometimes you just have to wait it out and see what happens. Of course I'm going to worry but I'm not going to loose sleep over things I can't control. However I can control what my nursery looks like and what furniture I pick out and what I'm going to name my baby ect I stay up thinking about the positive exciting things. Not the overwhelming negative things. Having a baby is a blessing wether or not they have a mental problem or a physical one.

I know this has been quoted to hell and back, but holy shit. How old are you anyway, OP? Because you're acting like a teenager. I'm not usually one to jump all over people's shit, but wow. Just wow. It's really going to suck if you have that shower and get all your pink/ blue shit and then find out at 20 weeks that something is seriously wrong with your baby. Oh wait, I forgot, it couldn't possibly happen to you because you are eating healthy. Give me a break.

@veetveet I am soo terribly sorry Hun

bumpuser10199668 · February 2014

Ugh. If she is 11 weeks, that makes @jvanderheyden a September mom. I am commenting on this so that I remember when I get back to my post it because if she shows her 'face' on our BMB, I want to remember to give her a nice long GTFO.

There are plenty of things worth flaming on TB, and not all of them are post-it worthy....and most are forgivable.

The comments in this thread were just too much.

portentosa · February 2014

carmstr4 said:

Ugh. If she is 11 weeks, that makes @jvanderheyden a September mom. I am commenting on this so that I remember when I get back to my post it because if she shows her 'face' on our BMB, I want to remember to give her a nice long GTFO.

There are plenty of things worth flaming on TB, and not all of them are post-it worthy....and most are forgivable.

The comments in this thread were just too much.

But BMBs are supposed to be NICER than these meany tri boards!! Hahahaha!!

But seriously OP, you have said some absolutely ignorant, disgusting, and hurtful things here. September14 doesn't want you.

You can't escape the post-it.

momthatlifts · February 2014

Alright who's the Bumpie who made this hot mess ae?

portentosa · February 2014

JKBMA2014 said:

Alright who's the Bumpie who made this hot mess ae?

I don't think any reg would EVER make an AE that would say the shit that came out of this woman.

WashingtonQueen · February 2014

JKBMA2014 said:

Alright who's the Bumpie who made this hot mess ae?

I don't think it's an AE. Troll, yes. AE, no.

momthatlifts · February 2014

trombgirl said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Alright who's the Bumpie who made this hot mess ae?

I don't think any reg would EVER make an AE that would say the shit that came out of this woman.

I only read the first page. It was so full of stupid I didn't bother to read on, but I did see her miscarriage comment. It's really sad when someone thinks it's funny to even troll like that. Taking it too far

jaztastic · February 2014

This was quite sad... And I'm the one with IF??!! Fucking A man

atmaloney · February 2014

dorothyzbornak97 said:

jvanderheyden said:

1. How does that make me ignorant lol 2. You really shouldn't be having a baby that late in life anyway. - so you actually have a reason to worry. I'm still confused why it's so wrong to want to know the sex of my baby for my baby shower...

Are you talking to me? If so, how about you go fuck yourself. You don't know jack shit about me or why I'm having a baby "so late in life." Seriously take your pink and blue shit and fuck right off.

DID NOT MEAN TO FLAG THIS. Already loved it. HOLY SHIT OP. I feel so sorry for your child. You are seriously a real piece of shit for saying things like that.