Can I rant here for a moment? Also a question for those with older-ish twins.

TheDairyQueenx3 · February 2014

If I hear the phrase "are they twins" one more time today I'm going to snap. No there are just two babies in the exact same care seats, in the exact same snow fleece suits, with the exact same car seat blankets just for fun. I know you all get this just as much as I do so how is it that, THAT MANY people can ask such a stupid question?

:rant over now on to my real question:

For those with older twins when did they "notice" each other and start to somewhat interact? I mean mine will hold hands and acknowledge each other's noises but they don't yet get excited or smile (or any expression for that fact) when face to face. I'm impatient!

Thanks for listening to me complain about the obvious but it's ssssooooo frustrating me today for some reason.

PurpleIris30 · February 2014

My twins aren't much older (2months adjusted, 4 months actual), but one just gave a huge smile to the other this last week. I've noticed a change happening in their awareness of one another recently.

Can't help with the other as we can't even take our twins out of the house until the end of flu and RSV season.

mamatotwins0812 · February 2014

Oh yes. Get used to it bc it's everywhere you go, every single time. Definitely can be wearing on ones nerves lol. I don't really think mine started really noticing each other for several months. 5 maybe?? I don't think it was until 8 months or so that they would interact and even then it wasn't much. At prob 10 months or so they started more "playing" together etc.

Pittpanther · February 2014

Lol today was my first time out with the twins by myself and I think I got that question 3 times in the short time we were out! It is def annoying but I may have been guilty of asking it in the past. Idk. People are just trying to make small talk while they ogle the babies. Lol. Mine are only 2 months but 1 month adjusted so no help on the second question. Although I feel like it will be a few more months for us until they really start interacting.

shaunah816 · February 2014

You know, I don't remember. I wish I'd written this stuff down

They noticed each other long before they started interacting, though. The noticing probably happened around the age yours are at now. Real interaction came after 6 months, I think.

Now I wish they'd STOP interacting, because all they want to do is steal toys, poke eyes, and bite each other :-p

Rynleigh · February 2014

James started finding Simon so he could bite him as soon as he sprouted teeth, around 5mo. They started taking things from each other around 8mo or so. They just got to the point where they wrestle, hand things to each other, and respond in envy when the other one gets something or someone they don't, just a month or so ago (around a year old).

SV917 · February 2014

I don't really mind the "are they twins?" I think its a natural conversation starter. But maybe I haven't been out enough to find it annoying. Mine are 4 months. I'd say in the last week to week & a half they have started smiling at and "talking" to each other.

ballygirl · February 2014

My girls are 4 months and will occasionally hold hands and squeal back and forth to each other and laugh, but they both have to be in the right mood for it - not tired and recently fed.

carrotcake06 · February 2014

Mine are almost 8mo/6.5adj and just very recently has one started taking toys from the other and then getting yelled at by the other one for it. Not much beyond that yet.

rac717 · February 2014

Probably around 6 months or so. At 10 months, they have really just started "playing" together with one crawling after the other and them laughing.

raraavis28 · February 2014

LOL about the "are they twins?" questions....yep, still get that everywhere I go....though, b/c of their size difference (L is about 4 lbs heavier and an inch taller than N) I have occasionally gotten "what's the age difference?" I responded "30 seconds!"

My boys started noticing each other between 3 and 4 months. They would occasionally look at each other and smile....got more interactive when they got more mobile (6/7 months) and started really having fun together around 9 or 10 months. They were a month early, but seemed to hit milestones more according to their actual age.

kgs0505 · February 2014

I'm not exactly sure when they started, but about a couple months or so ago they really started noticing what the other is specifically playing with and taking the toy away from sister. Probably in the last month or so, they started getting upset about it

But yes, I'd say they interacted much earlier with each other that my son did with other kids. They will probably play with each other sooner too, instead of alongside each other. They've been "talking" to each other more so since they became more mobile and rolling everywhere they want to go.

seawater · February 2014

Best advice I've gotten so far: (from another twin mama who saw me struggling in Target)
Plan extra time whenever you go anywhere. People will stop you ALL. THE. TIME. As annoying as it can be, most people are just trying to make conversation (some clearly unaware that we don't have the time or patience to answer them, because they tend to follow you around with stupid questions or unwanted parenting advice...) Mine are still in their infant carriers, so I try to keep the handle up and the sun shade pulled all the way down to keep a little privacy barrier. I think that helps a little.

As far as interacting, mine are 3.5 months (2 months adj) and don't really interact yet. They will respond to each others cry, but that's about it.

coffee bean · February 2014

Gosh, I don't remember, but I do remember it felt like it took a LOOOOOONG time.

Mine were fighting like cats and dogs today. I wouldn't mind a little 'not noticing each other'...:)

macchiatto · February 2014

I have my pet peeves with twin comments/questions but "Are they twins?" never bugged me. I figured it was a rhetorical question just as a conversation-starter. Plus I'm sure people who have some combination of adopted/foster/bio babies close in age, or regularly baby-sit a friend's/relative's baby close in age, get those questions too and appreciate people asking rather than just assuming.

My boys turned 5 last month so trying to remember back that far, I would say they started really noticing each other around 4-5 months.

JoDoc · February 2014

I get the "Are they twins" question EVERY. SINGLE. TIME! I always just say "Yes they are" but I want to say "Nope, found one in the clearance aisle, figured 'Why not' so grabbed him too" or "Nope, we have triplets but the first was born 15 years ago" (for those that say they basically had twins because their children are 14 months apart, so it's the same thing *eye roll*) or "Nope, it was buy one, get one free" at the hospital" I never do say stuff like that, but I so want to!!!

megs2011 · February 2014

Oh get use to it. My twins are almost 1.5 and they are ID and look ID and I still get asked EVERYTIME "are they twins" As for the interacting...I wish I could remember. I think it was around the 3 month mark that they would look at each other and smile. Around 6-8 months they kind of started interacting. Now they play together all the time and I love it.

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