Whateva! Whateva! I do what I want!

danandkam · February 2014

I just want to AW some more of my pictures from our snow last week. 5 days later it is almost 70 degrees. Mother Nature obviously can't make up her mind. Anyway, here is a collage.

bkeane619 · February 2014

@crunchymama11 you are describing O to a tee

elllaf · February 2014

I wish the amount of hair I'm losing would grow on LO's head.

What little hair he does have seems to be coming in blond like DH was.

MangoMama82 · February 2014

Gatorsgirl731 said:

MangoMama82 said:
Am I the only one who saw the thread about "why is my 4 month old not sleeping??" posted TODAY?

Was it katiemmnumbers?

Yep!

bkeane619 · February 2014

crunchymama11 said:

bkeane619 said:

@crunchymama11 you are describing O to a tee

@bkeane619 so what do you do? i'm at my wit's end

eci said that was her seeking sensory input and mentioned possible sensory issues.

I'm at a complete loss and at my wits end as well. I don't know what to do. Time out doesn't work, spanking doesn't work, taking away toys doesn't work, explaining doesn't work. My husband and I have this conversation daily. He just doesn't listen AT ALL. If you want to talk about it in PMs let me know since our kids r the exact same age maybe we can brainstorm. He got his EI for 6 months last year for cognitive. Teacher said he's smart but quirky.

Mae208 · February 2014

crunchymama11 said:

Gatorsgirl731 said:

@crunchymama11
What is going on with her?

it's waaay tl;dr but in a word- she is nuts. not "normal" toddler nuts but nuuuuuuuuts. she "fights" everything, but not temper-tantrum fight. she thinks it's fun. she wants me to hold her down to brush her teeth, she wants me to "drag" her to bed, she'll start to put her hands up to get dressed and then when the shirt is near her she'll start laughing and clinging to me, etc. it's almost like she wants me to yell- she thinks me yelling is funny.

she seems to be ocd and likes everything to be done in the exact same order (i even have to put her shoes on right shoe first and then left shoe or she gets mad). so going to "time-out" (me removing her from the situation and trying to get her to calm down- see above) is a daily part of multiple parts of our day- in fact she knows and when i get irritated she runs and puts herself there while laughing

multiple times a day every.single.day for over a year- it's the same thing. i've even spanked her a few times and she thinks that's funny. (before you flame me i don't want to spank her and agree it can be completely ineffective. but it was the only other thing to do when redirection, time-out and taking away things don't work)

and removing her from a situation/redirection has always been a very fun game to her. she is sooo stubborn that she just keeps on and on and on and on while laughing. and if she does not want to do something- she just won't.

i want to know WHY she won't play with toys and why she now refuses to read a book and sit during circle time without constantly fighting her.

she was on house arrest her 1st 2 winters from her medical issues, and i know that has something to do with her lack of social skills. she follows the "highly spirited" book exactly- to a T- so maybe that's all it is. it feels more than that, though. i had ocd as a child, and i really think she may have it. but the therapist thought my ocd was a coping mechanism from my terrible childhood.

there's more but this was a long enough rant. i just feel something is off and i've felt that since she was a baby. i was a preschool teacher for 3's and dc teacher for 2's and 2 1/2's- i know what is "normal" and what is not. she's just not quite like other kids- but again, it could be just her being "highly spirited". idk.

OMG I'm sorry

This sounds so exhausting to deal with, especially on top of having a baby! *hugs*

MittenJennie · February 2014

I'm just feeling the winter blues. Maybe it's the never ending snow or feeling like I am trapped in the house with little one because of the temps. I was so excited about our swim trip this weekend with friends - pretty much the only thing we've done. Then.... I just take everything so personally (which is not like me - heck I responded to the side-eye thread three times - a few weeks ago I would have just ignored it.) So not like me.

It could be because little one does not sleep anywhere but my arms - I feel like when I give in and let her that I'm failing her. I read everyone's bed time routines and feel like I must be a total numb-nut because I try but if I want peanut to go to bed I have to go to bed too. My house is a disaster. And to top it off my hair is starting to fall out more and more - so I will be a bald emotional basket-case.

DH is super busy and stressed and I don't want him to stress out more. So I just give him little snip its.

Then I read some of these post and I literally start crying because the are too happy, I feel bad or the babies are just too cute.

#trainwreck
#uglycry
#buckupbuttercup
#isauntflocominghome
#pleasebepms

Wow. That's more pathetic than I thought it would be. Hopefully it is just hormonal and I will be back to my normal self soon. Spring???

In effort to make this not the most pathetic post I'm posting a picture if my happy girl. She keeps me going.

Mae208 · February 2014

danandkam said:
I just want to AW some more of my pictures from our snow last week. 5 days later it is almost 70 degrees. Mother Nature obviously can't make up her mind. Anyway, here is a collage.

@danandkam

Wow! Quite the porcelain skin on your little ones. Looks like they had fun in the snow

Mmhodges07 · February 2014

Charlie1178 said:

USAA is covering the replacement of our roof! We didn't think they would due to the age of our roof (20 years), but I thought I'd try. It's saving us $3400!!!!

@Charlie1178 USAA is the shittttttttttttt!

Gatorsgirl731 · February 2014

@crunchymama11

No flaming from me. I've tried spanking. With children like ours it's pointless. It becomes a "how far can I push her" tool. DS would only play with Thomas the trains. They went into a certain order and if you messed them up be ready to pay. He wouldn't eat anything the color green, and his hands had to be clean. There's more. But it sounds very similar. I'm at a school thing for him right now but I can type later. I totally understand the feeling of "something's off". Big hugs mama.

apritchett50 · February 2014

I'm so sick tonight, broke down and took some meds. I've never been one to take meds but now that I'm EP'ing I really don't like it but I'm miserable. Also DH is working nights so I've worked all day and now tending to LO without his help, which wouldn't be a problem if I didn't feel like death. So I just want to whine and go to bed and sleep for 12+ hours, but we all know how that goes! And I'm deft calling in tomorrow. IDGAF

ajjf1026 · February 2014

Have to AW my sweet boy in his jumparoo last night. So happy

bionicb · February 2014

I put make up on today to help me stop touching/rubbing my eyes and face. And to keep me from crying. I am with those that still have the sads/happy cries.

LittleBabyG2013 · February 2014

LO has two front teeth... N she has started biting me when feeding. My poor nipple.

Edit: wording

LittleBabyG2013 · February 2014

Jennieholladay said:
I'm just feeling the winter blues. Maybe it's the never ending snow or feeling like I am trapped in the house with little one because of the temps. I was so excited about our swim trip this weekend with friends - pretty much the only thing we've done. Then.... I just take everything so personally (which is not like me - heck I responded to the side-eye thread three times - a few weeks ago I would have just ignored it.) So not like me.

It could be because little one does not sleep anywhere but my arms - I feel like when I give in and let her that I'm failing her. I read everyone's bed time routines and feel like I must be a total numb-nut because I try but if I want peanut to go to bed I have to go to bed too. My house is a disaster. And to top it off my hair is starting to fall out more and more - so I will be a bald emotional basket-case.

DH is super busy and stressed and I don't want him to stress out more. So I just give him little snip its.

Then I read some of these post and I literally start crying because the are too happy, I feel bad or the babies are just too cute.

#trainwreck
#uglycry
#buckupbuttercup
#isauntflocominghome
#pleasebepms

Wow. That's more pathetic than I thought it would be. Hopefully it is just hormonal and I will be back to my normal self soon. Spring???

In effort to make this not the most pathetic post I'm posting a picture if my happy girl. She keeps me going.

My LO wouldn't let me put her down.. I bought the magic sleep suit and she now sleeps in her crib at night and most naps

deedee1017 · February 2014

awwwpuddin said:

@chelseyestelle - At least you had the balls to say something, in the off chance that someone would appreciate the heads up. I'm a nonconfrontational lead by example type.
I am such a wuss. I couldn't say anything. I did leave a comment on somebody's Facebook photo of some front facing, loose strapped, chest clip at the belly button nonsense though. I am fine with hiding behind my keyboard.

This made me chuckle (do people even say that anymore?) I always pictured you as such a hard ass.

Sarasmith84 · February 2014

I'm turning 30 Sunday and my Logan will be 2 on Saturday! Here are aome pics that make me happy.

deedee1017 · February 2014

@chelseyestelle you are so beautiful! I'm sorry your mil hurt your feelings.

@crunchymama11 you are always so helpful to us other mommas I'm sorry I can't offer any words of wisdom to help. Hugs to you and @bkeane619 you are both such great moms. I'm sorry you have your hands full.

@ellestaxx it's not as bad as we make it in our heads. It took me a few weeks to adjust, but it will become your new normal. I know it's hard. All I wanted to do was quit my job but the reality is me and dh both need to work. What I found worked for me was going to lunch with my coworkers to distract me. It gave me something to look forward to in the morning and then carried me through the rest of the day. Good luck momma and creepy hugs!

@jennieholladay creepy hugs to you too. I don't have a bed time routine for dd either and sometimes I feel like I must be doing something wrong. The truth is every child is different and we as parents do what we know works and is best for them. Dd won't sleep unless I hold her. I'm pretty there are worse things in life that I can do to "ruin" her.

chelseyestelle · February 2014

@deedee1017

And to everyone else who needs a hug! Being a mom is so hard sometimes! I'm seriously glad I have my bump ladies.

elllaf · February 2014

@chelseyestelle
I'm sorry your MIL did that.
I just want you to know every time you post a picture of yourself on Mommy and Me Monday or whatever my thought process is always this...

"Wow she's so pretty...
Fuck. Why can't I look like that as a mom?!"

true story.

Don't believe a word that says otherwise.

MittenJennie · February 2014

Creepy Internet hugs back to you ladies. I feel better hearing your words of support.

@deedee1017 thank you and you are right. I put a lot of pressure on myself - I will try to remind myself there is no "right way."

@ellestaxx I got the box of Kleenex with you. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for both of us.

@littlebabyg2013 we gave the sleep suit but it wasn't magical just yet we went back to the swaddle. I have high hopes and plan to try again soon.

@crunchymama11 I wish I had something to offer you have been so helpful to me with all my questions I had and even some I didn't know I had until you answered someone else's. Hopefully answers will come to you soon.

chelseyestelle · February 2014

@elllaf

Thank you! That's really nice.

ETA: I'm really not trying to fish for compliments or anything. It's just been bothering me that she said that and I needed to get it off my chest. That and the Airwrecka thing.

deedee1017 · February 2014

I think I've reached my quota in this thread, but I just wanted to add that I like posts like this. It feels like we are all having a conversation.

MrsStuessyWI · February 2014

And I just got the warm fuzzies. Being a mom is hard. Keep on keepin' on ladies.

chelseyestelle · February 2014

Yes! I'm going to start this thread every week. LOVE.

chelseyestelle · February 2014

Hey working moms! Why didn't you just think of this...? Duh.

Jenball717 · February 2014

So, reading these challenges you mamas are having with your kiddos is exhausting me, I don't know how you handle it! I just wanted to say that if anyone can handle a strong willed kind of kid, it's crunchy and bkeane! Seriously, you ladies have it together and I always get the impression that you are both very knowledgeable and patient. Hang in there. My thoughts are with you and I hope you can find solutions for your families very soon. Hugs!

Teresa1489 · February 2014

I agree! I really like this post!!

StefMurph · February 2014

Wow! So many of us are going through stuff. Currently, I'd like to CP my DH. He accepted a job back in our home state and we went to tell his dad who lives 2 miles away and my DH chickened out. He said he can't do it and we aren't moving. His dad has been to our house two motherfucking times in 4 god dammed years and he can't move 3 hours away from him to be able to provide for our family better. I'm livid. I understand he doesn't want to hurt his dad, but we are struggling financially here.

muffyvonmuff · February 2014

Jennieholladay this isn't much but its a nice read:

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/allison-tate/the-day-someone-threw-me-a-rope_b_4756681.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009

@crunchymama and @bkeane Im a first time mom with no advice but I think you guys are awesome parents

lightninglarose · February 2014

So I know other women have also gone through similar situations as I, but since this is a whateva post I'm coming out with it. When I gave birth to my son I had gotten a fever at the end (due to possible infection), then they had to use forceps to get my son out, I was put on antibiotics then my son was taken straight to the NICU (after I held him not even a minute) to be put on antibiotics. He stayed there for a week getting meds and being monitored incase of infection. So to get to the point my cousin had her first child yesterday (yay I am so proud of her and happy she has a healthy baby girl). But I am feeling sad that each of my sisters and now my cousin have all had normal safe deliveries and get to experience their child birth with no complications in birth, having baby in the room, family getting to visit, happy experience overall. I get almost jealous (which I feel very guilty about feeling this way) that I didn't get to have that with my son. That I had to leave my baby. I know rationally thinking it was the RIGHT thing for my son, he needed the care. But I just wish I could of too had that magic experience with my baby. I feel sad that there were complications, that my son had to be poked and prodded everyday he was in NICU, and that I went home without him (I felt like I was abandoning him each night). Now, I am super clingy to him! I don't even care to go out or have time for myself and have someone else other than DH to watch him. But yea, I also came out with this to my husband last night and he thinks I'm crazy for thinking this way. I don't know maybe I am but thought I'd get it out and feel a little better.

Mae208 · February 2014

lightninglarose said:
So I know other women have also gone through similar situations as I, but since this is a whateva post I'm coming out with it. When I gave birth to my son I had gotten a fever at the end (due to possible infection), then they had to use forceps to get my son out, I was put on antibiotics then my son was taken straight to the NICU (after I held him not even a minute) to be put on antibiotics. He stayed there for a week getting meds and being monitored incase of infection. So to get to the point my cousin had her first child yesterday (yay I am so proud of her and happy she has a healthy baby girl). But I am feeling sad that each of my sisters and now my cousin have all had normal safe deliveries and get to experience their child birth with no complications in birth, having baby in the room, family getting to visit, happy experience overall. I get almost jealous (which I feel very guilty about feeling this way) that I didn't get to have that with my son. That I had to leave my baby. I know rationally thinking it was the RIGHT thing for my son, he needed the care. But I just wish I could of too had that magic experience with my baby. I feel sad that there were complications, that my son had to be poked and prodded everyday he was in NICU, and that I went home without him (I felt like I was abandoning him each night). Now, I am super clingy to him! I don't even care to go out or have time for myself and have someone else other than DH to watch him. But yea, I also came out with this to my husband last night and he thinks I'm crazy for thinking this way. I don't know maybe I am but thought I'd get it out and feel a little better.

I'm sorry

I didn't have your same experience but if I did, I'm sure my reaction would be the same! Those feelings are normal. Just process them, and try to move on. You aren't a bad person for feeling sadness/jealousy/guilt. All of your feelings are valid, even if they seem a little crazy! Hugs to you!

Painterlady · February 2014

Jax can stick his tongue out on demand. What a genius.

Jenball717 · February 2014

Aunt Flo came to visit, that bitch, and I have awful cramps!!!

And DH is sick with a nasty head cold and is pretty much worthless around the house because of it. He is usually super helpful so I'm probably spoiled but now I'm going crazy. Why must men be so pathetic when they're sick?!?!

#whinewhinewhine

sweettooth87 · February 2014

I left out two days of pumped milk last night...and spilled a defrosted freezer bag of pumped milk this morning. Happy Wednesday.

megs1409 · February 2014

I think I said this the last time a thread like this was started, but this thread is AWESOME. Hugs to all the amazing mommas out there that are struggling!

deedee1017 · February 2014

@lia1303 I'm thinking of you today as I sit here with nothing to do at work again.

MrsStuessyWI · February 2014

lightninglarose said:

So I know other women have also gone through similar situations as I, but since this is a whateva post I'm coming out with it. When I gave birth to my son I had gotten a fever at the end (due to possible infection), then they had to use forceps to get my son out, I was put on antibiotics then my son was taken straight to the NICU (after I held him not even a minute) to be put on antibiotics. He stayed there for a week getting meds and being monitored incase of infection. So to get to the point my cousin had her first child yesterday (yay I am so proud of her and happy she has a healthy baby girl). But I am feeling sad that each of my sisters and now my cousin have all had normal safe deliveries and get to experience their child birth with no complications in birth, having baby in the room, family getting to visit, happy experience overall. I get almost jealous (which I feel very guilty about feeling this way) that I didn't get to have that with my son. That I had to leave my baby. I know rationally thinking it was the RIGHT thing for my son, he needed the care. But I just wish I could of too had that magic experience with my baby. I feel sad that there were complications, that my son had to be poked and prodded everyday he was in NICU, and that I went home without him (I felt like I was abandoning him each night). Now, I am super clingy to him! I don't even care to go out or have time for myself and have someone else other than DH to watch him. But yea, I also came out with this to my husband last night and he thinks I'm crazy for thinking this way. I don't know maybe I am but thought I'd get it out and feel a little better.

I totally get this. DD was only in the NICU for 24 hours. But, I am super jealous and angry when I see friends showing off pictures of them snuggling with baby right after delivery, or when I see that picture of baby being put on mom's chest. I never got to see my baby all gooey. They gave her formula and a lot of stuff did not go as planned. You have been through a lot and all of your feelings are totally fair. Don't feel bad about having them. I don't know how to fix it. But, you are not alone nor are you a bad person for having those thoughts. *hugs*

deedee1017 · February 2014

Lia1303 said:

@deedee1017 thanks, I feel ya. This is torture. I met with my boss today to try and get work. I got, I'm working on it don't worry. Yeah sure. What do you do?

@lia1303 I work for a university. I enjoy it during our busy season, but it's so slow now. According to my director I will be inundated soon. :-@

Herefishy87 · February 2014

Natalie2290 said:
I'll throw a vent in here.
Our roommates that we had move in to help them out, have been nothing but sick. Two nights ago their 16month old was throwing up and so was his mom. SHe said it was food poisoning. But now DH, MIL, FIL and myself are all sick. But DS is happy as can be and wants to play and party it up. Poor guy, I can only entertain him for as long as I can.

I also side eye dang near everything this Mom does. No healthy food for her LO just pizza, soda and candy. Half the time he is in nothing but a saggy diaper. She is 19 and very much a 19 year old. I just try to give tips and advice without over steeping. But dang man.

OMG that's awful! That would def drive me insane! I don't understand why someone would give a child that young soda and crap food like that. Special occasions its ok (not the soda) but to have them eat pizza and candy as a norm is not ok. Setting that poor little girl up for so many healthy problems in the future!

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